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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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Was there something else?
Q. My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ...
A. 11 February 2008: If I were you Tommy I'd just leave it and cut her off. Where is this getting you? It's like she wants to be with her man but is constant need of reassurance and emotional support from you. Maybe because this is soemthing that's lacking in her ... (read in full...)
Was there something else?
Q. My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ...
A. 11 February 2008: Well Tommy2k, looking at this whole thread I think it's time you just moved on from this. She obviously has very strong feelings for him and it may seem like you're banging your head against a brick wall.
Maybe it will work out for her this tim... (read in full...)
We broke up and she said not to contact her, but she hasn't contacted me either
Q. ADVICE PLEASE? can someone tell me what you think, gf finished with me and for 6 weeks sent letters,emails,flowers but no reply as she said don't contact her when broke up. now for 2 weeks, weeks 7 and 8 have not contacted her, do you think she will ...
A. 10 January 2008: "ADVICE PLEASE? can someone tell me what you think, gf finished with me and for 6 weeks sent letters, emails, flowers but no reply as she said don't contact her when broke up"
I don't think she could've put it more bluntly to be honest. I know it'... (read in full...)
What can I do for a romantic night in that won't cost a fortune?
Q. Hi, I am having a few problems with my partner at the moment, so in order to show him I love him I was to arrage a romantic night in... I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of what I could do that wouldn't cost a fortune thanks...
A. 10 January 2008: Something I found worked for my girlfriend and me was having a cosy night in by candle light.
I popped to the shop and bought some really nice food on the way home, prepared the courses, had a shower, dressed up a bit, picked her up and took her... (read in full...)
My fiance can't come through sex, he wants a blow job which I find revolting
Q. okay. I've been in a relationship of a little over a year now and engaged for a bit of it. But my finance can't cum during sex. he can cum using his hand fine, this bothers me a bit, but I have gotten over it to some extent. I still feel bad for ...
A. 10 January 2008: If you feel that strongly about it and it revolts you then don't feel you HAVE to do it.
Personally, and I'm going to get shot down for this, but I'm not fussed about blow jobs. People tell me it must be because I've never had a good one but I'm ... (read in full...)
My ex is so insecure and messes me about, how do I handle the situation?
Q. I went out with this lovely girl for a short time November 06 but after 6 days she panicked and wanted out of the relationship. She went out with another guy 2 weeks later which was hard for me but then dumped him 1 month later and went through a ...
A. 10 January 2008: Just one question... If you are 15 years older than her ai assume your age range of 26-29 is wonrg? That would make her 14?
Whether right or wrong sounds to me that she's got issues and insecurities. I'd say from the sounds of it she really i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me other girls were better than me, how do I cope with the criticism?
Q. i am living with my boyfriend and have been for about 6 months. i love him to bits but he keeps on criticising me. he has said that 3 girls he has previously slept with were better than me because they were virgins and that i've had sex with too ...
A. 10 January 2008: Let me tell you this... He is most CERTAINLY NOT a lovely person. By criticising you and saying "3 girls he has previously slept with were better than me because they were virgins and that i've had sex with too many men" and also "drops hints about ... (read in full...)
After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...
A. 10 January 2008: "I could easily be that guy who says "fuck You" and just leave her to her devices, but I feel I can do more good for her as a friend"
Good for you! I'm the same and am keen to still be there in the capacity as a friend should she chose to. Noth... (read in full...)
I feel so alone, dumped and kicked out, how can I be strong?
Q. I just feel so alone right now. My 1 year relationship has broken down after seemingly over night, my boyfriend dumped me, and kicked me out. I'm in the middle of a career change and in September will be studying again, so you can understa...
A. 9 January 2008: What you're feeling is perfectly normal. I can completely relate and I'm at that stage where I have to be strong. I've been to counselling following leaving my girlfriend as the relationsihp was emotionally abusive, very jealous and possessive.
... (read in full...)
He can I encourage foreplay? My boyfriend never does it.
Q. Whenever me and my bf have sex, we never have foreplay beforehand, which I'd really like to. Sometimes he tries to push himself up me, when I'm not even lubricated.. This is quite painful. How can i encourage foreplay? Please help me! Thankyou....
A. 9 January 2008: I agree with birdynumnums when she says you'll have to guide him. My first love taught me everything I know and then the rest I picked up through experimenting when I was with my second love.
However, rather than have a sit down and chat about it... (read in full...)
After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...
A. 9 January 2008: She won't change or get help until SHE decides there's something wrong. There is really nothing you can do. You are in a no win situation (I'm sure that's another common thing).
You'll always be in a no win situation. Often with these "disorde... (read in full...)
After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...
A. 9 January 2008: I've been here. However, I left the relationship then realised this is highly likely. Although in my case I think my EX has BP/BPD.
From what I can gather when under emotional stress, angry outbursts can follow and often in an uncontro... (read in full...)
Do women cheat because they're not getting enough?
Q. This may be aa strange question, but do women cheat because they can't get enough sex, or is it for other reasons?...
A. 9 January 2008: "We were only going out for 2 months, she lives 3 hours away, I did go and see her, but it obviously wasn't enough!"
In that case I'd say it was a fairly short lived thing and you're better off out of it. Perhaps you were a rebound? Or a bit of f... (read in full...)
Do women cheat because they're not getting enough?
Q. This may be aa strange question, but do women cheat because they can't get enough sex, or is it for other reasons?...
A. 9 January 2008: Tricky one this. My EX was 18 and I was 27 and I don't think it was the getting too serious in my case as I pretty much let her dictate the pace she wanted to go at (which is what I always do).
It may be she has insecurities which is what I found.... (read in full...)
Is he board with me?
Q. I'm currently with a man i have been with for over 3 and a half years. and i have never had a problem with this, but yesterday night i busted him looking at all this Drunk chick stuff, like on youtube, "young girl on webcam" showing her ass n shit, ...
A. 9 January 2008: "I think you should do it too, have a browse & tell him what kind of guys you like etc... play him at his own game a little"
Not a good idea in my opnion to be honest. Could lead to the situtaion besoming a HELL of a LOT WORSE!
Why bother?
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Why did he bother texting me?
Q. My boyfriend split up with me on friday, blaming me for the majority of problems in his life, and being quite cruel about me as a person. I told him what I thought of what he said and left it at that. It is now tuesday and I get my first contact off ...
A. 9 January 2008: Sounds to me like he is missing you, thinking about you and wondering how you are. Perhaps wondering whether you're feeling as hurt as he does (even though he's the one who was nasty).
Perhaps he's found the feeling of REGRET?
Quite common ... (read in full...)
Was there something else?
Q. My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ...
A. 9 January 2008: "My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ... (read in full...)
Do women cheat because they're not getting enough?
Q. This may be aa strange question, but do women cheat because they can't get enough sex, or is it for other reasons?...
A. 9 January 2008: "This may be a strange question, but do women cheat because they can't get enough sex, or is it for other reasons?"
I'm of the opinion that both men and women cheat if something is missing from their relationship. There could be a number of reaso... (read in full...)
Why do I find it hard to get over people?
Q. How come I find it hard to get over people? My last 2 girlfriends I'm having difficulty getting over and I still miss them (well, one!) and want her back. The counsellor said that it may be because I lost my Dad. What do you think?...
A. 9 January 2008: "How come I find it hard to get over people? My last 2 girlfriends I'm having difficulty getting over and I still miss them (well, one!) and want her back. The counsellor said that it may be because I lost my Dad. What do you think?"
I can comp... (read in full...)
Does he have commitment phobia, or what is going on here??
Q. Hi, I am 23 and I have been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years now. The first year was off and on and off and on until this last time he asked me to move in and I did. Everything was going fine, a few arguments here and there but something ...
A. 9 January 2008: I agree with A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008) when she says "your best bet is to let him know that you care for him but leave the ball in his court to decide. In the meantime enjoy yourself... if he is really meant for you he will ... (read in full...)
I found there is hope for us but I must leave her alone for some time, how do I stop thinking about her and how to stay happy even if things don't work out in the end?
Q. I had a relationship that I'm trying to get back. I found that there is hope for us and i'm willing to take the chance. I know I need to try and dissappear from her for a while so she might have the time to miss me basically. That aside, my problem ...
A. 9 January 2008: I know exactly what you mean following my breaking up with my girlfriend 2 months ago. Damn it's been hard what with the whole Christmas and New Year thing too.
The only way to do this in my opinion is to not stay in touch too much. To be honest I... (read in full...)
Would it be over the top to break with him over this?
Q. My boyfriend and i went to a party with his friends. He did something that made me feel really uncomfortable - he was flirting with one of his female friends and then asked her (i assume as a joke) if she wanted to have sex with him. I was right ...
A. 8 January 2008: This is an easy one - Get rid of him and move on! Nothing more really to explain since you've said it all in your post.
There is a difference between flirting and asking outright "do you want to have sex with me?" and kissing. Seems a bit strong f... (read in full...)
My bf said he could not see a future for us as we have two totally different career paths. Should I try to convince him or let go?
Q. well me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and a half.its been going really good, but the other day he wanted to talk about the future.he said that he couldnt see 2 people(as in us) who have two totaly different career paths to ...
A. 7 January 2008: What are those career paths? I had the same thing with my EX. I've got an office job and she wasn't working at the time but is keen to get into musical theatre (she's talented too).
I thought the fact we were different in that way was a good thi... (read in full...)
We broke up 9 months ago and I miss him. Is this normal?
Q. Im quite confused, me and my ex broke up around 9 months ago. I dont want him back or anything but sometimes i really miss him and i think about him i just cant help it no matter how hard i try. I just want to know if this is normal and if so how ...
A. 7 January 2008: Laura1318 said "For some , it may last forever and be reminded when they are in the same place . Those places where you went together can trigger your brains to recall those past events... This affects the girls more than the boys. The boys will get ... (read in full...)
We broke up 9 months ago and I miss him. Is this normal?
Q. Im quite confused, me and my ex broke up around 9 months ago. I dont want him back or anything but sometimes i really miss him and i think about him i just cant help it no matter how hard i try. I just want to know if this is normal and if so how ...
A. 7 January 2008: "Im quite confused, me and my ex broke up around 9 months ago. I dont want him back or anything but sometimes i really miss him and i think about him i just cant help it no matter how hard i try. I just want to know if this is normal and if so how ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so mean?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend on Christmas Eve. He txt msg me on Christmas and told me that he loved me he also called, and I talked to him but was very short. He then txt me that night to tell me goodnight and that he loved me and our son. He ...
A. 7 January 2008: I disagree with Dr.cop,lawyer when he says "he can't let go it seems when your happy he can't handle it and thats why he's doing it"
I'm not saying what your man did wasn't bad but to end a relationship on Xmas eve over something like wanting ... (read in full...)
Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?
Q. I have been with my husband for eleven years now, and although things are fairly good between us, he has developed a crush on another woman. He met her on a weekend away with the boys in the middle of summer, and has been sending odd messages her...
A. 3 January 2008: I have to say for the record I do agree with A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007):
"No, No, No!!!! Never ever would i EVER let my husband go on a trip with another woman. If he showed interest, and admitted it, he wouldn't... (read in full...)
I just don't know what to do. I feel like I've got nothing to live for any more.
Q. My mum isnt lettin me and my ex get back together cause she think i will just get hurt again and i know she never liked him in the first place and the fact that it long distance doesnt help but the thing is it caused alot of prolems betweeen her and ...
A. 3 January 2008: Just for the record I'd have to say I do agree in principle with Dr Vendetta.
However I don't necessarily agree with "... long distance relations Do Not Work... this theory may also be applied to internet dating. which also. Does Not Work"
... (read in full...)
Why did he do that?
Q. My ex dumped me for another guy, but then she told me that she got pregnant with his baby; she came down here to have an abortion, all he did then was text her once, didn't go to see her at all, and that's how she ended it with him. Two question...
A. 3 January 2008: "Handle the news that she gave me, noone's trusted me with information like that before"
Like you say she's TRUSTED YOU with that information so keep it to yourself. Don't talk to anyone about it.
"Everyone (her friends) told her what he was ... (read in full...)
I have no idea how she feels. I want her to open up. What should I do?
Q. My ex and I broke up two months ago. I still love her and she still wants to be friends. We text each other and things are friendly. But I want her back. But I don't want to pressure her and have kept my feelings quiet. I recently asked her if she ...
A. 3 January 2008: "... I want her back. But I don't want to pressure her and have kept my feelings quiet. I recently asked her if she was with someone else and she didn't answer. I asked her again and she didn't answer. I just want closure I guess. I want her back ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of one year started hanging out with another guy! She tells me not to worry but I feel something is not right, what am I to do?
Q. Hello there. My girlfriend and I are together for more than one year now. I love her so much that I can't even tell you. Recently she met some guy and it is obvious that he likes her. She knows that but tells me not to worry. She says that she likes ...
A. 2 January 2008: I'm not sure is my honest answer. If I were in your shoes I wouldn't be happy either... I don't think my girlfriend would be too happy if I did the same to her.
I would ask her, calmy without sparking up a row, that you're not happy with this sit... (read in full...)
He loves me but doesn't trust me! How do I gain his trust?
Q. Im going out with someone and we have recently just told each other that we love each other. The thing is though he cant trust me, how do i gain his trust? ...
A. 2 January 2008: "Im going out with someone and we have recently just told each other that we love each other. The thing is though he cant trust me, how do i gain his trust?"
Well is there anything you've said or done for him NOT to trust you I suppose is the ques... (read in full...)
I sent him a photo of my friend instead of mine and recently he texted me to set up a meeting soon. I really like him, what can I do now?
Q. Hi can someone help me I meet a guy online and we seem to hit it off well. He asked to see my photo and I sent him one of my friend "I know I know" I should not have done that but I liked his attention, the problem is he thinks that I am from the ...
A. 2 January 2008: "You must be asking why I did it and if I said I was trying to protect myself from the pain of rejection would it make sense I just wanted to be like for me, I wanted him to look beyond my skin colour and culture"
Well, how can he like you for ... (read in full...)
I'm having some disturbing dreams... Can anybody explain why?
Q. Recently i have been having some disturbing dreams.It all started when i was searching for something in our loft. I found a shoe box with some photos of my mother before i was born. She was wearing a really skimpy dress and despite myself i got abit ...
A. 28 December 2007: I don't think you should tell your mother to be honest. I reckon you should just tell your mother that you've been having some really weird dreams and perhaps talk to someone about it if it's really that bad.
I can't really give you much more adv... (read in full...)
I've met a guy online. Should I meet him?
Q. I have meet someone online. We are planning to meet but I am not sure what the best way to do this is. We live about 20 miles from one another. Does anyone have any advise on the best way to go about meeting? It would be wonderful to hear your ...
A. 28 December 2007: My advice to you is yeah sure meet up. However, somewhere public where there are plenty of people around. Perhaps somewhere for coffee or a quick bite to eat?
I'd also suggest you tell some friends/family and perhaps arrange one of them to give ... (read in full...)
I've broken up with my girlfriend of 3 years. When is it ok to start dating again?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3yrs about 3 weeks ago, and i was wondering when is it a good time to start dating other people? Ive started to like a girl that i work with and shes made it pretty clear that she likes me also, but im not sure ...
A. 27 December 2007: Well there are no hard and fast rules. If I were you I'd take things slow. Maybe ask her out on a date, or just for a drink or something casual.
Take things slowly and don't go jumping straight in. I splt up with my girlfriend of 15 months a... (read in full...)
Are all men fools or are there nice guys out there??
Q. just wondering are all men fools or are there nice ones out there? i had been seeing a guy on and off for a yr and he asked me to see him today. Last night about a half an hour later he kissed another girl in front of me. He knew about my ex ...
A. 27 December 2007: You know what; are there any nice girls out there? Of course. Are there any nice guys? Of course.
Trust me, don't brand everyone the same. You just haven't met one yet. Everyday I hear comments from people; "ALL MEN ARE *&^$%^*£" and "ALL WOMEN AR... (read in full...)
I've never really talked to the girl cause of my shyness and I've problems in starting a conversation out of the blue. How do I gain courage?
Q. Hi there, im need of a really strong push in the right direction of a certain girl i really like. its typical really, shes stunningly attractive to me (my friends say shes average, pfft what do they know). iv liked her all summer, but everytim...
A. 27 December 2007: What have you got to lose? I think is the key to this. I used to be a shy guy until I went away on a holiday one time about 5 years ago. I met loads of people and really enjoyed myself.
I remember it like it was yesterday. The next day on the flig... (read in full...)
Tips about men attracting women and the mistakes generally made during the process?
Q. I HAVE A QUESTION AS TO WHAT ARE THE SECRETS TO ATTRACT WOMEN. HOW CAN MEN ATTRACT WOMEN AND WHAT ARE THE MISTAKES COMMONLY FOR MAN? [Moderator's note. Caps off next time, please.]...
A. 27 December 2007: "SECRETS TO ATTRACT WOMEN"
There is no formula. I think there's someone for eveyone out there.
However, what works for me is just being me. JUST BE YOURSELF. I'm completely honest, quite funny, and like to enjoy myself (good dancer too even ... (read in full...)
Do the loudness and moans mean a higher level of enjoyment during sex?
Q. My gf and I just had sex for the first time. Does the loudness and the amount of noises and moans mean a higher level of enjoyment? Do moans mean that I am satisfying her sexually?...
A. 27 December 2007: Haha, after the replies so far this guy is going to go loopy now wondering whether she's faking it or not. Poor bloke!
I have to say generally, you'll know whether she's enjoying it or not. Some girls are loud and some are not. Some get to the p... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher and have formed a good online friendship with a quite mature teenager(17). Am I wrong to want to meet her - or even to be talking to her?
Q. hi there. i am a 28 year old teacher..been working near London for about 5 years.. problem is I met a girl on line about 4 months ago..she is 17 doing 'A' levels in a different school (about 100 miles away) i might add, and is quite mature.....
A. 27 December 2007: "I am a 28 year old teacher..been working near London for about 5 years.. problem is I met a girl on line about 4 months ago..she is 17... and is quite mature"
I don't think so. MATURE at 17? I think you're kidding yourself.
Trust me; I w... (read in full...)
A younger lady is doing everything possible to ruin my happy home, even calling ME. What do I do?
Q. i have been married for almost 6yrs now. it has been a very happy one, blessed with two boys. recently, my hubby met a younger lady of about 21yrs. i know my hubby loves me, but this younger lady is doing everything possible to ruin my happy home. ...
A. 27 December 2007: Well, putting any reasons why she might be doing this aside, if I didn't want someone to contact me I'd tell them to "bugger off" and then change my numbers.
Then, depending on how bad and often it is, you can let the Police know about the situ... (read in full...)
So many questions - anyone got any answers?
Q. Dear Cupid, So i've got myself in a real pickle. I've recently broke up with my ex girlfriend of 18 months. She cheated on me once in january, and then she was so amazing to me we got back together. She then went to uni, and i moved to italy f...
A. 27 December 2007: Well, I think if you read your post the message is clear. You're better off without her. Can you trust her? A relationship is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING without TRUST.
She also lied on several occassions. How long are you going to put up with this? I ... (read in full...)
Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?
Q. I have been with my husband for eleven years now, and although things are fairly good between us, he has developed a crush on another woman. He met her on a weekend away with the boys in the middle of summer, and has been sending odd messages her...
A. 27 December 2007: "Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?"
To put it simply; NO!!!
I have to say I agree with Dawnie when she says; "If it is innocent then why can you not go too? it's good to have give and take in a marria... (read in full...)
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