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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?
Q. I have been with my husband for eleven years now, and although things are fairly good between us, he has developed a crush on another woman. He met her on a weekend away with the boys in the middle of summer, and has been sending odd messages her...
A. 3 January 2008: I have to say for the record I do agree with A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007):
"No, No, No!!!! Never ever would i EVER let my husband go on a trip with another woman. If he showed interest, and admitted it, he wouldn't... (read in full...)
So many questions - anyone got any answers?
Q. Dear Cupid, So i've got myself in a real pickle. I've recently broke up with my ex girlfriend of 18 months. She cheated on me once in january, and then she was so amazing to me we got back together. She then went to uni, and i moved to italy f...
A. 27 December 2007: Well, I think if you read your post the message is clear. You're better off without her. Can you trust her? A relationship is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING without TRUST.
She also lied on several occassions. How long are you going to put up with this? I ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I fancy her?
Q. i fancy this girl who is a year younger than me (i'm redoing my first year at college) but she already has a boyfriend. i don't know wether i should tell her or if i should get over her and if so how?...
A. 27 December 2007: Difficult one this. Generally, I'm of the opinion that if she's with someone already then you should do the right thing and stay away. Just be a friend.
If she isn't happy then she should end it. However, having said this, she might not be happy... (read in full...)
Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?
Q. I have been with my husband for eleven years now, and although things are fairly good between us, he has developed a crush on another woman. He met her on a weekend away with the boys in the middle of summer, and has been sending odd messages her...
A. 27 December 2007: "Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?"
To put it simply; NO!!!
I have to say I agree with Dawnie when she says; "If it is innocent then why can you not go too? it's good to have give and take in a marria... (read in full...)
We've been having anal sex, but there's a few embarressing problems... Help?
Q. Dear cupid, Recently my boyfriend and I started having anal sex and sometimes (usually doggy posi) I get the urge to fart which as you can imagine is highly embarrasing and noisy to say the least. If we are doing it my bedroom which is quite s...
A. 19 December 2007: "Why not just get a bag and poop into it, then have him mastubate into the bag,now that would be something to see. Bet he wouldn't do that,so why in your Butt?"
Hahahahaha oh my gosh! I HAVE to say this is hilarious! GOt my vote for the funniest... (read in full...)
She was cheating on me, how do I move on?
Q. hi im 22 just broke up with my long term girlfriend after i found out see was cheating on me just carnt seem to get her out of my head and carnt understand why she did it we were so happy now shes dating him and i know hes useing her and think...
A. 19 December 2007: Easy one this. If she cheated on you, you need to move on. It might well be this guy is using her, but she was using you. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. I would have nothing to do with her whatsoever and if she were to contact you, if I were y... (read in full...)
How can I tell how serious we are?
Q. how serious is he? Im 18 and so is he, - we have been going out for 5 months now. before we started dating i left a relationship where i was cheated on and im contantly worried it will happen again, i guess im scarred. im pretty certain he wont ...
A. 19 December 2007: All the things he's saying are good things. He doesnt mean anything bad by it (unless he's being sarchastic of course). I was just like your boyfriend with my girlfriend - and always loving, caring and reassuring - I loved her (still do). She ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't like my friendships about other females
Q. I have a problem with my partner. She has this ridiclous prevailant attitude about my interactions with the women at work. I think she is just jealous and possessive!! It is like she doesn't even want me to relate to anybody outside my immediate ...
A. 19 December 2007: Hey I'm exactly the same at work, however, I'm the smae after work too (UNLESS I've had a nightmare of a day). Sounds like she has some insecurities. Perhaps she loves you so much she's scared of losing you? She might have had bad experiences in the ... (read in full...)
What do you do when ex loses respect for you? Its causing worse depression
Q. I believe my ex has lost all respect for me. After she tactfully broke up with me saying she needs space and needs to find herself, I kept finding signs of hope that she still wanted to be with me. I have been back and forth through emails saying ...
A. 19 December 2007: We've all been there. I'm dealing with it right now. At the end of the day just get over it. You have to move on. Ok she doesn't respect you as a person... She tramples all over you. So cut ALL contact... Delete everything. I've just finished a ... (read in full...)
Is this a relationship or not?
Q. Ok i think i maybe blind rite now in this stitution and i need help with this cuz iv never done anything like this this b4 iv always hav had guys ask me out like as being there gf but i hav this guy friend who asked me if i wanted to go out with him ...
A. 19 December 2007: It's a strange one. I remember that when I met my girlfriend we hit it off right away and we had been flirting a little for months beforehand. We got it together and it went pretty quick. I remember we met a couple of friends of mine for my birt... (read in full...)
How do I get him to talk to me about his feelings or talk to a counsellor when he doesn't admit he has problems?
Q. I do love my boyfriend to death. He is a kind of person who does not show his emotion and he never wants to talk about his feelings. That is his pesronality and all his friends know about it so it is not just with me. I had tried to talk to him ...
A. 18 December 2007: Tell him your relationship cannot continue this way. Tell him you want to be with him and you don't want the relationship to fall apart... Ask him to just try and go to counselling together once or twice and see how it goes.
If he's not willing ... (read in full...)
Should he stay with his ex or in a hotel?
Q. my man is going to north carolina this friday to take his daughter her xmas gifts, he had this child through another relationship, the problem im having is the fact that he wants me to understand him spending the night in the same house that this ...
A. 18 December 2007: Well if I were him I have to say I would stay the night in a hotel. I know I wouldn't be happy at all if my girl was going to stay over night at her EXs place. What's more I wouldn't want her to feel like that.
But hey, that's me. Everyone... (read in full...)
How do I know if he's the one?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I love him with all my heart but I'm not sure if we are right for each other. The only issue he seems to have with the relationship is that i tend to get jealous. I feel that he would do anything, change ...
A. 18 December 2007: "I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I love him with all my heart but I'm not sure if we are right for each other. The only issue he seems to have with the relationship is that i tend to get jealous"
Jealousy is an ugly thing. I don't un... (read in full...)
Do all men prefer anal sex and why? I do it to quench my husband's curiosity that drove him to an affair.
Q. please do all men prefer anal sex and why, i dont care for it my husband does....i am having a hard time because he was in an affair in trying this anal stuff out i think this is the curiousity that he proposed to some whore on the net and ended up ...
A. 18 December 2007: Judging by the title line; "do all men prefer anal sex and why? I do it to quench my husband's curiosity that drove him to an affair" I don't think your husband went elsewhere due to curiosity about anal sex. Sounds to me that, going by the tit... (read in full...)
His ex wants him back
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 2 months. He broke up with his ex girlfriend 7 months ago. But I found out they slept with each other a month before we got together. He said they were out with mutual friends, both very drunk, she pounced and 'too...
A. 18 December 2007: "I disagree a bit with anon_e_mouse. You have no reason to talk to the ex. The one you should talk to is your boyfriend" I don't recall saying YOU should talk to the EX at all. In fact, what I'm saying is UNLESS your boyfriend still has feelin... (read in full...)
His ex wants him back
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 2 months. He broke up with his ex girlfriend 7 months ago. But I found out they slept with each other a month before we got together. He said they were out with mutual friends, both very drunk, she pounced and 'too...
A. 18 December 2007: "I've been with my boyfriend 2 months. He broke up with his ex girlfriend 7 months ago. But I found out they slept with each other a month before we got together. He said they were out with mutual friends, both very drunk, she pounced and 'took ... (read in full...)
Do all men prefer anal sex and why? I do it to quench my husband's curiosity that drove him to an affair.
Q. please do all men prefer anal sex and why, i dont care for it my husband does....i am having a hard time because he was in an affair in trying this anal stuff out i think this is the curiousity that he proposed to some whore on the net and ended up ...
A. 17 December 2007: My girlfriend and I were quite adventurous and experimented quite a bit and I have to say I thought NEVER! However, we tried it once and it was AMAZING.
I have to say you'd have to be very comfortable with the person you're with to be able to be s... (read in full...)
My boyfriends dad has just died. I don't know how to comfort him without crying. Please help!
Q. My boyfriends dad just died and i am about to cry and i don't know how to act or what to say no one close to me ever died what should i do?...
A. 17 December 2007: My Dad died and unfortunately for me I had noone there for me and had to deal with it on my own.
My advice to you is just open up and let those emotions out. Give your boyfriends plenty of cuddles, I'm sure he needs your support as much as you need... (read in full...)
I slept with her, and now she's dumped me. How could she do this?
Q. im a guy and im quite sensitive when it comes to how i feel bout someone. i got with a girl and lost my virginity with her early ( too early) and she suddenly stoped replyin to my my textes. she dumped me soon after and makes out im messed up in the ...
A. 17 December 2007: She sounds NASTY. JUst remind yourself how she is, mmove on and get on with your life. She sounds like an idiot to me and it sounds like she just wanted to "pick your cherry" so to speak.
CRUEL but I suggest you delete her number. Have abso... (read in full...)
My ex still likes me after a year apart. I don't want to lead him on, but I would like to be his friend. What shall I do?
Q. My ex still likes me and we've been apart for over a year now. I can't help talking to him and i trust him more than anyone else in the world, but i don't love him like he loves me. I don't want to lead him on but i don't want to stop talking to ...
A. 17 December 2007: "My ex still likes me and we've been apart for over a year now. I can't help talking to him and i trust him more than anyone else in the world, but i don't love him like he loves me.
I think you should talk to him and say that you still like him... (read in full...)
I like someone who's working on my house. Do guys like it when the woman makes the first move?
Q. This is a question for the men on the site. I like someones who's doing work on my house at the moment. Do men like it when woman make the first move...or ask for your number? He's back on tuesday and i want to do something about i...
A. 17 December 2007: I'm one of those guys who appears to be confident and cocky... That is, until I see a girl I really fancy... Then the nerves kick in and I turn all shy.
Personally, I don't see ANY issues with girls making the first moves.
Good luck! :)... (read in full...)
What did his parting words mean?
Q. I broke up with my bf.There were so many misunderstandings and confusion and unwilligness to open communication on his side,so that our separation came as logical solution and even relief.However i feel depressed and im sure he feels the same. ...
A. 14 December 2007: DO NOT CALL HIM. AND IF HE CALLS YOU LEAVE IT WELL ALONE.
This is an emotionally abusive relationship. You may be able to look at my previous posts about what I'm going through and believe me it's exactly the same.
After being in a relationshi... (read in full...)
Do other people go through these kind of feelings getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. This is probably a silly question, but sometimes I feel like I never should have explained to my ex why I couldn't be with him (because he was emotionally abusive) because in a weird way I would be very jealous if I showed him the light, he changed, ...
A. 14 December 2007: "Sorry if I got defensive, I guess I just feel like I really have to stand up for myself now that I have been treated the way I did"
Hiya, don't worry about it. I just wanted to let you know it wasn't about you - that's all. I find myself being ve... (read in full...)
He loses his erection a bit when I go down on him. Whats wrong?
Q. Hey everybody. I want to start out by wishing you all happy holidays!! Anyways, I have a problem. Everytime I go down on my boyfriend he always goes a bit limp. Not completely but it goes down a bit. Everything is fine when we have sex. He has...
A. 13 December 2007: I used to have this problem if a girl went down on me. With me it was down to nerves. ALthough I have to say if I went down on her first that would turn me on so much she could then return the favour.
DON'T WORRY IT COULD JUST BE NERVES :)... (read in full...)
What did his parting words mean?
Q. I broke up with my bf.There were so many misunderstandings and confusion and unwilligness to open communication on his side,so that our separation came as logical solution and even relief.However i feel depressed and im sure he feels the same. ...
A. 13 December 2007: Hmmm... Difficult one this. TO tell the truth I have NO idea and I think you could dwell on this one for ages without getting anywhere. I remember my EX believed LUST was STRONGER than LOVE and that's why she was so insecure. I DO NOT BELIEVE ... (read in full...)
Do other people go through these kind of feelings getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. This is probably a silly question, but sometimes I feel like I never should have explained to my ex why I couldn't be with him (because he was emotionally abusive) because in a weird way I would be very jealous if I showed him the light, he changed, ...
A. 13 December 2007: "Listen, I'm not in denial. MY friends and family ALSO notice I'm back to my usual self now that I am out of the relationship-I'm not crying anymore and I'm much happier. I'm not on medicine because I DON'T need medicine. Since you seem like a ... (read in full...)
Do other people go through these kind of feelings getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. This is probably a silly question, but sometimes I feel like I never should have explained to my ex why I couldn't be with him (because he was emotionally abusive) because in a weird way I would be very jealous if I showed him the light, he changed, ...
A. 13 December 2007: "The way I look at it and my family and friends look at it, I'm not bipolar at all because I'm not on medicine and feel absolutely much better now that I'm out of the abusive relationship with him."
I have the very same issue where my EX jumped s... (read in full...)
Should I tell this guy's wife, that my ex gf is cheating with her husband?
Q. I've known for a while now that my ex is seeing a guy who's married with kids and I didn't really think anything of it. Now my brother has made me feel like I have some sort of responsibility to tell his wife what he's up to with my ex. My ex ...
A. 13 December 2007: I would say whilst it is tempting to get revenge, I would STAY OUT OF IT. This is your EX. You have no responsibility. It's her and the husbands issue. I feel sorry for the wife.
Instead of seaking revenge know that these flings tend to be noth... (read in full...)
Saw my ex but didn't talk to him. Should I make the effort,next time I see him?
Q. Hi i saw my ex boyfriend for the first time since we split last night down the pub and i really wanted to talk to him but was to scared,he was the one who wanted to split he said he did not feel the same and that we should stay mates. but the thing ...
A. 13 December 2007: How long ago was it since you split? If it was a while ago then why not just go over and talk to him? I wouldn't worry too much about it... What is the worst that could happen? He could tell you where to go... On the other hand you could become ... (read in full...)
Am I losing my skills or were there enviromental factors affecting the situation which were beyond my control?...
Q. I'm normally great at picking up girls in clubs and pubs, but last night I just kept getting rejected. Girls were like, "talk to the hand loser!" I think I was a bit drunk so my suave was probably not on top form, and also there was a bad ratio of...
A. 12 December 2007: Well I hate to say it but if you go round asking for it you'll get noticed for all the wrong reasons. If you go up to anyone and get rejected then another and another it won't take long before you get a reputation.
Then you'll be lucky to end up w... (read in full...)
He wont go down on me until we are married but we aren't even engaged.
Q. I have been with my man for a little over 2 years and he won't go down on me, he has NEVER gone down on me or anyone else for that matter. He says he'll do it when we are married (not that we are even engaged yet!) but sometimes he teases me and ...
A. 12 December 2007: Reminds me of a joke:
How do you get your girlfriend to stop giving you blow jobs?
... MARRY HER!
Seriously though, what's good for him is good for you and vice versa. Sounds like he may be a bit nervous about it. Hell, I used to be the same,... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to give up porn...and I would choose her but I refuse to pretend to be something I'm not.
Q. Before anyone chips in and says that I don't understand this from the female perspective, please hear me out - because I have read posts, and heard views from the female side - and believe me they are pretty mixed. My girlfriend and I have been tog...
A. 12 December 2007: To be honest my gf was funny about porn. It was only when she was away and I felt lonely and horny that I'd look at it. It wasn't a replacement for her. At the end of the day there's nothing better than being with the one you love intimately. With ... (read in full...)
She's talking like we are back but she acts different. What is going on??
Q. Hey, Well my girl had broke up with me a few weeks ago, but I wrote her a heartfelt letter and drove 60 miles and put a tiny christmas tree on her car. She called back real happy the next day and the following day we went out to dinner and she said...
A. 12 December 2007: Hey you said it yourself. You've started FRESH. You both can only look to the future and forget the past. There's no rush to move in together. If I were you I'd take things nice and slow. Give her a bit of space to do what she wants to do and figure ... (read in full...)
Should I leave the sweetest guy in the world for my sons father??
Q. I'm 22 i've been with my boyfriend for 9 months(we've been friends for 5 yrs. I love him and he loves me and my son but i'm not in love with him, and i just ran into my sons father after 10 months. I still love him but when i wanted a relatio...
A. 12 December 2007: If you are not in love with your bf and have STRONG feelings for your EX then LEAVE.
Stringing your current bf along is going to make him HATE you when he eventually gets wind of it. He might already have his suspicions; "WHy has she changed?", "She... (read in full...)
My new man is so much better and I have everything I could need or want...but I still can't get my ex out of my head.
Q. hi, please can u help me? I met a man last year and i finished my 3 year relationship with my ex for him. Anyway my new man treats me better than i could ever wish for and he is everything i will ever need in a man and i love him so much. Howeve...
A. 12 December 2007: This is a difficult one. I think possibly one of the reasons you have trouble dealing with your emotions when it comes to your EX could be due to the fact you left him for another man.
You didn't have time to mourn the relationship which failed for ... (read in full...)
How long do I wait for her to "find herself" before she is ready to committ? She says she knows I'm the one she is going to marry but needs time!
Q. I met this woman a year ago and she is the most incredible woman I have ever met. From the first moment I saw her she took my breath away and the first time we talked she amazed me. We met under circumstances that can only be explained as fate ...
A. 12 December 2007: Agree totally with bgagirl2692.
I was in a relationship for 5-6 years and it took me a while to get over it. I LONG while. It takes time to process loss, whether it be death or ending a relationship.
For what it's worth she is doing the right th... (read in full...)
She wants a break but I cant help thinking she wants to be with the guy from work.
Q. Hi My girlfriend and i have been going out for 7 months before i met her she had another boyfriend who treated her badly so when she argued with him she would go and get really drunk and cheat on him she would also self harm. So when she ended i...
A. 12 December 2007: p.s. If she threatens to cut herself TELL her family, Dr, Therapist (if she has one). Worst case call the police!
Just remember it's not your fault!
READ UP ON BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER and BI-POLAR.... (read in full...)
She wants a break but I cant help thinking she wants to be with the guy from work.
Q. Hi My girlfriend and i have been going out for 7 months before i met her she had another boyfriend who treated her badly so when she argued with him she would go and get really drunk and cheat on him she would also self harm. So when she ended i...
A. 12 December 2007: Her behaviour sounds a bit like my EX-girlfriend only more extreme with the self harm.
I suspect my EX is bi-polar or has Borderline Personality Disorder.
YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GETTING INTO. If I were you I'd read up and research all abou... (read in full...)
He's seen me naked but we haven't had sex yet and I'm scared about progressing...
Q. I'm a virgin, and my boyfriend is coming back from college, and I haven't seen him in 3 months. I've never done many sexual things. He's seen me fully naked, but I'm kinda scared. He asked me if we could go ahead and have sex. He has way more ...
A. 12 December 2007: I agree with leanne.od so I won't go over what she said. If he's truly as understanding as you say and he really does care for you then I'm sure he'll put you at ease and make you feel comfortable. I remember my first time and I was a VIRGIN an... (read in full...)
Do other people go through these kind of feelings getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. This is probably a silly question, but sometimes I feel like I never should have explained to my ex why I couldn't be with him (because he was emotionally abusive) because in a weird way I would be very jealous if I showed him the light, he changed, ...
A. 12 December 2007: I would have to agree with leanne.od here. My head is still all over the place after being in a 15 month relationship with someone who was very manipulative, controlling, jealous and often I was emotionally blackmailed. Obviously the relationship ... (read in full...)
Please advise , would really appreciate it
Q. I'm ready to be in a relationship. What am i doing wrong which is inhibiting me from being in one ? I'm 18 and live in London with an active social life, going to university and previously went to a mixed school. I think I am quite attrac...
A. 12 December 2007: Hmmmmm... This is a difficult question to answer. I would have to say, certainly in my expereince, if you go looking for it, searching for that girl you've always wanted you WON'T find her. I don't know whether we have a sort of 6th sense but I ... (read in full...)
Her Facebook messages seem to indicate more than she admitted...can I trust her again??
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for just over 3 years, but for the last 6 months I have been very depressed which has affected our relationship. She has to commute quite a long way for her job and so stays over at least once a week in a hotel. ...
A. 12 December 2007: FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK YOU NEED TO BOTH WANT IT AND BE HONEST WITH EACH OTHER. IF ONE OF YOU HAS SOMETHING TO HIDE FROM THE OTHER THEN IT'S NOT GOING TO WORK.
A relationship is NOTHING without TRUST.
I had this issue with my EX. My friends ... (read in full...)
Her Facebook messages seem to indicate more than she admitted...can I trust her again??
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for just over 3 years, but for the last 6 months I have been very depressed which has affected our relationship. She has to commute quite a long way for her job and so stays over at least once a week in a hotel. ...
A. 6 December 2007: I think it would be very difficult to trust her again. If you both love each other as much as you say then I'd suggest going to couples counselling TOGETHER. I'm sure if the shoe were on the other foot and you did the dirty she'd have trust issues. ... (read in full...)
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