I really regret what I did to him, how can I make it right?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have met this guy and we have been together for about a year, and through half the year I sexually cheated on him with my ex and lied. I'm not in love with my ex but i am defintely in love with my guy right now. I was stupid and r...
A. 30 May 2008: Hi again,
oh dear this is a very sad situation both of you have got into. He may very think that things have evened out between you two by having sex with another girl, and to some extent he probably feels better about himself now. But what rea... (read in full...)
I want him to find a girl already so he won't like her and come back! How long should I wait?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. Recently, he decided that he needed to break up with me to date other people. I'm sad that this has to happen but I do agree that he needs to go out there and date (as much as it would hurt ...
A. 18 April 2008: Hi,
I think this is often the problem with people meeting their so called "Mr or Mrs Right" at a young age.
But the one thing you cannot do is put yourself on the shelf for this man. It is unfair on you for a start.
Also, you are assuming tha... (read in full...)
Did I scare him away by leaving a "freaky" message on his voicemail?
Q. Ok.. I am in some desperate need of advice. I just started dating one of my sisters friends. I met him a while ago but have only been talking to him for like 4 days. There is a strong sexual connection between us and really thats the only reason we ...
A. 18 April 2008: Well all I can say is, if a girl I was interested in left a message for me where she orgasms - I would consider myself a very lucky man.
Busy or no, the least he could have done was praise you for your efforts. I am very disappointed in this guy,... (read in full...)
Will this man ever ask me out?!
Q. Will this man ever ask me out? I am a member of a sports club,he is a teacher there, we are both single and in our 30s. Have known him since august and its doing my head in not knowing if anything will happen with him! He gives me all the signals,...
A. 18 April 2008: Hi,
shy guy syndrome can be a tough one to overcome. This coupled with the fact that he is working there could easily be the reason why he hasnt done something.
Why don't you ask him out for a coffee or something, at least that way its not asking h... (read in full...)
He changed his password after a suspicious voicemail. Should I break up?
Q. After I find out on my boyfriend's cell phone that another left a voicemail for him by calling him baby all that, so I ask him about it and he gets mad. Now he change his cell phone password. What is that telling you guys? To me I think he cheating ...
A. 18 April 2008: Hi,
you really shouldnt spy on him. but most people who do have a genuine reason for doing it - they have lost faith in their partner.
He hasn't given you an explanation for who this person was, so yeah, dump him. He's cheating on you.... (read in full...)
Why has he not called after the great time we had together?
Q. Hi,i met this fella through a friend,we arranged to meet up and seemed to both get on really great, so much so he stayed with me for nearly 4 days,took a day off work and also cancelled a previous arrangement.Anyway he has gone home now and although ...
A. 18 April 2008: Hi,
I can never figure these ones out. We see it so often on this site, guys make all the effort to see a girl and then go off the boil.
But we see it so often here it is a genuine pattern of behaviour. I just think you have got a guy who is u... (read in full...)
Depressed recently as the babys father, my boyfriend, has been sent to jail!
Q. wel i dont no wer 2 start! im 16 and 7 months pregnant but thats not the hard bit i feel really depressed recently as the babys father my boyfriend has been sent 2 jail on remand but hes not coming out for a while! but it is for the best in a way bc...
A. 17 April 2008: Hi,
the statistics dont favour your boyfriend. If he moves back to the same area when he gets out, chances are he will reoffend again. Now if you were in a stronger position you may be able to call the shots by getting him away from the bad infl... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on this girl who invites me to watch movies at her house?
Q. Occasionally, a girl I know will call me to watch a movie at her house. I'm not really sure what her intentions are. Also, I'm not sure if she wants me to make a move on her or not. It seems like she might like me but she doesn't really sit very ...
A. 17 April 2008: Hi,
that sounds a bit rude, it's almost as though she is using you as a second choice option.
You are within your rights to find out if she is interested as at the moment the relationship is all one way.
It's best to get these things out i... (read in full...)
I'm on house arrest with a 2mth old baby....can he like me if he still comes to see me?
Q. I have known this guy for like 7 years and I never liked him but I just had a baby and was put on house arrest for lying to the police for the father of my baby and this guy comes out where I live on the weekends because he has property here. He is ...
A. 17 April 2008: Well then, go with the flow I say. Every one deserves a second chance and as he has known you for quite a while he most likely agrees that you just got in with the wrong person.
If he is providing genuine friendship then you should welcome the comp... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on this girl who invites me to watch movies at her house?
Q. Occasionally, a girl I know will call me to watch a movie at her house. I'm not really sure what her intentions are. Also, I'm not sure if she wants me to make a move on her or not. It seems like she might like me but she doesn't really sit very ...
A. 17 April 2008: Well I wouldnt jump all over her if I was you. But you can at least see if she is interested in you by asking her out somewhere yourself. At the moment she is doing all the work. Hint that it will be a date, if she is not interested then you will ... (read in full...)
I need to look sexy for my boyfriend....I need help!!
Q. hi i need help from everyone alot of help! so i want to do something very sexy for my boyfriend and i have no idea what to do! ill explain wht i look like so you can get an idea of what he has to look at everyday im 5'5" green eyes pink hair okay ...
A. 17 April 2008: Hi there,
With us guys ( being the pathetic creatures we are ) some things turn us on and some things really turn us on. But it's often the case of we are not quite sure until we see it.
So my suggestion is save up a few bucks and go with him to a... (read in full...)
This guy likes me, but why won't he come out and say it?
Q. I have a guy friend who says things to my boyfriend like " I have a deep love and respect for (my name)" When he knows my boyfriend is not around he calls after a decent hour has long passed. We share mutual friends and when greeting us he will ...
A. 17 April 2008: good on you . Abusive boyfriends don't deserve to be in relationships.
give yourself so time before getting into the next relationship.
good luck.... (read in full...)
Oral sex lies? I have one I've kept from my boyfriend.
Q. Ok so I recently got in engaged to my boyfriend. But i am keeping ONE lie from him, which is that i have never given oral sex before, I have given it to one guy, but i told my soon to be husband that he is the first guy to get oral sex from me. ...
A. 17 April 2008: Hi there,
If you think he would judge you, then you should ask yourself why you are getting married to this man anyway?... (read in full...)
Do guys still flirt even if they are in a committed relationship?
Q. I have a question for the guys (girls feel free to answer aswell!) Do men still flirt with other women even when in a commited relationship? I mean the type of flirting that most do when single and looking. Things like, touching her arm, standin...
A. 17 April 2008: hmmm.. confused by this . is a guy hitting on you and you are trying to determine whether he has a girlfriend or not?
If so, why dont you just ask him?
As for the question, no, if a guy has a girlfriend he wouldnt usually flirt overtly with... (read in full...)
A question of who should be president?
Q. During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...
A. 17 April 2008: I don't care who becomes president - unless of course he/she is a darn Fornicator!
Imagine if that legendary fornicator Rudy Giulliani was still in the race, Southernman wouldnt be able to contain himself.... (read in full...)
Single mother and finding it difficult to get acquainted to new men, any suggestions?
Q. I am a single mother with two children having a hard time meeting new men. Any suggestions on how to get myself back out there and meet new people?...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi there,
the only advice I can offer outside of the other aunts is to make sure you let potential boyfriends know that you are looking for companionship not somebody to take over the father role in the family.
A single dad at my work always c... (read in full...)
I re-used a condom 3 wks later. Am I Pregnant?
Q. hey... so ... here is my problem... me and my boyfriend had sex with a re-used condom about two weeks ago. the condom we re-used was first used about three weeks before we used it the second time.. does the sperm die off or what? he cleaned it out ...
A. 16 April 2008: this has to be a joke post.
A 16 year old saying they " used a water based lubricant" sounds like she picked that one up from a sex manual and let her imagination run wild.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets upset is a man calls me but then again I react in the same manner when he contacts the ex. Any guidance?
Q. How can I get over that my boyfriend of a year still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend from time to time? and he gets all upset if a man says or tries to call me to see how i am doing so I am confused about how to react to him. He reacts the ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
It's a simple case of both of you not really trusting each other. You both have brought baggage into the relationship and neither of you are prepared to cut your ties with the past.
First, you need to communicate with each other openly. Disc... (read in full...)
Is this guy interested or does he have alterior motives?
Q. There is this older guy (late 30s) who appears to be interested in me Since the beginning of the semester, he has been eyeing me for awhile. And just recently, he has kinda befriended me in a way. Whenever we are having a discussion, it appe...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
I don't think he is trying to recruit you ( though you never know these days)
I just think he is a jerk - pure and simple. Why bother with him, you have pretty much stated what a jerk he is already and you arent in a relationship... (read in full...)
My first date in ages, what do I do to make it special?
Q. Ok i need help, and alot of it. I have a date with my friend on Friday night. I havent been on a date in over a year. I dont know what to do, she is comming over to my place for dinner and a movie....
A. 16 April 2008: Hi ,
sorry to say but you have to go with the chick flick dude for the first date. Leave the 'Texas Chainsaw Massacre' and 'Attack of the killer Tomatoes' to another day.
Take the other posters advice, pick out one together ( which really means... (read in full...)
This guy likes me, but why won't he come out and say it?
Q. I have a guy friend who says things to my boyfriend like " I have a deep love and respect for (my name)" When he knows my boyfriend is not around he calls after a decent hour has long passed. We share mutual friends and when greeting us he will ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
I'm confused, you have a boyfriend yet you are holding out in hope that this other guy professes his interest in you.
Why? are you looking for an ego boost or to cheat on your boyfriend.
hmmmm. you don't sound like great relationship mat... (read in full...)
Does my holier than thou boyfriend just want me for sex?
Q. Everyone keeps telling me my bf is not good for me but I find it hard to believe, or maybe its just I dont want to believe it. I think im in denial. Hes italian and stereotypically they are supposed ot be big family people which i think is a goo...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi there,
oh boy what a jerk. He takes the cake this one. I have such a low opinion of people who make false pretences about their so called faith and how devout they are when in reality it is just a smokescreen which they use to prop up their lyin... (read in full...)
Teacher student relationship goes terribly wrong Warning!!!
Q. What do I do?I'm going through a serious case about my teacher and I.First off we were dating.I'm 16 and he is 37.I knew it was wrong from the begining but because of having to see him daily and having him being flirty i gave in to him.There were ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
where on earth do you go to school? I can only think that some narrow minded religious school would accuse a young girl of being responsible for leading a man on - going back to the teachings of Martin Luther who believed women were the grea... (read in full...)
Reunited with an old friend in facebook, but he doesn't want me to call him, what gives?
Q. A couple of weeks back I started playing with Facebook and finding people I met in my past, when I was still a student. I actually decided to send friend requests to some of these people, including a man I had at that time a crush on, but who didn't ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
Was it his home number you asked for?
I always advise when someone is concerned about a new partner to ask them for their home phone number.
This is the easiest way to find out if he has someone waiting for him at home - like a wife.
I wou... (read in full...)
Worried that he's getting bored with me! What can I do?
Q. I have a boyfriend I really, genuinely like. I'm afraid, however, that he's getting bored with me. He no longer gets on AIM to talk, and when we're with his friends he talks much more to them than to me. I'm so busy agonizing over this, I'm ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
not much information to go on here, save for the fact he likes talking to his friends. It really does sound like you are clingy. Give us more info to prove otherwise.... (read in full...)
I've toppled off his pedestal, can he love me like he did before?
Q. My BF admitted he doesn't love me as much as he used to, and I'm devastated. We have our issues, especifically, because I lied about my past when we had been together for 6 months. We have been now together for a year and 7 months. He's sti...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
sorry this is about as big a dead end as you can get.
Hate to break it to you, but your boyfriend you love so much is a pathetic arsehole who is only concerned with his own shattered little ego. He is trying to control you, he put you up on th... (read in full...)
I really regret what I did to him, how can I make it right?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have met this guy and we have been together for about a year, and through half the year I sexually cheated on him with my ex and lied. I'm not in love with my ex but i am defintely in love with my guy right now. I was stupid and r...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
sorry to say, but after this time if he is still not healing then you most likely have lost him.
See it as a lesson in life, be faithful to the ones you love. He probably loved you so much it was too much to forgive. Remember that in futu... (read in full...)
Why are men like this or is this guy only like that?
Q. He´s been away for a month and a half. And although he said he was gonna be in touch, It really took me by surprise that he send me a note today saying "How are things down there?" I mean after all this time he just said that. I hoped for him to t...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
sorry, but you are not providing enough information to go by to offer any serious advice. Who is this man, your boyfriend your husband? please expand on your question. ... (read in full...)
Everyday clothes that guys find attractive?
Q. im just wondering.. what type of clothing would you all say that lads founs attractive and sexy.. like for everyday wear...????...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
it all depends how flirty you want to be. If you are dressing to impress a guy - to show off your assets as it were - then just make sure you don't wear baggy stuff. Close fitting garments are the best, something low cut on top if you have nice... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of having anal sex with a man so I can experience what my GF feels with me...
Q. I'm thinking of having anal sex with a guy so i can experience what my gf does with me .will i get the same sensation?...
A. 16 April 2008: Dude,
seriously, who are you kidding?
I think it's time to come out of the closet. At least for your girlfriends sake. She needs to know she's with a gay man.... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me 6 days a week and 1 day with another woman!!
Q. I already know the answer here ....just would like some positive words to help get through this... I have been with my boyfriend(X now) for 6 1/2 years...been through the ups and downs, i'm his best friend, I gave him my all - sexually, taken ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi,
he's got some cheek huh? Dump this sad loser.
I always wonder when I hear about couples doing pre-nups, to me the first thing that pops into my mind is: "why get married if you can't trust the person you are marrying to behave responsibly?... (read in full...)
I seriously worry about having a disabled man on my hands later on, due tohis unhealthy lifestyle. Maybe I just miss my ex?! Why these feelings?
Q. my world is spinning around me. i feel so out of control and could sure use some advice. i am going explain my situation in a nut shell: was married for 8yrs and with that man for 12 total yrs. he developed feelings for a girl and i was already ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi,
I think you are harking for your ex to justify giving your current boyfriend the boot. You don't need to do this, it is not superficial to end the relationship if he is turning into an unhealthy couch potato. But you could at least tell him your... (read in full...)
Whoops! I've been hitting on him and just found out he has a girlfriend! What should I say in my apology?
Q. For about two months or so, I have been hitting on this guy at work. At first, it was just a little flirting, to make him laugh, and he would make me laugh... It evolved into a few emails and he would stop by my department some when I was working ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi,
It is not you who owes an apology. It is him.
Why do you feel you need to apologise? He has let this behaviour go on ( and you did nothing wrong , how else are you going to meet a guy if not through a bit of flirting) while all the time he ... (read in full...)
Is he being sincere? Could be possibly be more?
Q. A year ago, I met an Air force guy with whom I felt incredibly attractive to. We met only for 2 occasions in a business meeting. He flirted with me but that was it, cuz he had to left shortly after that. I decided to email him 2 months after an...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi there,
sure why not? But you have to ask yourself this questions? Are you going to wait for something which may never happen?
You cannot put yourself on the waiting list in the expectation that his current relationship doesnt work. That is no wa... (read in full...)
My boyfrind might be gay! What am I going to do? Can I make him straight?
Q. Im so worried My Boy Friends Gay, Im his first GirlFriend and he always used to get teased and called gay, and resently he told me hes not so sure him self! I dont know what to do! he says he loves me, but if he was gay i dont know how id cope ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi there,
Sorry but there is no way to make a guy straight if he is gay. Despite what various religious organisations may claim.
It sounds like you two just have a very close friendship. If both of you accept that he is gay then there is no reaso... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 15 April 2008: I agree, women who have been divorced or had kids out of wedlock should be put in front of a firing squad. Then we would only be left with god fearing souls like yourself.
Ready , aim..... fire!!!!
... (read in full...)
I discovered the guy I was seeing had a GF all along, now I'm dating "some other guy" to make him jealous, any ideas??
Q. met this amazing guy thought everything was going really well, we had sex it was pretty good then I started to fall ''in love'' with him even though I dont even believe in love properly then all of a sudden i find out he had a girlfriend all alon...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi,
sorry but you don't sound like you are ready for a committment anyway. You have a very immature attitude to relationships so why not stop stressing and enjoy your youth like most others your age.
Playing these silly little games - and that's j... (read in full...)
Teacher student relationship goes terribly wrong Warning!!!
Q. What do I do?I'm going through a serious case about my teacher and I.First off we were dating.I'm 16 and he is 37.I knew it was wrong from the begining but because of having to see him daily and having him being flirty i gave in to him.There were ...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi,
running away from the problem will solve nothing.
I doubt in any event that would be the end of the matter anyway as they would only assume that he has intimidated you to keep you quiet.
Don't worry, it will all be over soon and this sad pat... (read in full...)
The question is does he just want sex from me or is he starting to fall for me?
Q. I have been working with my married co-worker for about two years now (i'm also kinda married) and i have always kind of felt something with him, but i have never acted on it. Until now, we have had sex twice and we 'IM' each other all day at work...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi,
oh boy, he is a lucky little cheater this man. I wonder if you would think he was so sweet and kind if you were married to him and he was cheating on you.
Surely you arent naive enough to think he is interested in anything but sex, but her... (read in full...)
Should I press rape charges against my cousin (I got a rape test done 3 years ago), especially now that he has 3 little sisters? Afraid of my family's reaction.
Q. Okay, about 3 years ago my cousin and his friend raped me, and I really want to press charges ( I got a rape kit test done) however, i'm not sure my family would approve being as he is my cousin and all......now I know I should do it because he has ...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi again,
The last thing you should be concerned about is how his family will react. True, they may very well rally around him but that will be out of self defence, they won't be able to accept that a member of their family committed rape.
But h... (read in full...)
I'm scared people will think badly of me when I tell them I have been raped...
Q. This is for the guys......Would you not want to be with a girl because she had been raped because she is in a sense "used"?? I have a hard time deciding whether i should tell people this because I'm scared they'll think badly of me............
A. 14 April 2008: Hi there,
Let me say first how sad I am to see what has happened to you. Just so you know that most of us guys think that forcing a girl to have sex is a hiddeous crime.
And to answer your question, the answer is no. No, I wouldnt feel that yo... (read in full...)
We're not agreeing on our wedding plans, can you help, please?
Q. He wants a drive-thru wedding, i want a normal wedding.....I dont know what to do.....can you please help?...
A. 14 April 2008: Ummm.. how old are you?... (read in full...)
I really regret what I did to him, how can I make it right?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have met this guy and we have been together for about a year, and through half the year I sexually cheated on him with my ex and lied. I'm not in love with my ex but i am defintely in love with my guy right now. I was stupid and r...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
He is still with you because he still loves you.
But like a lot of people he can't deal with the betrayal.
So you guys may not have much of a future together. Have you discussed what lead you to cheating on him?
If all avenues have bee... (read in full...)
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