How do I deal with my 16 year old son getting his girlfriend pregnant?
Q. I am the mom of 3 sons ages 18, 16 and 13. I just found out that my 16 yr old son got his 16 yr old girlfriend pregnant. We have been very open about sex and had MANY safe sex talks. I knew that he had a girlfriend but didn't know that they were ...
A. 7 February 2010: You need to ensure that your son takes full responsibility for his actions. He needs to step up and do the right thing. This is one of those situations calling for an objective counselor to talk him and his girlfriend through their options. Try ... (read in full...)
We went on a couple of dates, but he is still in touch with his exes?
Q. Hi, I went on a couple of dates with this guy but he has been in touch with his ex GF all the time. They split up about 6 months ago but stayed in touch and they talked about getting back together. Whilst we were on our date she was texting him ...
A. 7 February 2010: I think you could be setting yourself up for a fall. He seems angry with his ex because she doesn't do exactly as he wants. That's why he calls her names. I think you could end up having a very bad experience and should consider dropping him ... (read in full...)
I want to work at it and she is very negative and seems mentally already checked out!
Q. 47,wife 46 married 24 years, 3 kids 20,18,14. Recently entered AA, now sober for 2 years. Spouse says I have withdrawn and she has fell out of love with me but still loves me. said she has put my attempt to be happy 1st at her expense. I have been ...
A. 7 February 2010: By your own admission you have not given her the affection she needs so what do you expect? This whole A type personality story does not mean a thing; you just have to learn to think outside your comfort zone or you lose out. Visit ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I may have texted too much and scared him away!
Q. Met a man online. Thought he was great got on really well. Has a very stressful job. Used to text him and he wouldn't answer me so I would text him again he would answer with something like, yes still alive, just stressed and thatv would be it. So ...
A. 7 February 2010: Back off completely and give him his space. When you send a message, never send another until it has been replied. Sending repeat texts is kind of like nagging and desperate so just stop that. Dont always rush to answer his every call or ... (read in full...)
Do you think my wifes long distance affair will last? Should I ring the other guy and explain what she means to me and hope he will back off?
Q. my wife has been talking to this guy she knew 10 years ago from work.i just found out that they had sex when she was supposed to be at her moms.they talk on the internet.he lives in nevada and we live in va.i overheard her tell him that she loves ...
A. 7 February 2010: I have read several of your posts and have come to the conclusion that you are not telling us the whole story. Her behavior indicates that there might possibly be an issue with your infidelity in the past. She is acting like a person who has ... (read in full...)
He never told me he wanted to be just friends! What do I do?
Q. Hello, Please help I had a relationship with a man for 1 month and 2 weeks .He told me that he is looking to settle down with a woman and that iam what he is looking for. So he always tells me to send him e-mails or call him .One day we went out ...
A. 6 February 2010: Isnt this the third post you have done about this guy? Why are you so consumed by him? If he is acting funny then just drop him and meet someone who is more interested. If a guy is keen on you he will make an effort. On the Internet you meet at ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to kiss a girl's breast during sex or foreplay?
Q. I want to ask a question about this. It confused me sometimes whenever i want to do it. The thing is that i want to suck or kiss my girl friend breast during sex or foreplay, i wonder maybe i might taste the milk during sucking or kissing her ...
A. 6 February 2010: A woman's breasts only produce milk when she is in the late stages of pregnancy or if she is breastfeeding. So dont worry, go for it. ... (read in full...)
The last thing I want is babies but that's all he wants!
Q. Hi, Im 27 and been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. About 2 years ago the topic of children has come up and i am 110% sure i never want to have them-i dont like children and i made it very clear to him. He however wants children and being the on...
A. 6 February 2010: Even though I have my own kids who I love dearly from a previous marriage, I also have a fiancé who is literally demanding more kids and he even sulked for weeks when I at first said no more. But I love him so we have discussed it and decided that ... (read in full...)
My sister physically attacked me when I am 7 months pregnant!
Q. Im 7 months pregnant I still live at home with my parents and sister and lastnight I had a row with my sister and she physically attacked me. My parents are standing up for my sister saying that ' I shouldnt hide behind my pregnancy as a way of ...
A. 6 February 2010: If my child chose to do something like get pregnant outside of wedlock then she would have to take responsibility for her own life. I would not pay for her mistakes and disobedience. She will have to learn her lesson by supporting herself and not ... (read in full...)
I'm going on holiday with my b/f and wondering if I can wear a bikini
Q. hey, Im a size 16 and im going on my first sun holiday this summer!! Im going with my bf so i want to look really good but im so worried about bikinis. Can someone please tell me wear i can get ones that will flatter my body but still look r...
A. 6 February 2010: go to a shop and choose a sexy one piece with a sarong. If you are size 16 with your tummy exposed it might make you feel self conscious although no one else will care. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my family that the baby's father is part Turkish!
Q. I'm pregnant but now raising this kid alone. My family have no idea who the father is and as he does not wish to be involued, i see no reason why my family should know. It is the child at the end of the day which is most important. My question is a ...
A. 6 February 2010: Your baby will look white and any dark features will be seen as Italian/Mediteranean. Dont make up the nationality of the father, if they ask about his background just say you dont want to talk about him its too painful right now. After baby is ... (read in full...)
I'm married, will be a father in a month, but can't control my feelings for the receptionist at the gym.
Q. Hi Everyone, I am a new member on this site. I am married now for 8 months almost and we will have a baby soon. We dated for only around 1.5 years before we decided to get married. I go to this gym everyday and have started liking a girl at th...
A. 6 February 2010: If you pursue this woman, where do you think its all going to end up? It boggles my mind how some men just lack the ability to see around corners. Let's just say you end up with the receptionist... In a year or so she will also be heavily pregnant ... (read in full...)
For anyone out there who has been cheated on.. can you tell me when the pain starts to subside?
Q. Hi everyone, For anyone out there who has been cheated on.. can you tell me when the pain starts to subside? Only three weeks ago, I found out my boyfriend of eight years has been having an affair for the past year - and possibly the ent...
A. 6 February 2010: The crying stops after about 6 months and the anger takes about a full one to two years. After I had ranted and raged daily for months at the betrayal, I started to think about what I should be grateful for. In your case think about being grateful ... (read in full...)
My sister physically attacked me when I am 7 months pregnant!
Q. Im 7 months pregnant I still live at home with my parents and sister and lastnight I had a row with my sister and she physically attacked me. My parents are standing up for my sister saying that ' I shouldnt hide behind my pregnancy as a way of ...
A. 6 February 2010: Considering that your family knows you best and were witnesses to the fight, I think they may be right that you are using your pregnancy to get sympathy and to manipulate them to take your side. Your sister hitting you is wrong but we are only ... (read in full...)
I don't like my father's inappropriate behaviour! Should I be worried?
Q. I think my father is acting really weird. I've never been too close to him and whenever he wanted to kiss or hug me like my mother does, i silently rejected him because I didn't like it. That made him angry and we started to argue about unimportant ...
A. 6 February 2010: I think this is one of those situations where you were never close to your father when you were little and he is now trying to make up for lost time by being close to you now. Just tell him the truth that you like your physical space and dont like ... (read in full...)
I don't like my father's inappropriate behaviour! Should I be worried?
Q. I think my father is acting really weird. I've never been too close to him and whenever he wanted to kiss or hug me like my mother does, i silently rejected him because I didn't like it. That made him angry and we started to argue about unimportant ...
A. 6 February 2010: I think this is one of those situations where you were never close to your father when you were little and he is now trying to make up for lost time by being close to you now. Just tell him the truth that you like your physical space and dont like ... (read in full...)
My wife is going to divorce me and wont listen to me
Q. me and my wife had arugement around christmas about my step daughter brining mher boy-freind over house when i don't like the kid and how i come i always have money to pay the bills. the arugement got heat and alot was said i called my wife a whore ...
A. 6 February 2010: Your post is slightly incoherent but I'll try make sense of it. You are basically saying you only shouted at your wife and you didn't hit her so why is she wanting a divorce. Abusive partners don't often realize that verbal abuse can be just as ... (read in full...)
Virgin, half virgin, whats the definition of virgin?
Q. How do YOU define the term "virgin"? A person who hasn't had ANY sort of sexual experience at all? Someone who hasn't had sexual intercourse but has had oral, anal? For girls, do you consider them a virgin if their hymen or "cherry" was popped from ...
A. 6 February 2010: You're absolutely right with your definition. But I think most people define a virgin as someone who hasn't had sexual intercourse with another person. But I know a Muslim girl who has her hymen intact for religious reasons and is saving it for ... (read in full...)
How do you know when love can conquer all or when you have to call it quits?
Q. I have been struggling w/ my marriage and am in the process of getting a divorce. This is a painful decision, as I have two kids, but am not in love and have not been in a healthy marriage for years. During this process, my boss and I have become ...
A. 5 February 2010: Relationships are more than just being about love. They are also about commitment, honesty, faithfulness, family, working through all the tough times. Lasting love cannot begin on a foundation of lies, betrayal, deception, cheating, pain, ... (read in full...)
I don't like my father's inappropriate behaviour! Should I be worried?
Q. I think my father is acting really weird. I've never been too close to him and whenever he wanted to kiss or hug me like my mother does, i silently rejected him because I didn't like it. That made him angry and we started to argue about unimportant ...
A. 5 February 2010: But maybe give us some background on why you have never been close to him??... (read in full...)
Do men only cheat when they feel like less of a man?
Q. Is it true that men only cheat when there girldfriends make them feel like less of a man?...
A. 5 February 2010: I think the number one reason is opportunity. If a woman offers free sex, even a good man will probably go for it. They are not used to being pursued as much as women; women get propositioned at least once or twice a day, men only get that per week ... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 5 February 2010: To anon female: the reason you are posting anonymously is probably because even you don't believe your own BS.
To Original Poster: I completely do understand; my boyfriend is 2 decades older than me. There are times when we cannot be together beca... (read in full...)
She is not a virgin but wants me to wait 4 or 5 years for marriage
Q. After dating my girlfriend for over a year, she mentions for the first time at random, that she's not a virgin. Before I heard this, I assumed she was, because of how she acts, how reserved she tends to be. Also, she seems to criticize others...
A. 5 February 2010: Maybe her previous sexual encounters were negative and now she will only sleep with someone committed to her. Its a common trend among women who were disappointed with their primary encounters or dumped soon thereafter. If you like this girl, then ... (read in full...)
I think she may be mentally unwell, but the police say just stay away
Q. hi im robby, i shall begin with my question and then explain some what would all you out there do ? how would you handle or deal with my situation ? i met a beautiful woman approx 2 years ago, during this time together we have shared all th...
A. 5 February 2010: You might want to google sites dealing with people who suffer from Mood Disorders such as Bipolar Disorders, Manic /Depressives and Borderline Personality Disorders. Most Bipolar sufferers when they are in their state of mania are very good to be ... (read in full...)
I've just realised me and women see things differently
Q. I need some insight. From women especially...(guys feel free to share if it has happened to you...) It's a little long winded, I apologize for that but I want to be thorough. Here's my situation. I am engaged. Totally in love... My fiance and I...
A. 5 February 2010: You need to tell her the truth that when she rejects you sexually it feels like a personal rejection. You are absolutely right that your needs are not being met. She needs to know this. I would recommend premarital counseling. The counselor ... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 4 February 2010: ... Which is why I said if you can't handle the law then leave the relationship!!!! Who talked about parents? We are talking about lovers and step children!!!!!! If you can't handle your partner prioritizing his kids then find one without! Pure and ... (read in full...)
Should I be moved out by now? Should I feel like less of a man for looking after my mother?
Q. I'm 32 yrs old and still living at home with mom. I'm not completely a momma's boy... but I do love her a lot. Hey she'll always be my #1 girl. Well my parents have been divorced for along time and I've always been the man of the house. I'm not a...
A. 4 February 2010: A loser is one who stays at home with his mother but doesn't make any contribution towards paying bills and the maintenance of the home. So far you are doing a brilliant job and 32 is still pretty young enough to start your own life some day; men ... (read in full...)
Boy, revenge is sweet...
Q. Hi, my wife recently cheated on me with a guy who lives in a small town about 10 miles away from me, anyway to cut a long story short I found everything out, confronted my wife and then I confronted the guy in question and gave him the mandotary ...
A. 4 February 2010: Firstly, welldone for slugging him.... People dont understand that when you have been cheated on, you feel humiliated and slugging the other guy is to remind him that you will not have your territory trespassed and also everytime in future he has ... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 4 February 2010: I just wanted to point out that spending time with your child doesn't necessarily mean you have to be juggling balls just to show them your love. Just being there; being available in the next room or just doing absolutely nothing besides being there ... (read in full...)
He has unresolved issues with his ex, who seems a really nice lady
Q. Hello. I have just started seeing a guy who is a divorcee and after he split up with his wife he had a long partner for about 8 years. He is 51 years old with a grown up sone at college. I am a bit worried because of the way he talks about his ex ...
A. 4 February 2010: In this case I think you should back off for a few weeks. Give them some space to iron out their issues. While you are there as his option he will not work on any of it. But be prepared that your backing off might result in them reconciling. But ... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 3 February 2010: I think this is also an age gap issue. Few people over age 30 celebrate Valentines. Its a day us oldies spend laughing and pointing at all the ridiculous girls wearing red clutching withered roses. It looks like he doesn't attach the same importance ... (read in full...)
My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex.
Q. Help My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex. She tells me that if I do not pester her for sex then it might happen more often but I realise now after 6 months that th...
A. 3 February 2010: Now that you have explained a bit more, perhaps its time to create a crisis in the marriage. You could do this by moving out for 2 weeks not to divorce but just to shock both of you into remembering what's important. Continue your duties with the ... (read in full...)
My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex.
Q. Help My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex. She tells me that if I do not pester her for sex then it might happen more often but I realise now after 6 months that th...
A. 3 February 2010: Now that you have explained a bit more, perhaps its time to create a crisis in the marriage. You could do this by moving out for 2 weeks not to divorce but just to shock both of you into remembering what's important. Continue your duties with the ... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 3 February 2010: When you are dating a man with children you have to learn to love them as much as your man. Stop making him have to choose, we are not in 3rd grade anymore. Why can't we all just get along??... (read in full...)
Will the Rubella vaccination cause any harm after I have had sex?
Q. i was injected rubella vaccination and i had sex with my boyfriend after 10 days of it using protection. will it cause any harm ? the condom did not tear but i am still afraid, can i take an i-pill? plz reply soon. m worried....
A. 3 February 2010: Doctors recommend waiting 2 months before trying to get pregnant after the Rubella vaccine. If you are pregnant, no studies have been done on the effect of the vaccine on the foetus. But its probably safer to get the vaccine to prevent the baby ... (read in full...)
He wants dirty talk but I just can't do it!
Q. alright. i have been having an affair with a friend of mine for a while now and we started off as friends only then grew into having benefits.. now there are stronger feelings there!.. but anyways.. i am not vocal during sex. i find it degrading ...
A. 3 February 2010: You dont have to start with anything extreme.... Maybe "I like that" or "do you like that" or "dont stop"... You get the idea?. Once you get started you can build up your vocabulary over time to the point where you can shock him by throwing in some ... (read in full...)
Even more confused..what is he thinking?
Q. ***UPDATE*** Now I'm even more confused.... after him breaking up with me and me asking him for space he noticed this morning I was on yahoo messanger for a while so he felt the need to question who I was talking to. He got really mad wh...
A. 3 February 2010: well done. You have found which button to press. He is obviously jealous and thought that if he dumps you you won't move on since you were groveling for his forgiveness. So now, keep doing your own thing. Maybe step up your grooming to a little ... (read in full...)
Are any married women prepare to put up with a cheating husband?
Q. Hello! I am curious to know - are there ANY married women out there who would put up with a cheating husband? If so, do you pretend not to know what's going on behind your back? Do you take care of your children and ignore his lies and betrayals? ...
A. 3 February 2010: When I found out my ex was cheating I couldn't accept it and left him; but my friend is married to a man who has about 10 mistresses (seriously) and of those about 5 of them have children by him. She hates it but she stays because she lives in a ... (read in full...)
I became aggressive in trying to get him to like me and I tried sleeping with him but he could not perform
Q. I have liked this guy for over 15 years. We dated over the phone when I was in the 9th grade and he was in the 11th grade. We use to talk on the telephone about every thing we had the greatest conversations. After a while, this guy asked me to be ...
A. 3 February 2010: How can he like you when you are literally throwing yourself at him? He can't grow to respect you if you are acting so desperate. ... (read in full...)
Why does he make sexual comments to me if he doesn't want to have sex with me?
Q. I have a friend of about one year. At first there was a little romance and a little sex but that all cooled by his choice because 1) I have herpes and 2) I am menopausal and he wants children (he is 15 yrs younger than me). I can clearly see his ...
A. 3 February 2010: He probably enjoys watching your reaction. So if you genuinely don't like it then stop laughing prettily and give him a stony-faced look instead. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to have an orgasm.
Q. How can i cum or orgasm when i masterbate without sticking my finger / anything else in my vagina ?...
A. 3 February 2010: read a racy novel and squeeze your legs together. ... (read in full...)
My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex.
Q. Help My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex. She tells me that if I do not pester her for sex then it might happen more often but I realise now after 6 months that th...
A. 1 February 2010: Try wooing her again; some ideas: fix stuff around the house, do the dishes, dont leave your clothes lying on the floor for her to pick up, start dinner and set the table instead of waiting for her to serve you like a slave, buy her something sexy. ... (read in full...)
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