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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 28 January 2010: Hi lost-girl and Parimickey,
I'm so glad you found my article useful. It is very difficult at this time of year (Christmas and New Year) and people (myself included) always seem to think the end of a relationship is the end of the World as they ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 3 November 2008: Thanks for your comments Greg. Again I'm glad almost a year on this article is still being read and helps people. I only wish I started my own website and put it on there :)
In your situation it must be hard just being friends and the fact you... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 6 October 2008: I'm glad people still find my article useful... You know it's amazing how much your life can change. A year on from all that and I'm so much happier and thinking about the future... I've set up a business which is going well, I'm hoping to move into ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hi anonymous, messy-bess and carrie-anne,
I'm glad you like dmy article. TO be honest I haven't been on here much recently since I've had far too much going on in my life.
Started a new job and working hard. When I look back at my previous post... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hi anonymous, messy-bess and carrie-anne,
I'm glad you like dmy article. TO be honest I haven't been on here much recently since I've had far too much going on in my life.
Started a new job and working hard. When I look back at my previous post... (read in full...)
Am I making a mistake leaveing my abusive girlfriend??
Q. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, 6 months of that we have been living together. I met her when I arrived in Australia and quickly became good friends. After two months of dating I was offered a good job in a different state wh...
A. 3 March 2008: "She made a habit of calling people all the time and talking loud so I could here, she talked about what she had been up to, laughing and joking as if nothing had happened. I hated every second of it. Everything she said, did was all to hurt me and ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 27 February 2008: Hi Angi,
It's hard I know but look at it this way... If he couldn't open up to you and prefers to run from his problems rather than work through them perhaps you're better off without him?
I had a smiliar situation where I was open to talk abo... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi diesel78,
Thanks for your comments :) In relation to your situation it sounds very tricky. I think there's a lot for you to really think about and more questions you need to ask yourself before you can really make up your mind as to what to ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 11 February 2008: Hi Scythe, I'm glad this article was of some use to you :) It certainly has helped me no end and I'm still continuing with the whole treat myself thing now.
It's the simple/small things in life that can really make a difference sometime... (read in full...)
She asked me if I found her friend attractive, I said yes, now she's mad, whats the go?
Q. My Girlfriend asked me if I was attracted to one of her friends, and I never want to lie to her so I told her the truth, that I thought her friend was attractive, but I don't want to be with her friend, I only want to be with my girlfriend and I ...
A. 6 February 2008: "You fell for the classic 'Is my friend good looking'... What you were supposed to answer was 'She's nothing compared to you baby'.
Hit the nail on the head there! Questions like do you think I'm fat? and does my bum look big in this? are a bit of... (read in full...)
How do I handle an Old Man being after me?
Q. My Friend's Grandad Likes Me I Found Out Because He Text Me Telling Me . I Dont No What To Do ?? I've Avoided Him Ever Since He Stopped Me On The Road Too. Please Help Me ...
A. 5 February 2008: If I were you I'd tell my Mum/Dad and show them the text message/s and explain how uncomfortable you are with this. They won't balme you.
Does your friend know about this?... (read in full...)
I slept with my friend who has a boyfriend and I feel crappy.
Q. I slept with my friend who has a boyfriend. I'm so torn up. I feel very guilty, but at the same time I wanted it to happen. I like this girl a lot. But we live in opposite sides of the country (right now). She basically told me to pretend like ...
A. 5 February 2008: "Thanks anon for the advise. The only thing is, I don't know if she wants this as much as I do. It sure seemed that way when we were in bed together, just with some of the things she was saying. But I don't know. We were both drunk at the time (of ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend addicted to World of Warcraft!!!
Q. hi all, My boyfriend and I have had a pretty good relationship for the last two years, and we both lead independent seperate lives even though we live together (I mean, we each have our own friends/jobs/social lives). He has always been really i...
A. 5 February 2008: Ok, I agree with some of the comments here about the online gaming thing being his fun and he'd rather do that than sit on the sofa watching crappy TV. I can appreciate that. However, I'd rather spend time with that special someone cuddling on the ... (read in full...)
She broke up with her man--should I make my move?
Q. dear cupid y'day i posted a link about a girl i like. and today i have found out that the girl has broken up with her man, and i am wondering is it the right time to make a move on her or should i wait, because just like me she has been through ...
A. 5 February 2008: Well if they've only recently broken up I'd say be there as a friend and give her some time. You wouldn't want to be a rebound now would you?
She'll let you know if she has feelings for you and then you can make your move. A little patience... (read in full...)
Help!!! What should I do???
Q. Me and this girl have been dating for 3 weeks and I really like her. We've made out but then her friend said I should make a move. What should I do? (She suggested I finger her while we are making out) help please...
A. 5 February 2008: In my experience I wouldn't push it if I were you... she'll let you know when she's ready. It's only been 3 weeks! Be patient, spend time together, get to know each other, and "make out" as you put it.
Trust me... She will let you kow when she... (read in full...)
I slept with my friend who has a boyfriend and I feel crappy.
Q. I slept with my friend who has a boyfriend. I'm so torn up. I feel very guilty, but at the same time I wanted it to happen. I like this girl a lot. But we live in opposite sides of the country (right now). She basically told me to pretend like ...
A. 5 February 2008: Well some people say all's fair in love and war and go for it. However, I'm not of that opinion and believe that, ok, you are quite rightly hurting about this.
I think we've all been there, stuck in the "friend zone" with a girl you fancy who seem... (read in full...)
Is it my fault, did I scare him off with the letter.
Q. Hi, before my boyfriend split with me we had been quite distant for a few weeks, thinks it was because it was hanging over our heads that he was going away. I wrote him a letter saying that I felt distant from him because I didn't know where he saw ...
A. 5 February 2008: No! Look, you had things you needed to tell him and you did. I don't see anything wrong with what you said in your letter and it certainly wouldn't scare most people off.
However, it's a shame you 2 couldn't talk to each other about this stuff bu... (read in full...)
What to do on the first date
Q. Hello, got a quick question, theres a girl who im going to make a go with, we get on well, her 2 best mates are my 2 best mates girls, and we both like each other, so everything is set. Only thing is, im in a bit of a rut, i want to ask her out on ...
A. 5 February 2008: You are so right. Cinema is possibly the worst possible first date ever since you cannot get to know each other. Normally I'd suggest meeting for a drink, or lunch since a first date should be kept fairly light.
You might not like each other, s... (read in full...)
He abuses me emotionally, But I can't leave him!
Q. Please help me. I'm desperate. I am so in love with my bf, I mean I have never been in love like I am now, but things have happened, I should leave him. Things have turned so nasty between us, but I am so in love, I can't actually tell the diff...
A. 31 January 2008: "I am prepared to feel unhappy for the rest of my life to be be with him"
I think you've got self esteem issues and no wonder considering the behaviour of your bf. Why don't YOU want to be happy? Don't you think you DESERVE to be happy? I bet you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me then jumped into another girls arms, I can't stop peeking at his emails, am I going mad?
Q. If anyone could offer any advice I would really, really appreciate it...I think I am going mad and I don't know what to do. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me via email 3 months ago...we're both doing gap years and he's decided he wants...
A. 31 January 2008: I can relate to your story completely as I went through something simialr myself 3 months ago now.
Take a look at this article:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Hope you find it helpful :)... (read in full...)
Am I making a mistake leaveing my abusive girlfriend??
Q. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, 6 months of that we have been living together. I met her when I arrived in Australia and quickly became good friends. After two months of dating I was offered a good job in a different state wh...
A. 29 January 2008: Be strong... Likely it will go back to the way it was. I must've broke up with my EX about 6 times and always went back for more... Last time was the last - no games, no messing.
Your choice at the end of the day though and I wish you the best of ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi KayKay,
I was with my EX... lol... (read in full...)
Am I making a mistake leaveing my abusive girlfriend??
Q. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, 6 months of that we have been living together. I met her when I arrived in Australia and quickly became good friends. After two months of dating I was offered a good job in a different state wh...
A. 29 January 2008: Good for you Mr Confused.
I was in a similar situation and broke up with my EX who sounds very similar to what you went through.
Here are some tips as to what helped me through the tough time after I left her:
http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)
My wife added an ex as a friend on myspace and I think this is very wrong...should I just delete him or confront her first??
Q. My wife and I are married for a little over 4 years. We were dating/engaged for about 3 years before that. So we have a lot of history and a great marriage. Question is, my wife recently set up a myspace account (with my help, she is a little c...
A. 25 January 2008: I wouldn't make an issue out of it and go jumping to conclusions. I agree with Annalisa for the record :)... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex cheating??
Q. Is cyber sex cheating? I have a bf but i ended up having cyber sex just once with one of my friends i met online. Should i tell my bf? My bf and i have been together for 2 months now, we havent told eachother we loved eachother, so it hasent g...
A. 25 January 2008: Personally I think it is. What's the difference between doing that and flirting extremely outrageously in real life? If my girlfriend started talking dirty to some other guy I wouldn't be happy at all and drop quicker than... errr... well quick :)... (read in full...)
She said she'd be jealous if I found a partner. I am not her type, however. What can I do?
Q. hi. my friend is 55, i'm 42. she lives in glasgow and me in stoke on trent. we met as friends, developed lots of strengths etc.from the first meeting we both didnt fancy each other but got on very well.this was in october 2007. we spoke and both ...
A. 25 January 2008: Look, you've made your feelings known to her. I say get out and meet women and take things slow. You cannot be expected to wait for her... It's not fair on you.
There could be any number of reasons why she's being like this:
She could be ... (read in full...)
Is it a myth that men move on quicker than women??
Q. Is it true ,that men only leaving the marriage, when he has someone else already in place? AND woman will leave ,even if there is no lover on side ,because they are more independent than man? I heard ,when the woman dies , no man stays alone ma...
A. 25 January 2008: "The one thing that you said that is just TOTALLY true is that a man won't leave a marriage until he has a backup whereas women will leave even if there is no lover on the side"
I have to say I DO NOT AGREE WITH THIS. Speaking as a man I wouldn't... (read in full...)
Is it a myth that men move on quicker than women??
Q. Is it true ,that men only leaving the marriage, when he has someone else already in place? AND woman will leave ,even if there is no lover on side ,because they are more independent than man? I heard ,when the woman dies , no man stays alone ma...
A. 25 January 2008: I don't think this is a man or woman thing. This is really down to the individuals concerned. Some people just cannot be on their own and jump straight into another relationship, sometimes a whole string of relationships one after the other, some ... (read in full...)
Am I making a mistake leaveing my abusive girlfriend??
Q. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, 6 months of that we have been living together. I met her when I arrived in Australia and quickly became good friends. After two months of dating I was offered a good job in a different state wh...
A. 25 January 2008: I agree you need to stand your ground sometimes and not let her manipulate you. Spending your life walking around on eggshells in order to avoid an argument is NOT the solution and yes, I agree with other replies here, it'll only get worse.
Her b... (read in full...)
How will I know if she is cheating on me?
Q. Hi guys... Im going through the phase of i think my Girlfriend is cheating on me im not so sure i need your thoughts please!!! and its tricky! I live in derby and she lives in tamworth about 30 mins apart im 19 and shes 17 we met at a party an...
A. 25 January 2008: Hmmmm... it is tricky. When you say "she texts behind my back and when i ask her who shes texting she says her mum".
Why not ask what her mum said? I don't understand the need to text behind your back if it is her mum. It does sound a bit fishy to... (read in full...)
Do guys compare their girlfriends to the girls in porn?
Q. do guys compare their girlfriends to the girls in porn? I was just wondering because my boyfriend watches porn all the time and lately I have had a hard time in bed because I am worried that I am not attractive enough because he'll be thinking...
A. 25 January 2008: I agree with the ladies here.
Nothing beats the real thing and with that special emotional connection, feelings of love and affection, porn simply doesn't even compare to a "real" woman, especially one you love/care about.
At the end of the d... (read in full...)
He isn't working. Am I being selfish wondering is there any future for us?
Q. hi all just wanted your advice see ive been dating this guy for 4 months and since we started to go out he hasnt had a job , i mean hes tried going to job center and trying all sorts of places but its because he didnt get any qualifications i...
A. 25 January 2008: I don't think you're being selfish at all. Thing is the fact he left school without any qualifications doesn't mean he can't get a job. He can start small and build from there.
I left school after doing A-levels and got an office job where I ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant while being on top during sex?
Q. can you get pregnant while being on top during sex?...
A. 25 January 2008: If you don't use "protection" then of course. Sex is sex.... (read in full...)
Am I Being Too Picky? What sacrifices do other women make for their man?
Q. I am wondering if I expect too much from my romantic relationships? I realize there are no "perfect" men out there, but it seems like every one of them disappoints me in some very important areas and I'm starting to wonder if I just need to lower my ...
A. 24 January 2008: I can relate to this. I have had a number of relationships, most short and a couple of long ones, which haven't worked out. It is a bit a mine field but I think the key is to know exactly what it is you want and if you cannot find it you need to a... (read in full...)
How can I stop being more selfish before I lose the man I love??
Q. I really cant understand why my boyfriend puts up with me. I am 20 and we have been together for 4years. Our relationship has always been really good except we split up for 3months 2years ago because he was joining the army, I didnt feel that it ...
A. 24 January 2008: I agree with the other replies here so I won't go into that except to say, you are aware of it so stop it... Yes, you are "lucky" he's put up with it so far but push it too much and for too long and he will leave... Everyone has their "breaking ... (read in full...)
What do we do about visitation for the children now we are splitting?
Q. I have come to end of my relationship of ten years.I belive its OVER!! After ten years,and 3 kids he recently TOLD me we have no future together.I have put up with his manic depression,his affair,his mental,verbal and physical abuse.Him twisting ...
A. 24 January 2008: Unfortuantely, I can't really help you with that question but I just wanted to say good for you and well done for having the guts to leave him!
Sounds like hell.
BE STRONG and let us know how you get on :)... (read in full...)
Confused and wworried after a break up. Please advise.
Q. My boyfriend and i been togehter for about a year and a half and last week on tuesday he broke up with me. While i was at work he packed all his things and left the apartment we were both renting. He called me every night for that week and ...
A. 24 January 2008: It does take two to make things work. At the moment it sounds like you're doing all the work and perhaps compromising too much? What is he actually doing?
I ended my last relationship since I seemed to put in the effort and got nothing much in ... (read in full...)
In a relationship for two years, still happy with him... But there's somebody else. I don't know which one I want. How can I decide?
Q. I'm in a 2 year relationship with a lovely guy. He's caring and we have a lot in common in terms of our principles,and I would have always said that we loved each other and saw our future together. We have complete trust which I know is really ...
A. 24 January 2008: "The fact that you are even thinking about another guy, to my mind means you are not happy with the one you are with now"
... Or you are both going through a bit of a rough patch. Perhaps you're after the initial excitement you get in the beginnin... (read in full...)
I told him how I feel and he said he didn't want a relationship! But now, he's started dating my best friend. Help!
Q. Hello, If you can give me some advice that would be great. I'm not sure if this plan will work for my situation but I have been putting it to use. Let me briefly summarize my story- it's rather complicated! So to begin with about 2 years ago I...
A. 23 January 2008: I'm not saying this is the case but sometimes people say they're not looking for a relationship to let you down gently. It's not you it's me.
Ok, you then went after him cos you wanted to be with him but perhaps he just didn't have the heart to... (read in full...)
I hate hearing Mum and her new man, have sex. Should I talk to her?
Q. My mum just divorced and found a new man. He often comes to our place and stays late at night. I could hear them making love while I am asleep in my bed room. I really don't like the noise but dont know what to do. Should I talk to my mum? ...
A. 23 January 2008: I agree with others here. However, the thought of my Mum and Dad having sex makes me cringe... They don't do that... They're my Mum and Dad.
Let alone hearing it!... (read in full...)
How is it possible to shut all feelings off almost overnight?
Q. i split up with a girl after 2 years and the day i moved my stuff out a freind from 20 years ago called and we thought it would be fun to hang , well we fell in love, i think, anyway all wa great for 9 or 10 months and then i realized i was not ...
A. 23 January 2008: Relationships grow and change each time you move up a gear. You can't expect ANY relationship to maintain those initial feelings of anticipation, nervousness, excitement and whatever else forever.
At first, you might get funny feelings in your sto... (read in full...)
He lied to me--should I forgive him?
Q. should i forgive my bf. for ten months he lied to me.....he told me this weekend that he's still a v im proud of the fact that he's still one just like me but the fact that he lied to me kills me. it came out like this: must i tell you the ...
A. 23 January 2008: I think you're over-reacting here. Sounds to me lilke he was embarrassed about admitted it and nervous about it. It takes time to get so close to someone you can open up and tell them your secret/s.
Don't worry about it. He told you the truth an... (read in full...)
What qualities do guys respect in their girlfriends?
Q. Hi aunts :) I was wondering about what qualities a guy respects in his girlfriend? I read another user post this thought on DearCupid: "He was proud to show me off to his family and more so did those little gestures that means so much to us...
A. 22 January 2008: Loving, caring, affectionate, good sense of humour, confident, trustworthy, faithful, and can stand up for herself.
In terms of gestures... Can't beat cuddles, holding hands and kisses.
The same things most girls want from their man I'd im... (read in full...)
I am controlling...how do I stop being this way
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 14 months now. We've never really had problems, but he's good looking, and a lot of girls fancy him. He's just generally a friendly guy, and that's why I love him, but I'm afraid it comes across as ...
A. 22 January 2008: You need to stop this. I went through this with my EX and that's one of the reasons she's now my EX.
He's with YOU right? YOU know he won't do anything so why worry? So what if girls think he's flirting. He's with YOU and if you trust him this sho... (read in full...)
I need help in seeing the reality of my own pain! What the most painful thing that has happened in your lives?
Q. What are the most painful things happened to you,,in your lifetime so far? I'm curious, what are the most hurtful things, what happened t others, and how they deal with it, as I feel, my life is full of pain, and everybody else seem to have smooth ...
A. 22 January 2008: Haha ok here we go...
1) When I was with my first girlfriend my Mum and Dad divorced and I had to decide who I was going to live with, then the house was sold and I moved in with my Dad literally a week before my very important school exams (w... (read in full...)
Should I dump him and start over or just accept this as I'm not getting any younger?
Q. Hey, my relationship with my bf is not going the way I wanted things, but I am afraid to start again with another person and to start from "0" again. At the same time, I feel like I don't have much time left in terms of forming a family. I am 30 ...
A. 22 January 2008: Ok... I'm going to say it... Try that hideous horrible thing called DATING... The very thought of it switches me off to be honest but I'm 29 and thinking the only way to meet someone special is to get out there, have fun, go into it thinking you're ... (read in full...)
He was abusive so I finally broke up with him! Would he have changed?
Q. I never flat out told my ex that I was going to break up with him if he kept on being abusive. But, after trying to break up with him many times I finally did. Throughout our relationship and even after I told him that it was because he was ...
A. 22 January 2008: P.p.s. "Wold he have changed?"
I very much doubt it. SOunds like there are a lot of issues there. The only way there's even the slightest chance he'll change is by realising it himself.
The very fact he is in denial about his behaviour and tu... (read in full...)
He was abusive so I finally broke up with him! Would he have changed?
Q. I never flat out told my ex that I was going to break up with him if he kept on being abusive. But, after trying to break up with him many times I finally did. Throughout our relationship and even after I told him that it was because he was ...
A. 22 January 2008: "Should I have given him ultimatums throughout the relationship saying that if he didn't stop being abusive I would leave?"
Of course. You need to stand up for yourself and let him know that you're not prepared to put up with it. There's 2 things... (read in full...)
Is there such thing as internet love?
Q. Is there such thing as "internet love"? I've registered for a website sort of like myspace just for fun however, I didn't know I would come across someone I thought I'd find interesting. Sometime, in the beginning of November of 2007, he sent...
A. 22 January 2008: Of course you can find love over the internet. However, I think you'd need to actually meet this guy in person for it to be a proper relationship.
Many people have initially met over the internet and spoken to one another over the phone only to ... (read in full...)
What do you do when you cheat on the boy you love so much? How do you fix that?
Q. What do you do when you cheat on the boy you love so much? How do you fix that? How do you show him that you won't ever do it again and that you don't want to lose him? Help anyone? Please don't bash me for what I did, but just know that I am so ...
A. 22 January 2008: Well I think you need to show him that you're sorry and what a HUGE HUGE mistake it was and you'd NEVER EVER do it again.
You need to be completely open and honest about everything - it will take time for him to be able to trust you again though..... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 21 January 2008: Thanks for your comments. They're much appreciated and makes me feel it was worthwhile writing it :)
Best of luck!... (read in full...)
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