How do you deal with a rude spoiled child?
Q. I'm 25 and I've been dating this girl who is 22 for about 2 months now and everything has been fine. However, recently she brought her five year old daughter to live with her which changes the dynamic of our relationship considerably. I stayed ...
A. 10 January 2010: As a mother of 3 kids and the youngest a 5 year old, this behaviour is shocking and unacceptable. But it is not your place to discipline her. You need to tell the mother that you are shocked by the child behaving like this. At age 5, a child ... (read in full...)
3rd time is the charm? Where do you go to find a 3rd spouse?
Q. Be it male or female who has been divorced twice and has kids. Where and how does a person find a third spouse. What are the major drawbacks and what odds does the third marriage have at success?...
A. 10 January 2010: Any marriage can work if you have worked on the issues that caused the demise of the previous. Marriage is about what you are contributing to the marriage not about what you are getting back in return. Once a couple understands this and are BOTH ... (read in full...)
Daughter and boyfriend sponging off of us and we can't afford it!
Q. Our daughter has recently turned 18 and left school about 18 months ago,since she left school she hasn't worked or done any schooling.She refuses to get a job and comes up with every excuse in the book why she cant get a job or even look for one. T...
A. 10 January 2010: You need to give them a deadline for getting out of your house. Say, when you are moving to your new place. It gives them enough time to sort themselves out. In the mean time, stop buying food or anything for them. Maybe if the food runs out and ... (read in full...)
Husband wants to meet and talk before signing divorce papers. Should I do this?
Q. After being separated from my husband for nearly 5 years, I filled out divorce papers and gave them to him. He was a mess and refused to sign the papers. Now he says he wants to meet somewhere and "talk" and says I "owe it to him" to talk about ...
A. 10 January 2010: Wow. I have been in the exact same position. After 3 years separation he just couldn't move on. My advice is go ahead and meet him in a quiet coffee shop or something. But before hand, warn him that there is nothing he can do to make you change ... (read in full...)
We have a baby together and he's confessed he lied about his age! How am I supposed to trust him again?
Q. I have been in a relatioship with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I fell madly in love with him we have a 5 month old baby together now. He recently confessed that he is actually 12 years older than me. (I am 26) When we first met he told me ...
A. 10 January 2010: If he came forward by himself and confessed then you should consider moving past this. This is a real opportunity for you to show him how wonderful you are by forgiving him. Nobody is perfect. But his imperfection is only about his age. Better ... (read in full...)
What do I say to my parents? He wants to marry me!
Q. so heres my question im 18 iv been goin out with my boyfriend for 18 months, i love him i really do, he wants to get married hes 19, i do want to marry him but at the same time i dont i really dont know what to say to my parents even if i did say ...
A. 10 January 2010: As a former teen bride myself (19 at the time) I just have to say that you have to make sure you have a career. Right now its nice and romantic because you guys are not paying your own rent. Even if you you contribute something at home (I used to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be angry or am I just being selfish?
Q. Its not relationship but i need help. 3 years ago my brother killed somebody and is in prison. He had 2 children. his former girlfriend went on to have another child. so in may 2007 she killed somebody too (he was trying to break into the house a...
A. 9 January 2010: Your frustration is understandable; it is difficult to feel sympathetic to children who are not your own. I actually commend you for having done your best to help despite you not being happy about it. We all know how traumatic foster care is and ... (read in full...)
Am I being a selfish teenager, or is it my sick mother who needs to change?
Q. Hello. I'm looking for some objective advice. I am in my third year at university and I was living at home with my mum and sister. I had a boyfriend who used to stay over a lot but my mum didn't really like it, partly because he was unemployed. ...
A. 9 January 2010: I think we are being Punk'd. There is no way a person this inconsiderate could exist. It must be a prank.
But in case it isn't, I just hope that you understand just how lucky you are to have a mother as wonderful as this. You must apologise to her ... (read in full...)
What do you guys think? IS he cheating on me...?
Q. Hi all, I'm currently suspecting that the man I have been seeing for several years is cheating on me. If you could read through the below list of signs and give me your opinion about whether it could be something I'm overthinking.. or a list of ...
A. 8 January 2010: he is very obviously cheating so dump him. Don't be used like this... (read in full...)
My mum's weight problem...
Q. My Mum has a weight problem which has got significantly worse lately, and I'm not quite sure if there is anything more I can do to help her. I have been really supportive of her since I was a child. I have done all I can to be encouraging and have ...
A. 8 January 2010: What about her joining Weightwatchers or Slimmers World with her. Also, getting her a personal trainer for a couple of months to get her started. Or having a daily walk every evening. You can start with 10min and work up to an hour.
But at the ... (read in full...)
Indecent proposal...he thinks I cheated!
Q. so what do i do when my husband thinks i have cheated because of talk from friends with a mutual aquaintance (i didnt by the way) its obsurd but my husband has locked me out emotionally and other ways claiming not being able to get past the thought ...
A. 8 January 2010: Offer to take a polygraph test. Centers in every major city ... (read in full...)
Does my fiancee have a say about my decision to send my children on a summer trip?
Q. I am a 50 year old WIDOWER with two children - an 18 year old and a 16 year old. I just engaged my girlfriend who is 44 and has an 18 year old. We live in our house - they live in theirs. We plan to marry late 2010, after her 18 year old goes off ...
A. 8 January 2010: She is wrong to interfere. Did you decide with her which college her child is going to? You have not moved in together yet and you still have a responsibility to your children so its not her decision to make. This is not the way to win over your ... (read in full...)
Husbands holidays away are causing problems...
Q. I have been married for 26 years and for the last 3 years my husband and I have been going through a rocky patch. We have always spent our holidays together, and despite not getting on quite as well have still really enjoyed time away together. ...
A. 8 January 2010: Sometimes in a marriage people need "me" time to decompress. If you are sure that he will be with friends then give him some space. Don't always try and control his every move; this will cause resentment... (read in full...)
Why can't my husband ejaculate after having sex with me?
Q. I was wondering why does my husband still masturbate if he has a wife to please him? I continue to catch him masturbating and that really hurts me and makes me feel like I'm not doing my job at home when I do every sexual favor he wants but even ...
A. 8 January 2010: I think there is a specific image that he needs in his mind to get him off. And that image is not of normal sex. It might be a little deviant which is why he needs to finish himself off. Maybe contact a sex therapist because if he can get aroused ... (read in full...)
Sign over your rights!
Q. I am 4 weeks pregnant. I discoved this on New Years Eve. When I told my then boyfriend he was very excited. I havent heard from him in 4 days. He wont answer my calls, he took me off his FB (how childish is that?). I texed him and asked him to just ...
A. 8 January 2010: Tell him that his silence in the last fee days have made you feel abandoned. Ask him why he is doing this?... (read in full...)
Help needed! I don't know if I have the strength to start again...
Q. hi I have been married for 25 years and with my partner for 27 years. there have been problems for many years but i was not prepared to leave while my children were at home. my daughter left home 4 years ago and I finally had the courage to leave on...
A. 8 January 2010: Those are solveable problems. Have you tried telling her that you have an issue with the hygiene etc.? A lot of men think someone should just automatically know what they like and don't like but women are not clairvoyants. Sometimes its best to ... (read in full...)
Help needed! I don't know if I have the strength to start again...
Q. hi I have been married for 25 years and with my partner for 27 years. there have been problems for many years but i was not prepared to leave while my children were at home. my daughter left home 4 years ago and I finally had the courage to leave on...
A. 7 January 2010: From your ages it seems your relationship started when you were 20 and she was 36? Can you be more specific about what the problem you have with her is? Is it sex? Does she have a bad attitude??....... (read in full...)
Relationship woes at the hands of his daughter...do I stay and fight or walk away?
Q. I am a mature, very attractive, independent woman dating a professional, very sweet man (M.D.). Four years now. He makes excuses for not having me meet his two children, both very needy in their own ways. They both live out of state. Both in ...
A. 7 January 2010: First of all, does the daughter know you are in her father's life? If she doesn't know you exist then maybe she feels her dad is lonely and wants to be there for him like he was for her. If she does know you live with your father, then you have to ... (read in full...)
In my senior years, remarried but I'm not happy.
Q. I lost my first wife age 58 16 years ago, also her sister age 56 who was widowed died the same year, life can be a pig, I remarried 12 years ago, the marrage was never consumated because she was raped as a child by her uncle who went to prison. My ...
A. 7 January 2010: Maybe you can elaborate why is there no happiness? Is it something she is doing? Her age? Your age? And does she know you are not happy with her?
As for the house, you need to talk to a divorce lawyer/solicitor. He will be able to tell you what... (read in full...)
Why is an attractive woman pushing men away by not having sex with them?
Q. I am single again after 10 years of marriage (wife passed away 2008) I have meet a nice lady has a teen age son, divorced since 92, and I think very attractive. Problem is she has not had sex in 10 years and refuses to even talk about it. I love her ...
A. 7 January 2010: She is a just a careful woman. Experience has taught her that giving it up before you are sure about the guy is a recipe for disaster. The other men proved her right that they only wanted her for sex. My guess is: she is looking for someone who ... (read in full...)
Hubby not interested in sex anymore??
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point, Ive been with my hubby for 20 years, he's 42 and I'm 36, the first 15 years together he couldn't get enough of me, then I started to do shift work and he said he got "lonely" and met some girl at the supermarket ...
A. 7 January 2010: To rule out cheating, you need to set a trap. Get keystroke spyware for the computer to see what he is typing; I managed to get his email password by using a free trial of the software. From there I found some shocking emails with his secretary. ... (read in full...)
How do I make her feel better so I can kiss her?
Q. So we have been dating for a while now. We're kind of young I'm 16 and she's 14. She's two feet shorter than me and almost twice my weight and not confident at all and we haven't even kissed yet. She has never even kissed anyone. How can I ma...
A. 7 January 2010: Just keep telling her how great she is. Tell her how good it feels to be around her. If she disagrees with you, tell her that when you say those nice things you don't want to argue with her, you want her to just accept it. ... (read in full...)
My mum is over controlling
Q. heres the thing.i just turned 18 and i have been with my mum for 2years now..she left when i was 11 or 12 and we started livin again when i was 16.she has all these rules like dont date,be home by 5pm and all that.she wants me to dothings her ...
A. 7 January 2010: Why don't you write her a letter explaining how much you love her but that you would like a little more freedom. That way, she will think before she reacts. You leave the letter somewhere where she will find it then leave the house and switch off ... (read in full...)
Worried about nipple size
Q. This is probably a self-esteem question. I've been seeing this guy for a while, and I want to take it to the next level. Not sex yet, but other things. I have a problem with my body though and I'm scared he won't find me attractive after. My chest ...
A. 7 January 2010: If you find a problem with it then so will he. If you make it a non issue then he won't either. Its sounds normal to me. He will only care if you care ... (read in full...)
I want to walk around in my underware
Q. I feel like taking off my clothes and leave my underwear and bra on only but afraid that my family will find out but I cant resist doing it because my kids would see it...
A. 7 January 2010: I think you are losing your marbles... Wait a minute..! Are we being Punk'd?
If not, why cant you do this in your room/ bathroom or when no one is home?... (read in full...)
Messed up joke
Q. i'm affectionate with all of my close guy buds and even other teachers and some others who are way older than me. but this situation has somehow gotten out of hand. it all started as an inside joke between the two of us. i was kidding around w...
A. 7 January 2010: You can try either one of two things:
Either write him a letter saying you can't do this anymore then leave it where he will find it and read it. That way, you don't need to confront him face to face.
Or, you tell him your mum found your diary an... (read in full...)
How do I convince my parents to let him visit for a few days?
Q. So I've been talking with this guy on the computer for a few weeks now. But I already feel like I've known him for so long already. I talk to him through IM, texting, and the website that I first met him on. I know that it's not maybe the smartest ...
A. 7 January 2010: I would also recommend that you skype/webcam first so you can speak to each other directly. When you only communicate in writing to someone, they always say the right things because they have time to think before they answer you. Chat with him on ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he doesn't want another child! How can I make this work?
Q. Ok. My son's father and I got together fall 2006. I knew he had a daughter and they had a good father-daughter relationship. I got pregnant soon after we begin dating. My son is 2 now. His daughter is 11. I don't really care for his daughter because ...
A. 7 January 2010: I would advise you not to attack his daughter. She is a child and her behavior is a result of what she has been taught. I think you will make an instant enemy out of him if you attack/criticise his child. It would be better if you criticised him for ... (read in full...)
Is the army making him emotionally unattached?
Q. I met this guy back may just as he was headn for another deployment n iraq and we emailed, then IM'd and talked on phone alot then i flew to see him for thanksgiving in germany after the deployment because i work for the airline. Well had a blast ...
A. 7 January 2010: In order to survive emotionally in a war zone you do have to be detached. That's how you protect yourself from a breakdown. Maybe he doesnt want to form any emotional connections until he is discharged because for instance, how many dear Cupid ... (read in full...)
Should I deal with my abusive stepdad or leave home?
Q. Last night, while I was sitting on the couch with my mom and step dad, my step dad and i started arguing mildly. He started to raise his voice, and I asked him to stop, but he didn't, and kept raising his voice even more. He was really getting on my ...
A. 7 January 2010: You are over 18, its his house, you should move out. He was wrong to hit you no doubt about it. At the same time, why are you picking fights with him in his house? He is your mother's husband so you should respect him. Instead of arguing with ... (read in full...)
How can I get my 7 year old to stay in bed and sleep???
Q. Hi i know this is a site about relationships, and this problem is about my relationship with my 7 year old daughter in a round about way. I'm at the end of my tether with her at bed time, for the first few years she went to bed with no trouble, but ...
A. 6 January 2010: I forgot to add that with kids, sometimes the need for attention and intimacy may cause this behavior; as in negative attention is better than none at all. You should constantly reassure her with hugs and pats and kisses throughout the day. I ... (read in full...)
How can I get my 7 year old to stay in bed and sleep???
Q. Hi i know this is a site about relationships, and this problem is about my relationship with my 7 year old daughter in a round about way. I'm at the end of my tether with her at bed time, for the first few years she went to bed with no trouble, but ...
A. 6 January 2010: At this age positive reinforcement is the best. You ask her during bedtime routine what she would love to do with you, maybe go to the ice-skating rink or something. You promise her that if she sleeps without a fuss 5 nights in a row then we go. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my new partner that I enjoy dressing in women's clothes?
Q. I am a man in my early fifties and I have recently met a lovely woman. I want this relationship to be successful and I want to be totally honest with her. My problem is that my honesty could destroy the relationship. I want to tell her that I like ...
A. 6 January 2010: The thing that makes women angry the most is being lied to. In the majority of cases these days, most women would be willing to accept stuff like this as long as she felt secure in the relationship, loved, respected and valued by a considerate ... (read in full...)
The physical element of our relationship is lacking so does he have the right to be with another woman?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm interested to hear from anyone whose been cheated on by their someone they love.. HAS cheated on someone they love.. or feels patient enough to read my story and give me their honest opinion... So I'm 27 and have been with m...
A. 6 January 2010: 99.9% of men cannot sustain a relationship without sex. Many men feel that they need to connect sexually with someone and if they are not getting it at home they will seek it out. We hate it but that's just how it is. However, it doesnt justify ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is too loose!
Q. I've been sexually active with my boyfriend (I also lost my virginity to him) for about a year and a half now. A few days ago I played with my PC muscles when he was inside me and he said it feels wonderful, and then proceeded to tell me that it was ...
A. 6 January 2010: Try telling law enforcement that you are old enough, because your boyfriend could actually go to jail for statutory rape for having sex with a child. ... (read in full...)
My guidance counselor gives me the creeps. What do I do about her?
Q. Hi...I just need some advice on this situation. Okay, my guidance counselor (female) and I spoke with each other regularly for a few weeks because of a near-divorce thingy between my parents that is now resolved. But now she calls me into her office ...
A. 6 January 2010: I know she has counselled you and you may be reluctant to get her into trouble. So just write her a note saying: thanks for all the counselling you have given me. But I am ok now and want to move on with my life and I no longer require any ... (read in full...)
How should I start a relationship?
Q. hello. before i ask, I'll tell you about me. i'm 15 and a sophomore in high school. i'm like the nicest guy my the whole school pretty much. i've actually done my friends hw for them, that nice. i have an awsome sense of humor. i laugh at every...
A. 6 January 2010: the friendship first route is always the best for ANY relationship. Because you have to know someone first before you can decide if you want to date them. The other kids in your school are probably too busy with their own lives to worry about yours. ... (read in full...)
He says he'll get help so should I go back to him?
Q. The other day, my boyfriend and I were arguing in my car. He kept saying he was going to leave me so i fianlly got tired of the threats and told him that i was not going to beg him to stay anymore. At one point he just sat and let me express my ...
A. 6 January 2010: You are about to stay in an abusive relationship. He WILL hit you again if you stay. He is a dangerous unstable boy and you should get out now. What you are experiencing (pity for him) is exactly what he wants. Things will be fine for a few months ... (read in full...)
Why isn't my girlfriend attracted to me?
Q. ok so i have been dating my girlfriend for a year and 8 months and i love her with all of my heart. we have had a great relationship and we are basically best friends. we rarely fight and when we do we always work it out. our relationship started ...
A. 6 January 2010: When you try to go further than groping does she say no? Because if you are expecting her to move things along then it most likely won't happen. Maybe she has been waiting for you to take control. You know, initiate things, remove her clothes ... (read in full...)
Confusion over the kids!
Q. Should I call it quits? I know everyones answer will prob be yes straight away but here goes. I met my now second Husband in a bar May 2008 we had a lot in common he was charming and made me laugh. we both had children of the same age 3 and 5 an...
A. 5 January 2010: For the first time I'm almost speechless. This is possibly the worst post I have ever read. How could you possibly let an abusive man near your children? If you have children you can only go into a new relationship as a package. How can he then ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is too loose!
Q. I've been sexually active with my boyfriend (I also lost my virginity to him) for about a year and a half now. A few days ago I played with my PC muscles when he was inside me and he said it feels wonderful, and then proceeded to tell me that it was ...
A. 5 January 2010: He is being manipulative and talking BS. He is just trying to make you insecure about yourself. Maybe next time you could tell him that his dic feels smaller and see how he likes it.... (read in full...)
| *ngzw's friends
These are mutual friends, so *ngzw has
added them and they have added *ngzw!
|
