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writes:Hi all, can you really judge your husband/partner by the friends he keeps. I have just hear from a friend of mine that her partner of 5 years had be secretly been seeing another woman for 2 years behind her back and the only way she found out was this woman called and told her. Her boyfriend was a friend of my husbands, my husband tells me this man is a good guy, but HOW, his friend is a horrible person who plays with peoples lives, especially my friend, says he loves her and wants them to move in together but yet he is seeing another person for 2 years!!!!! you opinion would be appreciated. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, TL7  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 It's not true. I dated a guy in highschool that was straight edge; didn't smoke, drink, or cuss, ever! He is still that way to this day, however ll of our friends are complete potheads, and i'm sure "fuck" is in every sentence that comes out of their mouths, but they're all friends. And have been since Jr high. I know it's not the exact same thing as having a bf whose friend is a cheater, but you get what I'm trying to say. Just because his friends a douche-bag, doesn't neccesarily mean that your guy is.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Hi,
Well can I be the one to offer some sanity into this discussion.
You have got to stop taking the paranoia pills mate. Just because his mate cheats on his wife doesnt mean he will.
He will not judge his mate on his infidelities , he's his mate and nothing will change.
I do accept that friends share values, and it is true to a certain extent that cheating can be something discussed in a peer pressure environment.
But what it really boils down to is how much you trust your partner, by the sounds of it not much - Which really is at the heart of matter.
Show some faith in your partner, if he is giving no indications of cheating you owe it to him ( as his supposed soul mate ) to give him the benefit of the doubt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Boy, do I wish I had judged my ex-boyfriend by the company he kept, i.e. his best friend. Cause he turned out to be a real loser, just like his friend. I'd have wasted a lot less time with him and saved myself some heartache if only I'd judged him by the company he chose to keep.
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reader, rproctor +, writes (22 April 2008):
I wonder the same because I met some of my gf's friends the other night and they were all complete sluts. One of them kept saying that she was completely "DTF"... I asked her what that ment and she said down to fuck. She fucked 2 guys the night we went out, while in a relationship with another guy, and the other 2 girls kept talking about getting laid and sucking dick. These are my girls best friends... Im hesistant to her going out with them after seeing all that...
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