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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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My mother was ok with my brother's Gf visiting but she is not as welcoming towards my Bf. Why would my mother react this way?
Q. I'm 13 with a 14 year old boyfriend who's parents are super chill and unrestrictive of most things, but mine are sometimes restrictive sometimes not which can be a real pain in the rear. My older brother, who is 16, had a girlfriend when he was ...
A. 2 October 2016: Parents are generally more protective of daughters than sons. That being said, the fact that you're 13 years old and are allowed to have a boyfriend is in itself a big thing. I don't think my mom would ever have been OK with me claiming at be in ... (read in full...)
My partner is afraid of my penis size... and her sister is a little too interested!
Q. I'm married over 3 years, love marriage, never did intercourse with my partner until married, knew her 6 years before marriage, we both want more of it but I have a 11.5inch n 5 inch fat, she is scared every time, I am ashamed of it, I haven't taken ...
A. 2 October 2016: Oh please! This has to be a troll.
You claim to have an abnormally large and huge penis that's almost a foot long(!!), you say your partner who you dated for 6 years before marriage is scared and now her sister apparently wants a "go" at you. ... (read in full...)
Is being called ''plain and simple'' a compliment?
Q. Is being "Plain and Simple" a compliment? We were having dinner the other night and I asked my husband of over 20 years did it taste ok. I said its just plain food, meaning unprocessed. He said "Yes, Plain and Simple,just the way I like my women"...
A. 1 October 2016: I don't think he meant "plain and simple" as in being a plain Jane in the looks department. I think he meant that you're a simple, uncomplicated person. Please don't get offended, men most often aren't too articulate with words. And also, don't let ... (read in full...)
I lost the ring my wife purchased for me. She'll be very cross. What should I do?
Q. My wife left for Paris last week, and instead of going to work, coming home to a lovely empty apartment and playing video games like I been doing, my brother convinced me to hang out with him for the night. When I got there all the boys were the...
A. 1 October 2016: Something doesn't quite add up. How can a ring just go missing in a fight? Was it loose on your finger, to begin with? And why was that the first thing that your wife was concerned about when you told her about the fight? Why would she automatically ... (read in full...)
How long does it take somebody to get over nonstop lying, cheating & betrayal??
Q. Hi All!! Im praying that somebody out there will have some answers to my massive confusion in my relationship. 4 months after starting a relationship with the guy im still with currently. He proposed to me. I accepted due to being massively head ...
A. 1 October 2016: OP listen to me. As someone who has been with a person in the past who was a serial cheat and a liar, I'm telling you this from experience.
It. Doesn't. Get. Better.
I wish there was some way I could get this message across to you and make you... (read in full...)
10 years later my ex writes me to say she's sorry. Do I ignore?
Q. A random question here .. about 10 years ago with my first gf ,, we was going out for a couple of months and then she ended it and spread loads of bad things about me .. which tbf didn't help me and probably hasn't helped me to this day .One thing ...
A. 29 September 2016: Just ignore her. Sometimes its hard to look past the bad things that others have done to us. Seeing that you haven't forgiven or forgotten her behavior, just block her so that she cannot connect with you again. ... (read in full...)
Please help me draft a post to my sister for her birthday
Q. Hey everyone!! I'm not good with writing or words but I want to write a message to my sister on her birthday!So please help me I will just tell in brief what I want to write. My younger sister is my best friend I can't imagine my childhood withou...
A. 29 September 2016: This is not something that strangers on the internet can help you with, this is something intensely personal and should come from your heart.
This is your sister you're talking about...you shared your childhood, your growing up years, laughter... (read in full...)
Would it be acceptable to ask if our family could go again to their vacation home?
Q. I have known a couple for a very long time and used to see them often, but for the last couple of years it seems like they only want to get together once a year. My family used to borrow their vacation house-- we haven't been in about 5 years. Do...
A. 24 September 2016: For a moment just forget about whether or not you should. The bigger question is, wont you yourself feel awkward asking someone for this big a favour when (a) you're not even going to be paying for it and (b) you've been downgraded to acquaintances ... (read in full...)
What to do? I'm dating a woman aged 30 and I can't handle her "sleeping around" in the past.
Q. I'm in my early 20s, not perfect but I met a woman who's 30 recently and we really hit it off. However shes has a LOT of bad things in her past. I'm not misogynist and I have obviously slept with girlfriends but she did a load of crazy stuff when...
A. 20 September 2016: If you're feeling this way then I doubt you'll ever grow out of it. My point though is, why is she telling you all this? Having sex in a public place, FWB, drugs.... Why is she even taking about all this now? Are you actively seeking out this ... (read in full...)
Have I put the final nail in the coffin or is the friendship still okay?
Q. I'm friends with a female co worker. we have had out fair share of fallings out but have always made up. as it was her last day at work, I shook her hand and wished her all the best with her new adventure as she is moving to start a new job work...
A. 17 September 2016: I'm surprised she hasn't informed the police about you yet! You really have a hard time getting the message, don't you? Exactly what is it that you don't understand? When someone says they're not interested means they're not interested and you are ... (read in full...)
Please advise!!! What should I do about this situation with my girlfriend??
Q. Okay, so this is my first time posting any sort of question online. I've been on and off this site for years just browsing never thinking I would ever need to post anything on here, but here I am. So here's the issue, me and my girlfriend have bee...
A. 14 September 2016: She's cheating on you and doesn't intend to stop. She admitted that she had a crush on the guy and was talking inappropriately with him when she got caught. This is when she should have stopped completely. Instead, she's looking for methods to snare ... (read in full...)
Should 13 year olds date 16 year olds?
Q. I'm a 13 year old female and I'm dating a 16 year old guy.. I think I'm in love but I don't know if that's wrong. I mean my friends say that we are cute and my parents say that it's wrong because of the age difference. All I wanna know is if it's ...
A. 10 September 2016: Yes it's wrong. Of course when you're 13 and think you're in love, you won't listen to what anyone says because you think the world is only for you. We as strangers on the internet can only tell you that this is unacceptable and you should never get ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend has been chatting inappropriately with other women and even worse, with his ex... And has painted me like a monster in front of her!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and long distance for almost 1 year. Up until a few days ago, I thought our relationship was amazing. I considered this relationship the healthiest, most honest, and loving one I've ever been in. H...
A. 10 September 2016: You're still crazy in love with him? Well then it's time to take off the rose-colored glasses and see him for who he is... A cheat and a liar. So what if he didn't sleep with any of these people? Does that make him any better? This isn't something ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a total loser I should lose or am I missing something?
Q. I have been seeing a man in his 40s for six months. I am also in my 40s. He has told me he cares about me and we've talked about a future together. Four days ago my father was rushed to the hospital. He had two large blood clots in his lungs and...
A. 9 September 2016: Yes, I'd be super pissed as well. Is he generally like this or just going through problems of his own?... (read in full...)
What can I do to make myself feel a little more comfortable and less nervous?
Q. Hey Everyone, I am taking part in the School Show and for my part I have to kiss someone. I don't mind but I have never kissed a boy before so I am really nervous. What can I do to make myself feel a little more comfortable and less nervous?...
A. 9 September 2016: How is that that your school play is making you kiss a boy? If you were my daughter, I'd have a lot of objections to this! This is certainly not right but anyway, if it still calls for a kiss, then just fake it. No one's going to expect you to do it ... (read in full...)
Are we still friends or is it over?
Q. I am friends with a female at work. we have fallen out a couple of times but have always made up. last week i sent her flowers at work in the hope of she would put me back on facebook as one of friends but it back fired on me and things seem to ...
A. 7 September 2016: It's over. And it's high time you understood this.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my troubled and tormented thoughts of her?
Q. I am a mid aged guy and 7 years ago, I began seeing a woman from work. I was separated from my wife and 2 teenage girls but used to still see my wife on a friendly basis and help her out and still occasionally had sex with her. The woman is m...
A. 6 September 2016: Wow are you selfish!! You wouldn't commit to her, you wanted to stay in the good books of your family, you wanted the sex to continue with no strings attached and when she finally took a stand and cut you out of her life, you decide you want her ... (read in full...)
My fiance risked our relationship for one night of fun
Q. I am engaged to be married on the 24th. Last weekend my bf had his bachelor party weekend in New York . I couple of his buddies were egging him on to hook up with a random girl. They ended up inviting a group of girls back to their hotel were he ...
A. 6 September 2016: Do what your heart tells you. Believe me, don't bother about the embarrassment.. Public memory is short and no one's going to care beyond a few days. As for your family, they'll be only too happy that you've saved yourself from a lifetime of pain ... (read in full...)
Was it just an excuse? Or am I being selfish thinking 15 minutes away was not far?
Q. I have been dating a new guy recently and I have no car, so he usually has to pick me up and take me home. He ended things because I was too far away, despite only being 15 minutes away. Am I selfish for thinking I'm not that far?...
A. 6 September 2016: Like someone said, a guy who's interested will never ever complain. My now husband went through absolute hell to woo me... And that included him literally begging to drop me off to work and pick me up when I was done!
That being said, I never expe... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend get horny watching women play golf or was he horny because of ME?
Q. My boyfriend watched a women's golf tournament today. He is business friends with an organizer and got a free ticket so he went as his friend's guest. I was supposed to see my boyfriend last night but he had to work. I told him I was horny and ho...
A. 5 September 2016: You're presuming way too many things! I really don't think it works the way that you're thinking. Sure he may have found those girls attractive-nothing wrong with that-but he had sex with you because he wanted YOU.
Don't make an issue out of this... (read in full...)
What can I do? My friend has chosen his girlfriend over me and I miss him
Q. So I have been really close friends with a guy since primary school, and even though I don't get to see him very much because I am away at uni, we always kept in contact over text, Facebook etc. Although now he is refusing to speak to me ! And I...
A. 4 September 2016: You don't do anything. Because your friend has made his choice and if he's happier without you in his life, then so be it. His girlfriend made him choose but he had the choice... And he chose to cut you out of his life. You now know where you stand ... (read in full...)
How do I seduce my female college professor?
Q. I honestly think this is fate. I'm a college freshman, I was dreading my 4hr class with a professor I heard was tough and moody. I get to class and it's this young beautiful short girl with big curly hair. I immediately raise my hand and tell her ...
A. 4 September 2016: No, it's not fate and no one on their right senses would ever give you tips on how to "seduce" your female professor. You seem to think of yourself as a great catch and talk about her as not being the type YOU would ever fall for but you're ... (read in full...)
How do I seduce my female college professor?
Q. I honestly think this is fate. I'm a college freshman, I was dreading my 4hr class with a professor I heard was tough and moody. I get to class and it's this young beautiful short girl with big curly hair. I immediately raise my hand and tell her ...
A. 4 September 2016: No, it's not fate and no one on their right senses would ever give you tips on how to "seduce" your female professor. You seem to think of yourself as a great catch and talk about her as not being the type YOU would ever fall for but you're ... (read in full...)
My volunteer group organizer keeps flirting with me, but I'm not interested. How do I turn him down nicely but stay part of the group?
Q. I am in a very awkward situation at the moment. I am part of a voluntary organisation that I enjoy very much, being a part of, however, I feel that one of the organizers of the group has taken a particular interest in me, he is the main organize...
A. 4 September 2016: OP you have to be firm with this man. He doesn't seem to realize his boundaries and once he learnt about the failure of your past relationship, he seems to be thinking that he can "give" you whatever your boyfriend didn't.
Just tell him firmly, "Wil... (read in full...)
He's married. Wondering why he acted like that? Was he testing me, or was he seeing me as a potential client?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to hear others opinion about this scenario. I'm single mom, professional and attractive as others say. I am not dating and not interested in dating even after 3 years of my divorce. I always get attention and I don't care about...
A. 1 September 2016: Thoroughly unprofessional. Please stay away from this guy and don't everyday entertain any talks of a personal nature. A married man, if he isn't honest to his wife, can be honest to no one. Nothing even remotely positive comes to mind about the way ... (read in full...)
My friend is taking up too much of my time. How do I tell her in a friendly way?
Q. Hey , my propblem is about my friend . i work from home and have a child so tend to be busy but have more free time than someone going out to their work place , my friend doesnt work due to disabilities so has a lot of free time . She constantly ...
A. 31 August 2016: Just ignore her texts, reply when you want to and tell her that you're busy. It's because you're replying that she keeps taking to you. If you stop, the one-way communication can't go on for too long. Tell her when you can that work is particularly ... (read in full...)
I've had sex with many men and I'm afraid of what my future husband will think?
Q. I had an intimate relationship with many boys when I was 19-20 years old. Im really upset with what I had done. And I'm scared that what would happen if in the future my husband would get to know about my bad body figure. Please help me?...
A. 30 August 2016: As long as you are loyal and faithful to your husband and are the best partner to him that you can possibly be, your past is none of his business. Everyone makes mistakes. Relax! You're not the only one, you're not the first one and you won't be the ... (read in full...)
My husband's extended family members call him all the time for medical advice but ignore me despite my efforts to be friendly
Q. Dear Aunts, I'm 28 years old and have been married for two years. I'm an only child of my family and very close to my parents. On the other hand my husband comes from a very big, close knitted family. He has 5 siblings and they all are very close. T...
A. 29 August 2016: Just learn to ignore them. It's their loss that they don't like you. You've tried being friendly, now play it cool and stop being nice to them when you meet them. Sometimes people suffer from a terrible complex and what you see is a reflection that. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being mad at my friends, and not wanting to talk to them?
Q. Quick advice aunts Do I have the right to be upset with my best friend? It was my birthday and we agreed to go to dinner and after drinks or a lounge. All my friends have boyfriends ( who they been with for 1-2 years) and I'm the only single ...
A. 29 August 2016: Nothing wrong with wanting some space. It's not like you have to talk to them everyday, in any case. Busy yourself with work and you'll hardly have enough time for all this.
Unfortunately most people don't understand others problems. Don't ta... (read in full...)
Is it still my fault that she ghosted me for being a nice guy?
Q. So some time ago, around eight months ago, i was ghosted by a woman i treated with kindest, but a lot of you put me down saying i deserved what i got, so i found out some things about her i didn't know about. One thing she told me she has only bee...
A. 26 August 2016: Aren't you being a little silly? Stop playing the victim! What did you expect from a woman like that? Morals? Ethics? Values?
There's nothing wrong with being a good guy and you know it. Sometimes people just don't appreciate goodness and now you ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about a second date with him any more, my feelings have changed!
Q. im not 100 % sure what to do and thats why im here . A year ago i went on a date with a guy we both wanted the same out of life then , the date was good and we got on well but he always had an excuse for cancelling a 2nd date ( always a 'family ...
A. 23 August 2016: You two don't sound compatible in any way.
He's flaky, you want different things out of life and a second date after a YEAR... That would be enough to put me off someone for good!! I personally don't think it's worth it.
Sounds like too muc... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't want me to spend the weekend at his place and now he's not responding to my texts! Help!
Q. Dear Cupid I am dating a guy for past 5 months, we meet every weekend in his place. Its not perfect, but its good, he doesnt like talking in phone or texting, so i dont usually call him over the week, even if i do its rare that he picks up the cal...
A. 23 August 2016: Wow!! He really doesn't like you and he's made himself pretty clear. Certainly not being subtle about it!
Don't take it personally; sometimes things don't work out and you just have to move on. Don't do anything, don't try to get back to him, don... (read in full...)
I feel awkward about my crush. She's 16 and she's the niece of my mother's boyfriend. What should I do?
Q. Hi hopefully someone can offer me advice on an issue that is playing on my mind, I'm a 27 years old and male. So down to the problem, I am starting to become infatuated with my mum's boyfriend's niece. I never really noticed her before but she ...
A. 22 August 2016: A 16 year old is off limits. No matter how mature she looks, the fact is that she isn't. Maybe 10 years from now when she's 26 and you're 37... But certainly not now. Mingle with people your own age and stop fantasizing about this young, underage ... (read in full...)
Accidently ccontacted an ex' - now he won't leave me alone
Q. I was bored upon a day, and this boredom spilled over to the next few days. So I checked my contact list on watsapp and began messaging friends I don't talk to anymore, then I messaged one of my ex boyfriends(one who disrespected me and still owes ...
A. 20 August 2016: Why is this ex still in your contact list? Block him immediately and stop taking his calls and answering his messages. Tell him that if he doesn't stop harassing you then you'll inform the police. I think that should do it... (read in full...)
My first love and I have reconnected after 30 years
Q. I linked with my ex over a year ago, my first love. We have know each other for 30 years. I have a family. He is single with no ties. We have been on dates and slept together a few times but kept it light. It was his birthday a few weeks ago...
A. 20 August 2016: Sorry but you're chasing a rainbow. Its basically a useless quest that you're after. He's commitment phobic, he's not made anything happen in 30 years, you rekindled but then he lost you for 13 years and now that he's in touch again, he's made it ... (read in full...)
Is it really over or could there be another reason for his reluctance to reply to my last question following our break-up?
Q. Premise: It was a whirlwind romance that started out as an innocent friendship ended with a declaration of "I like you" and talks about what it would be like to be married and plans of a future together, but due to current circumstances we had to ...
A. 20 August 2016: The reason he didnt answer is because for him its over...for good...and he wants nothing to do with you ever again.
If he had answered your question and said that he DID have feelings for you then he would have thought that you'd corner him and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's former in laws paint a rosy picture of her abusive ex
Q. Three years ago I met and fell in love with "Kate" she was in a very abusive relationship and my friend and I helped her get out of it. I honesty believe if she hadnt left when she did he would have killed her. Last year he committed suicide while ...
A. 20 August 2016: Of course they'll support him...he was their son, and blood after all IS thicker than water. Don't let their words get to you and don't expect any better from them. Not only did they raise a terrible son, they refuse to even see his faults. How do ... (read in full...)
Have I lost my College friend? I miss the talks we used to enjoy together
Q. I had a college friend who after a long time got in touch with when I sent her my marriage invitation. Its been 8 years and we are in touch on whatzapp on and off and that too very casual chats. It was mostly she who would text me with question...
A. 19 August 2016: It seems a little strange that you're this concerned about someone who's just a friend. Does your wife know about all this that's going on? You seem to be extremely bothered about what this friend thinks and feels. I'm not so sure you should allow ... (read in full...)
I can't think of any solutions to get him to move out. Help?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend moved in with me 8 months ago as he was retrenched. Fortunately he now has a new job but the spell of unemployment hit him hard financially and he is still struggling to make ends meet. He also has a child with ex girlfriend. Our ...
A. 17 August 2016: What does he mean, he has nowhere else to go? That's not your problem!! I'm appalled by his cheek! Give him an ultimatum, a week's time to get his stuff out or you'll put it outside and he can collect out from there. Don't tolerate his non... (read in full...)
Together for 3 years and we have 2 children together. Did he ever really intend to marry me? Am I interpreting this situation accurately?
Q. I need help and i'll try and keep this as short as possible. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years almost. We have 2 children together within this time and our relationship was very full on from the beginning with me falling pregnant...
A. 17 August 2016: You call your partner "a douchebag who was happy enough to knock me up" but the truth that you dont want to accept is that you happily allowed yourself to get pregnant, not once but twice. The first time, by your own admission, was just weeks into ... (read in full...)
How do I tell what he's thinking?
Q. I know this Brit guy from Tinder. We like each other so after a week or so we got together - as in couple. His job requires him to fly across countries. We can only see each other one week every month so most of the time we have to we communicate ...
A. 16 August 2016: Are you sure you're 26-29 years old? Because honestly you sound 16. What is this deal about "Brit guys" that you keep talking about? What makes you think that British guys are any different from regular guys? A man is a man is a man...whether in ... (read in full...)
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