Four women are pregnant because wearing a condom is against my religion. What should I do?
Q. Let me explain. My girlfriend and I enjoy an open relationship where we each sleep with different partners from time to time. She's pregnant at the moment. It was unplanned. That would not be a problem only for the fact that there are four other ...
A. 28 April 2008: "Ye reap what ye sow". That's in the bible.
sorry dude, but if you were so commited to your faith I don't think you would be out there spreading your seed.
I can't believe 4 seperate girls would allow themselves to have sex without a condo... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 20 months just decided that she wanted a "break" in order to enjoy being "single" again ?
Q. My girlfriend of 20 months just decided that she wanted a "break" in order to enjoy being "single" again and wants to try dating other people (thought she doesn't have anyone in mind). She also says it'll be healthy for us because she felt like ...
A. 28 April 2008: Hi,
sorry dude, but it looks like she is over you. the three months timeframe is just a way of letting you down easily.
The alternative of course is for you to sit around waiting for her while you see her walking around in the arms of other guy... (read in full...)
How do I dump the trouble women while keeping one or two lookers on the side for sex and still stay with me girlfriend?
Q. My love-life has been pretty hectic lately and I need some advice. I've been in a relationship with this truly wonderful, sweet girl for the past seven years. We get along great, do all sorts of fun things together and really care about each other. ...
A. 28 April 2008: The easiest way would be to dump the girlfriend. Why do you go out with her anyway when your priorities for companionship are so lucidly laid out before us.
If you have no girlfriend then you only have to worry about the husbands catching you - comp... (read in full...)
She is 23 and says she knows nothing about sex. Could this be true?
Q. I am a male 25. My female friend aged 23 says she dont know anything about sex. She dont know what is masturbation and fingering. She doesnt know what sexual urge is.R there such girls present on earth. Is she a girl or what. She says she will lea...
A. 24 April 2008: Of course it could be true. Plenty of people go through life with no idea about sex - but they learn from partners who are patient and considerate. But dude, this aint you, you gotta dump the attitude, it doesnt sound like you have a very high ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay, or am I just imagining it?
Q. Is my boyfriend gay? I'm confused. I have been dating a man 12 years my senior for 2 years now and have serious doubts about his gender preference. He loves to have me come by his place every weekend to 'care for him' and seems to like my company ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi there,
at the very least he is treating your poorly.
If it wasnt for the gay waiter episode I might also think that he has other issues other than being gay. But the flirting with the gay man really stood out. He does seem to be in denial. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy who loves his ex girlfriend. I'm so hurt by this!
Q. I have been dating a great, amazing guy for just over half a year now. I am really falling in love with him...there's only one major problem: He doesn't love me...he loves his ex-girlfriend, who he broke up with over a year ago. They dated for six ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi there, your relationship is still in its infancy so I guess there is still hope. but your boyfriend is being a jerk there is no two ways about it. He is not showing you any respect by keeping this emotional attachment with his ex. Why don't ... (read in full...)
I have found God and decided against my relations with me. Will this leave me lonely?
Q. When I was growing up, I was sure that I would turn out gay. My first crush was for a guy who lived down my street, and later, in adolescence, men featured in my fantasies. Then a girl came along who blew my mind. We were together throughout our ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi, you dont know where to go because you are living in denial. I'm sorry to say but this fundamental christian obsession with "curing" gay people really gets up my wig. All it's doing is creating partnerships where at some stage the woman wil... (read in full...)
Does my husband have bipolar? Can an abuser ever change?
Q. My husband and I've been together for 6 years. We engaged and lived together for 2 1/2 years before we got married and now we married for a little over a year. During our time together, sometime, he was extremely sweet and then next minute, he ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi there,
I wont go into great length as its already been covered very well by the other poster.
But to put it simply, every person I have met in my life whose parents stayed a couple simply for the reason of keeing the family together has turned i... (read in full...)
Don't know what to do about my husband - we sleep in different rooms and he isn't attracted to me anymore.
Q. Hi, This is the first time I have written to one of these sites so here it goes. I am a 37 year old mother of 2 young children and I am at a loss. My husband of 6 years in July(known him for 9)lost his job a month ago and hasn't found another one or ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi there,
Oh dear, this really is a bit of a mess isnt it?
You have two problems, one being your husbands intransience and the other being you don't love him anymore.
Losing his job is bound to have an effect on him and make him difficult to be ... (read in full...)
Confused about sex and sexuality. Help please!
Q. basically Im with a guy attracted to him, hot body, LOVE HIM makes me feel good, emotioanl connection, physical as well but never orgasmed with him, i watched a girl strip and O'd by masturbation...wats up with that? but then I experimented with a ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi there,
whoaa! I think you need to take a deep breath and calm down a little.
While I think helplines are great, in this case I think it has only served to confuse you even more. You have to remember a hotline is only as good as the person o... (read in full...)
How do I move on with my life?
Q. How do you forget about someone and get on with your life?? I was having an affair with a married man for 4 months and it has now ended as we've both decided to make it work with our current partners (he has 3 children). We have both told our ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi,
I can only imagine what your husband is going through at the moment. He must realise that the man who you were sleeping with still occupies his thoughts. Put yourself in his position, imagine how the person you professed your undying love for ... (read in full...)
How do I turn down a guy I've been having an affair with? I don't want to hurt his feelings.
Q. I had an affair with this guy and have managed to get over him. I haven't told him about this and he's still expecting some intimacy. How do I turn him down without hurting his feelings?...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi ,
if either of you are married then it is a simple case of saying the affair is over. There is no concern about hurt feelings as one of you is already cheating on their partner and risking their relationship.
Call it off, simple as that.... (read in full...)
Once we came close to having sex, he backed off . Does he have a commitment phobia?
Q. I am wondering if my ex bf had "commitment phobia". He broke up with me saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. Yet one of the first things he said to me when meeting me was "I really want to be in a relationship. I am so over random hooks ups, ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
it could be many things. It's too easy to compartmentalise someone through a book as you can easily tick many boxes and ignore those which don't quite fit.
The key thing is he is your ex, so you should be concentrating on moving on. Although... (read in full...)
Are wet sheets normal when having sex or do I really have a problem?
Q. Hi. i know this may sound really stupid but for the last few days when im been having sex the bed sheets are wet after or when we are still doing it. ive not mentiond it to my bf but im really worried as it looks like ive wet myself a little, ive ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
you have nothing to worry about. In fact quite the opposite, there is no bigger turn on for a guy than having his partner releasing the flow as it were. It means she's enjoying it. Your partner must think he is in heaven.... (read in full...)
We have a lot in common and he's never ONCE treated me badly, unlike my ex'es. Why don't I love him?
Q. I have this AMAZING friend. He has truly proved himself to me that he is amazing. I mean most guys wouldn't bother being 'friends' with me if they knew they had no chance with me, but this guy, he doesn't care, he just likes me for me and really ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
the familiarity of this friend makes it harder for you to see him in a romantic light. But if there was a genuine connection the friendship wouldnt stand in the way and you would reciprocate the feelings.
To me you give a good clue by saying t... (read in full...)
I sang her a song, she started crying, and no one has seen her in days! Where'd she go!?
Q. Okay get ready for an odd question. I have been talking to thos girl for awhile. We were laying in my bed and i kissed her on her forehead. She smiled and said that i was an amazing guy. She then told me to sing to her...i sung i don't wanna ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
If you sung an Aerosmith song to me I think I would run for the hills as well !
sorry , couldnt resist. I dont know , are her parents worried about her? Or are they covering up for her ?... (read in full...)
He may go studying abroad and Mom said that long distance doesn't work. Any advice?
Q. My bf may go studying aborad for one or two months... We've never been apart and we've had issues... if he does leave, how will I feel secure that he'll be faithful? My mom said long distance relationships never work. We do great however, it's...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi there,
Your mum is only interested in what's best for you, but oh dear you need to look outside your little world and get some self confidence back. You can't live your life worrying whether people will do this or that if they are apart from you.... (read in full...)
My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?
Q. i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi there,
Sorry to see you going through this.
It sounds like your hubbie is going through an early mid life crises.
I guess the key thing in answering your question is that at some stage the excitement of hooking up with the young girl will ... (read in full...)
One Night Stand: Is there a general consensus on when to cum?
Q. Just a quick question, during unprotected sex, either in a relationship or a one night stand....what is the general consensus on where to cum? cheers for any answers...
A. 23 April 2008: Always ask the lady when you are in a relationship - I've never been disappointed by the suggestion.
As for un protected sex - keep going like that and you will be either spending your hard earned on maintenance payments or be spending it at the c... (read in full...)
I have no idea what loving someone really means. Where do I even start if I never get asked out?
Q. I'm 19 and have trouble getting guys to want to go out w me. i don't know why. no guy ever asked me out. when i let myself fall head over heels over someone, and i take the initiative to make the first move, i am always, and i do mean ALWAYS, ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
I think you really need to understand what makes guys tick.
Now this may seem like the hardest question to answer but I think you should focus on getting some guy mates. College mates, old school buddies , work colleagues. Hang out with the... (read in full...)
I want to tell my ex I'm pregnant but I'm scared....he calls me bad names and has a new girlfriend!
Q. My bf and me are no longer together and i am pregnant what should i do i dont want to tell him but i need help i am 4 months and i didnt even know he has a new gf and she dislikes me. he phones me up some times telling me how much he loves me and ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
first piece of advice is to stay away. This guy and his girl are stressful influences, and you don't need this in your life while you are pregnant.
But you really need to tell him now that you are pregnant as he will have to pay child mainte... (read in full...)
He has doubts about the relation hence is unable to involve sexually, but is attentive in other ways, what does he mean?
Q. What does he mean when he says he has doubts about the relationship and hence is unable to be pysically intimate with you? But then he tells you he loves you and cares very much for you. He does little things like pack you sandwiches for lunch, buy ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
sounds more like a friendship than a relationship.
I think you need to define your boundaries with this man. If he is unable to give himself over to a physical relationship, you deserve to know this, otherwise he is being dishonest with you... (read in full...)
He obviously no longer trusts me, and has yet to forgive me for contacting my friend
Q. This is going to be a doozy... A few months ago, in February, I thought it would be cute to let my boyfriend go through my e-mail account. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a bit now. We both are fairly jealous and I thought it...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
it really sounds like you two are very similar personality types. This can be more problematic than one would think.
You both have serious trust issues and are in competition with each other.
If a 10 year marriage and kids were involved I w... (read in full...)
Why is he lying about looking at porn?
Q. I've been with my bf for 10yrs. now and we've recently been having problems. The situation has been resolved, but now he's looking at porn. I don't know if I should be offended or not. I know he's looking at it, but i can't tell him how I know. He ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
I think he may be hiding it from you simply for the fact that you would react like you are now. He knows you very well.
I would suggest to take action only if it starts to affect your sex life. Then you should tell him that he has to choose. ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a popular guy doesn't even look at a girl?
Q. what does it mean if a guy who is popular with the ladies seems frustrated and upset because a particular girl treats him just like any other guy? he wont even look at this girl sometimes and seems to avoid her?...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
can you come out with the real question please. It's too crytic. If its about you , simply say it as it will be easy for us to offer advice.... (read in full...)
Under what circumstances is a slap justifiable during an argument between spouses?
Q. Is it alright that a husband slaps his wife in the face during an argument? If so, under what circumstances is it justfiable?...
A. 23 April 2008: Easy answer. Never... (read in full...)
Are other women built differently in order to feel prepared more easily during anal sex?
Q. For Guys and Gals My boyfriend and I have sex daily. Dress up, role play,oral, sex in different locations, it goes on and on...The problem is he brings up anal sex a lot which we have done, but he says he loses patience with me because it takes...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
I've got a good idea. Why don't you buy a large vibrator and tell him you want to experiment. When it takes a while to insert this in his rectum start complaining that he's taking too long. Maybe he will click.
I doubt it though, it sounds l... (read in full...)
Do birds of a feather flock together?
Q. Hi all, can you really judge your husband/partner by the friends he keeps. I have just hear from a friend of mine that her partner of 5 years had be secretly been seeing another woman for 2 years behind her back and the only way she found out was ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
Well can I be the one to offer some sanity into this discussion.
You have got to stop taking the paranoia pills mate. Just because his mate cheats on his wife doesnt mean he will.
He will not judge his mate on his infidelities , h... (read in full...)
Is my married sex life normal or is our marriage in trouble?
Q. I have been married for nearly two years and practically have no sex life to speak of, we are lucky to do it once ever 2-3 months. Is our marriage in trouble? or is this the norm...?...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
nope it's not the norm. There is no real true indicator of how many times a week/month a couple should have sex.
But once every 2/3 months certainly isnt it.
Is everything else in the relationshi fine? Is your husband overly stressed? These ... (read in full...)
I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?
Q. i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi,
It doesnt look too promising. Your new boyfriend has brought a whole heap of baggage with him to this new relationship. Trouble lurks on the horizon the longer you are with him (dare I say once the honeymoon period wears off), his children... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go, he's out of prison and seeing another girl
Q. my boyfriend has just gotten out of prison march 1st, after serving 7 years. we met 14 months ago, while he was out on a furlow from work release. well, he decided to go to the strip club with his brothers and friends, where he met a girl who i ...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi,
I'm trying to figure out why you are interested in this guy in the first place. A cheater and an ex con. O.K its not for me to judge ,but 7 years suggests he did something awful bad, and moreover, he is not showing you any respect by chas... (read in full...)
Please help me.... I'm desperate for my soulmate back
Q. Hi, I Dont know what to do. my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me because i told him a secret i couldn;t keep any longer. last year we took a break i was so upset without him..i drank to numb the pain and to try and sleep.. one night his best ...
A. 22 April 2008: I'm confused, you said nothing happened and you ran away, so why has your boyfriend left you if nothing happened?
If nothing really happened, you will get over it. He sounds a bit fragile don't you think?... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me she has a boyfriend?
Q. I'm very confused by a girl who seems to like me yet has a boyfriend. We hang out occasionally and she never mentions that she has a boyfriend. The only time she has mentioned him she referred to him as "my friend so and so" and then asked me if I ...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi,
It's called fliring mate. When you are young it's natural. It doesn't necessarily mean anything, though I would say that this girl is being a little devious by not being upfront with you.
But if there are no hints at a more involved rel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to watch me with another man - healthy and normal??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months. We have always been very sexually active and comfortable with speaking openly about what we want in the bedroom. About 2 months ago, during phone sex, he brought up how he wanted to watch me ...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi,
I dont think this is as major an issue as some would think as it is quite a common male fantasy. However there are certain things which raise red flags. For one, you have only been together for 6 months and he is already thinking of this. You ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to give her a lapdance. What is a lapdance, and how do I give one?
Q. Hey My Gf wants me to give her a lapdance what is that ? IDK and how do you do it ? ...
A. 22 April 2008: dont worry, either you are joking or she is.... (read in full...)
I'm about to enter a relationship- I want to wait to have sex- when is a good time to tell him?
Q. im twenty and im about to start my first real relationship with this guy that i've dated for almost a year now. but i don't wanna get all worried about sex now, in order words, i don't wanna have sex now, I just wanna have a boyfriend with whom i ...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi,
I'm just curious, why ? Why do you want a boyfriend without any physical intimacy? That's not a boyfriend that is simply just a friend.
Or are you talking about sex only? Still you will need to tell him this, as it is natural to want to be in... (read in full...)
Moving to another country for love? He's not exactly against getting married eventually.
Q. moving for love? i'm with my bf for almost a year now. He's been wonderful, caring and loving. I'm 26, he's 31. he's moving to another country and has 'invited' me to move with him. Actually he said it's up to me but when I said I am consider...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi,
I moved to another country for love and my wife moved half way around the world for me.
It's a no brainer to me. If you love someone enough you will do it, but if you are thinking that it may not work out then don't do it as you are either n... (read in full...)
Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site about strip clubs!
Q. Hey Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site... ladies are welcome to write their comments as well.... After a boys night out in a Strip club .. coming home to your wife,fiance or girlfriend ... wanting to have sex with her at that moment...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi,
well I hate to be a party pooper but the sight of a heroin addict taking her clothes off has never interested me.
But I would add that the type of guy who frequents strip clubs will most likely have a picture in his head when he gets hom... (read in full...)
We have dissention amongst our friends due to a newcomer's strange comment - should we ignore the incident or ban the newcomer?
Q. I have a question for all you guys/girls out there. I have a close male friend who owns a vacation property (cabin) on a lake with his wife. A few times a year he has an all guy weekend, There's a lake, a boat, a shooting range, etc. Lots of ...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi,
well for one, no straight guy would ever suggest this. Seriously you shouldnt even have to think about it.
Now some people could assume that the comment was a bit harsh, but sitting around the campfire with a bunch of guys? It would be the leas... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and found out my boyfriend is still seeing his ex! I'm so sick and drained....
Q. Ok so im 5 and a half months pregnant and it was unplanned my bf is 5 years old than me. He was more pleased about the baby than i was and he wanted us to get married. But 2 weeks ago I found out he was still seeing his ex. He texts her everyday and ...
A. 18 April 2008: Hi,
sorry to see you in this state. You need to go back to your parents if they are offering support, as your boyfriend is a rat - pure and simple.
Surely you don't buy his BS about the platonic relationship with his ex, he should be focusing... (read in full...)
I want him to find a girl already so he won't like her and come back! How long should I wait?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. Recently, he decided that he needed to break up with me to date other people. I'm sad that this has to happen but I do agree that he needs to go out there and date (as much as it would hurt ...
A. 18 April 2008: Hi,
I think this is often the problem with people meeting their so called "Mr or Mrs Right" at a young age.
But the one thing you cannot do is put yourself on the shelf for this man. It is unfair on you for a start.
Also, you are assuming tha... (read in full...)
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