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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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Is she playing games or is she not interested?
Q. So I met this girl online a year or two ago. Long time, anyways, we just casually chatted for all that time and I wasn't really into her, I just wanted to be a friend to her. She's a shy type and I supposed she wanted me to ask her out but I never ...
A. 14 February 2013: Just write this one off and date other women. Put this down to a learning experience and behave like a gentleman in future.
Remember:
1) Keep dates light and funny. No intense conversations about stuff. Nothing emotional.
2) Compliment h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stood me up for dinner but is giving me the silent treatment saying I didn't text him back "I love you".
Q. My 28 year-old boyfriend was here to dine with me. He got a call from his mother, who asked him to meet her to give her something. He left and said he'd come back very soon. So I left his food on the table and waited. He didn't show up. An h...
A. 14 February 2013: Sorry I forgot two things...
1) This guy is 28? Sounds like he's 12
2) When you say "he knows I get very sad when he stands me up and doesn't even text" it sounds to me like he does this all the time. Time for you to give HIM the silent treat... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stood me up for dinner but is giving me the silent treatment saying I didn't text him back "I love you".
Q. My 28 year-old boyfriend was here to dine with me. He got a call from his mother, who asked him to meet her to give her something. He left and said he'd come back very soon. So I left his food on the table and waited. He didn't show up. An h...
A. 14 February 2013: You deserve better I'm afraid. If I was on a date and my mum, and believe me I do love my mum, asked me to drop something off/collect something I'd tell her I'm busy right now but I can do it tomorrow.
The only reason you leave a date is if it is... (read in full...)
I am inexperienced in sex but boyfriend is comparing me to his ex, who was better in bed.
Q. Last night me and my boyfriend had sex for the second time. I told him to take things slow and pace what we were doing, he suggested we tried some positions, I agreed to see what was best for me. Although it didn't end up going so great, he was ...
A. 14 February 2013: This guy isn't worth it. Who the hell gets angry during sex? It's supposed to be sexy and fun. Mistakes happen, you should be having fun and if something goes wrong during sex just laugh/giggle about it.
Seriously, there is no such thing as perfe... (read in full...)
Was I being shady or is he overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I got in a big fight tonight and I need some advice. So he's seemed a little distant for the last few days, even though he told me nothing was wrong. Maybe he just needed some space, I don't know. Anyway, I was supposed to ...
A. 14 February 2013: Why didn't you just send him a message saying you were popping in to see your friend who is working on a mural nearby?
Lets look at it another way... If you were waiting for your boyfriend to come over and he decides to pop to a bar (the pub here... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is so jealous its absolutely crazy!
Q. Hi!!! Please some one help me. I'm engaged to my girlfriend of 3 years. She's soo jealous it's not even funny. We have had our issues in the past mainly because she's goes crazy when I look at girls. Or a movie with a sex scene in it...not a porno...
A. 14 February 2013: Erm... Here's what you do... You DO NOT marry this one. She's a loon!... (read in full...)
Do I continue to keep seeing this guy in hopes that he warms up to me? Or do I just do my best to leave and save myself from heartbreak?
Q. I have been seeing this boy for about 3 months now. And, in that short amount of time I have fallen head over heels for him. I have told him that I love him, and he says he loves me too, sometimes. He said he doesn't feel comfortable saying that he ...
A. 14 February 2013: I disagree with CMMP.
That short fuse sounds to me like he's the jealous type. I assume this is every time you talk to a guy? He threatens to not talk to you anymore to control you.
This guy is insecure and jealous and best left alone anywa... (read in full...)
I don't think my wife likes having sex with me
Q. Hey guys. I have some weird problems with my wife. I'm 24 and she's 23, we've been together for 3 years now. We have an almost healthy sexual life. We have sex about 7/8 times a week but the thing is: she doesn't seem to love having sex with ...
A. 14 February 2013: Try cutting down on the amount of sex you have. 7-8 times a week is too much and it's boring.
If you ate your favourite meal every day you'd get bored of it. When she asks for it tell her, you'd rather not do it tonight. Try cutting back to once ... (read in full...)
Would you help your ex raise a child from another woman? He says we can't get back together except as friends
Q. ok, has anyone ever encountered this before? my husband, well ex now once asked if he went and got someone pregnant would i help him raise it? i told him no im too old i have already raised my children. oh we could not have any together because of a ...
A. 14 February 2013: In short, I would NEVER help an EX raise their kid/s. They are an EX. EX means no longer.
Why would you want him back after this? Sounds like a great man that one. Move on and find someone else; a REAL man. Not a loser like this one.... (read in full...)
Is this a "no harm, no foul" situation or is this the kind of thing I'll probably end up regretting?
Q. So, here's the situation. While I welcome any opinion I would very much like some female input. There's this girl I was working with (we both got laid off very recently) who I'm quite attracted to and really enjoy spending time with her. She ha...
A. 14 February 2013: Why the hell do you want female input? You know better than to listen to them!
Look buddy, a girls actions speak louder than words. That's a rule you'd do well to remember. This girl's boyfriend is on the way out. That much is obvious. It's a m... (read in full...)
Why didn't he want to kiss me?
Q. I have been out with this guy a few times. He seems like a really good guy and I hope something further will develop. The first two times we went out, we had a few drinks with dinner and ended up kissing a lot on his couch. We then went out dancing ...
A. 14 February 2013: Lunch is different to after dinner at home on the couch, or going out to a club and kissing at the bar. I suppose if you were to meet for coffee in the morning you'd expect to make out then too?
To be honest I have no idea about whether he's int... (read in full...)
Is she playing games or is she not interested?
Q. So I met this girl online a year or two ago. Long time, anyways, we just casually chatted for all that time and I wasn't really into her, I just wanted to be a friend to her. She's a shy type and I supposed she wanted me to ask her out but I never ...
A. 13 February 2013: "I must have been like a beaten dog at this point but I decide to attempt the kiss indirectly (just keeping my head in line in case she is going for it too) but I am greeted with the side of her face during the hug.:
Read that last bit again...... (read in full...)
In love with my male friend but he has a girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. I don't know how to move forward... I am completely in love with this guy. We are really good friends and I always feel better when I am with him. I have never felt this way before about anybody. But he has a girlfriend and seems to love her. I d...
A. 10 February 2013: You do nothing. He has a girlfriend and "seems to love her" and "you don't want to hurt our friendship and I don't want to break them up".
FInd someone else.... (read in full...)
Porn users: how valid is my Bf excuse that he 'forgot' his user name on a porn site? Was that said to prevent me seeing his porn use log?
Q. Right this question is slightly different than most porn questions. It is directed at the techies. My boyfriend told me the site from which he downloaded his porn from, I asked his username. I discovered I could try and find out when he last log...
A. 10 February 2013: If he forgot his username and/or password there is usually a "forgot your username/password" on internet sites.
I'm not sure about porn sites but I imagine they're all similar. Like retrieving your username/passwords for anything. They'll send you... (read in full...)
Should I allow him to "brand" me with a tattoo? He's 24. I know he will not take me back if I refuse.
Q. So, me and this guy have just been through a break up, our relationship was a little rough around the edges mainly because he's 24 and I'm 16. I know I know, forget about the age a second. I'm really desperate to get him back and he says I need to ...
A. 10 February 2013: Erm, let me think... Errr... How about NO WAY!
What a stupid idea.
You should leave this guy alone and find someone else. You want some guy to put his initials on you for the rest of your life?
I'm telling you now, this relationship (if yo... (read in full...)
My depressed Gf won't have sex with me. If I say I'm leaving she hurts herself. Should we breakup?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my girlfriend for one year and a half and we live together. The problem I have is she won't have sex with me. The last time we had sex was 7 months ago and I confessed to her that I am considering sleeping with other ...
A. 10 February 2013: Sorry, I forgot this bit... "I confessed to her that I am considering sleeping with other people because my urges are making me feel sad".
What a great thing to say to your girlfriend with all her issues. You realise this would make her feel eve... (read in full...)
Is he playing mind games? Two weeks together. He broke up with me. A week later he says he loves me?
Q. I was dating this guy who is 19, we shared so many laughs, funny memories and some really sweet memories too. We were "dating" for about 2 weeks, and then he said he wanted to break up because he was working so many hours and didn't find it fair on ...
A. 10 February 2013: Just ask him, I need to know where I stand.. Are we together or...?
If you're not together, just find someone else who knows what he wants. This guy sounds like a wimp.... (read in full...)
Two weeks ago I asked my BF for a break, but he is pushing me to end the break. He's so controlling.
Q. If you were in my situation, what would you do? Long story short, I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 8 years. The first 2 years in our relationship were amazing, he was loving, caring and very sweet. We talked about moving in ...
A. 10 February 2013: When he said "he doesn't want me to move in at all, he is happy the way he lives now... either I accept the relationship the way it is or I could end it" what he's saying is he's not interested in being in a relationship with you. You can continue ... (read in full...)
Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet?
Q. Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet? Last weekend when I went out with a girl I've known a few years, we got a little drunk and totally unexpected she kissed me, I've liked this girl since the moment I met her but be...
A. 10 February 2013: Too sweet means you're a wimp. That's what she's saying. Sounds to me she wants a man and not some puppy dog little boy. That doesn't mean she wants a bad boy. They're just as much hassle, sure she'd probably rather go out with a bad boy than a ... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 6 February 2013: "I use the three strikes and your out rule... if I'm not sure about someone I would date them 3 times... if by the third date I didn't want to jump their bones... they were gone."
Lets talk honestly here, if some guy had used 2 strikes on the firs... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 6 February 2013: SoConfused... You give more strikes than most women do. I'm not saying it's settling as it's too early but to show a lack of class and manners on the most important date (for a man) is a BIG RED FLAG.
Maybe not for a woman but for a man the firs... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend saw the message I sent to her telling her I missed her, and now she claims I've ruined her life! What can I do?
Q. So this girls boyfriend of 3 1/2 years dumped her last year and said he never wanted to speak to her again. We started seeing each other and hav been seeing each other constantly the last 10 months but it was never a relationship, always in ...
A. 6 February 2013: What can you do? Leave her alone.
Why would you want to be with a cheat? She'll do it again and again. Just be grateful you found out now and you're not the one in her boyfriend's shoes.
Now get out there and find a woman with integrity that c... (read in full...)
Was My boyfriend's reaction out of line? I had to enroll, online, for classes and the slot allocated to me ate into time he wanted to spend with me.
Q. All my college procedures are done online. Today I had to choose my class schedule. Obviously, my college has thousands of students, so we're assigned a period of time where we could chose it (for example, all names starting with A do it from 9am...
A. 6 February 2013: This is a BIG RED FLAG. You have yourself a wimpy needy boy here. Get rid and go find a MAN.
It's about time you stopped pandering to his needs and think about what you want. Can you see yourself with this guy long-term? Really would you want to ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if she is serious about our relationship or if this is just for fun?
Q. I was chatting with a girl from last 8 months and unexpectedly she proposed me and im happy with this relationship, but sometimes somewhere i think she wants relationship for fun because she doesn't msg and call me often in a day...so how can i come ...
A. 6 February 2013: So let me get this straight... You've been chatting to a girl for the last 8 months. She asked you out and now you're an item? You're together?
Now, because she doesn't message or phone EVERY day you don't know if she's serious?
She "proposed... (read in full...)
I feel like the odd one out with a failed marriage and a child!
Q. Currently separated-marriage wasn't good in general for multiple reasons. Know it's better that we aren't together, but I miss my family being together (we have a small child). I know it's not true, but it SEEMS like everyone is married and has ...
A. 6 February 2013: Who cares what other people have? You don't know how happy they are or what problems they have. Just get out there, date guys and find yourself a good man. Look out for your own happiness and forget everyone else's.
Try dating websites. Join a c... (read in full...)
Do I break my heart and never know? Or tell my crush my feelings for him on Valentine's day?
Q. I have been stuck with this for over a year and a half now. I have developed strong emotions towards a guyfriend I've known for nearly 10 years. Never thought itd turn out this way. I don't know if he shares those same feelings. I've always heard ...
A. 6 February 2013: Talk to him during the week, meet for a coffee, that way if it get's awkward you can make your excuses and leave. "Well thanks for the chat, I feel better now it's out there, I best be off I've got work tomorrow" or whatever.
Don't have the chat... (read in full...)
I had a sneak-peek at his email. I found out he's buying things for himself on line he's not told me about. Why the secret?
Q. I've just found out that my boyfriend secretly spends a lot of money behind my back as he left his email account logged in and i had a sneek peek. He even bought lots of stuff on my b'day for himself! When talking about what he buys, he obvi...
A. 6 February 2013: Wow! You've got a good one there. Sounds like you've got a whole lot of happiness down the road in your life together. Imagine being married to someone like this.... (read in full...)
He'd like to see me introducing things to titillate him during lovemaking. But I'm shy. Should I break up instead?
Q. I'm really at a point where I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while now and he was a virgin when we first had sex. (Yes, we really do love each other and have feelings for one another.) I on the other han...
A. 6 February 2013: My advice is simple; don't do anything you're not comfortable with. Let him tell you what he likes. If you don't want to do it then don't.
If he can't get over that then wave bye bye.... (read in full...)
Did she end our friendship (again) because she likes my husband and cant stand seeing us happy?
Q. So I've been best friends with a woman for 15 years. The first 5 we were inseperable. We met husbands around the same time 5 years later but after the birth of my son, she dropped me. I called and left messages but never heard from her again for 5 ...
A. 6 February 2013: Who cares? She's history. Why do you want to go over the 1 million possible reasons for it? THe choice is rather simple; husband or this so-called friend?
She has been humiliated and shown to be no friend at all.
I fail to see why you're even ... (read in full...)
What's a sweet way to ask a girl out on a date? And should I wait until Valentines day?
Q. I been meeting this girl, I do like her and I know she likes me to. Any sweet ideas on asking her out? Nothing over the top, I want to keep it simple. Valentines day is also coming up, I'm not sure if a girl would like to be asked out before...
A. 6 February 2013: "Don't wait until Valentines day! You should take her out before then! If the first date goes well, you can send her some flowers on Valentines day and make it a second date :P"
DO NOT LISTEN TO WOMEN ON THIS. I must stress DO NOT send her flow... (read in full...)
What's a sweet way to ask a girl out on a date? And should I wait until Valentines day?
Q. I been meeting this girl, I do like her and I know she likes me to. Any sweet ideas on asking her out? Nothing over the top, I want to keep it simple. Valentines day is also coming up, I'm not sure if a girl would like to be asked out before...
A. 6 February 2013: "I been meeting this girl, I do like her and I know she likes me to. Any sweet ideas on asking her out? Nothing over the top, I want to keep it simple."
Jesus man! Grow a pair. Any "sweet" ideas on asking her out? How about this, be a MAN and tell... (read in full...)
We have children. He smokes weed and drinks a lot. Will he ever change? All his money goes on his lifestyle and we struggle at the best of times
Q. I guess like a lot of girls do, I thought I could change my boyfriend. He smokes weed and drinks a lot. His friends are no good and he doesn't look after me or our children as he should. I don't work as my youngest is 3 weeks old, and my olde...
A. 6 February 2013: Well, you've got yourself a good one there. Great role model for your kids. In short, no he won't change and you were naive to think having kids would do so.
... (read in full...)
She said she knew I wasn't a Relationship Person and that I was not Emotionally Available. What does my Ex mean by this?
Q. I was seeing this girl for a while and last night we finally talked for the first time since we broke up. She said she always knew in the back of her mind that i wasn't a relationship person and we weren't going to be anything more than what it ...
A. 6 February 2013: I wouldn't worry about it at all. She probably means, she couldn't have everything her own way and is looking for a Mr Wimp to go out with instead. Someone who will tell her his inner most feelings and treat her like a Mum rather than a ... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my friend's request
Q. Dear cupid i know this sounds stupid but a good friend asked me to return some items to a store for store credit because she lost the receipt . I am starting to think she stole them . Would you take them back can i get into trouble?...
A. 6 February 2013: Just tell her "you bought it, you take it back, I'm your friend not your bloody servant" and smile.
Don't do it.... (read in full...)
How do I go about getting rid of my lazy unmotivated Bf? But how do I cope with his threats to harm himself if I do leave?
Q. In my last question I had asked what I should do about my lazy, unmotivated boyfriend. Well, I'm at the point where I think I'm almost at a decision. But now, I need help in a different way. No matter how loving and nice he is to me..I just don'...
A. 6 February 2013: You need to leave this one for your own sake. I've been there.
"I would recommend pulling away in the relationship or becoming very mean about things that bother you...this is one situation where hopefully if you can make him relieved you are brea... (read in full...)
Does low self-esteem lead to infidelity?
Q. Just trying to make sense of something that probably isn't easy to make sense of. I recently broke up with my longtime gf of nearly 6 years after catching her in an inappropriate text/email/Facebook "flirtation" and the subsequent lies she made in ...
A. 6 February 2013: TrancedRythmnEar: "Women cheat on you because you can't maintain attraction... Assuming they’re attracted to you in the first place. Pampering them with gifts and crap only [makes you] comes across as a soft ass kisser man."
Hahahaha! I wouldn't... (read in full...)
She has started going on dating sites, in front of me. She tells me there is better than me out there. What should I do?
Q. I have lived with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have both decided against getting married and have no children (she doesnt want any). Everything has been steady and we have always got on. Over the past 6 months she has got into a twice weekly g...
A. 6 February 2013: Oh, and if she should ever come back tell her to get lost. She's getting out there because you're not good enough for her (in her eyes). If it all goes wrong and she suddenly realises she made a mistake, that's her problem.... (read in full...)
She has started going on dating sites, in front of me. She tells me there is better than me out there. What should I do?
Q. I have lived with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have both decided against getting married and have no children (she doesnt want any). Everything has been steady and we have always got on. Over the past 6 months she has got into a twice weekly g...
A. 6 February 2013: Sorry to say it my friend but you are out. She's telling you this to get rid. Take the hint and just move on. No shouting and no arguing. Just leave her and get out there and date other women.... (read in full...)
Is there a chance that my ex and I can rekindle our relationship?
Q. I am in love with a guy that I left 8 years ago today we talked on he phone and then feelings started coming back between the both of us.I really care for him I want to make things happen with him but there are some issues and boundaries that we ...
A. 6 February 2013: In short, the answer is no. There's a reason you are no longer together. What's done is done.... (read in full...)
My roomate is trying to sabotage my relationships!
Q. i've got a real problem with my roommate. we've been living together for quite some time now; about 4 years. and she's really caused me a lot of issues in my social and dating life. she's practically a recluse. we work together, that's how i kno...
A. 6 February 2013: SPeak to the landlord and tell them you wish to move out. You and the landlord can come to some sort of agreement.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend but don't feel guilty. What should I do now?
Q. Ive been dating my gf for over 3 years now, and Ive been extremely faithful this whole time without ever being tempted until now. The last 2 years though have been rough, I havent been excited to see her, or genuinely been as happy as I was the ...
A. 6 February 2013: What should you do now? End it. Simple.
If you don't even feel guilty then it is already over. ... (read in full...)
We only have sex once a day when we used to have sex 6 times a day! Are we on different pages sexually?
Q. Cupids, my boyfriend and i dont have sex as often as we used to. We used to have crazy wild sex and passionate sex at minum 6 times a day. Yes we were horny teens then but we arent much older. He is 20 and i am 21. Could our age have effects on why ...
A. 6 February 2013: When something is new it's exciting. 6 times a day is a lot!!! Too much for me now to be honest. My first girlfriend and I were at it like rabbits. We averaged 1-2 times day for a year. That was when sex was new. That was 15 years ago.
Now, ... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 6 February 2013: Chigirl: "There are many serious things to look out for, and this barely counts as anything but mildly annoying."
So you're willing to put up with mildly annoying behaviour on a first date then? Manners cost nothing. If the guy already shows a ... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 30 January 2013: "My boyfriend doesn't cover his mouth when he yawns, and as much as I don't care for inspecting his teeth... he's still the best boyfriend I've ever had."
I wonder if he did that on a first date (BEFORE you knew him at all) whether you'd think th... (read in full...)
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