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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 6 February 2013: "I use the three strikes and your out rule... if I'm not sure about someone I would date them 3 times... if by the third date I didn't want to jump their bones... they were gone."
Lets talk honestly here, if some guy had used 2 strikes on the firs... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 6 February 2013: SoConfused... You give more strikes than most women do. I'm not saying it's settling as it's too early but to show a lack of class and manners on the most important date (for a man) is a BIG RED FLAG.
Maybe not for a woman but for a man the firs... (read in full...)
We only have sex once a day when we used to have sex 6 times a day! Are we on different pages sexually?
Q. Cupids, my boyfriend and i dont have sex as often as we used to. We used to have crazy wild sex and passionate sex at minum 6 times a day. Yes we were horny teens then but we arent much older. He is 20 and i am 21. Could our age have effects on why ...
A. 6 February 2013: When something is new it's exciting. 6 times a day is a lot!!! Too much for me now to be honest. My first girlfriend and I were at it like rabbits. We averaged 1-2 times day for a year. That was when sex was new. That was 15 years ago.
Now, ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a divorce after rushing the marriage, was she just using me to get over her ex? What should I do now?
Q. Seven months ago, on a dating site ,I met American girl who was 16 years olders than me , means she was 46 and I was 30 then. In just matter of two months , she came to Pakistan and married me. Honestly speaking, she was doing all that too quickly ...
A. 6 February 2013: If she wants a divorce I'm afraid there's not much you can do. I'm not sure why you decided to marry in the first place. The fact she's already been divorced twice is a big RED FLAG.
"As soon as she went back to US, she filed spouse visa petition... (read in full...)
We tried to move past his cheating but I'm recently starting to resent him for many things, how do I approach this situation?
Q. I don't even know where to start with this be here goes. So I have been in a 3 and half yeah relationship with my boyfriend. He cheated on me but we decided to move on together and move past the situation. We have gone on to have a little boy and...
A. 6 February 2013: This one is simple. You cannot move past his cheating. Without trust there is no relationship at all. All relationships need trust. Think about it.
This relationship is over. It's a matter of time and the sooner you realise this and move on the b... (read in full...)
My experience of an LDR has been flawed by his need for a FWB as well. I refused the latter. Can LDR partners stay faithful?
Q. can people mix up long distance friends with benefits relationship with a committed faithful long distance relationship meaning? I was in a long distance relationship and thought he was faithful for the year prior to my trip to meet him. He ke...
A. 6 February 2013: Of course LDRs can remain faithful. However, in this case, you already know this one can't by his "need" for a FWB.
This guy is OUT.... (read in full...)
My 2 friends are in a FWB relationship but she's sending him mixed signals!
Q. Two friends of mine are currently having "fun" with each other. The guy is one of my best friends, and the girl is his coworker. She's not looking for a relationship right now, and he's simply living in the moment. What's confusing my fri...
A. 6 February 2013: "He thinks he can play her games"
I just wanted to say, she will win. Women are much better at these "games" than men are (generally). He will lose.
The only way a man can win is by not playing the game at all.
Tell him to get out there and... (read in full...)
My 2 friends are in a FWB relationship but she's sending him mixed signals!
Q. Two friends of mine are currently having "fun" with each other. The guy is one of my best friends, and the girl is his coworker. She's not looking for a relationship right now, and he's simply living in the moment. What's confusing my fri...
A. 6 February 2013: "What I don't understand however is that she overtly acts flirty with him in front of people, but still refuse to acknowledge something is going on? Why does she even do it in the first place if she doesn't want people to think they are together?"
... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 6 February 2013: Chigirl: "There are many serious things to look out for, and this barely counts as anything but mildly annoying."
So you're willing to put up with mildly annoying behaviour on a first date then? Manners cost nothing. If the guy already shows a ... (read in full...)
Her need to pee is really getting in the way of our sex life
Q. my girlfriend stops me in the middle of sex frequently and says she is afraid she needs to pee. i hate to say it, but it's beginning to ruin the mood, as it's hard to get into it when she's stopping all the time. now don't get me wrong, i underta...
A. 30 January 2013: "I am the poster if this question. Thanks everyone for your feedback. I wanted to clarify one thing. I'm a girl, so there's absolutely no anatomical way my penis is hitting her in a bad angle. Lol."
Hahahahaha! Amazing reply!
"So thanks ag... (read in full...)
Did I over-react? I thought we had a connection. Maybe not? I feel he's messing with my mind!
Q. Hello I just wanted some views on my situation. I met a guy on holiday and we kept in touch. I went back to visit him and we spent lots of time together. I met his family and his friends again. When we were apart we always have arguments ov...
A. 30 January 2013: Let's cut this anti-man BS down shall we? At the end of the day both people need to give and take. Some things you (men and women) are prepared to do and some things you won't. YOU decide.
I know men who'd like to move abroad but their girlfrie... (read in full...)
What can I do to make it easier for us both to adjust to living together? He struggles with dealing with my 3 year old daughter and I think I'm pregnant again.
Q. Hi everyone i recently moved in with my boyfriend and I am finding it extremely hard work. He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time. W...
A. 30 January 2013: Tisha-1:'What you've just written sounds like the start of an abusive relationship to me. "Walking on eggshells" "what can I do to make it easier"'
Have to agree with this.... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 30 January 2013: "My boyfriend doesn't cover his mouth when he yawns, and as much as I don't care for inspecting his teeth... he's still the best boyfriend I've ever had."
I wonder if he did that on a first date (BEFORE you knew him at all) whether you'd think th... (read in full...)
Are long distance relationships all about the sex?
Q. I'm just gonna go right out and say it... are long distance relationships just about sex? I mean, if you meet someone online and see them, say, a couple of weekends a month... and it takes around 3 hours to get to them and you're paying for the ...
A. 30 January 2013: I'm not sure how long-distance relationships can only be about sex. You don't see each other that much!
"Maybe I'm being cynical... but I know this guy who is telling some girl he loves her after knowing her a week or two and I just think their so... (read in full...)
My girlfriend does not know if she would marry me, but ultimately wants to be married.
Q. I started dating my girlfriend back in 2010, and for me it became love at first sight. She felt the same and then we started the relationship and everything was perfect. I will admit, I was not the most emotional person and I tend to express my ...
A. 30 January 2013: "she came to me this past December and told me that she did not know if she wanted to be in this relationship anymore"
Oh dear. This one is over. Maybe not right now but this one will end in time I'm afraid.
"She said that she deserved to have... (read in full...)
Is it normal to hardly know someone after going out on 2 dates?
Q. Is it normal to barely know someone after 2 dates? I'm 20 years old, recently met this 21 year old guy that comes to my university, we both live near campus and have seen each other twice. First time he came around to my house and the 2nd time I w...
A. 30 January 2013: It takes a couple of months to get to know someone. Even then for me it can take a year before you see their true colours. In the beginning each are on their best behaviour. After a couple of months you should know a little more but really it takes ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make it easier for us both to adjust to living together? He struggles with dealing with my 3 year old daughter and I think I'm pregnant again.
Q. Hi everyone i recently moved in with my boyfriend and I am finding it extremely hard work. He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time. W...
A. 30 January 2013: "He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time."
Doesn't sound like he's a good boyfriend at all. Do you honestly want to spend the next 40 ... (read in full...)
Did I over-react? I thought we had a connection. Maybe not? I feel he's messing with my mind!
Q. Hello I just wanted some views on my situation. I met a guy on holiday and we kept in touch. I went back to visit him and we spent lots of time together. I met his family and his friends again. When we were apart we always have arguments ov...
A. 30 January 2013: This isn't going anywhere in all honesty. He's getting on with his life. A man's actions speak louder than words and his actions say "I'm too busy" to even keep in touch let alone visit.
Just back off, get out there and meet other men. Go dating. ... (read in full...)
My 2 friends are in a FWB relationship but she's sending him mixed signals!
Q. Two friends of mine are currently having "fun" with each other. The guy is one of my best friends, and the girl is his coworker. She's not looking for a relationship right now, and he's simply living in the moment. What's confusing my fri...
A. 30 January 2013: Basically, in private she's happy to use him for sex. In public, she doesn't want to be associated with him because she doesn't want to be with him. She's looking for a boyfriend and the FWB is a filler until she does.
How can your best friend b... (read in full...)
He's 24. I told him I was 18. How can I tell him the truth that I'm 17 and not lose him when I do tell?
Q. Hello, I'm 17 years old and iv met a guy and we have been seeing each other for about a month and we really like each other. However, I told him I was 18 as we met in a bar that I got into. He's 24. I want to tell him that I'm actually 17,...
A. 30 January 2013: Just tell him, "I have something to tell you... I'm 18 in XXXXXX... I'm really sorry I didn't mean to lie but I really like you and thought you'd just think I'm a stupid girl if I said I was 17".
If it bothers him he'll leave. If it doesn't ... (read in full...)
Hate my toxic work place, where cheating is the norm. How can people cheat and not feel guilty?
Q. I am really hating my workplace at the moment I feel that its really poisoness. Everyone seems to be cheating on everyone else and I am the only who seems to think its disgusting. One girl at work was giving me all this relationship advice with my ...
A. 30 January 2013: I worked at a place where lots of people were having affairs. However, I just ignored it and got on with my job. To be honest I was only there on a temporary contract (6 months) and when they offered me a job I found one elsewhere.
It got to me a ... (read in full...)
Will this work? I'm married and I recently accepted the offer of my (separated) boss, to be his Girlfriend/mistress
Q. I recently accepted the offer of my boss, to be his Girlfriend/mistress. He is separated with 3 kids living with his wife and family. I'm married, with an understanding husband and a 3 year old daughter. We hooked up 2 only and 1 to 2 hours only ...
A. 14 January 2013: I feel sorry for your kids to be honest. When this ends it is going to be very hurtful to all concerned... Your husband and your 3 kids and the other guys wife and their kids.
You are a selfish woman indeed.
"I don't know if my boss will fall i... (read in full...)
Will this work? I'm married and I recently accepted the offer of my (separated) boss, to be his Girlfriend/mistress
Q. I recently accepted the offer of my boss, to be his Girlfriend/mistress. He is separated with 3 kids living with his wife and family. I'm married, with an understanding husband and a 3 year old daughter. We hooked up 2 only and 1 to 2 hours only ...
A. 14 January 2013: No it won't work. You're husband will know somethings up and it'll be painful maybe even turn nasty.
You shouldn't even be married if you're going to do something like this. You have no respect for your husband, no integrity and you are not trus... (read in full...)
Should I stay and wait for an answer? Or should I go? If I leave, there is no coming back....
Q. So my boyfriend was out of town for a week for a work related class. Before he left I had flipped out on him about how I feel that his actions say he has little to no feelings or love for me anymore. Unfortunately, I chose a relationship with ...
A. 14 January 2013: This guy has too much going on in his head. If I were you I'd leave and find someone else that makes you happy. Evidently, this guy doesn't make you happy from what you say.... (read in full...)
Birth control questions
Q. Hi, Looking for some birth control advice. I've been in a relationship with my partner for 3 and a half years and I've been on the pill for the same amount of time. It has worked brilliantly for me , even helped me to put on weight, gain a more wom...
A. 14 January 2013: How can your partner not trust condoms alone? They are the most reliable form of birth control there is other than abstaining from sex altogether.
I'll leave it to the females here to talk about the other options. That's all "women's stuff" I... (read in full...)
How do I chose between 2 great guys? Stuck between a rock and a hard place
Q. I dated a guy for 6 mos....we'll call him Bob. Bob and I are both from military backgrounds, stable financially, both have one daughter and 2 grandkids and we're both in our 50's. I am an eternal optimist and a hopeful romantic. I am very ...
A. 14 January 2013: Incidentally, your other guy (not Bob) is the better man in this scenario. However, you won't have a chance at having a relationship with him. He'll be off if you continue to keep in touch with Bob the sap.
Go with Bob. He's your only hope.
... (read in full...)
How do I chose between 2 great guys? Stuck between a rock and a hard place
Q. I dated a guy for 6 mos....we'll call him Bob. Bob and I are both from military backgrounds, stable financially, both have one daughter and 2 grandkids and we're both in our 50's. I am an eternal optimist and a hopeful romantic. I am very ...
A. 14 January 2013: If I were either one of these guys I'd walk. You're playing between the two here. What should you do? Well, if I took my girl out to dinner and she started texting her ex I'd walk out, leave her there, and never contact her again.
Bob is a sap. H... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he's over his ex but I don't think so! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I am so sorry for the length!! I have been with my bf for 3 years, we live together for 2 years now. His ex lives in another country with her fiance. My bf and her broke up about 1 year before we met. They still talk...i have no p...
A. 14 January 2013: You should leave this guy alone. He's still got feelings for his ex. While this is the case you two cannot have a healthy happy relationship.
Think about it, how many guys do you know give out this kind of money to someone other than their gi... (read in full...)
I don't trust him anymore and am thinking about leaving, what should I do?
Q. I and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 years now, we love each other despite religion differences, he pays me visit and calls me, he introduce me to his male friends but now everything has changed. Now he does not call except when i call ...
A. 14 January 2013: What more is there to say? You don't TRUST him. You cannot be in a relationship if there's no trust there. It will all go wrong. It's just a matter of time.
Time for you to leave this guy and find someone else who makes you happy and is trustwor... (read in full...)
If I hate him, can someone please help me figure out why I stay?
Q. I'm seeing a man I like sometimes, hate sometimes who annoys me most of the time. He can be sweet but still. Now I'm shocked that I've spent seven months with him! He's the opposite of what I appreciate in a man: ungentlemanly, often conceited and ...
A. 14 January 2013: You should just leave. Don't stay just for the children. Stay because you are happy and he treats you right.
Now, you're not happy and you say you don't like being intimate with him. So what more is there to say?
Walk away and cut all contact ... (read in full...)
Is there ever a good reason or explanation for cheating?
Q. I learned my lesbian gf was cheating on me by talking with other women. One in particular I caught her talking with twice. After the first time getting caught she promised she was sorry and she wouldn't do anything like that to hurt me again. She ...
A. 14 January 2013: Well, once the trust has been broken there is NO GOING BACK. What's done is done and best leave it in the past.
Cheating all over the place is no foundation for a healthy and loving relationship. End of story.... (read in full...)
I lost my only friend because I treated him so badly
Q. i had a best friend i lived with for 7 years whose feelings i have hurt deeply. i don't know what i can do to change his feelings and show him i care about him and love him. he did sooo much for me, got me into school, paid for my tution,, did ...
A. 14 January 2013: I'm glad he left you. You don't deserve him and showed him no respect when you had a go at his girlfriend. After everything he did for you too.
Me, me, me, me, me.
Grow up.... (read in full...)
This guy is creeping me out by staring at me, why is he doing it?
Q. There is this guy, everytime I see him he just stares at me I can feel his eyes on me every time he never talks to me, he looks at me then looks away. But today he looked at me, took a breath in then out, then looked away, what does it mean? why is ...
A. 14 January 2013: What it means is he is a WACKO.
Simple.... (read in full...)
I can't get over this mystery breakup.
Q. Hey guys, well, I'm trying to find the best advice on how to move on with my life or keep fighting for my true love. My ex girlfriend and I went out for 6 months and we were a decent couple, we never had big problems or any huge fights while we...
A. 14 January 2013: "she just saw me more as a friend"
You're OUT. She's not interested. Stop wasting your time with this one and find another girl. A bit harsh I know. You need to get over it and move on buddy.
If a woman starts acting cold and dry somethings u... (read in full...)
GF went on holiday without me and packed her sexy lingerie. What does this mean?
Q. My girlfriend went on holiday without me, she says for a break from everything, but she took her sexy lingerie with her. When asked why, she replied that she did not even notice, just grabbed a handful of undies and packed them. What does this...
A. 14 January 2013: I'd like to point out to the females here if it were a girl saying her boyfriend has gone away on holiday without her and packed a load of condoms I'm sure the response would be different.
"Maybe the guy just likes to wear condoms?".
What a ... (read in full...)
GF went on holiday without me and packed her sexy lingerie. What does this mean?
Q. My girlfriend went on holiday without me, she says for a break from everything, but she took her sexy lingerie with her. When asked why, she replied that she did not even notice, just grabbed a handful of undies and packed them. What does this...
A. 14 January 2013: What do you mean "what does this mean?". Something is seriously WRONG here. This is a BIG RED FLAG.
She spinning you a line here. She's not trustworthy. She's OUT. Walk away. Cut all contact and move on.
The fact she's going on holiday without ... (read in full...)
We spent the night together, the next day he got word his dad was sick. He hasn't contacted me first since then!
Q. I am really confused here. I was seeing a great guy he is Canadian and is a student here in the uk. Things were going so well and I knew how much he was into me. We spent the night together I felt so close to him. The next day he got really bad news ...
A. 14 January 2013: Hmmmm... This stinks. Are you 100% certain his Dad is sick? Sounds like an excuse to me. Men hear this sort of thing all the time; "I have to cancel our date because my cat isn't well".
If I were you I'd cut my losses and move on. Cut all contact ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend admitted she had a crush on another guy. Is this acceptable?
Q. After questioning her, my girlfriend admitted to having a crush on another guy two years ago, which was still ln our relationship. I kind of expected it but still, it hurts. Is this acceptable?...
A. 14 January 2013: Having a crush on a celebrity is NOT the same as having a crush on a "normal" person I must point out.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend admitted she had a crush on another guy. Is this acceptable?
Q. After questioning her, my girlfriend admitted to having a crush on another guy two years ago, which was still ln our relationship. I kind of expected it but still, it hurts. Is this acceptable?...
A. 14 January 2013: Errrrm... I disagree. It is definitely NOT acceptable. But here you are saying "I should probably try to overcome my insecurities".
Grow a pair and walk away. This one is looking for the next guy. When she finds him you're OUT.
When a woman ... (read in full...)
Is there ever a good reason or explanation for cheating?
Q. I learned my lesbian gf was cheating on me by talking with other women. One in particular I caught her talking with twice. After the first time getting caught she promised she was sorry and she wouldn't do anything like that to hurt me again. She ...
A. 14 January 2013: In short?... NO. A relationship with no trust cannot last. It's over. Move on and find someone else.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend lost his dad and is suffering, but he raised his hand to me and is very angry/abusive. What if he does it again?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 24 and I have been dating my boyfriend since I was 15!things were going really great,we got into the same college finished our degress,we have a very good job,although my boyfriend comes from a rich family but yet he decided ...
A. 14 January 2013: That's no excuse to hit a woman I'm sorry. My Dad died when I was 23 and I had to take the reigns. It was a hell of a lot of responsibility when I was so young. However, I would NEVER hit a woman regardless.
Leave him and find someone else. He... (read in full...)
Why did my ex contact me just to tell me how happy he is?
Q. Hi, I was with my ex for about 7 years, since we were young teens. He treated me very badly throughout the relationship but only subtly - he wasn't openly nasty but refused to spend time with me and even when we lived together he used to spend ti...
A. 14 January 2013: Who cares? He's probably bitter and jealous and wants to make you feel jealous. He's stroking his own ego in a "I'll show her" kind of way.
Pathetic and immature. Next time just ignore his call/messages.
Tell him to concentrate on his girlfrien... (read in full...)
He cheated and I continuously gave him grief. How do I let him know that I am sorry?
Q. Hi guys Little advice please. 7 months ago i found out my parnter had been cheating on me at the beginning of the year. i knew he was up to no good and my suspicions were confirmed when she contacted me months down the line telling me she h...
A. 14 January 2013: You don't. What you do is leave him. He is untrustworthy and has no integrity. There's no future in this so-called "relationship". The longer you two are together the worse and more painful it'll get for you.
Just leave and find someone who want... (read in full...)
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