I don't know if I am being paranoid, or if there is a problem!
Q. I am currently seeing a married man who had separated from the wife before we met. He told me the truth from the start and we had a beautiful friendship. My gut at the time told me to give him a chance, after all, he was the sweetest guy I had met ...
A. 12 December 2009: My dear, its very obvious that he is cheating on you... I don't even know why you stayed with him after he abandoned you at the airport. He just doesn't know how to tell you he wants to break up so he is doing shit to piss you off. This is my ... (read in full...)
A guy I dated between his prison sentences wants to go out with me again, but I don't know if I should or not
Q. I dated a guy for several months and he broke up with me cause he went to prison and then we dated again after he got out but he went back for 2 years and then we where friends for a while but he went back again. He wonts to go back out wit...
A. 12 December 2009: I know at your age you are still convinced its all about love... Nuh uh. Love is nice only for the beginning of a relationship but as years go by, other important things have to be considered... Does he have a respectable career? Can he provide for ... (read in full...)
I am living the American Dream, so why am I not happy?
Q. My husband and I have been together for six years, since we were twenty-three; married for two years. I'm currently pregnant with our first child, a son. Both my husband and I grew up decently. The most "worse-off" either of us have ever been w...
A. 12 December 2009: As a mother myself, I would say it is largely hormonal... You could be starting to gradually go into labour and certain hormones kick in to trigger it. I would not be surprised if you got checked and you have started dilating slightly.
I would also... (read in full...)
How do you get tested for bacterial vaginosis?
Q. Ok well im new to this so i hope you can help me, i think i have a STI Bacterial Vaginosis so yh im just wondrin dose any one no how the test is done because i dont want any1 lookin at me ;/ Hope you can help Thank you...
A. 12 December 2009: just go to a women's clinic where you can be attended to by a female. All females including that doctor/nurse have experienced it. You can also ask to swab yourself.... (read in full...)
Help!!! Why did she reject me?
Q. hello guys girl 1 (girl I like) umm... I told this girl i like her, and she was like wow and then 2 weeks later i asked her who she likes and she said she likes nobody.. after 4 weeks, my friend (girl)came up to me and told me that she knows th...
A. 12 December 2009: she told people that you like her so that she can boast about it to others. She rejected you because she just does not feel the same way. Not every woman you pursue is going to like you too. She has said no, so just move on. Girls often do not ... (read in full...)
How can I make him hate her and love me instead???
Q. i am sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend that he cannot sleep with because of her religion. Anyways i am confused. people have told me that he is playing me and i think he is. he has said some really hurtful things to me like he loves her but ...
A. 12 December 2009: If you were younger I'd be more sympathetic; but in this case, there is no other way but to tell you straight: he is using you as nothing more than his dustbin; a stepping stone to build his ego. A slag basically. He will never like you ... (read in full...)
1 year anniversary panic!!
Q. hello my boyfriend and i have almost made it to our 1 year anniversary and i was stressing myself over what to get him this month! what should i wear and how do i wish him ive already made a scrap book, given him a teddy bear , chocolates and sw...
A. 12 December 2009: You are setting yourself up for a huge disappointing fall. I know you are excited but you are acting too eager. He is the one who should be losing sleep over what to get you. Trust me, guys end up cooling off girls who are in their face too much. ... (read in full...)
Where can you turn with almost impossible problems?
Q. I know it is hard to describe ,what I'm trying to tell. I'm not even hoping for full understanding. But ,I'm hoping someone maybe familiar with such an issue. My problem is ,that my life has sooo much horrible things in it, that even the therapi...
A. 11 December 2009: Why don't you try telling us the details and we will try to understand... You can post anonymously here and we have heard some terrible things. Just this week we have dealt with a 13 year old being raped, a woman finding out she is married to a ... (read in full...)
Can I believe that she has stopped having affairs?
Q. Hi everyone, I am hoping someone out their will help me with my dilema. I am a middle age man and has been in relationship with a very young lady half of my age, we have been together for 9 years and blessed with one child, 5 years ago I travel ...
A. 11 December 2009: I think she may feel she was married young and did not "have her fun". Are you sure she married you for love? Not for money or security. You don't have many options at this point, I if I were you, I would make her sign a postnuptial ... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: I was also cheated on with an ogre. My ex and I are now on good terms and he has now told me it was absolutely nothing I did. It was opportunity, pure and simple. She came onto him, he was not used to women coming onto him so in his words "I saw an ... (read in full...)
My husband abused my daughter, she won't prosecute! Can I?
Q. SORRY FOR JUMPING IN ON YOUR TOPIC BUT i need advice as hitting my head on brick walls and getting no further i have a 24 year old married daughter who has just spoken up after 13 years of child abuse from her step father she never ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: Your daughter is going through what therapists call Stockholm Syndrome. This is when the victim now feels sorry for her perpetrator and refuses to cooperate with law enforcement. She feels that maybe because she "willingly" participated in the sex ... (read in full...)
Will my crossdressing tendency be inherited by my children?
Q. i am mtf married crossdresser ,my wife is supportive to me, after evening i turnr myself in fem mode and my wife is in man,we enjoy fully in bed too,now my wife is pregnent, Is my crossdressing tendency will go to my kids?...
A. 10 December 2009: Firstly good for you being with an understanding partner who allows you this indulgence. It is unlikely that cross-dressing is an inherited behaviour.... This is a fetish that is most likely your own unique thing. Most fetishes are socializ... (read in full...)
Will my crossdressing tendency be inherited by my children?
Q. i am mtf married crossdresser ,my wife is supportive to me, after evening i turnr myself in fem mode and my wife is in man,we enjoy fully in bed too,now my wife is pregnent, Is my crossdressing tendency will go to my kids?...
A. 10 December 2009: Firstly good for you being with an understanding partner who allows you this indulgence.
It is unlikely that cross-dressing is an inherited behaviour.... This is a fetish that is most likely your own unique thing. Most fetishes are socialized not ... (read in full...)
What are your opinions about sex play between siblings?
Q. From about age 9 until I was 15 my sister (13 months older) and I would have sex play. It started off as just playing doctor and looking at each other, but progressed as we got older. We never had intercourse, but there were several instance...
A. 10 December 2009: well, how would you feel if your own children were to engage in sex play? Would you find it normal? Although its fairly common, it is unacceptable because of the kinship relationship. This shows a dysfunctional home where boundaries have not been ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my future father in law?
Q. Hey. This is a short question but in order for me to get good answers, I think you need to hear all aspects of the problem. I live with my fiance and our daughter, who is a year and a half. We've been engaged for a year but next month is my 21st...
A. 10 December 2009: As a person who faced rejection from my in laws when I first got married, here is my advice: be gracious to them. This is for the sake of your partner who you love. As they get to know you over time they will realize what a mistake they made and ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my future father in law?
Q. Hey. This is a short question but in order for me to get good answers, I think you need to hear all aspects of the problem. I live with my fiance and our daughter, who is a year and a half. We've been engaged for a year but next month is my 21st...
A. 10 December 2009: As a person who faced rejection from my in laws when I first got married, here is my advice: be gracious to them. This is for the sake of your partner who you love. As they get to know you over time they will realize what a mistake they made and ... (read in full...)
How could you be sure of your sexuality if you never had any indication towards the same sex before an online encounter?
Q. I am confused and upset. I had a chat a while back that has really been ingrained in my head. I had a chat with another guy. At first I thought the guy was joking so I joked around back being a smart a$$, but became aroused and the rest is h...
A. 10 December 2009: google "the Kinsey scale" which details the varying degrees of human sexuality. You are obviously attracted to guys to some extent, but maybe you are in the majority of people who will fantasize about it but never actually go through with it. You ... (read in full...)
No period for 2 months--am I pregnant?
Q. Well, last October me and my boyfriend had sex. I am getting a little bit worried that I may be pregnant. I havent had my period for two whole stinkin months!!! Could i be pregnant? I'm 14 and I can barely take care of myself. Help please?...
A. 10 December 2009: go to the drug store and buy a pregnancy test!!! Or go to the outpatient room at the hospital for free test and counselling. They will tell you what options are available. ... (read in full...)
Some advice needed for losing my virginity
Q. Ok, I'm looking for some advice for first-time sex. I'm 25 and engaged, and I'm a virgin, and plan to be until my wedding night. Same for my finace. Now, we both know that sex will hurt me at first, though I'm not overly worried because I trust hi...
A. 10 December 2009: you have already received good advice, I just wanted to congratulate you on your self-control in this porno age where we have 13 year old girls posting here about how they are tired of being virgins; or worse: they want sex tips to enhance what they ... (read in full...)
I want her back, but for what?
Q. Hi i originally posted here on the 11th july, asking advice as to whether my wife was having an affair. Well 5 months on i have the truth. My wife had an affair for about 6 weeks, she went to hotels for chat and sex and sex in this guys flat above ...
A. 10 December 2009: But if you also had an affair, then you cancel each other out. Noone can point a finger at the other. She has serious issues but if the only problem you have with her is the affair then you can work it out. If you had also not had an affair then ... (read in full...)
Is it odd that he is going to his ex-wife's house for Christmas when they supposedly hate each other?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I've posted on her before and got some really helpful advice so I'm back for more! I split up with my partner about 6 months ago (after 7 years together). He walked out after us having many problems and I was upset...
A. 10 December 2009: I think its decent enough for him to go spend Christmas with his ex. My ex husband has dinner with me and the kids 5 times a week; we have no chemistry between us but our bond is through our kids. We have a good time and lots of laughs but its over ... (read in full...)
I just cant talk to my boss, waht can I do?
Q. sorry for the length..need to explain... Im a quieter person at work, I work in a hospital environment. I have no enemies and get along with most of my colleagues, I dont socialise with them as they are all clicky and most are freinds (typ...
A. 10 December 2009: It takes time to build a relationship with someone. Since you are the one concerned, try saying a friendly hi to her regularly for a month or so. After that start asking about how important things in her life are going eg. How is your son doing? ... (read in full...)
How do I make her feel wanted but not needed?
Q. My wife has been feeling neglected for the last 6 months! She feels needed not wanted! We both love each other very much! I have been smothering her with my love which has caused her to feel NEEDED not wanted! A guy at her work made her feel the way ...
A. 10 December 2009: Needed is only complimenting her on what she DOES for you: eg. You cook so well, you keep the house so neat, what would I do without you etc. Wanted is complimenting her on who she IS: eg. You are so sexy, you look hot darling, etc. Sexually focus ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and I am so numb
Q. Its funny how in a split second everything you knew and loved can just be stripped away from you. I heard a saying the other day and it stayed with me..."what does it mean to regret when you have no other choice." This has really struck a chord with ...
A. 10 December 2009: For me, the first week I stayed in my bed and cried constantly; it took 6 months of crying several times a day; sometimes howling so loud that I had to lock myself away. After that, that's when I started controlling this to spending more time ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and I am so numb
Q. Its funny how in a split second everything you knew and loved can just be stripped away from you. I heard a saying the other day and it stayed with me..."what does it mean to regret when you have no other choice." This has really struck a chord with ...
A. 9 December 2009: There is a saying "no good deed goes unpunished". It just boggles the mind how senseless and cruel people can be. I have been where you are today; two people who you trust doing such vile things not caring for a moment about your feelings... I am ... (read in full...)
He loves me but he doesn't show me any "love". What should I do?
Q. I need some smart advice!. So this is a long long marriage ,and I would like to stay in it, if its possible!!!!!! But ,I'm not sure this is possible. Here is the problem!My husband does not show love, yet he says he does love me. I'm very very con...
A. 9 December 2009: I think you should rather use the reminisce method. One day when you have come from the beauty shop and you are looking all sexy and attractive, take him by the hand and just sit with him and start talking about the early days when he did this/ ... (read in full...)
Do I have a legal case to end this marriage?
Q. I've been married 32 yrs to a totally aloof man who can't communicate and has no joy or smile on his face. When I've tried to communicate,he always becomes defensive and says I'm attacking him. He's never had a normal relationship with me,his...
A. 9 December 2009: It would help if you could say how old your children are and if you are currently working or not. Because this type of thing needs to be planned; you have been living in this hell for 30 years so taking 3 to 6 months to plan your exit should be ... (read in full...)
Should I resign myself to my current unhappy life or pursue the new relationship...it's just so hard. Is there an answer?
Q. I don't know where to begin, so I will start with some background information. I have been married for 20 years, have a child in college, 1 in high school and 1 in 4th grade. I got married at age 26. When I dated my wife we had a lot in com...
A. 9 December 2009: I am going to answer you by telling you what you don't want to hear: your dead sex life with your wife is your fault. I don't know what it will take to teach men that if you treat your wife like how you did when you courted her, she will be on you ... (read in full...)
How do I respond to the e-mail?
Q. I dated a man for about 6 months. We had incredible chemistry and a ton of fun in and out of bed. One day a very small misunderstanding occured and he chose to end the relationship. This was 5 months ago. Since then, we have remained in contact ...
A. 9 December 2009: you are not to be subject to his whims! You are not his reserve, waiting in the wings as a spare for him incase his current thing doesnt work out! Just ignore it and forget him. Put up a dating profile on millionaire dating and enjoy your life..!... (read in full...)
How do I get over my anger at the girl who slept with my boyfriend?
Q. I don't know how to get over my anger at the girl that slept with my boyfiend. I think because she didn't have to deal with anything and I have lived with the aftermath for so long, my boyfriend has gotten it from me continuosly and suffered ...
A. 9 December 2009: You have to ask yourself why she did this. She did this because she wanted him for herself. But what happened? Your boyfriend chose you still. So everytime you get angry or get low self-esteem about this, just remember how much worse she feels ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to leave me alone!
Q. Right. There's this guy who i met last year, and he is OBSESSED with me! I've tried to get him to stop texting me, as im with someone i love very much. He keeps saying he loves me, then when i say i dont feel the same he calls me horrible things. ...
A. 8 December 2009: Send him the following text: "my father went thru my phone and has seen your text messages and he has said he wants to report you to the police because I am underage. Its out of my hands and I don't think I can stop him". You will never hear from ... (read in full...)
How can I find the right person?
Q. well, I am 21, i so much want to be in a relationship, a serious one.i dont like to feel loneliness. I really want someone nice in my life. Can someone tell me where i can find the right person?...
A. 8 December 2009: go to cupidmedia.com and choose which dating site to join. Or go to gumtree.co.uk the dating section in your town. Enjoy... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me? I feel I am being mentally abused by my wife and I don't know where to turn
Q. I'm lost........... I am a 37yr old male who has been married for 5-1/2 years been with my wife for 8 years. We have a beautiful 2-1/2 year old daughter who is my life and soul. I am stuck in a spot where the only thing right now in life is what ...
A. 8 December 2009: Just tell her to fuck off. One day in the middle of her screaming, just tell her to fuck off. Then leave the house and don't come back for 3 days, she won't know where you are, switch off your phone and take a day or two off work. Then give her a ... (read in full...)
Although we've made up now my boyfriend is having a party and the girl he cheated with might be there!
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me 2 months ago - slept with someone else at a party. Completely unexpected and completely against my morals. More detail in previous q's of mine! But to the point of this one... Rightly, or probably wrongly, i gave ...
A. 8 December 2009: What you need to do girl is look absolutely stunning!! You need to have your hair, make up and nails sorted- basically you need to look like a million bucks. You need to tell yourself how fabulous you are so that it shines through to her, your ... (read in full...)
We're not a family and I just need advice.
Q. okay wellll.......... when i was little, i lived with my nan bekoz my mum wasa single mum, my dad walked out, so my mum was tryna raise me. koz when i was living with her, she tried 3 suicidal attemps infront of my face. + i was too young to under...
A. 7 December 2009: well done for nailing the loser. As for your mum, just don't involve yourself in her business. Let her make her decisions as she sees fit. I know its hard to be caught in the middle of all this deception but maybe its better to tell your mum you ... (read in full...)
I have mild feelings for people of the same sex...
Q. I've had mild feelings for people of the same sex over years, but maybe i'm taking it too seriously... a simple 'man crush' I think I'm having at the minute. How do I contrast a crush with full on feelings and is a crush harmful for our friendship ...
A. 7 December 2009: Very few people are either completely gay or completely straight. Most people are a range of varying degrees between the two. Google the "Kinsey scale" to see what I mean. You will need to think through it because whatever you decide will have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's divorce isn't going through because she shreds the papers and mails them back.
Q. Hello all. I recently started dating a man who I have cared for deeply for a very long time. When my exboyfriend left me, he was really good to me and let me know that I was worth something, even if my ex didn't think so. We've been friends for...
A. 7 December 2009: this happens in 50% of cases. The legal route is that if the other party refuses to sign the divorce papers, then if everything else is in order, the judge will grant the divorce by default once your boyfriend files an appeal. You don't need both ... (read in full...)
Can he get away with leaving me nowhere to live and without my belongings?
Q. Hi, I know I'm feeling sorry for myself, I feel tricked and not sure what to do. After asking my husband for a divorce in the heat of the moment, I left for a few weeks to think about it. I came back to him and suggested we go for counselling,...
A. 6 December 2009: I don't know which country you are living in because you don't say so we can figure out the laws that apply, but all European Union nations, USA, Australia and Canada all have laws protecting foreign spouse's rights. Even as a home maker you are ... (read in full...)
Is he dangerous or harmless?
Q. I have an online friend that is 40 years old and i'm 15. We met in a game. He plays around 7 hours per day in this game. At the beginning he spent a lot of his time with me and all our conversations were game related. He usually made me feel ...
A. 5 December 2009: you are being groomed which means he is pretending to be your friend so he can sleep with you later. I want you to please google "grooming a child for sex" and read true life stories of children your age and younger who all thought they had a ... (read in full...)
Stinging feeling after sex
Q. Hey, I've just started to have sex with my girlfriend and found that after a while i start to get a stinging feeling around my penis. I've found little cuts but they are under the skin. Making sex a bit painful from time to time. Why am i getting ...
A. 5 December 2009: It could be the condoms or spermicide. But in my vast experience (ahem), you might also be doing it without enough lubrication, ie. putting your P inside her V before she is wet enough. If she is not wet enough that means you are rushing it for her. ... (read in full...)
I need an opinion about what he wrote. (Short question!)
Q. Dear friends, I have come here in the past for your much needed advice and you have been so wonderful and thoughtful to respond each time. My question is in part short, it's something the man in my life emailed me a few days ago. This man wants t...
A. 4 December 2009: why can't you just ask him via email so that he doesnt feel put on the spot to respond? Eg. " darling, in your last email you said..... Please can you explain to me what you meant my darling. I want our relationship to be open where we can be 100% ... (read in full...)
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