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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 13 January 2013: "I am pretty sure that all women want a strong self esteem man."
I'll go further than that. I am ABSOLUTELY sure that all women want a man with self-esteem and confidence. We know we're not perfect and all have our faults.
However, you ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 8 January 2013: It's time you got over this. She is happy. Why can't you just let it go?
Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things? Are you happy with her and is she a good woman?
I'm not going to bother reading anymore of your followups.
Th... (read in full...)
Husband went to lunch with female co worker and admitted to masturbating about her is that normal?
Q. Three days before I married my husband, he shared that he had been having lunch with a female co-worker for two-years. I asked him to stop this as he wasn't taking me to lunch and I felt it was innappropriate. He realized that he wouldn't want me ...
A. 3 January 2013: No that is not normal!
I can't believe he said that! Stunned!... (read in full...)
My friend would be perfect for me but I don't love him. How can I fall in love with him?
Q. I have a really big problem. I know some will say i am a 'friendzoner' idiot, but I dont know what to do. I am in a relationship with a guy that I love. I feel I love him and I like every inch of him. I cannot really tell what is what I like. We...
A. 3 January 2013: You can't fall in love with someone you don't love.... (read in full...)
Do birthdays decrease in importance as we age?
Q. Dear aunt and uncles Do birthdays decrease on importance as we age? I ask because my mother who is 55 will have her birthday on the middle of January. I have to move to a new city due to work and school, and I have to be on the new city on t...
A. 3 January 2013: Yes, for Men.
No, for Women.
Generally speaking.... (read in full...)
I lied to my ex and lead him to believe that I wasn't a virgin. Should I tell him the truth now?
Q. Hi cupids, I was always ashamed of being a virgin and had promised never to tell whoever I lost it to. Everyone thinks am experienced. I lied to my current ex boyfriend about my virginity. I always acted like I was not a virgin and he noticed he ...
A. 3 January 2013: He's your ex. He doesn't need to know. He's not in your life anymore. Just move on.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex that I found out he's bipolar and I'm ok with it?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 1yr and even though he is gentle and sweet, he has a dark side that I could detect. I"ve even seen it a couple of times. I recently found out that he is bipolar and he's asked me not to contact him again. I found ...
A. 3 January 2013: In fact, if he's your EX don't do anything. Why do you want to do this for your ex anyway?... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex that I found out he's bipolar and I'm ok with it?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 1yr and even though he is gentle and sweet, he has a dark side that I could detect. I"ve even seen it a couple of times. I recently found out that he is bipolar and he's asked me not to contact him again. I found ...
A. 3 January 2013: No. That will scare him BIG TIME. You can still tell him you're always here for him and let him know you support/love him but don't tell him you know.
Let him tell you if he wants to.
I've been there with a girl that I suspect had it and I cou... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said there will be no more sex because I asked her about a man I seen her with!
Q. Hi,I'm kind of confused my girlfriend just sms ed me that she's is not going to open her legs for me. Due to the fact that I saw her with a man walking down the street so I stop gave her a lift to her home,to cut the story short at night before ...
A. 3 January 2013: She's out! Drop her and cut all contact. End of.
More likely something is going on. She accused you of many things to take the attention off of her.
Her loss.... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the breakup of a 10 year relationship?
Q. I'm in a dilemma. My girlfriend of 10 years has just broken up with me. I loved her with all my heart and soul. We were together sinceour high school years, she was 15 and, I was 18. We spent every chance we got with each other, like lovebirds. We ...
A. 3 January 2013: It won't help but time is a healer.
One thing I noticed is the transition from young love into adult love. Young love is spending all the time you have with someone like lovebirds as you put it. As you get older things change. It's not BOY GIRL... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is constantly rejecting me for sex and its making me feel ugly and not at all confident
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for quite some time. We have always had a wild and awesome sex life, and I can't say I've ever really been disappointed... until recently. My boyfriend has always had a very high sex drive for me, and I for him. La...
A. 3 January 2013: Despite what the stereo-type for men is, we don't want it all day every day. Intimacy is not just about sex. You say he shows affection, cuddles, kisses, etc. That's intimacy. Sex is part of it but it's not the be all and end all.
Just hold bac... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a second and last chance for love?
Q. I have been with my bf for 3 years and want to get some advise on what to do from here. I have no one to talk to and need to vent too. Our relationship has been a rocky on and off, I cheated, he cheated, I kicked him out, he got deported, cheated ...
A. 3 January 2013: Simply put, this isn't a relationship at all. There's no going back after this toing and froing and all the cheating. That's just the way it is.
You cannot trust each other, there's no loyalty, no integrity, no honesty, no respect. You just hur... (read in full...)
My girlfriend became distant and ignored me for the holidays claiming she needed to be with her family. Should I end things?
Q. my girlfriend has been very distant since the holiday season started we're in college, and we've been dating 2 years, she's 19, i'm 23, i started college a bit late but i'm doing great, got a 4.0 last sem... anyway we are in a lot of clas...
A. 3 January 2013: How about this take on it? She couldn't spare any time to see you over Christmas? Not even one evening? How long is the Christmas holidays there? Here in England we get a week (2 if you're at college).
I'm sure I can find one evening to meet wit... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 3 January 2013: If it was before you even met who cares? It doesn't change anything.
"I suggest giving him an ultimatum: either drop it entirely and stop harboring resentment, or threaten to leave him"
You can't give him an ultimatum because even if he says ... (read in full...)
He talked me into a long distance relationship, then dumped me saying he couldn't handle it. Now he's in another LDR!
Q. I met my ex boyfriend online, it was long distance (he was in New York and I was in California) so we started talking on the phone. He told me in our first conversation that he had moved to New York from Europe as a foreign medical graduate to get ...
A. 3 January 2013: This doesn't sound right at all. You're best off out of it. You really want a guy who talks about marriage and kids and where you want to live after a few weeks?
This guy is still a stranger.
How much can you know about someone in 3 wee... (read in full...)
Why does my husband never want to have sex?
Q. We were in love for 4-5 years before getting married and we use to have sex everyday,sometimes 2-3 times a day. Even if i did'ent want to,i would do it to satisfy him. But since we got married it just reduced and fell apart. He just does'ent ...
A. 3 January 2013: "I had to force him to make love to get our first child"
Ouch! And you didn't think there was going to be any problems further down the line? I would've ran a mile away If I were him or you for that matter.
"How should i get him to make love... (read in full...)
How would you deal with double standards in your relationship?
Q. My boyfriend has an issue with double standards in our relationship. He feels like he can do and say things to me but if I reciprocate the same behavior he has a fit! I'm getting a little tired of it, it's killing our relationship. How would you ...
A. 3 January 2013: "Best of all, he is aware of this double standard and isn't ashamed of it. MEN! Please tell us why this happens!"
Think I speak for most MEN in that we do not do this sulking business otherwise we would not be MEN but BOYS. Then again, I don't ha... (read in full...)
How would you deal with double standards in your relationship?
Q. My boyfriend has an issue with double standards in our relationship. He feels like he can do and say things to me but if I reciprocate the same behavior he has a fit! I'm getting a little tired of it, it's killing our relationship. How would you ...
A. 3 January 2013: "My boyfriend has an issue with double standards in our relationship. He feels like he can do and say things to me but if I reciprocate the same behavior he has a fit!"
What kind of behaviour are we talking about here?
"I'm getting a little... (read in full...)
She said she's not going to make love to me any more. Why did she react so angrily to my questions?
Q. Hi,I'm kind of confused my girlfriend just sms ed me that she's refusing to make love to me any more. I think this is due to the fact that I saw her with a man walking down the street, so I stop gave her a lift to her home. That evening befo...
A. 3 January 2013: Drop her. She's playing you. End of story.
That's not normal behaviour. The fact she uses sex as a weapon is also a BIG RED FLAG here. Can you imagine living or being married to someone like that? You're in for a life of misery.
Just walk awa... (read in full...)
PNOK? What does that mean? He's in the army and wants me to be his PNOK? Is he being genuine?
Q. I met an army man in the dating site and now he's and Afghanistan and now we're talking for more then 2-1/2 months I like him so much and love him, and this's my first time a date someone from the Army, and also he told me that will be returned...
A. 3 January 2013: Just tell him you're not comfortable being his PNOK and see what happens. Sounds a bit strange to me after just 2 months.... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 3 January 2013: She is being nice when she says that. Chill out and relax. She likes you. You've got a good woman there who doesn't want you to feel inadequate. She's satisfied so why can't you be?
Get over it,
This isn't a problem.... (read in full...)
It's legal in my country to marry a cousin. I seek your thoughts on my ideas about marrying please?
Q. I think the West may frown on this but I don’t care . I don’t live there anymore. In my country not being married by age 30 is weird n nor normal generally. I’ve been in relationships and they have failed in part because of immaturity and ...
A. 3 January 2013: Personally, I wouldn't think of any family as suitable no matter how distant. However, I'm from a different culture and that's just me. There are plenty of women out there without needing to date/marry family.... (read in full...)
How do I reject a co-worker but still stay friends?
Q. Hi everyone I've never been in this situation before and I can't work out how to handle it. So...a guy I work with is interested in me and has been probably for about 2 years. He spent the best part of the first year texting me often and flirti...
A. 3 January 2013: Have you been flirting back at all? It's hard to believe this guy has been interested in you for about 2 years, texting you and not got the message if you "casually brush them off".
Perhaps you're idea of casually brushing him off is leading ... (read in full...)
How do I reject a co-worker but still stay friends?
Q. Hi everyone I've never been in this situation before and I can't work out how to handle it. So...a guy I work with is interested in me and has been probably for about 2 years. He spent the best part of the first year texting me often and flirti...
A. 3 January 2013: Have you been flirting back at all? It's hard to believe this guy has been interested in you for about 2 years, texting you and not got the message if you "casually brush them off".
Perhaps you're idea of casually brushing him off is leading ... (read in full...)
She refused sex. Is this a red flag in our LDR? Or am I just being paranoid?
Q. I’m in a LDR with my girlfriend; we see each other every two months because we are in different countries. I’m currently visiting her, our sex life is good but I believe I have a higher sex drive than her. We don’t see each other that often so I b...
A. 3 January 2013: "Last night we were on the mood, then I told her that she had no idea much I love her and that I would do anything for her."
Urgh... Are you a Man or a Woman? Telling her all that doesn't make her want you more. In fact, it does the opposite... (read in full...)
How can I reply back to bait and flirt with this possible player?
Q. How do I flirt with this guy. G and I went on a great date where we had a lot of chemistry. Since then he has had relatives in town and he's overseas at the moment and has not been msging me often. We kinda said we both wanna go on a trip togeth...
A. 3 January 2013: Relax. Men don't plan things that far in advance. He's busy. He's given you a clue when he says "maybe mid-January".
When you say he has a reputation as a player what do you mean? He dates women? Or he uses women?
Is he a gentleman? Or a ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband not include me on the pregnancy email?
Q. I recently entered my second trimester in my pregnancy. My husband and I are both very excited about having a baby. He recently sent a mass email to his co-workers and our friends announcing our pregnancy, but he didn't include me on the email. I ...
A. 3 January 2013: I wouldn't worry. Probably just excited as the other two replies suggested. Don't read to much into it. I'd be worried if he didn't tell anyone.... (read in full...)
How do I maintain the balance in this relationship? Being a gentleman but not a doormat, sensitive guy but not a wimp?
Q. I am in a relationship with a 28yr old woman and the chemistry seems amazing.)dating nearly 2 months, yes we are exlclusive) This past weekend we discussed who pays for what on dates and she told me it is important for her that the guy pays, th...
A. 3 January 2013: Exclusive after only 2 months? That's quick! A gentleman will pay for dates but if your woman doesn't at least pick up the bill once in a while then there's something not right. I think if a woman really likes you she'd want to treat you too. The ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mum that I don't like my birthday presents or just keep them, throw them in the back of the wardrobe and never use them?
Q. i had a rough year last year. i lost my grandfather, i lost my horse, i became ill with anemia and just when i thought as a family we could wave goodbye to the bad times my dad was diagnosed with kidney cancer just before christmas although he is ...
A. 3 January 2013: Perhaps you could go and see what you'd prefer in the same shop and then just tell your Mum, "hey, I saw a beautiful jacket and shoes in [shop name]. WOuld you mind if I exchanged the [whatever present] for them? I really really love them!"... (read in full...)
What do you think this message means?
Q. What do you think this message means ?. It's from a guy that i know. He said "i want us to be close but you never reply much and yes we got on great and i ruined it as i didnt want a relationship and now your with your boyfriend i am just wanting ...
A. 3 January 2013: He's a wimp and he's saying "I want you to go out with me again".
Walk away. Say "no thanks, that would be disrespectful to my boyfriend".... (read in full...)
Why do I all of a sudden feel so alone and frustrated with the selfish world? I was always such a happy-go-lucky person before....
Q. Hi Readers/Agony Aunts/Uncles, Bit of a long one this but hopefully some of you will be able to relate to it... I know it's that happy time of year most what with Christmas and New Year. It can also be a very sad time of year for some. Unfor...
A. 10 January 2012: Thanks for the quick reply! Thinking about it, to a certain extent you are right. I have noticed I have been quieter than usual and although when I bump into people I suppose you could say I put on a brave face when I am on my own I notice I'm not ... (read in full...)
Can women tell when men have erections, by looking?
Q. I was reading the question about the guy who wondered if his girlfriend felt his erection when she brushed up against it while cuddling. It made me think of something even more base, which is: Can women tell when men have erections by lo...
A. 31 May 2011: If you get one while sitting at your desk at work I'd do the same and simply not get up until it's subsided.
However, there is very little for me to get that excited about in the office. Spreadsheets just don't do it for me.
I'm not sure ... (read in full...)
Why isn't there any English dating sites?
Q. There seems to be every dating site for everyone else: muslim, latinos, asians, but none for English. Why is this? My family originates from England and my father was born there. My dads side is still very English in their ways. I like dating E...
A. 31 May 2011: can you not just use an Australian site and just mention you prefer us fine Englishmen?... (read in full...)
Can an abusive person change their ways?
Q. I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have 2 young children. He is an abusive person - physically, mentally, emotionally. I must have known this for years but have chosen to ignore it but today, I am accepting that I am an abused wife. I ...
A. 31 May 2011: In most cases no, they don't change. However, if someone wants to change for themselves then yes. They have to want to change you cannot make them.... (read in full...)
He told me he's missing my company. What does that mean?
Q. Hey, what does it mean if a guy says "I'm missing your company"? My bf of 7 months has been away on a stag weekend (his friend is the stag) for 2 days now, and he sent me a text to say goodnight and that he is missing my company...what does that ...
A. 31 May 2011: No idea. I think you're reading to much into this. I think he's missing you, talking to you, cuddles, etc. There's only so much macho BS we can put up with from our mates and on a stag do it's 10x worse :)
Just say "I miss you too x" and leave it... (read in full...)
My girlfriend still wants more after I finish. What do I do?
Q. my girlfriend has an extremely high sex drive, and once i 'finish' she still wants more. what do i do?...
A. 31 May 2011: Jeez by the time I'm finished I automatically assume "The Cuddle" position and fall asleep while she wants to talk all night :)
Maybe after next time ask her "what what you like me to do for you now?"
Or why not turn it into a game where you w... (read in full...)
What are the defining qualities that you look for in a man, from initial attraction to wanting to develop a relationship with someone?
Q. Question to the women out there on dear cupid... What are the defining qualities that you look for in a man, from initial attraction to wanting to develop a relationship with someone? I only ask this for a little advice as I struggle quit...
A. 31 May 2011: This is the worst thing to do... Forget about what Women want. Be yourself as you are and go for what you want in a woman. If/when one likes you it'll be for you and the person you are... Not some person you've moulded yourself into to attract ... (read in full...)
My wife admitted to cheating, but she can't bring herself to end it with them!
Q. My wife and I had a loving marriage 8 years back. I love her very much. She is a very sexy lady and she has had a large number of admirers because of this. Now she is interested in them and sleeping with them when I am not around. When I caught her, ...
A. 31 May 2011: Get rid of her. Nothing more to say on the matter. Would it make any difference if she told you tomorrow "Ok, I won't have sex with anyone else other than you?"
You would still trust her?
Nope.
Goodbye sexy lady with lots of admirers... Not ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my long term boyfriend, but I don't feel guilty at all!
Q. well... i've been in a relationship for almost 5 years, and so far, it's been ok... Lately we've been fighting a lot, mostly beacuse, even though we've been together for a really long time, he doesn't trust me. Sometimes it seems like he's the on...
A. 31 May 2011: He was right not to trust you then wasn't he? What you're saying is you did this out of spite.
If things aren't working out with your bf and want to leave him then end it. If you're tired of being called a cheater what is there to gain from che... (read in full...)
How can I cut ties with this amazing man?
Q. Hi guys, hope you are all well. I need advice on best way to cut ties from a guy. As I'm not liking the person I'm becoming. Ok, so I'm 30 and I met guy who's 27, about 3 months ago. We met in a bar. I'd just moved back to the big city and moved to ...
A. 31 May 2011: Hmmmmm... Doesn't sound so amazing to be honest. Sounds like an idiot (who is doing very well for himself but an idiot nonetheless).
My question to you is why do you waste your time with him?
Fair enough he has been honest from the outset and p... (read in full...)
Why can't I find a girl?
Q. I'm a 27 year-old guy, and I'm single. My problem is that I feel really like no girls ever really feel attracted to me, and because of this I'm normally on my own and feel I'll likely see my days out alone. I don't think I'm that awful to look at...
A. 31 May 2011: Ask myself the same question sometimes.
I agree you have to be attracted to each on an intellectual level too to a certain extent. I mean... If you are quite a deep thinker I don't think a girl that talks about he hair, shoes and make-up all the ... (read in full...)
Do girls dislike men who have bald/shaven heads?
Q. I am 29 years old bald man. I lost my hair 8 years ago due to pimples on my head. Though the pimples have gone but the damage has been done. So to cover my baldness, I have been shaving my head for the last 6 years which gives me decent look. I had ...
A. 31 May 2011: This is a silly question... Some girls love men with very short hair. Some prefer guys with longer hair... Some prefer guys with hairy faces... Hell, I bet some girls love men with hairy backs. Each to their own.
It's nothing to do with race... ... (read in full...)
Is he just trying to keep in my good books?
Q. Hey everyone, ive been talking to this guy since september last year and we have never met, we met on the site plenty of fish. Anyway ive always wanted to meet him but hes always busy saying working or hes a big football fan so going to football all ...
A. 31 May 2011: Sounds to me like he really is nervous about meeting you. I haven't met anyone online before but I imagine its strange to have an attraction to someone you haven't met.
Face-to-face is a different story.
I wouldn't feel guilty about not believ... (read in full...)
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