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I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?

Q.   Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...

A.   1 March 2010: I may be mistaken but last I checked, UK, Canada, India, Mexico and China don't qualify for the Diversity Visa/green card lottery because those countries have the highest number of immigrants to the USA. So let us know, how far have you gone wit... (read in full...)

My husband and I don't have sex anymore and we can't have kids. Should I leave him?

Q.   I have been married for two years to a man who is much older than I, (he's 64, I'm 34) and lately, we have been having some issues serious enough for me to question whether or not we made the right decision. My husband has two adult daughters ...

A.   20 February 2010: Actually, you have given more insight into it because its very possible that he isn't the only one with fertility issues. It could be you or it could be both of you. He is the one with proven fertility as he has had children before. Perhaps you ... (read in full...)

My husband and I don't have sex anymore and we can't have kids. Should I leave him?

Q.   I have been married for two years to a man who is much older than I, (he's 64, I'm 34) and lately, we have been having some issues serious enough for me to question whether or not we made the right decision. My husband has two adult daughters ...

A.   19 February 2010: Have you looked at all your fertility options? Google the company Fertility Institutes; they have new technologies all the time. The last one I read about was when a vasectomy reversal is unsuccessful, they aspirate directly from the vas deferens. ... (read in full...)

I told him I loved him, now he says we are not a couple

Q.   i was seeing this guy for a couple of weeks. He came to my house feeling no pain and told me 3 times that he loved me. I really paid no attention to it since he was out and had a couple of drinks; ok, alot of drinks. We did continue to hang out that ...

A.   19 February 2010: You told him you loved him after a couple of weeks so he is getting worried that you want more than he can give. I would take it back and blame it on the alcohol. ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure I want a baby but I want to make my husband happy!

Q.   Everyone wants me to have babies. My parents, his parents, him, our friends,our relatives... etc.,etc... I am 35 and married to a wonderful man. I told him when we got married that I would give him children. He has wanted to have a baby for ...

A.   19 February 2010: I think you need therapy to find out why you feel this way. Its best to do it before you fall pregnant because people who use reasons like I don't want to be fat are often at a much higher risk of having a baby who is premature, underweight and ... (read in full...)

We have been dating 2 years and he won't introduce me to his mother!

Q.   hi i have a very unique and difficult question,i am married and i have a boyfriend. he is divorced after being married for 29 years. i have been with him for 2 years and he still wont introduce me to his mother. i am always with him except when im ...

A.   19 February 2010: It sounds like he has already bent over backwards to accomodate you. Perhaps he has to draw the line somewhere? Afterall, if he was to introduce you to his mother, he would introduce you as what exactly? And ofcourse she would be curious about ... (read in full...)

I want to break it off with my 15 year old girlfriend but don't want to hurt her!

Q.   I am 21 years old and my friend, who is 18, hooked me up with this 15 year old girl. There was and is a connection. However I seem to have become a nervous wreck and rather paranoid. See while our relationship is STRICTLY non-sexual, i just can't ...

A.   19 February 2010: Good for you wanting to do the right thing. I know it would be hard to tell her face to face because she might plead and cry making it hard for you to end it. So I suggest you write a letter. Not email/ text. A real letter written by hand. ... (read in full...)

I have to kiss my sister-in-law in a play! Should I do it?

Q.   hello aunty,I am stage actor..my last few plays have done well and I am on a rise..2 days back I was offered a play with the best director in the business..this is a romantic play where my sister-in-law(cousins wife) plays my love interest..she also ...

A.   19 February 2010: Its a bit weird but if she and your cousin are ok with it then why not? Just have a wank before each performance because if you pitch a tent your cousin might trash the set!! This is classic!... (read in full...)

She is away in a foreign country and I'm scared she is cheating.

Q.   Firstly, a bit of background about my SO and how we met: I visited China about 1 year ago and met a nice tour guide. At the time she told me she was living with her cousin (later I found out she was still living with her ex but they weren't getting ...

A.   19 February 2010: Firstly, I just wanted to point out that teaching your parents to dislike your possible future partner by telling them your groundless suspicions is not a way to have a happy future. They love you but will continue to hate her for hurting you long ... (read in full...)

He forced himself on me, but I love him even more now! Should I dump him?

Q.   sooo this is going to be a long. ahh i dont know where to startt.. alright im 15 and my boyfriends 21. we've only been dating for almost a month on the 24th. i made it clear that i was a virgin and he understood that. he told me that he used to do a ...

A.   18 February 2010: Darling, you were raped by a pedophile. Pedophiles are not scary looking monsters from the Alien movie, they are our neighbours, our pastors, our uncles, our boyfriends. And they get to do it over and over because as victims we develop sympathy for ... (read in full...)

Help - step parenting advice

Q.   Am I doing the right thing? I am a step parent to a lovely 9 year old boy. My husband is away for a week and I am taking care of my stepson on his visits here. We have him twice a week and his mum lives down the road from us. His mum and her partner ...

A.   18 February 2010: Welldone for being the first good step parent on this site. However, I feel that sometimes you should just listen and not try solve every problem.... If his mother lied to him; you turning this into a possible confrontation will send him back into ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend too 'big' to have sex with?

Q.   i am only 5'1 amd weigh about 137lbs but my new boy friend says his penis is 7inches he is about 6'1 and weighs about 235 lbs is that two big for me we havent had sex yet but i do have four kids thati did have vaginally...

A.   18 February 2010: I doubt you will have a problem with his size. There are many ways to skin a cat so you can experiment with the positions that make you comfortable. Just because he is huge it doesn't mean he is going to hammer away at you. Just tell him you want to ... (read in full...)

Is this what younger girls are like these days??

Q.   Can some of you please explain the mind set of today's young women in their early 20's? I am in my mid-30's and have recently entered the dating scene. Although I am 35, I am in great physical condition and most people say I look 25. I married my...

A.   18 February 2010: That's why they are calling it the porno generation!... (read in full...)

Is he intentionally being cruel to me?

Q.   I'm so upset right now. My ex was brn premature, like i was, and he was born with one leg shorter than the other, and he also has scoliosis in his back, so he has a lot of pain. He found out this week that its so bad now that he might need a ...

A.   18 February 2010: When people are hurt, its normal for them to lash out like this. My dad lost his leg in an accident and when he was angry and depressed he would lash out at my mother and tell her to f off. But instead of my mother saying why are you talking to me ... (read in full...)

My parents have been married 25 years and now suddenly my dad seems to be bi and cheating on my mum!

Q.   Ive just found emails that my dad has sent and received from various men, and there sexually explicit. My parents have been married 25 years and now suddenly my dad seems to be bi and cheating on my mum. I have no idea whether he has done anything, ...

A.   18 February 2010: I think the best thing is to tell him to tell her himself. Give him an ultimatum that he has to tell her or you will. What will tear up your family is your mother getting AIDS. Men who are 'living on the down-low' (google the term) are often ... (read in full...)

I have heard a number of stories about my husband with other women, what shall I do?

Q.   Dear agony aunt! we have been married for 9 years.mine was an arranged marriage.we later had 2 kids,one boy,3 years and one girl,5 years.I am 33 years old and my husband 34.My husband is a good human being.he is always concentr...

A.   18 February 2010: In that case, next time he starts getting violent, tell him you are phoning your father and you are telling him everything even if you won't. Actually pick up the phone and start dialing. Or tell him you will phone his boss at work. You really ... (read in full...)

What is meant by "make my move"?

Q.   Okay, before you read this, check my previous question called "How can i make a move without embarassing either of us?" or something like that. Bascically everyone has told me to "make my move", but what is meant by this and how do i go about it. I ...

A.   18 February 2010: I think even a movie first is too much because it involves planning, meeting, setting times and waiting for the big day and all that. Just start with the simplest things ; eg. Can I walk you home today? If she asks why? You say because I have ... (read in full...)

Why do women not mention their husbands in a positive way?

Q.   Why do married women with kids never mention there husbands in a way you feel they are in a happy marriage. For example, I was talking to a lady who lost everything in a flood and she mentioned she will miss the kids pictures those types of m...

A.   18 February 2010: Many women harbor painful memories in their marriages which left eternal scars. Perhaps 30 years ago he once kissed Betty the waitress from the diner, or he once cheated with the secretary or perhaps once threw a punch when he was drunk. Some women ... (read in full...)

To stay or to go...that is the question...

Q.   *OPs own title* My husband and I are about to have our 10 year anniversary and I don't want to be together anymore. Now don't get me wrong I didn't just wake up and decide this. Let me start at the beginning. He didn't want to marry me, he just did ...

A.   18 February 2010: This is one of those situations where you have to first try resolve your differences first before quiting. It sounds like you have been through a lot but I was also reading between the lines and its obvious that this is YOUR version. Obviously he ... (read in full...)

How do I carry on after my partners affair?

Q.   after being together for many years,i found out that my partner had been having a sexual affair with a female work colleague of his.this occurred as i was recovering from breast cancer.previous to this i thought we were happy in our life.obviously ...

A.   18 February 2010: I recommend reading 'Resilience' by Elizabeth Edwards. Her husband was one of the Democratic Party's US presidential candidates in this last election. She has a similar story to yours. You can find the book 2nd hand on Amazon.co.uk for less than ... (read in full...)

He seems perfect .... but is he?

Q.   I'm dating a 60 year old man who's never been married, never engaged, never lived with anyone, longest relationhsip was 4 years. He's got a lot going for him; very attractive, fit, well educated, great job/security, good sense or humor, articulate. ...

A.   18 February 2010: He sounds like a stingy bugger. Won't share his life, his love and definitely won't share his money. A decent gentleman would wait for you to offer not ask you if you can pay your half. What if you just don't have as much as he does? A couple of ... (read in full...)

I had an emotional affair and my wife still won't get over it. Is there anything more I can do?

Q.   I had an emotional affair with a work colleague. My wife just WON'T let it go. I have reassured her that I've never loved anyone but her but she won't believe me. I've booked for lunch tomorrow but I sense from her attitude tonight that it...

A.   18 February 2010: Firstly, how long ago did it happen? Huge difference between 6 months and 3 years. But the bottom line is; you were the one who wronged her so you cannot determine the pace at which she recovers. Secondly, men make the mistake of ignoring or not ... (read in full...)

Our parents got married, now they say we have to split!

Q.   I got enganged 1 year ago to "stepbrother" - well he wasnt till 2 mounth ago. both my parents and both his parents were devorsed, and my mam and his dad have been very good friends since we got together, and 2 months ago they went on a cruise and ...

A.   18 February 2010: In my personal opinion, you do not need to split up. You are over 18 and you were together before your parents got together. And most importantly, you are not related by blood at all. I'm sorry but your parents are being selfish. Get your non ... (read in full...)

Does this sound like I just had an orgasm?

Q.   Did I just have an orgasm? I have never had sex before/ barely any sexual contact really... but just now I was watching porn (not a habitual thing, more of a curiosity) and was squeezing my legs together abit and clenching my uhh pelvic (?) mucle...

A.   18 February 2010: This was an orgasm dear. Good idea to have them alone at home! Enjoy... (read in full...)

We are going to see each other again after 2 years! But my family won't let me date him.

Q.   i apologise for the long story but ive cut it down quite a bit. when i was little my mam and dad spilt up and they both moved away, i moved in with my grandparents and lived there for about 16 years, i visited both parents and my mam still had a say ...

A.   18 February 2010: Since you are over 18 you don't have to tell her; surely you can just date him without telling her. ... (read in full...)

Am I financially looking after my ex?? My new partner seems to think so!

Q.   I am seperated and filing for divorce. I left over 2 years ago. I have numerous assets in many forms. I have numerous trusts. The family home is in a trust. I had built a small fortune while with my soon to be ex wife. I have been trying to get a ...

A.   17 February 2010: This is the sort of stuff that makes me mad... Why is your new girlfriend upset that you are paying your wife what she deserves? I think you are about to make a mistake being involved with her. I also am involved with a man who had a girlfriend (no ... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and just found out my husband have been cheating for two years!

Q.   I have been married for almost 7 years and I am 8 months pregnant. We have two daughters and a baby boy on the way. Three months into my pregnancy I found out my husband has been having an affair with a co-worker for two years. She is almost 20 ...

A.   17 February 2010: I have been there. And I have never felt so much pain... What makes it so bad is the whole betrayal and deceit; because of all the love and trust you had, only to be stabbed in the back like this. It destroys your confidence and sense of self; it ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend can't perform in bed as good as he thinks he can.

Q.   I just started having sex very recently.My Boyfriend and I have had sex a couple times and everytime it was bad. I cheated on him with a friend who I asked to teach me how to ride and perform fellatio and some other basic positions and the sex was ...

A.   17 February 2010: Just end the relationship. But you don't have to be mean and tell him how awful he is. ... (read in full...)

I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?

Q.   Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...

A.   17 February 2010: To get a work permit, you have to have a special/rare skill that is on shortage in America. Here are a few examples: Medical doctor (to states with fewer doctors or to war zones), aerospace engineer, computer science specialist, Iraqi/Afghan inte... (read in full...)

I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?

Q.   Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...

A.   17 February 2010: I don't know if you read my previous post; you cannot work without a work permit and a social security number. Any employer will ask you for this. Unless you find work as an illegal nanny/maid as many illegal immigrants do. Like I said, visit ... (read in full...)

I'm being told too many different things about feeding my baby and I'm worried I'm doing it wrong! Help!

Q.   hey, i need some advice, i had a baby 4weeks ago, my partner already has a child and i was worried about him saying "your doing this wrong" but instead its everyone else and im feeling mega depressed and a failure. i had to have a c-section and my ...

A.   17 February 2010: As long as the baby is gaining weight then you have nothing to worry about. Watch the baby, NOT the clock. Every child is different and not sleeping and crying a lot is the usual at this age. Your baby will improve after 3 months then after that it ... (read in full...)

I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?

Q.   Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...

A.   17 February 2010: Just a correction; sorry since I last visited the site, immigration.gov has been changed to uscis.gov. Everything you would need to know is there.... (read in full...)

I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?

Q.   Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...

A.   17 February 2010: There are a few community colleges that might accept GCSE O Levels, but now, most good US universities take GCE A Levels dear. When my brother went to the US in 1991 they took O Levels but by the time my sister went to the same university in 2003 ... (read in full...)

My husband has left me for another woman, and now each time he visits his kids she wont stop calling him!

Q.   My husband left me with another woman.were married for 10 yrs.and we have 2 kids.it's was hurt for me specially to my kids,he visit my kids sometimes but the problem is every time my husband is with our kids his mistress keeps on calling in ...

A.   17 February 2010: You must must get this book called "Love Must Be Tough" by James Dobson. Its available second hand on Amazon.com for less than $5 including shipping. Or just go to amazon and read an excerpt and what others thought of it. I know you have been ... (read in full...)

How do I accept my gf's promiscuous past if I've only been with her?

Q.   I've seen a few questions on here that are similar to mine, but I think mine has a special little twist on it. My girlfriend, whom I've been with for 6 years, has a very promiscuous past. Around 40 - 50, she can't remember exactly. And before her ...

A.   17 February 2010: This is my advice; break up with her. Because believe me, if its bothering you now when you are madly in love with her, later on when that spark starts to diminish a little, it will be an ugly 'in yer face' reminder daily, causing you to justify ... (read in full...)

Curious about moral convictions on sex....

Q.   Curious about moral convictions on sex. I was raised Christian, and sex outside of marriage is a sin--period. What are others' thoughts? Thanks so much! --GG...

A.   17 February 2010: I think this is a personal decision. There are lots of things that are not acceptable in the bible. Eg. Masturbation is a sin (yes its in there), adultery is a sin( yet almost every major person in the bible was an adulterer or a murderer), ... (read in full...)

To engage or not to engage...

Q.   Here's my situation. My bf and I have been together for 3 years. We're both in our mid 40's so it's not like we're young and inexperienced with life. We've both been married before and I have kids. I feel it's time to step up the relationship and ...

A.   16 February 2010: 3 years is a long time to be dating at your age. I would ask for a break just to think through your life and reassess your priorities. The key is that you don't make it appear as though you are threatening him or being ugly in any way. On the ... (read in full...)

He has asked me to marry him after all his revelations, I have no idea what to do!

Q.   About 4 months ago, the man I had been with for about 4 or 5 months, sent me a text message and told me that he had met someone else...yes, a TEXT message! At the time, he had been out of state for about 2 month for his job, but we continued our ...

A.   16 February 2010: Vagrants and winos propose to us all the time too!! So don't be flattered by his proposal. He is trying to manipulate you. Then when he has you, he will be good for a little while until your other friend sleeps over. Forget him. ... (read in full...)

Should we have an open relationship or find the elusive spark?

Q.   Married nearly 13 years. 3 children. Nearly divorced a couple of years ago but we went to counseling for 18 months, and now live together peaceably, but the spark went out years ago. I’ve been fantasizing about an affair for some time. I’ve c...

A.   16 February 2010: Try looking up marriage enrichment courses in your area. Your marriage seems to be in a comfort zone where you are now taking each other for granted. You need to appreciate each other and bring back that spark by really being forced to deal with ... (read in full...)

Does this sound like there is hope for the future or is she just trying to let me down gently?

Q.   Ok, long story, and any advice from the women on this forum who have been in a similar situation would be greatly appreciated. My girlfriend of 5 yrs left me this past week. I am going through what you might expect. Complete loss of appetite, ...

A.   16 February 2010: My advice is to keep in touch with her and ask to continue to see her just as a friend. Go out for coffee and cake or even a dinner regularly where you can connect as friends and not discuss any romantic stuff. Don't pressure her for a ... (read in full...)

I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?

Q.   Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...

A.   16 February 2010: Look into becoming an au pair for an American couple with young kids as well. Google it; many au pair agencies on the web. ... (read in full...)

Why do guys prefer "slutty" girls rather than a girl who is romantic and caring?

Q.   Hi all, I have a very simple question. Why do so many guys find girls who are promiscuous or 'slutty' more sexually desirable than a girl that is romantic and caring? For some reason, so many guys I know prefer to hang out with the girls that ...

A.   16 February 2010: Guys in your age group are looking for sex and they go for the ones most likely to give it up easy. When they start growing up and settling down, they look for the decent women like you seem to be. Then the sluts will hate you wondering why nobody ... (read in full...)

Need opinions on what happened to me..thank you for reading!

Q.   I am writing this as my "burn letter", to free me from the pain I am going through and to try to get over this and ask people what did I do wrong so please bear with me and read this, thanks! I went about 4 times with a girl in nov. 2008 (we were...

A.   16 February 2010: She sounds very spoilt and at the same time is used to having the red carpet rolled out for her by dominating rich guys. I'm sorry but she is not regular guy material. Sad thing though is that at 37 she might struggle to meet wealthy guys under 50 ... (read in full...)

I have heard a number of stories about my husband with other women, what shall I do?

Q.   Dear agony aunt! we have been married for 9 years.mine was an arranged marriage.we later had 2 kids,one boy,3 years and one girl,5 years.I am 33 years old and my husband 34.My husband is a good human being.he is always concentr...

A.   16 February 2010: Honey, I'm sorry but its obvious he slept with her. He is pulling the whole "never admit" thing that some men do. He will never come out with the truth. I know its very hard being in a foreign country without any other person to support you. My ... (read in full...)

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