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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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I didn't give her the attention she wanted but now I'm not sure I can forget her
Q. I am a south Asian man.Our family values are bit different.for example our family or few family members might be financially depended on us.Usually Indian men does not like his wife or GF get closer to other men.I like a white girl.But it was too ...
A. 13 January 2013: "You've seen it in the films and heard it in songs - tell her"
You mean the films and songs that would have you on one knee begging for her to see you? I'm afraid this is Hollywood garbage and it's no wonder with stuff like this out there in the m... (read in full...)
I can't get these images of his getting lap dances (before we were married) out of my mind!
Q. I am upset abt the fact that my husband (then boyfriend) got fully nude lap dances at gentlemans clubs/strip bars at least 6-8 times before we were married. Although we were living in different places at the time n it was an on off thing, but we ...
A. 13 January 2013: Hope everything works out for you.... (read in full...)
She suggested we take things slowly after the first date. What do I do now?
Q. Hi all... I just took a girl on a date recently. We had exchanged numbers and we had previously gotten to know more about each other before via text message, so we had common ground and things to talk about. I don’t claim to be the best looking...
A. 9 January 2013: "They apparently only broke up about 6 weeks ago so I could understand her not wanting to rush into another relationship."
BIG RED FLAG! 6 weeks? The Ex is still there in the background. This is a no win for you and you're setting yourself... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated on me but I want her back! How can I persuade her I won't hold this against her?
Q. I have been in a relationship for last four years with my girl. We did everything except sexual intercourse. Recently, when she was drunk, some random guy took her from bar and it seems he had sexual intercourse with her. Now she feels that she is ...
A. 9 January 2013: You DO deserve better. Stop being a wimp and move on.... (read in full...)
I'm back with my ex but I'm not sure its a good thing
Q. Has too much happened to try again? I've been in realationship with now ex bf for 5 months. He really swept me off my feet, we have fun and are into the same things. The relationship has been full on virtually from the beginning. I'm a lone paren...
A. 9 January 2013: One very important thing to consider is this; is this guy a good role model for your child?
No.
Move on and good luck with everything.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best female friend are too close for my comfort. What can I do?
Q. My Boyfriend and his best friend are really close, too close for my own comfort zone, she texts him saying she loves him and he does the same, at all hours of the night at that. They are both really touchy with one another and it drives me crazy an...
A. 9 January 2013: "I'm sure he's not sleeping with her so he thinks he's not doing anything wrong."
The guy sounds like he's in love with his girl friend. You can bet he wants to sleep with her. I'd put money on he thinks about it.... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story sh...
A. 9 January 2013: These things ALWAYS come out in the end. And you can be happy in the knowledge you've screwed up that little child's life when it does. Well done.... (read in full...)
He is being manipulated by another woman. How should I get him back?
Q. This is my story: I met a really great guy two years ago. We eloped too fast and talked about marriage too fast. The first problem started when I found out he had unfinished business with his ex girlfriend and was still communicating wi...
A. 8 January 2013: The fact he took her back means the relationship is ultimately doomed anyhow.
They will still have those issues that broke them up the last time hidden, for the time being, under the surface. Trust me, they will raise their ugly heads again.
... (read in full...)
Dream trip with my boyfriend ended badly. He wants to move back to his hometown and I can never see myself living there!
Q. Dear all, Hoping for some advice. I've been with my partner for two years. We met in London, my home town, and live there together. I'm 35 and he's 33. This Christmas, we planned what was supposed to be a 'holiday of a lifetime' to Mexico City...
A. 8 January 2013: Well from the way you describe it I don't think I'd want to live there but hey that's just me.
If you really don't want to live there then don't. You do have a choice. However, if he won't budge then you will have no choice but to leave him.
... (read in full...)
I didn't give her the attention she wanted but now I'm not sure I can forget her
Q. I am a south Asian man.Our family values are bit different.for example our family or few family members might be financially depended on us.Usually Indian men does not like his wife or GF get closer to other men.I like a white girl.But it was too ...
A. 8 January 2013: You blew it. You are out of there I'm afraid. There is nothing you can do now. She will always remember you're rejection and will never go back.
It might not even be the fact you rejected her but the fact you could not make a decision. That's a... (read in full...)
What is the key to happiness? Is it a sum of everything, or something specific (such as love)?
Q. They say you "can't find a home in the arms of a man", I suppose meaning that a man can't provide you happiness or be 'the big thing' of your life. I just wonder, what is the key to happiness if it isn't love (as in a relationship)? I...
A. 8 January 2013: Love. It's the 5th element (after water, wind, fire and earth).
Sounds cheesy but that takes the humdrum out of life for me.... (read in full...)
How can I get my fat girlfriend to lose weight?
Q. MOD NOTE: This was original poster's chosen title... Hi all Ive been with my OH (other half) for nearly 4 years now - when we first met she was 196lbs at 5ft 10 and it didnt bother me much. I was still attracted. Now, she is 219lbs! and thou...
A. 8 January 2013: "Now, she is 219lbs! and though she says she eats healthily and goes to zumba shows no sign of losing weight."
By the way, do you know for a fact she does go to these zumba classes 3 times a week and eats healthily?
I have a feeling, if it i... (read in full...)
How can I get my fat girlfriend to lose weight?
Q. MOD NOTE: This was original poster's chosen title... Hi all Ive been with my OH (other half) for nearly 4 years now - when we first met she was 196lbs at 5ft 10 and it didnt bother me much. I was still attracted. Now, she is 219lbs! and thou...
A. 8 January 2013: To be honest I don't like fat women either. Nothing shallow about that. The women I meet don't like fat blokes. Not many women will admit to that but that's just the way it is.
Does she have diabetes? Or perhaps some other health issue that is ... (read in full...)
I'm still having trouble accepting my boyfriend's past
Q. I've been with a great guy for the last year...but I'm still having trouble accepting his past. He's the only guy I've even slept (or done anything sexual) with, but he has 4 exes that he's been with. I think about it everyday, wondering if he ...
A. 8 January 2013: If you can't deal with his past BEFORE you met then leave. The guy has only been with 4 girls?
Truth is, he's with you and they are EXes right?
The clue is right there. He doesn't want them. He wants you.... (read in full...)
I want sex more than my girlfriend and she told me I can have a F buddy
Q. i'm in a relationship with a girl i love.my problem is i want sex too much.we do everything everywhere and have sex once everyday for at least two hours. sumtimes i have to masterbate a couple of times around this.she recently told me she wont say ...
A. 8 January 2013: This is a joke and I am not even going to bother replying.
Even the language used is that of a kid rather than a grown man.... (read in full...)
He blames me for everything. Any advice on how to alleviate the tension and reduce the stress in our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend says that I don't take responsibility for anything and that I blame him for everything. I personally feel the oppposite. He refuses to see when something IS his fault and immediately jumps on the "Oh, so I'm the bad guy" train. ...
A. 8 January 2013: 'We have a home together and a two-year-old son. I know my boyfriend is immature and childish a lot of the time, but just leaving is not an option. I want this to work both for us and our son."
Yup, as the previous reply has stated; you will lea... (read in full...)
He is being manipulated by another woman. How should I get him back?
Q. This is my story: I met a really great guy two years ago. We eloped too fast and talked about marriage too fast. The first problem started when I found out he had unfinished business with his ex girlfriend and was still communicating wi...
A. 8 January 2013: Just leave him.
If he was into you, there'd be no EX on the scene and he'd be with you. The EX hasn't manipulated or forced him away. He has chosen to go that way.
Find someone who wants to be with you and you want to be with.... (read in full...)
My relationship doesn't seem to be moving forwards. I don't want to push him but should I keep on waiting for him to decide what he wants?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly three and a half years. We lived together for about six months early last year but I left because he asked for space, so fair enough. But we have stayed in the relationship since. But I am looking to ...
A. 8 January 2013: OK, you left because he asked for space. You gave him space. Now it's not going anywhere.
He's not interested.
Move on and find someone who is.... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story sh...
A. 8 January 2013: Nice! WHat a great friend you are. Your best friend is about to drop and you have sex with her boyfriend.
What a nice boyfriend she has too.
I feel sorry for her and the poor little kid.
Shame on you both!... (read in full...)
Husband spends his alone during the week watching porn, then expects sex on a plate at the weekends. Is this normal?
Q. My husband and I are on two different work schedules so we only see each other for an hour or so a day until the weekend. During the week my husband just watches porn and then thinks that I am supposed to be available for sex all weekend. It makes...
A. 8 January 2013: "He watches porn all week because you aren't available to have sex with. You said yourself you have differing schedules during the week until the weekend arrives. He probably feels the hour you have together each weekday isn't enough time for sex. ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend using escort services again? Should I hire a private investigator or just end it?
Q. I'm struggling. The men among you might help me out... 3 years ago, I discovered my boyfriend (then of 7 years) had been visiting escorts. I found this out after becoming suspicious of his behaviour and after some crafty web-history anal...
A. 8 January 2013: You shouldn't have worked through this problem the first time round.
You should've just walked away.
Don't make the same mistake again. Just end it now. He just looked? With his history? You can bet he's doing it again or planning to.
... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend ask me if I had ever been pregnant?
Q. My question is not a very long. But my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a month. And a couple days ago, he asked me if I had ever been pregnant. I told him no and when I asked why he wanted to know, he said no reason. Is he just ...
A. 8 January 2013: So after one month he pops the "have you ever been pregnant?"
And then when you asked him why he wanted to know he didn't tell you? RED FLAG!
That's a bit of a strange question to ask EVER never mind after just a month.
"On the other hand, m... (read in full...)
She suggested we take things slowly after the first date. What do I do now?
Q. Hi all... I just took a girl on a date recently. We had exchanged numbers and we had previously gotten to know more about each other before via text message, so we had common ground and things to talk about. I don’t claim to be the best looking...
A. 8 January 2013: "I politely declined and suggested we go back to hers…she thought about it but decided against as she still lives with her ex."
Is he her EX? Or is she looking for a way out? Have you ever called her at home? If he's her EX then how come they are... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so convinced that my parents don't like him? How can I change this?
Q. My boyfriend is 25 and he is convinced my parents don't like him. This is not true - I have obviously spoken to them about him many times and they think he is great and said they have never seen me so happy. Based on past boyfriends they would ...
A. 8 January 2013: I agree with the other poster here. Sounds to me like he's not serious about this relationship and coming out with an excuse. Whatever the reason this is a red flag.
What more can you do?
I'm not being funny if you had "a break" for 1 wee... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best female friend are too close for my comfort. What can I do?
Q. My Boyfriend and his best friend are really close, too close for my own comfort zone, she texts him saying she loves him and he does the same, at all hours of the night at that. They are both really touchy with one another and it drives me crazy an...
A. 8 January 2013: Have to agree with others here; he has NO respect for you. No man, if he loved his girlfriend, would do this.
Tell him his behaviour is unacceptable.
If he continues, don't say anything. Don't argue. Just WALK AWAY and don't contact him. Don... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated on me but I want her back! How can I persuade her I won't hold this against her?
Q. I have been in a relationship for last four years with my girl. We did everything except sexual intercourse. Recently, when she was drunk, some random guy took her from bar and it seems he had sexual intercourse with her. Now she feels that she is ...
A. 8 January 2013: I'm not being funny here but she had sex with another guy because she wanted to. She didn't think about you or your feelings at all.
"Now she feels that she is not worth for my love."
Is that what she told you? WHen she said that what she me... (read in full...)
Why does my BF go quiet for a few days after we've had sex? Does this mean he only contacts me when he's horny?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now and he has a habit which upsets me quite a bit. A lot of the time when we have sex he goes very quiet for a couple of days afterwards. He will text me regularly and call every night beforehand ...
A. 8 January 2013: All you need to do is look at your boyfriend's actions.
It's not clear to me by what you've said, but it sounds like you spend a lot of time apart. Am I right in thinking that?
It sounds like you both work and are busy people but you do call ... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he told me not to get too attached?
Q. I've liked the same guy for almost 3 years now. He's a good friend as well. Basically the whole time of when I've liked him he's had girlfriends too though. Recently he just split up with his girlfriend whom he has been going out for for almost 2...
A. 8 January 2013: "Don't get too attached because you never know. Not to put you down I'm just warning you its not worth getting so attached. We're young. Let's piss about yeah you only live once"
He wants to muck about with you and use you is what he's saying. ... (read in full...)
BF asked me to tell his teenage daughter that she was dressed inappropriately but I don't feel it's my place! Thoughts?
Q. Hey everyone , I'm 25 my boyfriend is 37 and he has a 14 year old daughter. His childs mother lives in another state and his parents and himself raises her. His mom had a party for New Years and I went, I was extremely surprised when I saw his daug...
A. 8 January 2013: In short, she is HIS daughter and if he isn't happy about it then HE should deal with it (or her mother).
If it's something you're not comfortable with because you don't have that sort of relationship then you did the right thing and told him... (read in full...)
When do guys get mature?or does that never happen?
Q. It will be 4 years this year that i m with my current bf...in distance relationship. We ve been madly in love since we met n last fall i was supposed to move to his country n continue university there but since we didnt manage to do that,we blamed e...
A. 8 January 2013: It's different for different guys. A lot can depend on what life experiences they've had. I grew up pretty quick compared to some people I know. I moved out of home when I was 19-20 years old, my Father died when I was 23 years old. I've had to grow ... (read in full...)
is it okay if you got married for one wrong reason as long as you also did it for the right reasons?
Q. I have heard people say before that you should only get married for "the right reasons", and that doing so for any other reason is wrong. While I agree with this, I can't help but think I got married for both the right AND wrong reasons. Let me ...
A. 8 January 2013: Ok, so one of your reasons was financial security. MOST women take this into consideration when it comes to marriage. It's part of the old "gatherer provider" thing.
Can he support us? Can he provide for us? Can he provide for a family (if that... (read in full...)
Finding it hard to connect and be myself with my boyfriend. Advice?
Q. I feel really insecure with my new boyfriend. I've had 3 boyfriends in my entire life, i'm 15 and will be 16 in less than a month. My first boyfriend lasted for 9 months, and unfortunely he was just a fool, but once again unforutn...
A. 8 January 2013: You don't need to open up completely. Just have fun and enjoy being with each other. When you're ready to open up to him on an emotional level you will. You have to be comfortable first. You need to know he's trustworthy too and 1 month is not long ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and cousin had sexual banter on facebook. Should I say something?
Q. got on my boyfrirends facebook and in his messages back and forth to my female cousin was dumb stuff like him flirting with her like she said i might stop by to see you next week when ill be in your area and he says you bringing the condoms or ...
A. 8 January 2013: Can't believe you need to ask. He's OUT. You should WALK.
He has no loyalty and cannot be trusted. Neither does your cousin, but then you're not going steady with your cousin.
How can you have a relationship with someone who would flirt (hea... (read in full...)
How do I keep from talking to much when I'm nervous around my date?
Q. I seem to talk a lot when I'm nervous. I think my new guy was a little annoyed the other night he was trying to leave but I kept talking to him. He was polite then said baby I have to go I'm so tired. I felt so silly did I blow things? I get so ...
A. 8 January 2013: To be honest I'd find it rather sweet that a girl/woman gets that nervous and jibber jabbers on. You must really like him.
His reply said it all; "baby, I have to go I'm so tired" and his actions; "he kept smiling when I was talking" and "he kiss... (read in full...)
Do you just know when you are with the right person?
Q. Is it true that you 'just know' when you are with the right person? I know I love my boyfriend a lot but I sometimes feel that there is something missing, that we are maybe too different and that I don't know if I can see myself with him long term. ...
A. 8 January 2013: "I love my boyfriend a lot but I sometimes feel that there is something missing, that we are maybe too different and that I don't know if I can see myself with him long term."
What do you think is missing? It doesn't matter if you're into differen... (read in full...)
Just found out my boyfriend's ex is pregnant by him. Do I stay? Or go?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months goin on six...and just the other night he found out from a girl he dated before me she is pregnant...he told that he don't want the baby momma and loves me. An sees us with a future he don't want me to go ...
A. 8 January 2013: It's good you love him and want to stay with him. It's great you want to be there for him.
The only thing I will say is if you can deal with sharing him with his kid by another woman and you can deal with the fact he will have to have some sor... (read in full...)
When a relationship changes from LD to a regular relationship do you lose the excitement?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a lovely guy for about 4 months now and I have fallen head over heels for him. He is so loving and caring and says I am the one thing that keeps him going. Up until now due to various issues such as work etc we h...
A. 8 January 2013: "Because our time together has been so limited, its made it more special so im worried that this will change when we spend more tine with each other"
If you two live in each other's pockets then yes. It won't be as exciting. Mind you I don't kn... (read in full...)
I don't know if we are on a break, or this is a break up?
Q. Hey everyone , so me and my boyfriend were doing fine , I thought untill one day he decided to take "a break". He is a senior and works a lot and is spending a lot of time with his friends that are moving away for college along with dealing with ...
A. 8 January 2013: "he decided to take A BREAK". That means goodbye. Sorry to be brutally honest here but this guy is stringing you along. Trying to let you down nicely.
Ok, so he "works a lot and is spending a lot of time with his friends that are moving away for... (read in full...)
Guys: Is the amount of xx's in a text an indication of how much you like someone?
Q. Silly question but I'm intrigued...GUYS Is the amount of x's in a text an indicator of how much he likes you?? This guy I'm texting at the moment usually puts 3 x's... then less often 2 x's and then less often 1x and the least often 4x's. IM...
A. 8 January 2013: In short, the answer is no.... (read in full...)
I'm back with my ex but I'm not sure its a good thing
Q. Has too much happened to try again? I've been in realationship with now ex bf for 5 months. He really swept me off my feet, we have fun and are into the same things. The relationship has been full on virtually from the beginning. I'm a lone paren...
A. 8 January 2013: Forget it. Once it is over it is over. Why would you want to be someone who was emotionally abusive? He put it down to work stress? So every time things aren't going his way he's going to take it out on you?
Sounds great.
You really want that... (read in full...)
After my verbal outburst? Am I reading too much into things? Am I just hearing what I want to hear?
Q. Really need help here Dear Cupid! When I was in my early 20's I met a girl. We got together. Got a place together. All the usual relationship stuff. Anyway, she had several affairs. I'd always take her back. And she'd do the same again. Two...
A. 3 January 2013: You should've walked away after the first affair. Bye bye miss. You're loss. I hate to say it but you're a wimp. Man up and grow a pair.
Are you kidding? She had several affairs. What are you? A glutton for punishment? No wonder you are paranoid... (read in full...)
Retroactive Jealousy: how do I overcome it?
Q. Right, so I am not even really sure how to start this. Basically, I suffer from what many other men (and few women) seem to suffer from as well. Retroactive Jealousy, or "her past"... Its horrible, its utterly disturbing and self destructive. I have ...
A. 3 January 2013: I don't get it at all. How about putting the shoe on the other foot? I don't understand how these jealous types can get so jealous about something that pre-dates their their meeting/relationships.
You all have a past. Who's to judge? The one thin... (read in full...)
I can't get these images of his getting lap dances (before we were married) out of my mind!
Q. I am upset abt the fact that my husband (then boyfriend) got fully nude lap dances at gentlemans clubs/strip bars at least 6-8 times before we were married. Although we were living in different places at the time n it was an on off thing, but we ...
A. 3 January 2013: "People may argue that it's a lapdance, its meaningless and abit of fun, just because he paid for it doesn't take away the fact that he rubbed up another womans breasts and let her grind his crotch, it wouldn't be acceptable to do this to a woman ... (read in full...)
I have a very bitchy mother-in-law who refuses to let go of her son's umbilical cord
Q. I have a very bitchy mother in law who refuses to let go of her son's umbilical cord !!!! She came to live with us last to last summer and made my life a living hell. To this day those memories keep haunting me! I have talked to my husband abt it, ...
A. 3 January 2013: He needs to man up and tell her when she's crossing the line. Simple.... (read in full...)
I lied to my GF about how old I was when I lost my virginity. Should I tell her the truth?
Q. Basically me and this girl have been having sex and now are getting more serious. She asked me when i lost my virginity and because I was embarrassed i lied and said when I was 19 when really i had lost my virginity at the age of 23 with my ex girlf...
A. 3 January 2013: "If she truly loves you then I think she will forgive you if you explain yourself well enough"
Forgive him? For what exactly?
"Tell the truth. That is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. you should be proud"
Why? What difference ... (read in full...)
I lied to my GF about how old I was when I lost my virginity. Should I tell her the truth?
Q. Basically me and this girl have been having sex and now are getting more serious. She asked me when i lost my virginity and because I was embarrassed i lied and said when I was 19 when really i had lost my virginity at the age of 23 with my ex girlf...
A. 3 January 2013: Does it really matter?
No.
Is it going to make any difference other than make you look silly?
No.
So why bother? Why are people so hung up on their own past? I could understand if what you did was evil. You just fibbed. It's insignific... (read in full...)
What does our star alignment say about us?
Q. A few months ago a man asked me out. I originally said yes but when I found out how old he was I said we could be friends. I am ten years older than he is. We have since started dating and the relationship is going well. I still worry about the age ...
A. 3 January 2013: "I'm capricorn and a lot of my friends are also capricorn, but also after about 10-15 minutes of talking with a total stranger I can pretty much tell if they share my star sign or not based on how easily we get along"
What a load of rubbish.... (read in full...)
What does our star alignment say about us?
Q. A few months ago a man asked me out. I originally said yes but when I found out how old he was I said we could be friends. I am ten years older than he is. We have since started dating and the relationship is going well. I still worry about the age ...
A. 3 January 2013: Your star alignment says absolutely nothing about you. It's rubbish. From the era of witches and all that tosh.... (read in full...)
Husband went to lunch with female co worker and admitted to masturbating about her is that normal?
Q. Three days before I married my husband, he shared that he had been having lunch with a female co-worker for two-years. I asked him to stop this as he wasn't taking me to lunch and I felt it was innappropriate. He realized that he wouldn't want me ...
A. 3 January 2013: No that is not normal!
I can't believe he said that! Stunned!... (read in full...)
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