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*ganut86
writes:I have meet someone online. We are planning to meet but I am not sure what the best way to do this is. We live about 20 miles from one another. Does anyone have any advise on the best way to go about meeting? It would be wonderful to hear your option Reply to this Question
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reader, Ms Shibari  +, writes (12 January 2008):
My advice is similar to the others. I met my partner online and we now have a fantastic relationship. But you do need to be careful and sensible.
Call and speak to each other on the phone first so you have each other's cell/mobile numbers. Don't share land line numbers. If that goes ok then meet for a drink.
I'd advise meeting just for a drink and not dinner as if it's not going well you can get away easier. I'd meet in the afternoon on a weekend or early evening. Make you own way there and back - don't let him drive/walk you home.
Tell someone where you are going and what time and call in with them when you are back.
If he is the right person for you he will be patient and understand that women have to be safe.
And then just try to enjoy it and relax. I wish you well.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (28 December 2007):
 I see no problem with that. Just make sure you meet in a public place, some of your friends/family know where you are and what you're doing, and keep an open mind about the persons appearance, just in case he has been selective about his age/weight (Some people do that, so take heed!)
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reader, maggie1987 +, writes (28 December 2007):
 if it was me then i wouldnt go meet him especially if you live 20 miles away its okay if you stay close and that way someone might know who they are and if theyre ok first speak on the phone for a few weeks maybe couple of months and if you feel the same then ask someone to come along with you for support and to make sure your not meeting up with someone who u shouldnt as it could be a nasty person
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): I agree with "anon e mouse" lol, arrange to meet somewhere public. I usually suggest a Starbucks - they are omnipresent and in almost every neighborhood, it seems. Have a cup of coffee or whatever, chat awhile and decide, perhaps, if you want anything more to happen. I think a female should get his phone number and retain her's at first, but then again I usually prefer to talk with them on the phone before meeting. Of course, there have been times I wished I could make a quick exit out a back door as soon as I see them arriving. lol. But I try to be a nice guy and at least sit for awhile.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (28 December 2007):
 My advice to you is yeah sure meet up. However, somewhere public where there are plenty of people around. Perhaps somewhere for coffee or a quick bite to eat?
I'd also suggest you tell some friends/family and perhaps arrange one of them to give you a ring after about an hour of meeting up with him so you can use it as an excuse to leave if you want to.
Good luck :)
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