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writes: My boyfriend watched a women's golf tournament today. He is business friends with an organizer and got a free ticket so he went as his friend's guest. I was supposed to see my boyfriend last night but he had to work. I told him I was horny and how much I wanted him. He said he would try to come over if he could finish work early. But it ended up he could not get off work and it got too late to come over.Today after the golf tournament he came to my place. He was pretty horny. And we had sex. I asked him why was he so horny. He said because last night I said I was horny and wanted him. And he was anticipating coming over to be with me and then he couldn't so the anticipation carried over to today.I guess I sort of felt it was like a wham bam. And then after we finished he said he "needed" that. Not sure what he meant so I asked. He said because I said I was so horny for him last night and he was turned on by that.I asked him about the tournament. Asked if he enjoyed watching the women play golf and looking up their short skirts... jokingly... but not really. I asked if there were any attractive golfers and he said yes, there were. Not all of them but there were some. He went on to say there were lots of young, little Asian women in short skirts. He said he did not know so many Asian women play golf. So, right there I thought hmmmmmm. I think I have it in my head that he got horny by watching the little Asian women in short skirts. Because after the tournament he drove right over to my place and had sex with me. It was to the point and bang, done. He was here about 1. 5 hours but part of me couldn't help but think he was horny because of the women who were playing golf in short skirts. And he used me as a masturbation tool. I am really upset by this right now. He said that is not the case and explained why as I mentioned.But I am left feeling used tonight.I am not sure why I am taking it so hard.I really feel slighted by him. I really feel bad.Do guys get horny watching women in short skirts? Does it take more than that?Not sure where this is coming from?I feel so terrible!!!I want him to feel HORNY because of ME. NOT other women!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2016): It's the OP.
Thanks everyone.
You have put things into perspective for me.
You have made some excellent points.
I am glad I dropped by for your advice.
I will try to lighten up! LOL
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 September 2016):
 Then prepare yourself to feel bothered often and regularly.
The fact that his best sex partner among all he had were you does not mean that he cannot be erotically attracted by some other woman. In other words, you may be the best he had in bed so far, but I doubt that you can be the ONLY woman in the world whom he finds attractive. He still has eyes and he still has senses and he still has fantasies. And in great part he does not have much control on what he likes at skin level. Only on what he does.
Then of course, if he likes Kim Kardashian, or Lucy Liu, or the hashslinger girl at Mc Donald's, does not mean that he will try to approach her , to contact her, to follow her around. In fact, a loving, devoted partner will refuse , and say no even if ,by some strange twist of fate , Kim Kardashian should come and hit on him.
But , that he gets a fleeting tingle of excitement when , say, a powerful backside like Ms. Kardashian's crosses his path ( of course if powerful backsides are his thing :)- everybody has their own erotic icons ) is a sort of chemical, hormonal thing- you should neither worry about it nor take it personally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2016): I understand where you're coming from. I'm highly against the saying "you can look, but you cannot touch" because I don't even want my boyfriend looking at ANY other girls. Even if he does get horny or not. I believe I'm the only one he should be looking at and thinking about.
So if it was me in your situation, I for one, would not have let him even go to a girls golf tournament and two, I would have been really suspicious too. Especially if it was right as soon as he got back from being there? That just kind of proves that he was already somewhat horny before he got to be with you.
I find it very odd, as well as you do.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 September 2016):
 I think you are over thinking everything. He had sex with you did he not? Who cares if he found the other women attractive? I am afraid to tell you that men will look, and will get turned on by things other than you, but it is you he is with, you he wants to be with, so don't take things so personal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2016): It's the OPYoucannotbeserious, yes it does matterHe says I am his best sex partner ever and the best sex he has ever had has been with meSo yeah, it would bother me.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (5 September 2016):
 Does it really matter where he gets his appetite, as long as he eats at home?
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (5 September 2016):
 You're presuming way too many things! I really don't think it works the way that you're thinking. Sure he may have found those girls attractive-nothing wrong with that-but he had sex with you because he wanted YOU.
Don't make an issue out of this and don't put ideas in his head when there are none. He wanted you, he desired you and had sex with you. There's nothing more to it and certainly nothing suspicious. Relax!
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (5 September 2016):
 I think you are presuming stuff by huge leaps. Visual stimuli only has so much erotic effect so I doubt that he was horny by watching bunch of Asian girls in miniskirts.
On the other side, I can attest first hand suggestive stuff like you telling him how horny you are works. For example, my wife is hot as a pistol after done working out at the gym. She drops those hints to me every time we pass by the machines at the gym. If you are to ask me who I see at the gym I'll says is bunch of hot girls in yoga pants passing around, but if you are to ask me what gets me horny it's not the yoga girls but suggestives my wife drops throughout the workout.
So no, staring at Asian girls in skimpy skirts is not what he would need a relief from but from the mental tease you dropped on him.
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