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writes:What does he mean when he says he has doubts about the relationship and hence is unable to be pysically intimate with you? But then he tells you he loves you and cares very much for you. He does little things like pack you sandwiches for lunch, buy you little treats to keep at his place so when you're over, you have something nice to eat. He buys you surprise presents. he tells you he likes you being at his place even when he is not there. He offers you to spend time at his house when he is away for the weekend. He wants to spend time with you and you do have a great time when you are together. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Hi,
sounds more like a friendship than a relationship.
I think you need to define your boundaries with this man. If he is unable to give himself over to a physical relationship, you deserve to know this, otherwise he is being dishonest with you .
There is no reason you cannot be very close friends with this man and still pursue a "real" relationship elsewhere.
In your situation I would tell him that a relationship involves physical intimacy - are you going to have this?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 April 2008):
 He loves you and cares for you but doesn't want to be physically intimate means just that, I think. He is being honest, and cares about you but is not interested in you as a sexual partner. It could be that that he has some medical issues that preclude his sexual activity, or it could mean that he is just not in a position to give you what you want.
Don't push too hard if this is a casual relationship; if you two are in a long-term lover relationship, then you have to talk with him about it. But don't invest too much of your heart and mind in this as a long-term prospect.
I wish you the best.
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