Is my wife dating another man?
Q. please help me to make a decision about my relationship? i am suspicious of my wife dating another man after reading a message on facebook to her friend stating she was going on a date but i arrived home that night discovering "going out clothes ...
A. 20 January 2010: Oh sh-t... Sorry to hear this. I hope you got registration number and car type to really give her a shock. Don't get your arm twisted in the confrontation. She can hold onto her story for several hours. If you can outlast her these first few hours ... (read in full...)
Is my wife dating another man?
Q. please help me to make a decision about my relationship? i am suspicious of my wife dating another man after reading a message on facebook to her friend stating she was going on a date but i arrived home that night discovering "going out clothes ...
A. 20 January 2010: Oh sh-t... Sorry to hear this. I hope you got registration number and car type to really give her a shock. Don't get your arm twisted in the confrontation. She can hold onto her story for several hours. If you can outlast her these first few hours ... (read in full...)
My husband acts like I'm invisible!
Q. my husband and i have been married 10 years to each other. i have been married before 3 times. he has been married once. we met at rehab where we were both recovering from our own addictions. we are both clean and sober now. my husband, however is a ...
A. 19 January 2010: Dont worry, the pastors are used to dealing with manipulaters, they will be able to see through him. Just be yourself, don't hide any details about your husband to try help him save face. Just tell the truth of his behavior. I wish you all the best. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my boyfriend's daughter?
Q. my boyfriend is 50 and has two children a 14yr boy and 16yrgirl (he rarely sees his boy). my partner's been separated from their mother for 15 years (who is remarried and has another child)- the daughter has him wrapped round her little finger and ...
A. 18 January 2010: It is still the original parents responsibility to control her behavior. If they can't do it then you have the choice of finding an unencumbered man with no kids to drive you crazy. You have said she is close to your boyfriend's ex; there is ... (read in full...)
Would you be angry if your husband took a job that pays a lot less?
Q. Would you be angry with your husband for taking a job that pays a lot less than what they should be making? my husbad and I have been married for 1.5 and together 10. We are both nurses and we moved from one side of the country to the ...
A. 18 January 2010: So he is taking this low paying job because they pay part of his tuition? And he went back to do his masters because you nagged him to? I'm sorry to say that you sound a tad bit controlling. Your assets and money are separate. So whatever debt he ... (read in full...)
Blow Job Technique Explanation
Q. I would love to give my boyfriend a really good blow job the first time I do it and despite all the websites I've been on and all the porn I've watched, I still don't feel like I've gotten good enough answers.I understand the techniques, the ...
A. 18 January 2010: You cover your teeth with your lips. Your tongue should move constantly. You create suction by drawing the air out of your cheeks but not too hard. Just put your finger in your vag then try and imitate that level of snugness with your mouth. ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt about my wife's sexual past so what should I do?
Q. My wife was married for 5 years in the seventies.Her marriage evolved into swinging.She has had sex every way you can, from anal to group sex, she was quite the party girl.Toward the end of her marriage she got knocked up to reel in her husband and ...
A. 18 January 2010: She says those things just to hurt you back for whatever hurtful things you say to her. For example, if my husband called me a slut, I would retort the most hurtful thing that I know would cut him down to size. Things were obviously not that ... (read in full...)
He proposed to me during sex! What do you think he wants?
Q. Hi, Last summer, I was about to get married but we broke up 15 days before the wedding. After 2 months, my ex-boyfriend wanted to talk to me after 6 years. At first, we were just walking and talking for a month. We used to talk about everythi...
A. 18 January 2010: Take it as a compliment that he enjoyed it so much he felt at that moment that you were the one. However, dont take him seriously unless he proposes while you are fully clothed :-)... (read in full...)
Should I not get my hopes up for children in the future?
Q. My fiance recently told me that he may be infertile. He says he's had two accidents that have resulted in crushing and one accidental electrocution. We aren't trying to get pregnant right now but I'm wondering if I should not get my hopes up for ...
A. 18 January 2010: google Fertility Institutes and check out their website. Lots of hopeful couples have been helped by technology... (read in full...)
Is my wife dating another man?
Q. please help me to make a decision about my relationship? i am suspicious of my wife dating another man after reading a message on facebook to her friend stating she was going on a date but i arrived home that night discovering "going out clothes ...
A. 18 January 2010: You need to use the Gestapo method: "I know everything. I have been investigating. But I want to hear it from you why you are doing this to us." hopefully she will break down and tell. If she starts to deny, just walk away from her midsentence and ... (read in full...)
Was it a heat of the moment thing my wife said?
Q. Help me out, what exactly does my wife mean? We have included porn (not all the time) in our sex life. We watch it together, never apart and typically it varies as to the content. Lately my wife has been wanting to see more gangbang scenes,...
A. 18 January 2010: Not all porn fantasies need to be acted on. Some scenes are only for the porn industry. Many of these actors dont even do the stuff they act out in their normal relationships. I wouldn't worry about it.... (read in full...)
How can I create a better life for myself?
Q. Help! I am lacking a good support system that I can trust. The two people that I trusted most have both betrayed me. My fiance' of 4 years cheated on me with my younger sister who was living with us. It has been one of the most painful times in my ...
A. 18 January 2010: Omg. I am so sorry for what you have gone through. It is almost worse than death, because at least death brings closure. Betrayal is almost a lifetime sentence. However, there are some things you can do to make this difficult time more bearable. ... (read in full...)
My husband acts like I'm invisible!
Q. my husband and i have been married 10 years to each other. i have been married before 3 times. he has been married once. we met at rehab where we were both recovering from our own addictions. we are both clean and sober now. my husband, however is a ...
A. 18 January 2010: He is very obviously being abusive. God would never force you to stay in a relationship where you are being treated in this way so dont worry about that. Why dont you seek out counseling for yourself at your local church. You may meet other women ... (read in full...)
What can I do to deal with this feeling of dread and loneliness?
Q. Hello. I guess this is a general question. Maybe some others out there are also pained by this feeling. One time in my life, in the past (10 to 5 years ago), I lost touch with most of my good friends of high school and college due to inevitable ...
A. 18 January 2010: Virtually everyone goes through this nostalgic phase; the key is not to constantly look at the past but rather the future. Dont burn any bridges, use tools like Facebook to keep in touch. There is a saying which goes: 'a man without a future will ... (read in full...)
Wife number two doesn't like children of wife number one, I have them once a week, and every week she complains
Q. Should I leave my 2nd wife? She and the kids from the 1st wife don't click well at all, I've tried so many things but noting helped, the kids stay with us every Sunday, by Sunday evening she always bitch to me about them, so my week is always m...
A. 18 January 2010: It depends on how old the kids are and what do they do that's so terrible? Can you give more information?... (read in full...)
He fawns over young employees and tells them I am okay with it!
Q. I have struggled with a situation twice in the past 4 years with my husband of 12 years. We have 3 young children. Each time he developed a "crush" on a much younger employee, which lasted 6-8 months (winding down now). Although no physical ...
A. 18 January 2010: When you have this type of husband who lies to these women about your thoughts on their liaison, why do you not speak to the woman from the very beginning?? Dont let things get this far out of hand because the fight to get back to normal gets ... (read in full...)
I crave to be with her but she says she is not ready, if I give her a baby will she come and live with me?
Q. I met this girl on a nightout I fell for her hook line and sinker we speak on the phone everyday and have done for 16 months I love her she has had a lot of problems and there is a 13 year difference I'm 31 she is 19 she says she's not readt to be ...
A. 18 January 2010: You need to find out more details about her bipolar because it is not easy being with a person suffering from this condition. It can be a roller coaster with periods of euphoric happiness then periods of gloom and pain. I would say start by ... (read in full...)
Christmas day shuffle, he wanted to be with his family, I wanted to be with mine
Q. I and my husband been having alot of problems because I and his mom do not get along. For xmas Ihad a big fight with his parents and sister because I wanted to leave early to my family and they were in the middle of opening the gifts. he deffend his ...
A. 18 January 2010: I think it was disrespectful of you to decide to leave during a special family moment, especially with their grandchildren. If you and your husband love each other then you should compromise. You are now adults in your own right so why not hold ... (read in full...)
Caught my husband in affair and he left me pregnant and alone!
Q. I am 36 weeks pregnant with baby #2. We have been married for 5 1/2 years and already have a son who is almost 4. We were more like roommates than a married couple, but I never imagined he would be cheating on me. Man..I was wrong! He withheld ...
A. 18 January 2010: It is obvious that he will regret it. But I am wondering how much say/ authority he had in your home. If he just walked into money, and was constantly reminded "I don't need you, my daddy can look after me" etc., maybe it was too much for him. ... (read in full...)
Despite a loving relationship for 17 years I am still bothered by the guys she knew before she met me
Q. OK - after reading all the other posts and trying to compare mine with others - I could not! So, here I go. I have been in a very sexually active relationship with my current wife of over 13 years especially when we have been together for wel...
A. 18 January 2010: Everybody has a past. I think if she is so sexually adventurous with you, its a good thing that she had some experiences before, that have shown her how much better YOU are. If she is adventurous without having some prior experiences, who is to ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my boyfriend's daughter?
Q. my boyfriend is 50 and has two children a 14yr boy and 16yrgirl (he rarely sees his boy). my partner's been separated from their mother for 15 years (who is remarried and has another child)- the daughter has him wrapped round her little finger and ...
A. 18 January 2010: You cannot compete for a father's affection for his children. They were there first and they will outlast you I'm afraid. Your role as a possible step mother was only to be involved with him and be a friend to the children. It was not your place ... (read in full...)
Dating: My parents still see me as their little girl
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 posts combined into one. I feel I am ready to date, but my parents have different ideas. I know that when it comes to stuff like dating, they still see me as their little girl. I try to talk to them, but as soon as I start, they won't li...
A. 17 January 2010: I was on your side until you started talking about going fast. That is the exact reason your parents don't let you date. But telling you to wait is not something you will listen to, so this is my advice : let friends come come over to your house, a ... (read in full...)
I love my husband AND my brother in law!!!
Q. I'm in love with my brother in law: yes, I know it is extremely wrong but this is my story: I've been married for 11 yrs. My marriage is a good one though there are things I don't like about my husband...in any case, I do love my husband too. When I ...
A. 17 January 2010: He is absolutely only using you for sex. He knows trying to get another "just sex" woman is hard as the new woman would either demand committment or money or in the very least he would have to wine and dine her first. Easier for him to get a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend LIES!
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years lies to me every time he hangs out with his once friend that I'm not fond of. Whenever he goes out to see him, he always tells me he was with his cousin or with another friend. However, I know that he's 100% lying because ...
A. 17 January 2010: But why are you trying to control who his friends are? Unless he is a recovering addict and the friend is a drug dealer or something. If you just dislike him because you don't get along with him then you need to give him some space. ... (read in full...)
Is our affair worth all this stress?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married woman for the last 4 years. We know the relationship is never going to go anywhere due to our commitment to our respective partners. Over the last few months I have seen our affair is adding stress to my ...
A. 17 January 2010: My advice is tell her your wife is on to you and that you should cool off for a while. After a few weeks just tell her that your wife is still suspicious and let's give it a few more weeks because you suspect that wife has hired a private ... (read in full...)
What is your definition of respect?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man who calls me the C word often for "acting like one". He feels this acceptable, am I missing something here? Men please describe your level of respect for and what kind of person fits the label? Ladies please let ...
A. 17 January 2010: A man treats you how you teach him. The first time he showed disrespect then you should have put your foot down. If he calls you that word again, without a word pack an overnight bag and walk out of the door and spend a couple of days with a ... (read in full...)
She is seeing someone but I keep telling her I like her, what should I do?
Q. I am madly in love with a girl. I have told her this but she says she thinks i am an awesome guy but that she is seeing someone. I kept texting her telling her how much i like her but she now doesnt reply. What should i do? I really love her, but...
A. 16 January 2010: You have entered what women call the "pest list". Hopefully she is not showing your desperate pathetic messages to her friends and having a laugh at your expense. If a girl says no then its no. Women also don't like men who are too eager. Imagine ... (read in full...)
Just newly married, and not sure what to think of my husband's female friend! And advice?
Q. Hello.. I am 27 years old, I have a month and a week married, so basically new wed. I have a couple of problems that I would like to share and I would love for someone to tell me another view of my situation. My husband has a female friend at w...
A. 16 January 2010: Thats why talking to your man is always futile. I was married to a man who was a fitness trainer for Miss Universe contestants and other beauty pageants so this friendship line was regularly crossed. Talking to him always made him angry and ... (read in full...)
I want to self induce, & I don't care if its not scientifically proven
Q. Hello all. My question is simple really. How do you self - induce labor? I am 39 weeks pregnant with my first baby. My doctor told me that if I have not begun labor within a week and half they will have to induce me. I really prefer not to have to ...
A. 16 January 2010: For the sex advice, avoid sex if you have lost your mucus plug. The mucus plug is this huge glob of mucus which protect the uterus from infection. You can lose it up to a week before labour sets in. Good luck and enjoy your last few days of sleep!!... (read in full...)
SHe just wants to be FWB but I wondering if I should wait for things to change
Q. Okay, so I am a pretty inexperienced person when it comes to relationships, well, really inexperienced, and this girl is confusing me to no end. So, I finally met this girl I liked, we got hooked up by a bunch of friends, we were both sitting on ...
A. 16 January 2010: Most guys take what they can get. So I'm kind of surprised that there is one guy in the whole universe (you) who is thinking of backing out of an opportunity to have a sex only relationship with a girl who wants nothing more and is not demanding a ... (read in full...)
I want to self induce, & I don't care if its not scientifically proven
Q. Hello all. My question is simple really. How do you self - induce labor? I am 39 weeks pregnant with my first baby. My doctor told me that if I have not begun labor within a week and half they will have to induce me. I really prefer not to have to ...
A. 16 January 2010: When they say walking they are not talking about a leisurely 10 minute stroll. Walking is the best and safest way. Do a power walk at very high speed, Olympic speed, for one hour. I have a friend who is a mother of 6 who told me it had worked for ... (read in full...)
Just newly married, and not sure what to think of my husband's female friend! And advice?
Q. Hello.. I am 27 years old, I have a month and a week married, so basically new wed. I have a couple of problems that I would like to share and I would love for someone to tell me another view of my situation. My husband has a female friend at w...
A. 15 January 2010: Everyone here will tell you to talk to your husband. That's futile. He will defend her and make you feel like a desperate paranoid controlling wife. My advice is talk to her. Next time she calls, just say, I'm wondering something, why do you act ... (read in full...)
I'm being harrassed by his wife! How do I get rid of this married man I had an affair with?
Q. I recently read an article in regards to a women in a relationship with a married man for 18 years and some of the comments were pretty harsh, understandable, but harsh. Like her, I too was in a long term relationship with a married man, 13 years. ...
A. 15 January 2010: You are still responsible for endangering your son by your cheating and lying and making him develop a close relationship with a liar and a cheater. You have involved your son in your deceitful relationship and whilst I don't condone the wife ... (read in full...)
Suggestions about 'breaking up'?? Anyone know any good ones?
Q. This isn't really a relationship question. But i was wondering, does anyone know some songs about you and your girlfriend breaking up and then you replace her but start to realize shes the only one you need and you want her back. Prefera...
A. 14 January 2010: Stay by Jodeci
Count Your Blessings by Ashford and Simpson
Baby Come Back by Hall & Oates
Always Be My Baby by Mariah Carey
Been Around the World by Lisa Stansfield
Careless Whispers by Wham (George Michael)
Anything For You by Gloria Estefa... (read in full...)
Since I asked him out on a date, he now ignores me! What should I do?
Q. Im fustrated with this and hope someone can help. Im friends with this man, that ive grown to love. We use to get along so good, always flirting and helping each other out even talking a little online. (we're co-workers) Ive asked him out before and ...
A. 14 January 2010: Just start off by waving hi from across the room without approaching. Or just say hi without striking up a long conversation. Over time he will see that you are not as forward as before. Also, he might be gay and he didn't want to start anything ... (read in full...)
Does penis enlargement work?
Q. hi iam 24years old and still a virgin.the reason being my penis is only 2 inches when erect.consequently women laugh and run a mile.can some one tell me if penis enlargement works....
A. 14 January 2010: Are you overweight? I once saw Dr. Gary Alter talking about this. Google him and look at his website to see what be does with small or hidden penises. ... (read in full...)
His mother is creating a massive wedge in our relationship
Q. I need some help determining if I have a reason to feel the way I do. Boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years, we have had some rocky patches mostly due to his divorce (which is now final). In the beginning we moved things far too q...
A. 14 January 2010: Wait a minute... You don't live there? I thought you moved back! So in that case you have no say in how things are done if you don't live there. How can you be staying somewhere else then come to their house and move things around? No way. When ... (read in full...)
I have never felt so lonely and lost before
Q. My heart is so empty. I am 54. My Mum, Dad and brother all died within three months of each other six years ago. My best friend died a couple of months before that. My Mum and Dad lived with me and we were very close. I loved them all so much and ...
A. 14 January 2010: I agree with the other posters. I would also encourage you to get involved with volunteering, maybe for organizations that a similar to what you have dealt with in your life. Use all the negative things that have happen for good by helping others. ... (read in full...)
His mother is creating a massive wedge in our relationship
Q. I need some help determining if I have a reason to feel the way I do. Boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years, we have had some rocky patches mostly due to his divorce (which is now final). In the beginning we moved things far too q...
A. 14 January 2010: Let me tell you something my dear. You need to sit his mother down and talk to her. Tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her that you want to get along with her and you want to understand what her problem is. You dont have to be rude and dont ask ... (read in full...)
Despite our 14 year age difference she wants to take it to the next level
Q. I guys I was trying to ask google for a answer to my heavy heart when I found this community. I met this girl on-line a while back. We became very good friends. And with time we got very close. When we met she was going through a crisis or ...
A. 14 January 2010: I dont see the age difference as a problem since she is 18. The problem is that she seems to rely on you so much that if you dated her then betrayed her in any way (cheated, flirted with another woman etc), things could spiral badly out of control. ... (read in full...)
I need some neutral advice regarding my divorce.
Q. In the process of a divorce. I am allowing my husband to keep our home, but asking that he re-finance to buy me out of my 1/2 and to give me 1/2 of his pension plan because we live in a community property state. He is having a meltdown saying he ...
A. 14 January 2010: you are being manipulated. My ex did the same crying and acting unstable until I overheard him talking to a friend (I had planted a listening device) about how smart he is. Do what's best for you. Keep your emotions out of it. ... (read in full...)
Why can't my boyfriend ever cum?
Q. My boyfriend has never cum from a blowjob or handjob from me or anyone else. He also has trouble cumming during sex if the girl is on top (I am the only person who's ever made him cum in this position, but it's only happened once). The sex is ...
A. 13 January 2010: For blow job, reassure him you don't want him to cum, you just want him to relax and enjoy it. This takes the pressure off him to get there. Enthusiasm is key... You have to look like you are enjoying it. Don't stop to talk interrupting his ... (read in full...)
I signed up for a dating website and now my wife doesn't trust me
Q. my wife no longer trust me we have been fighting for about 4 years because our daughter got pregnant at 16 by a loser and we both started pulling away i had been looking at a lot of porn and was feeling lonely i went to a dating web sight and signed ...
A. 13 January 2010: Just be an open book. Give her access to your email and cellphone and computer. Tell her that you will fight for her as long as it takes. Do stuff with her; take her out to coffee and cake every Saturday morning, make time for her.
As for your... (read in full...)
After talking online 3 months we met, but I think he was disappointed!
Q. Hi..i am hoping for some advice..am hoping for a male point of view...here goes. I met a guy online..a dating site..we chatted every night for 3 months on msn..he phoned me and text. He had seen photographs of me (I am 47...he is 39..I am uk..he i...
A. 13 January 2010: You have already received some good advice from AuntyEm but just to add, next time you plan on meeting someone try also talking on webcam so you can get a feel for each other's mannerisms and body language. Ofcourse it still doesn't give an accurate ... (read in full...)
I'm being harrassed by his wife! How do I get rid of this married man I had an affair with?
Q. I recently read an article in regards to a women in a relationship with a married man for 18 years and some of the comments were pretty harsh, understandable, but harsh. Like her, I too was in a long term relationship with a married man, 13 years. ...
A. 13 January 2010: What a total waste. 13 years of your life as a brick, building his ego. Truly sad. If you are serious about cutting contact and you want the wife to stop harassing you, then you need to stop this self righteous "he came willingly" stuff. That will ... (read in full...)
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