I'm being harrassed by his wife! How do I get rid of this married man I had an affair with?
Q. I recently read an article in regards to a women in a relationship with a married man for 18 years and some of the comments were pretty harsh, understandable, but harsh. Like her, I too was in a long term relationship with a married man, 13 years. ...
A. 15 January 2010: You are still responsible for endangering your son by your cheating and lying and making him develop a close relationship with a liar and a cheater. You have involved your son in your deceitful relationship and whilst I don't condone the wife ... (read in full...)
After talking online 3 months we met, but I think he was disappointed!
Q. Hi..i am hoping for some advice..am hoping for a male point of view...here goes. I met a guy online..a dating site..we chatted every night for 3 months on msn..he phoned me and text. He had seen photographs of me (I am 47...he is 39..I am uk..he i...
A. 13 January 2010: You have already received some good advice from AuntyEm but just to add, next time you plan on meeting someone try also talking on webcam so you can get a feel for each other's mannerisms and body language. Ofcourse it still doesn't give an accurate ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Should I trust him?
Q. I really need some advice, my husband cheated on me with a girl that he worked with, when I found out of course I kicked him out of our home, but we kept in touch he is a nice guy and I know that every one makes mistakes. We were seperated for 3 ...
A. 13 January 2010: I have been cheated on before so I understand. In my opinion, you have punished him enough with the separation and you should try give him another chance. But you have to find out WHY he did it in the first place. He needs to be able to explain ... (read in full...)
Wishing and hoping for a boy to love me for myself
Q. I just wish that i had a guy that love me for who i am and the way i look:( i cant stand a guy that is a cheater and a man whore. I have been cheated on and guys just like me cuz of my butt and my boobs. I just want someone who will care for me and ...
A. 13 January 2010: Men are initially attracted to the outside. Once they get to know you, then they are attracted to your personality as well. Which is why the rule of thumb is: don't have sex with a guy unless you have known him for a while. It takes time for a guy ... (read in full...)
Is my present really that insulting?
Q. So my friend is getting married soon and I decided to make her a couple of soft toys as part of her wedding present (I've become quite good at soft toy making). I had a look through my pattern books and saw this really cute elephant pattern I just ...
A. 13 January 2010: If they are an overweight couple I would say it might be offensive. To be on the safe side can't you choose something else that is a little more graceful?! But at the end of the day its your decision... (read in full...)
I'm being harrassed by his wife! How do I get rid of this married man I had an affair with?
Q. I recently read an article in regards to a women in a relationship with a married man for 18 years and some of the comments were pretty harsh, understandable, but harsh. Like her, I too was in a long term relationship with a married man, 13 years. ...
A. 13 January 2010: What a total waste. 13 years of your life as a brick, building his ego. Truly sad. If you are serious about cutting contact and you want the wife to stop harassing you, then you need to stop this self righteous "he came willingly" stuff. That will ... (read in full...)
Trouble reaching a climax
Q. i am having trouble reaching a climax. I have sex approx every three days. I climax every 7 or 8 days. I am male 75 years old. What should I do?...
A. 13 January 2010: Wow. You are so hot!!!
This probably requires a complete physical from a doctor or urologist. Try go to someone in your age group because a younger doctor is likely to just brush it off and tell you to be grateful for that once a week. Can I ask,... (read in full...)
What can you do to prevent sleep paralysis?
Q. What can you do to prevent sleep paralysis? Hi, so I just asked about my dreams and someone said that it sounds like sleep paralysis. So I looked it up and it sounds like I have it. Let me take you back to after I used to have these dreams whe...
A. 12 January 2010: Are you religious at all? Because if you were a Christian I would say you were under the attack of demonic forces. If you are a Christian visit a pastor at any Pentecostal church and they will take you through a deliverance prayer. They would say ... (read in full...)
His mum controls his life!!!
Q. I'm 29 years old, my boyfriend is 46 years old, we've been together for four years now and his mom is 71 years old, she controls his life tells him what to do what he should be doing and what he shouldn't be doing with his life. she wants him to ...
A. 12 January 2010: What do you mean stares at his private parts?? :-(... (read in full...)
My attraction to my wife has been lost, and now I can't get this other woman out of my thoughts.
Q. I have been with my wife for about 9 years now and our relationship was very fulfilling until my wife had consistently put on weight. It has been an issue and she has attempted to try and loose weight but only stays motivated for a couple weeks and ...
A. 12 January 2010: You would have to be satan to bring this up with her now that she's pregnant and is only going to gain more and won't be able to help it. It will be devastating to know now that you find her unattractive while she is trying to carry your baby. Hang ... (read in full...)
I don't like kids and now I have one!
Q. I have a toddler daughter. I love her very much. But im going to b honest: i dont like kids, n now that i have 1, im still adjusting to the whole thing. I feel so awkward playing with her n trying to talk to her on a toddler level. Even my family ...
A. 12 January 2010: I'm sure you will get some good activities to do with your child from the other posters, but the one piece of advice I will give you is make it a point to cuddle and kiss your child at least once or twice a day every day. Even if you don't feel like ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm missing out!
Q. Here goes, im 36 years old, have a daughter who is ten and me and her dad split up when she was six monthes. It took a long time to get over him, stopped crying every night for four years and since then i have dated every once in a while, slept with ...
A. 12 January 2010: Put up a profile and nice pretty pic on www.connectingsingles.com. I felt the same way once that with 3 kids no decent guy would want to date me. But its not true. At 36 you are now free to date rich old handsome daddies in their 50's who's kids ... (read in full...)
I try to maintain the "I'm fine as I am" stance, but most guys seem to go for the trophy girl sort
Q. I have always thought that it was best to be myself- people always say "just be yourself" but then you have the Hollywood idea where looks are everything. Perfect hair, tight clothes, no brains. (Apparently it isn't "cool" to be smart or ...
A. 12 January 2010: Just the same way that you would not look twice at a scruffy guy, unfortunately you also have to take care of your appearance as well. That is if you want to meet somebody. You have to do your hair and nails and wear decent clothes. There is no ... (read in full...)
Can stress and being physically and emotionally abused affect my pregnancy?
Q. I just found out that I am pregnant...about 5 weeks. Not in a healthy relationship, please don't lecture about the relationship, I know what I need to do. What I need is advice from people who have been through this before. I was hit in the l...
A. 12 January 2010: Depression is unlikely to cause you to miscarry, but it can cause you to not be looking after yourself well enough to have a healthy baby with a healthy birthweight. Make sure you start taking in your pregnancy multivitamins and eating at least 3 ... (read in full...)
I smell trouble from my mum's boyfriend!
Q. My mother's boyfriend came back to live with us after a couple years (yes, years) of taking care of his sick mother. Today, my mother had already left for work, and it was just me and him in the house. He came down for breakfast and sat uncomfor...
A. 12 January 2010: If you don't have any money for expensive recording equipment, surely you have access to a cellphone with a recording function? Tape him whenever he speaks to you. MP3 players also have this function.
Also be brave enough to tell him that you have... (read in full...)
Being teased about a crush on the teacher
Q. i've got a crush on a teacher.all the kids are teasing me.i'm worried about turing my computer on because the kids leave me messages about us on facebook myspace and so on.they tease me at school too.i'm worried that my parnets will give me a speech ...
A. 12 January 2010: You have 2 choices: either to wait it out knowing the teasing can't last forever or to develop a new crush as a decoy to change their focus to someone new. ... (read in full...)
Signs of a player?
Q. I need advice!! I have pushed myself to get back into the dating world. I went online and never thought I would meet someone I would fall for and BAM! Two weeks ago I met a man and we have been emailing 24/7. We have clicked. We have exchanged ...
A. 12 January 2010: Dont think anything until after you meet. You can't already expect him and you to be exclusive until you have met a few times and decided to be a couple. I met my current boyfriend on the web too and before we met in person I noticed that his ... (read in full...)
Who could the father be?
Q. Hi! I'm 7mnths pregnant! Due march 18th! The 1st day of my last period was 11th june which means I ovulated 14 days afta on the 25th! My most fertile days were from the 20th june to 25th june and I had unprotected sex with my partner on 21st and ...
A. 12 January 2010: From your post I suspect that your partner has no idea that there was another man?
My advice is that after the baby is born you should secretly have a paternity test with the other guy to rule him out. If he is not the father then problem solv... (read in full...)
I can't say no to the ladies!
Q. Help! I am a 24 year old male and the problem i have is to much sex/ relationships. Every weekend i go out and i will go through between 2 and 5 woman a weekend, i cannot say no! I am a good looking guy and very cheeky and flirt alot, i have settled ...
A. 12 January 2010: What's your number??!
Ok seriously, you need to ask yourself why you have no self control. Although its pretty normal for a guy your age to get around, promiscuity can become a serious problem when you start to cross moral boundaries like slee... (read in full...)
My partner keeps putting me down and he's so moody
Q. Hi, I'm really hoping for some help. I think you guys are great (I've posted on here before) and now I'm very upset so I thought maybe I could get some perspective here. I've been with my partner since 2002 and when I first met him he was ...
A. 12 January 2010: Size 16 (14 American) is not seriously overweight. He puts you down to try and make you believe that you can't do better than him. Think about it; he is impotent and uneducated, what else can he do besides put you down?! Well, I have a solution for ... (read in full...)
When does the crappy feeling go away?
Q. I feel so awful! I met with my soon-to be "ex" husband to discuss me filing for divorce. We've been separated for a few years and I guess he thought we'd get back together. So I gave him the opportunity have closure and talk everything through one ...
A. 12 January 2010: I have been through the exact same thing. I felt terrible because he begged and cried but I had lost my respect for him and felt that there was no way for us to see things the same way. My way of coping was to focus on my children's future and my ... (read in full...)
First time sex for both of us and now I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. Several weeks ago he and I had sex for the first time (both of our first times as well) it wasn't planned, it hurt like hell, it didn't last that long, and now I'm pregnant. My dad found out and now he hates me because ...
A. 12 January 2010: Phone 1800 999 9999. They help teens in your position. If you want an abortion don't let other people's personal opinions force you to have this child. If you choose to do this then the sooner you act then the better because every day that you ... (read in full...)
Do muslims have to marry their own kind?
Q. i met a muslim guy in oct and having been seeing him once a week as he works in a restaurant so very busy day and night. i very fond of him and he brought me a ring for christmas not a engagement a costume ring with crystal on and its silver very ...
A. 11 January 2010: It varies from family to family but one thing for sure is that you would have to convert to Islam and possibly wear the Hijab (headscarf) and dress modestly (long skirt and sleeves) when around extended family members. The Bangladeshi are one of ... (read in full...)
Can a labia majora be docked?
Q. my best friend has a quite big labia majora and a friend of us suggested her that she should put a rubber round it so it can cut out(docked),like people do it on dog's tails.is that ok?i am worried about her......
A. 11 January 2010: Ok I think you meant labia minora. Its a tribal southern African custom to stretch your labia from a young age but ofcourse now these girls grow up and they don't want them anymore. A labioplasty is the number one most common plastic surgery done on ... (read in full...)
Understanding low self esteem and dating a best friend of 12 years who suffers from it
Q. I am looking for some opinions on low self esteem and dating. My best friend of 12 years has very low self esteem and not suffering from it myself, I find it hard to understand how she feels. I looked on the internet and found a comment that an ...
A. 11 January 2010: Its possible that there is something in her upbringing that made her start to believe these lies about herself. Maybe either an absent or abusive parent so you can try ask her about it. Or maybe a mean boyfriend in her early teens once made a ... (read in full...)
Understanding low self esteem and dating a best friend of 12 years who suffers from it
Q. I am looking for some opinions on low self esteem and dating. My best friend of 12 years has very low self esteem and not suffering from it myself, I find it hard to understand how she feels. I looked on the internet and found a comment that an ...
A. 11 January 2010: Its possible that there is something in her upbringing that made her start to believe these lies about herself. Maybe either an absent or abusive parent so you can try ask her about it. Or maybe a mean boyfriend in her early teens once made a ... (read in full...)
Why did he invite his ex to the funeral?
Q. I have just found out that prior to marrying me, my husband who i had been dating for about four monthes asked his ex girlfriend (the mother of his only child who is ten years old) to go to his mums funeral. He emailed her solely and told her first ...
A. 11 January 2010: If you hadn't wasted everybody's time with insufficient information in the first place then we would have been rushing with comments. Right now its a collective "for crying out loud... Now you tell us".
Anyway, its obvious that you have unre... (read in full...)
My husband was looking for love online. Is that cheating?
Q. I recently caught my husband of 21 years, posting profiles on dating sites. He stated that he received no love or attention from me and was looking for someone in our area for "discreet sex". I confronted him with the copies that I had printed of ...
A. 11 January 2010: Wow. I truly understand what you are going through. Being betrayed and deceived like this you start to ask yourself if you ever really knew him and if the relationship all these years has been one big lie. In answer to your questions:
The more... (read in full...)
Why did he invite his ex to the funeral?
Q. I have just found out that prior to marrying me, my husband who i had been dating for about four monthes asked his ex girlfriend (the mother of his only child who is ten years old) to go to his mums funeral. He emailed her solely and told her first ...
A. 11 January 2010: I can't understand why you are making such a mountain out of a mole hill. He is with YOU, he married YOU. Yet you are upset about why he invited the mother of his child to a drab and somber event like a funeral? If he had invited her to his ... (read in full...)
Do other couples who've been together for awhile find it hard to stay sexually excited about each other?
Q. Concerned about a lagging sexual desire. Been with b/f 5 years, he's funny, interesting and incredibly sexy to me but lately neither of us have been in the mood for sex. He's on blood pressure pills, so I understand where his problem is coming from; ...
A. 11 January 2010: Blood pressure meds do affect libido, do your bf needs to go to his doctor to tell him so that he can get his meds looked into. You need to tell him how you feel about missing the sex. If its hard for him to get aroused then why not experiment with ... (read in full...)
How can I get training in the beauty industry online or from home?
Q. Hi.I was wondering if i could learn how to train in beauty from by myself home or online ?. I'm interested in starting my own business, perhaps doing manicures or facials. I don't think i would be confident enough to do waxing. Is there any way i ...
A. 11 January 2010: England has thousands of online beauty therapy courses. Just google it. Then you can also enroll yourself for those short courses at your nearest vocational college for practical experience. After that, offer to work as a volunteer assistant for ... (read in full...)
Why do I like older men?
Q. Alright here it is. I have always been attracted to older guys. Even when I was little, like four or five I would try to kiss all the adult males (not blood related of course) that were around me. I'm nineteen now going to be twenty and by this age...
A. 11 January 2010: I used to look incredulously at couples where the woman was significantly younger than her guy. The assumption was she must be a gold digger and he must be rich!! But since I started dating older men I can't even look at the young'uns anymore! If ... (read in full...)
Why is she contacting me again?
Q. I told my female friend I shouldn't talk to her anymore because the closeness of our relationship was disrespectful to my girlfriend. She knew I had had feelings for her and seemed fine with it. She had had feelings for me at one point too. She ...
A. 11 January 2010: She obviously wants more than friendship with you. Just reply her email and tell her in the kindest way possible that this is the last time you are emailing her because like you said, your gf isn't comfortable. Wish her well in her life.... (read in full...)
Do I even respond to his over the top texts?
Q. Went out with a guy a few times 5 months ago but remained friends. So we text every few days. Casual conversation. I made a point that we are just friends I am seeing someone else. He seemed fine with that. But now I am getting texts from him saying ...
A. 11 January 2010: He is manipulating you so you have to speak to him in language he understands. Tell him that god told you in a dream that he is not the man for you. Tell him that god showed you the man you are to marry then proceed to describe someone who looks ... (read in full...)
I can't check for the strings because I'm repulsed by my own insides!
Q. Right this is really embarresing for me. But I had the implant about two months ago so I am almost fully protected for pregnany and stuff. But I have been told to check for the strings, and I just can't put my fingers up there, the feeling of my ow...
A. 11 January 2010: Well you had better get over yourself. If you had this thing put in, that means you are having sex right? Well your boyfriend puts his pp in there and probably his fingers too. If you find it revolting then why shouldnt he? Don't you use tampons? ... (read in full...)
Stepmother treats me and my dad very badly!
Q. I am an Indian girl of 24. In India, kids stay with their parents all their lives. Ofcourse the girl child stays with her parents only until she gets married and then stays with the husband and inlaws. Now my problem is that my mother passed away 12 ...
A. 11 January 2010: Do you not have any other family members in the extended family to come and talk to her? Like maybe your father's brothers or their wives or some of your older cousins. They should come and all with a united voice tell her that if she keeps acting ... (read in full...)
Why did he invite his ex to the funeral?
Q. I have just found out that prior to marrying me, my husband who i had been dating for about four monthes asked his ex girlfriend (the mother of his only child who is ten years old) to go to his mums funeral. He emailed her solely and told her first ...
A. 11 January 2010: ... And your problem is what exactly? You do realise that the ex has a child who's grandmother had died, right? How could the child be expected to bury a grandparent without the child's mother there for support? Even more puzzling you were there ... (read in full...)
Afraid she'll leave me if I ask her, to stay off the internet. Help!
Q. my wife and i have been drifting apart for about 2 years.she is always on the internet and is very brief when i ask her what she is dolng.she always has her cell locked and never leaves it alone.i have noticed several friends on her facebook site ...
A. 10 January 2010: Is she a much younger woman?
Either way, why don't you lovingly tell her that her phone habits are affecting you and you miss her love and attention. Perhaps you can negotiate that you both switch off phones at 5pm every evening or totally off at w... (read in full...)
I have a bit more skin than I think I should down there...
Q. Sorry if this is a bit of a weird question but im slightly worried. Is a little bit of excess skin "down below" normal? I know porn stars etc have surgery down there so it looks perfect. but on me, (excuse the going into detail) inbewtween the flaps ...
A. 10 January 2010: Go to this website www.labiastretching.com. I must warn you there are graphic pics. But this is just to show you how perfectly normal you are. Sometimes if you have something different you can always use it to your advantage by making it into a ... (read in full...)
I have a bit more skin than I think I should down there...
Q. Sorry if this is a bit of a weird question but im slightly worried. Is a little bit of excess skin "down below" normal? I know porn stars etc have surgery down there so it looks perfect. but on me, (excuse the going into detail) inbewtween the flaps ...
A. 10 January 2010: Go to this website www.labiastretching.com. I must warn you there are graphic pics. But this is just to show you how perfectly normal you are.... (read in full...)
Pregnant by my ex and he is being ignorant and distant!
Q. Im 26 and 5 months pregnant by my ex. Not the most ideal situation to be in but fortunately we are still friends and he promised to support me. Well, until now. Im about to move out of my 1 bed flat (not allowed chidren) into a 2 bed little house...
A. 10 January 2010: Men work better if you tell them exactly what you need them to do. Telling him WE need to buy baby THINGS is not specific enough. Give him a list that you would like him to buy. Better still, go to one of the baby centres or department stores and ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a rude spoiled child?
Q. I'm 25 and I've been dating this girl who is 22 for about 2 months now and everything has been fine. However, recently she brought her five year old daughter to live with her which changes the dynamic of our relationship considerably. I stayed ...
A. 10 January 2010: As a mother of 3 kids and the youngest a 5 year old, this behaviour is shocking and unacceptable. But it is not your place to discipline her. You need to tell the mother that you are shocked by the child behaving like this. At age 5, a child ... (read in full...)
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