Was he just goofing around or is he genuinely interested?
Q. there is a man i work with and i don't know what to make of his behavior. i want to know if he is just goofing off, relieving some boredom making our day a little interesting, or if he is really interested. he has been looking down my shirt and i ...
A. 7 April 2008: O.K.. this is a joke right?
you put his penis in your mouth and it showed no signs of excitement. good grief.... (read in full...)
What is it with men when they reach their 40's ~ they only want to have sex with teenagers?
Q. I have been married for many years and my problem started after my husband turned 40. Our sex life has gone down hill. He can no longer get hard for me. He said he likes young teens...What is it with men when they reach their 40's they only want to ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi again,
It looks like a mid life crises to me. I guess you have to ask yourself how long you can go on having your self confidence eroded like this.
Is there anywhere you can stay for a while ? ( not sure if you have kids etc) so he can be on hi... (read in full...)
Should I Confront The Man Who Betrayed Me and Stole My Sexuality For His Own Pleasure?
Q. I am an evangelist in my local church. My husband and I have been sep for 10 yrs. He contracted HIV while were sep, so I know we won't be getting back together. Ran into a past love from about 30 yrs ago (this happened 4 yrs ago). We first dated ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hopefully God will come through for you and get rid of your husband in time .
Sorry to be rude, but seriously what advice are you looking for here?... (read in full...)
I had an affair and I love him.
Q. Last year i had an affair with a married man and too this day i am still in love with him. i have never been able to get over him and i know for a fact he loved me aswell. I have decided to write him a letter but as if its wrote to his wife. SO he ...
A. 7 April 2008: wow, fatal attraction anyone?
This should be used as an example to show cheating men what can happen if they cheat on their partners. It's a little scary reading this - the single never ending paragraph sends alarm bells ringing.
but to the write... (read in full...)
What is the best thing for me to do to cope financially with a baby?
Q. Im 18 years old and I live with my boyfriend and his mother. I have recently found out I was pregnant. My boyfriends mom won't let us stay here if she finds out so we decided not to tell her until we move. I want to keep the baby but my boyfriend ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
I would suggest to prepare for the worst.
Firstly, you are in a very vulnerable situation. Your boyfriend may come around, but if he is young like you he may be reluctant to give up his freedom for the sleepness nights, money problems and napp... (read in full...)
What would you do if you wanted an abortion, but your partner didn't?
Q. If you are pregnant and dont want to have the baby for a lot of reasons and know in your heart the best thing would be to not have the baby, but your boyfriend really does want to have the baby, how should you decide if you keep the baby or not? ...
A. 7 April 2008: Its your body. And only you can make the choice - As simple as that.
As a man If I was in this situation, I would do everything I could to assure my girlfriend that I would be there for her, but at the end of the day it is still her body and I have... (read in full...)
Found out I'm pregnant again. I don't know what to do.
Q. HI rite were do i start well im 17 18 in 2 week i have a 2 and a half year old. And today i have just found out am exspecting again i have being with my bf for 3 years we are up and down. I had a abortion a couple of months ago and really dont want ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
if you use condoms how come you keep getting pregnant?. I think you are not being entirely honest here.
But that aside, you need professional help , more than you can get here, ask your Doctor for advice.... (read in full...)
What is it with men when they reach their 40's ~ they only want to have sex with teenagers?
Q. I have been married for many years and my problem started after my husband turned 40. Our sex life has gone down hill. He can no longer get hard for me. He said he likes young teens...What is it with men when they reach their 40's they only want to ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
this man over 40 doesnt like teens at all. Nor do any of my friends, so you can count us lot out of the stereotype being portrayed here thankyou.
Sure I understand the lure, younger, thinner , tighter etc...but you also get the inexperi... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, so how comes being fingered doesn't hurt me?
Q. I've bin fingered once before and he used four fingers up to his knuckles bearing in mind his fingers are quite fat. It didn't hurt one bit and I didn't think it was particularly 'good' either. I'm a virgin and I don't see why it doesn't hurt me,...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
women's vagaina's come in all shapes and sizes like men's penises. A lot of girls think that all vaginas are relatively the same in that they stretch according to the size of the object inserted. But from my own experience I have found so... (read in full...)
I have known him since high school...11 yrs now, should I tell him how I really feel or lose him to another??
Q. I need help... My best friend is a guy I have known since high school...11 years. We do everything together. I go to his family functions and he goes to mine. Years ago he told me that he never wanted to ruin our one of a kind friendship by trying ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi there,
he's playing with your emotions by tearing up when he gets drunk. It is not fair on you.
You need to tell him how you feel, he may just be waiting for this moment. You mention that "years ago" he told you he wouldnt want to spoil the re... (read in full...)
I wanted my ex to destroy the raunchy letters I used to write to him when we were together-But he hasn't!
Q. I broke up with my long term boyfriend back in August. He broke up with me over the phone after admitting to having lead me along for 6 months because he "couldnt find the right moment to break up." Was well pissed off - even more so when I said ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
Sorry to say, but you have no hope of getting those letters back. You wrote them to him, so he has every right to keep them ( unless he is a nice guy and decides to return them ).
But at the end of the day, you say you work in a very public ... (read in full...)
I bought a house, he's moving in but wont marry me!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a 1.5 yrs and we have both told each other we will be with each other for the rest of our lives but he wont marry me! He thinks i'm taking the mick and as i've been married before, he calls me a serial bride! ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
You are 24 and already married once? I can see how a boyfriend might interpret that as he put it a "serial bride".
Which he was joking about by the way. But I have to admit If I was dating a girl aged 24 who already had a divorce under her belt... (read in full...)
Is it unrealistic to even consider that we may/could make our marriage work NOW??
Q. I married in April of last year for the second time. My first marriage occurred when i was very young, wayyyy too young. It lasted less than a year and i view it as a mistake made due to my age and immaturity. This time, however, i really felt like...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
yes it is unrealistic. You have to ask yourself why do think it would work. Is it the abuse, the controlling behaviour, the jealousy? I'm not being sarcastic as i think these are powerful emotive forces which make a person dependent. We see on t... (read in full...)
Why do men manipulate you into thinking that YOU are wrong - when they are the cheats?
Q. A few days ago, I decided to contact 'the other woman' to find out what type of relationship there was between her and my boyfriend. I suspected that my s/o was having a relationship outside of ours, and after finding evidence of cheating ...
A. 7 April 2008: Hi,
Sorry to say , but not all men do this - only the lying cheating scumbag rats. And unfortunately for you , one of them is your boyfriend.
So as much as I would like to say you can work it out, you have only two choices, accept his cheating... (read in full...)
The biggest issue facing me right now is whether or not I am gay.
Q. I'm a 19 year old guy and I am so confused with my life. I need some serious help. The biggest issue facing me right now is whether or not I am gay. I'm going to lay everything out here and hopefully I'll find some help. So here goes. ...
A. 4 April 2008: Hi,
Sorry but its a bit more cut and dried to me. You are definitely gay. Now as Seinfeld says: "Not that there is anything wrong with that".
It seems to be a pattern in the last few years, so many young American's think there is something wro... (read in full...)
What is the most that a teacher can do with a student??
Q. Hi...i was wondering: What is the most that a teacher can do with a student???? Are relationships illegal, even if you are about the same age????...
A. 4 April 2008: Hi,
I think it is reassuring that you two know your boundaries regarding being intimate with each other, but you are still unaware of the effect even a little gossip can have on his life.
As a teacher myself I can tell you why he blew up.
If ... (read in full...)
My partner hates my mum, but she loves him, what am I supposed to do?
Q. My partner and i have been staying at my parents house for about 2 months now while we find a place. But I'm also 29 weeks pregnant, at first they all got along fine, but now my partner is constantly putting them down to me and being all friendly to ...
A. 4 April 2008: Hi,
this is one situation where I would love to hear both sides of the story. I say this because you make it look a little one sided.
You say your parents love him to bits yet she says things that "make him unhappy". This could be construe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and has made me lose friends but I can't get over him!
Q. I have just recently got out of a 2 year relationship as I was pregnant and my other half didn't want me to keep our child. Unfornetaly I had a miscarriage. While I was in this relationship my boyfriend made me lose my friends, my family and my ...
A. 4 April 2008: Hi,
It's hard because he was controlling you. Now that he's gone there is a part of you that misses this control he had over your life.
Look at this as an opportunity to re-connect with the friends you lost. Give one of them a call and tell the... (read in full...)
Do I go back to him because it is easier, and I do love him and miss him very much, or do I tough it out and move on?
Q. I split from my husband 8 months ago, we have a 10 month old baby and a 3 yo. I found out he had been sleeping with prostitutes the whole time we were married (4 years) I caught an infection from him and had a miscarriage in between our 2 kids that ...
A. 4 April 2008: Hi there,
It may be easier financially to stay with him, but at what cost to your self esteem.
You claim that you believe he will change his behaviour. I don't think you really believe that, the reason being you know he has know reason to change h... (read in full...)
What is going on with him?
Q. the other day my now exboyfriend surprised for lunch at work. my first reaction was whats wrong and then of course i smiled and was very happy but kept thinking i wonder why he is here. later that night he came by and spent the night i woke up and ...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi,
sorry for this, but he won't talk to you because he knows he's been found out and that his lies have been exposed.
So he most likely has moved onto the next conquest. Just try and move on, why do you want to talk to him anyway, surely you d... (read in full...)
What Do you think of this friendship I have with this guy I met?
Q. I have a platonic realtionship with a guy for some time now, almost a year. We have become good friends, share jokes, pictures of ourselves ,send each others hugs. He's very polite with me and all. He's military and was stationed overseas, recent...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi,
I cant see what the problem is. You aren't too concerned about him committing to you and relish the friendship.
And from his part, he has a female friend he can chat to which must help given his occupation and the fact that he is travelli... (read in full...)
My wife wants to close a 27 yr old wound she rec'd from her ex-husband!!
Q. My wife of 10 years has informed me that four days ago she made contact with her first husband. They were married for 12 days when they went to sleep in the same bed as his best friend. Sometime during the night she woke up and thought she was kiss...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi Carol,
I'm very sorry that you have gone through all of this drama and your husband should have admitted he had been unfaithful - that must have been a kick in the teeth.
But you must realise that you are effectively ending your marriage... (read in full...)
I discovered an e-mail my husband sent to a prostitute. He's agreed to a date in a hotel!!
Q. I have been married for 10 years. My husband has been loving and respectful. He has been working in the Middle east for the last 6 months, and I have seen him about once a month. But about a month ago, on the last visit home, something about his ...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi,
sorry to see you going through this. But after your latest post you now know that your husband is a cheating rat.
It must be awful for you, knowing that your husband sleeps with prostitutes. But unfortunately the reason there are so many esco... (read in full...)
My girlfriend never wants sex...
Q. Hey there, Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 1 1/2 years. We have a pretty strong relationship but there is one problem. She never wants sex. She tells me that she just doesnt like it. Its as basic as that. I mean about 6 months ago ...
A. 3 April 2008: Dude,
one thing, never force a girl to have sex when they don't want it.
Secondly you might just have to ask yourself are you doing enough to make her want to have sex. Girls need to be warmed up, lots of foreplay is required, do you do this or ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to close a 27 yr old wound she rec'd from her ex-husband!!
Q. My wife of 10 years has informed me that four days ago she made contact with her first husband. They were married for 12 days when they went to sleep in the same bed as his best friend. Sometime during the night she woke up and thought she was kiss...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi again,
wow! it was fascinating to read the reply from the wife.
May I addres this to her then:
You still give no reason for seeing this man other than you simply have too. I do get what you are trying to say that you just have to do this, but... (read in full...)
Do I make men behave this way or I just "pick" men like this, the aggresive and controlling type? Is this reason enough to leave them?
Q. I recently went on holiday with my boyfriend (3 year relationship) and it went badly - we argued and at one point he moved towards me in such a way I thought he was going to hit me. I threw a cushion at him and he shoved me backwards I fell on the ...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi there,
It looks like you are setting yourself to start believing that it is all your fault. You are then just one jump away from being regularly abused.
So accept that it is not your fault, I have never hit a female nor will I ever ( though I... (read in full...)
He is married and said to be a player, we've been intimate already and I feel... addicted to him! How to stop the affair?
Q. I am 17 years old and have a male friend who is 35, i really like him but we can't be together because i am not yet 18 and plus we live in a very small town of about a 750 pop. and there would be problems, he is known to be a player, he is ...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi
do you want to be the mother to his fifth child? Guys like these spread their seed throughout town and leave behind a trail of destruction where ever they go.
He is addictive because he is a master at what he does, it's all he lives for, and... (read in full...)
I feel that as we are married, I owe it to him to at least try and revive our marriage! What are your thoughts?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man at work since last December. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and cannot stop thinking about him. I told my husband last weekend as I cannot continue living a lie. My husband reacted ...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi,
the only thing I would say is it would be a mistake to leave him with the expectation of living permanently with the married colleague. There is a world of hurt in that direction.
Otherwise, you most likely owe it to your partner to split up... (read in full...)
How do I get my equality and power back in this marriage, and how do I deal with his threats of divorce?
Q. Im in need of major advice: My hubby and I just got married last fall, and already he's been threatening with divorce. Begging of this year we have moved to the US due to his work and thus I am a housewife since I am unable to work since ...
A. 3 April 2008: Hi ,
I hate to say it but I don't hold up much hope for you gaining some sort of equality in the relationship. It looks like he has got you exactly where he wants you.
Were you aware that by moving away with him at the time you would be giving up... (read in full...)
Does he want to marry me or not?!
Q. The guy I've been involved with off and on for 5 years, we are now living together again, asked me to marry him Jan 1st. Then cause his credit is bad, has me get the jewelry card but he would make the payments, gets two rings, engagement and ...
A. 2 April 2008: Hi,
looks like you guys don't communicate here.
Did he tell you why he couldnt make the payments? Do you have any idea? You should be open about these things if you are going to share a life together, and either work out to share financial responsi... (read in full...)
Almost "Greek"...does anyone have any idea what I'm getting into here?
Q. Hallo Everyone I have been in love for two years with the greatest guy of all. We are supposed to get married next year. Sounds great, doesn't it? Well... My Fiance is Greek and I am absolute Atheist! He wants me to become Greek Orthodox. ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
at least he is laying out all his cards on the table so I give him credit for that.
But aside from the traditions involved this just sounds so controlling. If you are having concerns about it now, they will multiply once you get married ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating on me with her?
Q. Husband told me he was afraid to tell me he was friends with a girl at work because he thought she was pretty, he's never done anything like this before. He has went to her apartment to help her move, they've been caught hugging at work and even ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
sorry mate, but it sounds like she has got her claws into him. But it is not just her is it? She shouldn't take all the blame, he is encouraging this as well.
I guess it all depends how much you value your marriage. This woman is a poisonous ... (read in full...)
Work colleague or more, plus he has a girlfriend? Help!!
Q. Hi this is a problem I feel terrible about so go easy on me! There's this guy I work with who I have always thought was attractive but have never really got to know until recently because we've been working on the same project together. Working ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
Imagine if you had a boyfriend you loved and you knew a girl was working with him and they were spending a lot of time together and you knew things were getting very friendly - what would you think of this girl?
Now put yourself in the shoe... (read in full...)
He made me "do it" and I wasn't ready...
Q. dear cupids. I've got a real problem! I'm in a bad situation but I feel like I've caused it myself :S I have been *seeing* this guy, (a friend of my brother) who is aged 18, for 9 months, I am 15, 16 in May, and he is my *first love*, he's ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
As you acquiesced to his demands proving it to be rape would be very difficult. But he did all but rape you.
And you are still considering going out with him?
You are very young, so its a good time to learn a thing called self respect. It'... (read in full...)
Caught in a marriage, and caught in an affair, what should I do?
Q. I got married a month after I turned 18. No one knew. It was a secret, until I got married in church when I turned 19. We moved out of California across the way to Maryland. I left all family and friends behind because he was to be stationed ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
First, has your husband been in combat in Iraq recently ? If he has he may be experiencing post traumatic stress and needs all the support from his wife he can get to find a spark in his life.
But if he has just turned into a lazy slob th... (read in full...)
I'm looking for kinky sex ideas!
Q. I'm going out with a wonderful open minded guy. We have a great sex life which is quite varied and experimental but there's always more things to try which is why I'm posting here. Does anyone have any recommendations for kinky things to do toget...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
you need to tell us first what you mean? What have you tried till now?... (read in full...)
Having a baby now when I'm so young but need to for health reasons?
Q. I'm 16 and i want a baby now with my boyfriend who i've been with for 3yrs. i was told that because of a mutation in my genes as i get older it would be harder for me to give birth to a healthy baby. I am deeply in love with my boyfriend and i want ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
If your boyfriend is a teenager as well I'm sorry to say you won't have much luck.
I can't think of any teenage boy who wants the responsibilities of being a father. Then there are his parents, and your parents, they will need to be there to... (read in full...)
I feel lonely when all my friends talk to me about their boyfriends...
Q. hey everyone!!!first i would like to tell u somethin about myself i am 19 years old nd i had a boy friend who i broke with i dumped him,and many guys approached me for a realtionship but i wasnt ready because i felt they were not right for me..now ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
so what's the question?... (read in full...)
My wife wants to close a 27 yr old wound she rec'd from her ex-husband!!
Q. My wife of 10 years has informed me that four days ago she made contact with her first husband. They were married for 12 days when they went to sleep in the same bed as his best friend. Sometime during the night she woke up and thought she was kiss...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
I can understand your concern. What has got into her head?
This is a hard one to figure out as her motivations for going to see him are thin to say the least.
So I guess you have to ask yourself some hard questions. Has your married life... (read in full...)
19, dating a 25 year old. Will it work? What will my parents say?
Q. hi iam 19 and going on a date with a woman who i think is gorgeous but she got 4 kids different ages young; oldest is 7 and she's 25 do u think it might work out and also i am worried what my folks might say aswell. just want to know what ur ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hey confusedguy,
don't take this the wrong way , but your last post is proof that you shouldnt go out with the girl with four kids.
She needs someone to comitt themselves wholeheartedly to her, someone who will share responsibilities in raising ... (read in full...)
What would my sexuality be considered as?
Q. I am male and married. However when I was 15 years old I had a "relationship" with another 15 year old boy for about 6 months. We did mutual masturbation, oral and some anal sex. As far as I know, no one knows about our "relationship". I enjoyed it, ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
the fact that you mention nothing about your wife and moreover if you even enjoy sex with her leads me to think you are gay.
If you genuinely enjoy sex with your wife and find women physically appealing then you are bi-sexual.... (read in full...)
19, dating a 25 year old. Will it work? What will my parents say?
Q. hi iam 19 and going on a date with a woman who i think is gorgeous but she got 4 kids different ages young; oldest is 7 and she's 25 do u think it might work out and also i am worried what my folks might say aswell. just want to know what ur ...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
for the first part I thought, what the hell 19 and 25 no big deal there.
But then you brought up that she has 4 kids.
My word, that is a hell of a lot of responsibilty to take on as a 19 year old and that is exactly what your parents will... (read in full...)
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