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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
A little humility goes a long way
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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What's up with this man? Why does he try to look good when I'm around?
Q. Hello there! 3 years ago, a male in his early twenties was hired in my school as an teacher. I met him because he became an assistant moderator for the club I went to. During the first year, we treated each other as friends... but in the second year ...
A. 29 October 2016: You can't possibly not know the answer to this very obvious question and you want us to tell you what you want to hear. That he's attached to you.
Don't play with fire. It's flattering to think that a teacher likes you but don't let it get to y... (read in full...)
I'd like to get to know this girl better but I'm unsure how to do this
Q. I'm a guy, sophomore in high school, and took this girl to the homecoming dance. I asked her the night before just kind of randomly but she agreed to go so we went out to dinner and had fun at the dance. We spent the whole time there together and we ...
A. 28 October 2016: I totally agree with Cindy! I don't see what's wrong with FA's advice either! He's just suggesting that you get to know her better in ways which are age appropriate for you.
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Guy wants me to swing with him
Q. Me and this guy have been, not dating, but exclusive FWB. He been wanting a threesome. I ask what his other fantasy is. Sex in public. Lesser of two evils, I agreed to try. So he's been dragging me to sex shops. 6 months into the "relationship", he ...
A. 28 October 2016: Since you agreed to an FWB, my guess is that he's thinking you shouldn't have any sexual inhibitions. And obviously he doesn't care about your feelings because you're not in a relationship, he just wants all the sex he can, in every way that he ... (read in full...)
Do I keep things to myself?
Q. First off thanks to anyone who takes the time to answer this for me!and sorry for the lengh. Some background: I have been with my boyfriend 7 years my best friend (female) started dating his best friend (male) 2 years later. I'm close with both ...
A. 26 October 2016: Please stay out of it. It's between both of them and you never really know what goes on behind closed doors. For all you know, tomorrow they'll sort out the issue and behave like nothing's happened and you'll feel like the bad guy who got involved ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made hurtful comment about my weight, sex isn't good.How do I tell him?
Q. I need a bit of guidance. I want to start by saying I'm absolutely in love with my boyfriend of almost three years. He's also been my best friend long before we ever dated. It's like a fairytale right? Not exactly. Our sex life is horrible. It...
A. 26 October 2016: If what he said bothers you then have you tried to do something about it? Have you tried exercising and eating right to lose weight? 50 pounds is a lot of weight to gain at your age and he has a right to tell you how he feels. Yes it hurts because ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to get my tubes tied and burnt not knowing what my future holds?
Q. Dear Cupid,I am 45 years old my clock is ticking fast I have been in a relationship in many years I don't have health issues very healthy but I want my tubes tied but the the doctor says no I might meet a man who want a child but I don't want No ...
A. 25 October 2016: You're 45 years old, old enough to know what you want. It's your life, your body, your decision. You're doctor can just tell you what he/she thinks is good for your health without moralizing. Whatever you do though, be sure of the repercussions ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with my sister in law?
Q. I am really struggling to be civil to my sister in law. I have tried hard to include her, be involved with her and her child, offer to help out with her child, buy the baby presents etc. I have also regularly helped out her too. However she al...
A. 25 October 2016: Why does it matter so much to you what your sister-in-law thinks of you? And why is your husband getting annoyed? You all have your own lives, hopefully she doesn't live with you and your husband...let her be and stop interacting with her as much. ... (read in full...)
Married ex who I havent seen for 12 years wants to meet up to catch up
Q. Married ex who I havent seen for 12 years wants to meet up to catch up after reconnecting on facebook 2 mths ago, what does that mean? We werent really exclusive before, but just friends with benefits ( a lot of sexual connection between us) and ...
A. 25 October 2016: Oh God! Block this guy immediately, if not sooner. He's nothing but bad news and looking to start a little something on the side and you're vulnerable as hell. He wasn't ready to commit then, he won't commit to you now... And you'll make a mess of ... (read in full...)
I'd like to keep him as a friend but would like to know what I did wrong?
Q. Aunts/uncles Met this guy at work. Cutting long story short. He noticed me first . I did not find him attractive to begin. Then I spoke to him one day and he smiled andhe melted my heart. The flirting continued with very few words . I went on ...
A. 25 October 2016: Honestly, he sounds awful. There was absolutely no reason to block you on Facebook, there was no reason for him to be shocked when you'd made the first move, there was no reason for him to behave like the way he's been doing.
Please don't insist o... (read in full...)
My partner is more interested in pleasing his mother than me
Q. My fiancé and I have just discovered that I'm pregnant and our wedding was booked for the same month the baby is due so we've decided to bring it forward. We've given our small party of 40 guests the new date which is still 3 months away and ...
A. 22 October 2016: 3 days after giving birth is certainly not an ideal time to get married! What if you have a c-section? Or even if you don't, you'll have a three day old baby, you'll be tired, sleep deprived, cranky and certainly not in the mood to walk down there ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't initiate contact as often does it mean he isn't as invested in me?
Q. I experienced my 1st real BU a year ago. I loved the guy and I put my all in the relationship, he ended up taking me for granted. I am starting to date another guy and I keep having doubts, just afraid that he isn't into me as much as I am into him. ...
A. 22 October 2016: Don't be desperate to get married. Many single women make that mistake and in their keenness to walk down the aisle, settle for just about anything.
It's not that there are just two people that you have to choose from... The local guy and the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hooked up with my cousin years ago
Q. My girlfriend and I've been dating for a few months, I'm bothered that I have sex with the same girl my cousin had. I know everyone has a past but he's my family member, it's weird! She told me she had sex with him years ago in college. My cous...
A. 22 October 2016: If you can't get over it then you have to break up with her. It's nobody's fault, just a matter of a bad coincidence. Don't stay with her if this is something that'll always be hanging over your head because then you'll be making both your lives a ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't initiate contact as often does it mean he isn't as invested in me?
Q. I experienced my 1st real BU a year ago. I loved the guy and I put my all in the relationship, he ended up taking me for granted. I am starting to date another guy and I keep having doubts, just afraid that he isn't into me as much as I am into him. ...
A. 22 October 2016: LDRs are not easy and especially not when you don't know the person well enough. If you've spent a substantial amount of time together and then have to stay apart, you might be able to make the relationship work even though it'd still be difficult. ... (read in full...)
She was out all night and didn’t text! I need outside views as I’m angry!
Q. OK, this may seem a little trivial but I'm really interested in other's views. My gf, who I have lived with for 2 1/2 years went out for a meal and drinks with work. I dropped her off at the train station at around noon and said if you're getting ...
A. 21 October 2016:
I suggest you don't make any efforts to contact her further till she contacts you herself. Let in know that you're upset by her behavior and you have every right to be. I agree that what she's saying doesn't really add up... why on earth would you ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex initiate conversations on skype?
Q. Why does my ex boyfriend initiate conversations with me daily on Skype when we're no longer together? He's been initiating conversations for about 2 weeks now. He also apologises when he is quiet on there and says 'I really hope you're okay'...
A. 20 October 2016: Why are you taking his calls is the bigger question? We don't know why he's doing it... Could be bored, guilty, wanting to see how miserable you are, lonely... But why are you entertaining him that too when he dumped you? You should have more self ... (read in full...)
I'm very close to my aunt, but recent incidents with my dog have caused upset and seem to have affected our relationship!
Q. This is a family related problem, but I hope you can give me good advice or support. I have been close to my aunt, I almost grew up in her house and she has been at my side for many years. I have been supporting of her too, when I could. I had to ...
A. 19 October 2016: OK that puts a lot of things into perspective and this was the feeling I had when I first read your post.
She just wants to be difficult and the more you're apologizing, the more she's enjoying pushing you to the ground. This lady has some ser... (read in full...)
Do you think it's unreasonable for a husband to request that his wife not kiss mutual male friends hello and goodbye on the lips?
Q. Do you think it's unreasonable for a husband to request that his wife not kiss mutual male friends hello and goodbye on the lips? We only have one male friend who does this. He does it to other wives as well. He had been a mutual friend for 10 ye...
A. 19 October 2016: To be honest, I don't really understand what you're trying to say in your follow-up. You sound confused about what you're trying to say and I don't think your thoughts are sorted.
Look, its very simple and there's no reason to complicate things. ... (read in full...)
I'm very close to my aunt, but recent incidents with my dog have caused upset and seem to have affected our relationship!
Q. This is a family related problem, but I hope you can give me good advice or support. I have been close to my aunt, I almost grew up in her house and she has been at my side for many years. I have been supporting of her too, when I could. I had to ...
A. 19 October 2016: Maybe she's just not a dog person and is angry and cranky because her new house, her new blanket and lamp were spoiled by your dog and then by someone else's. You apologized, offered to replace her damaged goods, there's nothing more that you can ... (read in full...)
I saw her first!
Q. I'm so pathetic. Here's why. No better place to begin from, well, the beginning, so I'll start there. I've lived in the same town all my life. For the sake of anonymity, we'll call it Hopetown. (Try and stalk me if you want to, that's not the real...
A. 18 October 2016: You saw her first?
So?
That's like saying you're married to someone who had premarital sex with you, just because you "saw" them before their real spouse did!
Do you realize how ridiculous you sound? You cant stake your claim on someone just ... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me, then texted me 2 months later that he still loved me, then said he didn't want to lead me on!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I've been dealing with it. The other day,out of the blue, he sent me a text message that said I love you. I felt that was not intended for me, so I called and told him that I think he sent the text to the ...
A. 18 October 2016: I think he missed you on the spur of the moment and sent you the text but when he spoke to you, all the bitterness and memories of the difficult times came back to him and he decided that he was better off alone. That's why he said he didn't want to ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's unreasonable for a husband to request that his wife not kiss mutual male friends hello and goodbye on the lips?
Q. Do you think it's unreasonable for a husband to request that his wife not kiss mutual male friends hello and goodbye on the lips? We only have one male friend who does this. He does it to other wives as well. He had been a mutual friend for 10 ye...
A. 18 October 2016: I'm in a minority here but I'm with you. I wouldn't like it if my husband kissed a woman friend in the lips, no matter how platonic it was and I'm sure husband wouldn't like it if I did it either. You are her husband, your feelings are more ... (read in full...)
Can I ever regain my trust in men?
Q. I had been in a relationship for 8 years with my now ex. We were supposed to be getting married and so I guess the guilt got to him. He admitted sleeping with 3 other woman. The last one was two years ago when he was 22 and the first was when h...
A. 17 October 2016: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-having-second-thought-about-marriage.html
This was your last question, right? I'm glad you decided to call off the wedding OP. The good news is, it'll only get better. Trust me, it will. He was a disease ... (read in full...)
How long can a relationship survive without sex?
Q. My Fiance and I have ended up at each others throats recently and it's getting too much for us both. We're both in our Mid twenties, and have been together now for almost 6 years, but to simply put it, she no longer wants sex. She doesn't get arou...
A. 17 October 2016: It doesn't sound good OP. She doesn't seem to be working on the reasons of her lost libido and its not miraculously going to come flying back to her. Saying that she wants a sexual relationship and yet not doing anything about it isn't going to ... (read in full...)
My friend is accusing me of being a shitty friend because I like the guy she was cheating on her boyfriend with!
Q. This is a very complex situation, so please bare with me as this story might be a little long-winded. In August, my friend Leslie started hanging out with this guy, Ian, she met through Tinder. They were talking to each other off-and-on for n...
A. 16 October 2016: Neither of these two sound worth keeping in your life and you need to set your priorities straight and stop being a doormat.
You say you accompany Leslie on every Tinder date as her wing woman. You do this knowing fully well that Leslie has a bo... (read in full...)
Is it OK to have feelings for a second cousin?
Q. Okay, so I'm at the age of 19 and I have found myself falling for my family member named Rachel. She is not far behind me in age, in fact, less than a year younger. We both attend the same church, a Pentecostal church and she happens to be my second ...
A. 16 October 2016: You sound like a really nice guy and I hope things work out for you! However, let's get down to the practicalities. You're just 19, it's way too young to be thinking about marriage. What you want at 19 may not necessarily be what you want at 25. It ... (read in full...)
I still love him, will breaking up teach him a lesson?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost one year. I am 23 years old and he is 28. When we met he told me that I am the one and quickly introduced me to his family and he met mine. The problem in my situation is that I come from a culture wh...
A. 15 October 2016: This relationship has become too much work for you and I'm not even sure what's happened to the guy to make him suddenly balk in this way.
I don't know if he ever plans to commit long term or maybe someone has told him something like he's too... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a very inappropriate colleague who I'm extremely uncomfortable with; he says he'll avoid her but doesn't match his words
Q. My fiancé works with this girl who I accepted as a friend of ours and as part of our group. He had told me that she had displayed scandalous behaviours in the past (had tried to sleep with him while he had a girlfriend and told him she would never ...
A. 14 October 2016: He's thrown you under the bus here. He's made YOU look like the bad guy who doesn't want him to be friends with her and has made it look like he doesn't have a choice but to agree with you. I think he's interested in her, maybe not for a ... (read in full...)
I'm having second thought about marriage
Q. My boyfriend has proposed to me, and even though I said yes, I'm now not sure whether I did the right thing. Last year my boyfriend admitted to sleeping with 3 other girls in the first year of our relationship. He told me that he wanted me to know ...
A. 13 October 2016: Honey listen to me. Take it from someone who's called off am engagement with an ass to find someone a million times better later.
If you're having second thoughts then listen to your instincts. You will rarely ever go wrong. It's not nerves, ... (read in full...)
I am always anxious that my b/f is going to leave me
Q. 'm in a desperate situation. I suffer from diagnosed depression. Almost a year ago I met the man of my dreams and we are still together. In August I found messages to his female friend I had noticed he had a flirty relationship with on Facebook and ...
A. 12 October 2016: If you've told him that it's over, then it is. Don't use the nuclear bomb of "it's over" unless you really mean it because once you've used it, there's pretty much no going back. If you do, then he'll know that you don't mean what you say and use ... (read in full...)
Why should we wait when we want to married now?
Q. I met my girlfriend when we were both in grade 3. We have been. Friends every since and started dating when we were 16. I recently proposed to her and she said yes but we have gotten many mixed responses from family and friends. I did ask her ...
A. 12 October 2016: Do both of you have jobs? How academically qualified are you? How do you plan to support her once you get married? Are you capable of taking care of the financial implications of bearing and rearing a child, should your girlfriend get pregnant right ... (read in full...)
Should her locked phone be a deal breaker?
Q. Ok I've been with my woman now for a good bit over 2 years. Nov. 5th, at 9:20, will make 3 year's for us. We've put each other through a lot but the situations she's put me in are far worst than the things I did. We're moving past that. I mean I ...
A. 12 October 2016: Well that is very specific! That's there first I've ever heard someone mention the time when they started dating!
Anyway, to get to your question, exactly what situations are you taking about that were so awful? I'm guessing there was cheating... (read in full...)
My strict Chinese parents don't know about my boyfriend and it's difficult to keep hiding from them
Q. Hi everyone, a little about me before i write about my issue. I'm 3 months away from turning 18, I have a boyfriend which have to be kept secret. (I know what you're thinking, im a liar and yes i admit I am but heres why) So my boyfriend and I ...
A. 12 October 2016: Asian parents can be very very difficult to deal with and it IS a cultural thing. There's not much you can do because no matter how old you get, you'll always be a child to them and that'll never change. Even when you're married with a kid, they'll ... (read in full...)
Her ex' is hurting and I want to help but...
Q. My girlfriend (age:30) was married for 6 years to some guy she said cheated on her 4 times in 3 years. So she divorced him, he moved out the house, and that's when she met me(age:26) Some months later, she gets a call from a random number, it's her ...
A. 8 October 2016: I'm not very sure what's going on here but the fact that she suddenly tells you that she wants to be off birth control when the ex lands up, seems a little off to me. It's like she wants to prove her love to you and get rid of this guy but really, ... (read in full...)
Women, have you ever been consistently rejected? What triggers a guy to reject ?
Q. I'm not talking about one or two rejections; no--not even three. I mean like, 75% of the dates you went on, the guy didn't want to see you again. After being single my whole entire life, I can't help but to question where I went wrong on the date...
A. 8 October 2016: You're trying too hard and thinking way too much and maybe, in the process, you're coming across as too strong or too needy. You almost remind me of Charlotte from Sex and the City, who was utterly desperate to find a man and went all out, doing ... (read in full...)
Women, have you ever been consistently rejected? What triggers a guy to reject ?
Q. I'm not talking about one or two rejections; no--not even three. I mean like, 75% of the dates you went on, the guy didn't want to see you again. After being single my whole entire life, I can't help but to question where I went wrong on the date...
A. 8 October 2016: You're trying too hard and thinking way too much and maybe, in the process, you're coming across as too strong or too needy. You almost remind me of Charlotte from Sex and the City, who was utterly desperate to find a man and went all out, doing ... (read in full...)
He left me feeling speechless after cancelling the date at the last minute. What should I say to him?
Q. I went on a date with a guy I met online and it went well, I wasn't feeling a huge amount of chemistry but we were able to hold a conversation and 3 days after the date he asked me if I'd like to hang out again, and I agreed. I messaged him late...
A. 8 October 2016: It's totally normal to feel bad, rejected, even small, after the way this guy treated you. However, don't take it personally. You have to be thick-skinned in the big bad world of dating. You're putting yourself out there and you'll meet all kinds of ... (read in full...)
How do I win over macho' man?
Q. What is easiest way to turn my macho' husband into a total sissy who obeys my every command? ...
A. 7 October 2016: Troll.
No one in their senses would talk about their husband in this manner. ... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt and feel like I'm missing ? Why?
Q. Hello everybody, If you have read some of my other posts about me wanting to move on for good and cut the boy who treats me terribly completely, i have finally finished with him completely i think.. Backround info for new readers in caswe you may...
A. 6 October 2016: Don't waste your time on him and don't tell him what he's done wrong. He knows all that very well, he's not a child. It's like you're hoping that your dramatic speech will somehow change him and he'll come crawling back to you, a new and changed ... (read in full...)
How do I raise this issue with my husband? So that my husband will raise the issue with the girl's mother?
Q. Hi, id just like some advice regarding children as no matter what choice i make i fear im going to upset someone. my husband and i have a son. My husband also still sees his step daughter from his relationship before me. He sees her two Saturday...
A. 6 October 2016: I think you're jealous of the little girl's proximity with your husband and don't want her to keep referring to him as her dad. It seems like a territorial feeling... He's dad to only your son and to no one else and there's no reason why the girl ... (read in full...)
My partner is away alot and I've become too friendly with our neighbor
Q. Okay so, please don't knock me down for this, I just seriously need to ask for help! Me and my partner have been together for 6 years, 3 young children, 2, 3+4 and I have a 10 year old from a previous relationship, my family are my life you know...
A. 5 October 2016: "Oh! What a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive."
What the hell have you gotten yourself into and how could you allow this to happen OP? You have a loving partner who works so hard to give you and your family a good life, yo... (read in full...)
My mother was ok with my brother's Gf visiting but she is not as welcoming towards my Bf. Why would my mother react this way?
Q. I'm 13 with a 14 year old boyfriend who's parents are super chill and unrestrictive of most things, but mine are sometimes restrictive sometimes not which can be a real pain in the rear. My older brother, who is 16, had a girlfriend when he was ...
A. 2 October 2016: Parents are generally more protective of daughters than sons. That being said, the fact that you're 13 years old and are allowed to have a boyfriend is in itself a big thing. I don't think my mom would ever have been OK with me claiming at be in ... (read in full...)
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