I found my soulmate and things are getting hot....but she is married
Q. We started out just being friends and now we are really close friends. Things are becoming different now. When I am around her, my heart litrally beats faster. I find myself thinking about her all day ((daydreaming)). When I close my eyes at ...
A. 24 December 2009: Interesting developments. Please can you come back and update us m....'s in a few weeks. Would love to know if you manage to make it work!!... (read in full...)
Everything about my boyfriend disgusts me, how do I get out of this relationship?
Q. Im in a relationship that i don't like but i don't know how to come out of it. Everything about my b/f disgust me. I want out, but i don't know how. Pls i need help!...
A. 22 December 2009: Just tell him what you have told us. Its only hard until you start to speak. ... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he told me this morning?
Q. Dear Cupid My married boyfriend called me this morning at 5.30am simply to tell to stop this relation, stop smsing him and its an official break up. I know that he was pressurised by his wife to call me at wee hours simply to annouce a break of...
A. 22 December 2009: It never ceases to amaze me how many messed up people we have up in this MF. Yes, he probably messaged you at gunpoint from his wife and at first opportunity will contact you to nix all he said, then after a few weeks of lying low, you will ... (read in full...)
My married boss says he loves me, how can I forget him or should I give in?
Q. A year ago I started new job, my older boss Rob (Im 23 he is 44),started flirting with me like crazy. he asked me out to dinner and I said yes. We started hanging out and then things turned into more. In the beginning I thought nothing of it an...
A. 22 December 2009: This man sounds like my ex husband. When we finally had a confrontation with the secretary and made him choose, he dumped her like a piece of garbage. She cried and cried and spewed out all the wonderful promises he had made to her and he told her ... (read in full...)
As a friend I only want to help him, so what could his problem with sex be?
Q. Hi Everyone, I have a bunch of friends and we hang out a lot together. Recently I got closer and closer to a guy in this bunch and one day when we were drunk we slipped away from our friends and made out. We talked about it the next day and...
A. 22 December 2009: The last thing a PE'er wants is pity and 'help' from his partner. They find it humiliating. The best thing would be to stop pressuring him about it and just try to enjoy the make out sessions. With time, as he begins to trust you more then let him ... (read in full...)
I found my soulmate and things are getting hot....but she is married
Q. We started out just being friends and now we are really close friends. Things are becoming different now. When I am around her, my heart litrally beats faster. I find myself thinking about her all day ((daydreaming)). When I close my eyes at ...
A. 22 December 2009: I am wondering why you asked for advice if your mind is already made up? Anyway, the smartest people in the world are the people who have the ability to foresee the future. You are only thinking about right now. What about months from now? What ... (read in full...)
He often jokes about me getting pregnant and I'm beginning to wonder...?
Q. About a year ago I met and got involved with a really great guy. He told me right away that he had a vasectomy, but seemd startled when I told him I couldn't get pregnant because I had an IUD. The IUD occasionally caused me some mild discomfort ...
A. 22 December 2009: This is very suspicious. There are men who are turned on by the idea of getting a girl pregnant, most doctors are reluctant to give vasectomies to men who havent had at least one child and are under 35. How old is he? Any kids? If not then why did ... (read in full...)
Gay and in love with a straight friend, he says there is hope, but what about our partners?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm 30 and gay. I'm still in my first relationship of three years. He is 22. We are happy with no more problems than any other relationship. But I have met a straight guy that has befriended us and he and his girlfriend have become our ...
A. 22 December 2009: I think you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. This guy is with a woman because he is predominantly straight. Maybe he has some gay feelings but a person will always return to what they are predominantly. I'm sure you are familiar ... (read in full...)
Do girls like red headed guys?
Q. Hi im 20 year old guy,and im a natural red head, my question is do girls like red headed guys or do they find them a turn off?...
A. 22 December 2009: Red heads are hot! Bottom line: whatever you look like, you won't get far if you are not proud of yourself and confident. Not bragging confidence, but just that positive self image that draws people to you. We all used to die for Boris Becker ... (read in full...)
What's a good present for your friend-with-benefits?
Q. I met this guy at work during the summer and we've been in what could be considered a casual relationship for the past 5months, meaning that we have a sexual relationship but we also do just hang out and talk. It's very relaxed, no obligations. ...
A. 22 December 2009: In that case invite him to dinner in a decent restaurant. Good for you keeping him guessing. This is what guys normally do to us so enjoy to the max. If it ain't broken then don't fix it. If its working for you then why not. It really takes the ... (read in full...)
What's a good present for your friend-with-benefits?
Q. I met this guy at work during the summer and we've been in what could be considered a casual relationship for the past 5months, meaning that we have a sexual relationship but we also do just hang out and talk. It's very relaxed, no obligations. ...
A. 22 December 2009: I think if you buy him something that you personally chose it will seem as though you are hinting at moving the relationship to the next level. Just get him a gift voucher from a department store and he can choose something himself.... (read in full...)
Vaginal muscles hurt during orgasm
Q. I am a female and everytime I cum my muscles in my vagina tighen up and it hurts when he sticks his penis inside of me.it feels like my vagina is pushing him out. but he does not feel that my vagina is tightening up while he's is inside me.. do ...
A. 21 December 2009: try use a lubricant like astroglide or KY jelly because maybe your body doesnt produce enough lubricant. Start with a toothpaste sized small glob then put more if you need it. ... (read in full...)
Hollywood ex: Do? or don't?
Q. Hi All, So my boyfriend has been sort of hinting that he'd like me to get strip the carpet downstairs, but I'm a little unsure about it. Ladies, have you done it before? Would you recommend it? Does it hurt as much as I think it might? Any ot...
A. 21 December 2009: It hurts like hell but well well worth it. My advice is make sure your hair is slightly trimmed. If its too long it will hurt more. If its too short the wax won't grip. Also, try have your wax a day or two before your rendezvous with your guy ... (read in full...)
He has pain during intercourse
Q. hi how do i make feel better my b/f while having intercourse should he in top of me or i should be in top him. i would like to ask that i noticed his balls turn into pinkish blue color does he have any disease. asked him about that but he tells the...
A. 21 December 2009: there are many possible reasons for this. He could have gonorrhea which is a serious STD or he could have Cystitis which is a urinary tract infection. Both are easily treatable. Or maybe he could just be stopping himself from climaxing and gets ... (read in full...)
I have no answers to my emails from USA boyfriend
Q. last month i have met a guy from U.S, he is such a sweet guy to me, i confront that i like him so much, i love the way that he talk, i like the way that he smile at me,i think that i really fall in love with him and it seems to me that he also likes ...
A. 21 December 2009: If a guy is not making contact with you then it's most likely he is not interested anymore. He may have thought you are wonderful but that it was part of a holiday romance and that's all. He has moved on or back with his girlfriend so just forget ... (read in full...)
To scared of being hurt again to move on
Q. i was in a serious relationship of 6years with the father of my 2year old son then he decided to just move on with his life because i did not agree to move in with him and he knows that im a christian i cannot live with him because we not ...
A. 21 December 2009: If your Christianity stopped you moving in with him then how come you had sex and a child outside marriage? Were you holding out to make him propose? It would have worked better to move in first then when he is used to your love and care you push ... (read in full...)
To scared of being hurt again to move on
Q. i was in a serious relationship of 6years with the father of my 2year old son then he decided to just move on with his life because i did not agree to move in with him and he knows that im a christian i cannot live with him because we not ...
A. 21 December 2009: If your Christianity stopped you moving in with him then how come you had sex and a child outside marriage? Were you holding out to make him propose? It would have worked better to move in first then when he is used to your love and care you push ... (read in full...)
Should I revisit my marriage or move on with the new boyfriend?
Q. I'm a divorced mother of three and have had a long distance relationship with a wonderful man for the last three years. My children are 11,9 and 5 and have had limited contact with my boyfriend but get along very well with him. It's getting to the ...
A. 21 December 2009: It depends on two questions:
1. Why you divorced your husband in the first place and has the issue been resolved?
2. What is your new bf's attitude to your kids?
I totally understand your difficult choice; so think about it and if you decide to go... (read in full...)
Do women prefer leaner guys?
Q. just wondered if women like big muscualar lean guys, like body builder type guys or prefer the slimmer skinny build? i ask this as i dont get much attention from women and im hoping to slim down from 225 to 205 lbs. im a muscular guy and thought ...
A. 21 December 2009: Women generally like men who are confident and take care of their hygiene (ie. No funny smells, clean hair/clean clothes etc.) body size is not a big issue. I am attracted to muscular tall guys at first glance, but I have dated overweight short ... (read in full...)
Am I masterbating right?
Q. I am 13 years old and i masturbate but i don't know whether im doing it right, and i have trouble getting aroused and in the mood for it. any tips for me on how to do it? how to get myself ready for it and pleasure myself properly? please help, ...
A. 20 December 2009: when a person decides to masturbate, it is usually because they feel aroused. But maybe you could start off by reading a racy novel with a sexy romantic scene and see if that gets you going. Then after that you do whatever feels right for you. Some ... (read in full...)
How do I get his attention?
Q. I really like this guy, he is from my college, I see him in the cafeteria but other than that I don't know anything about him. He is 100% a shy person and I am kind a shy too. I've been looking at him and I think he noticed me but I'm not sure. I ...
A. 20 December 2009: Ask him if he has change for a $10.. Then take it from there. You can ask him about what he is studying, how long for etc. Then each day say a quick hi or a wave. So easy! Hazvinetse!!... (read in full...)
B/f's parents are WAY TOO overprotective! How do we deal with this?
Q. So, here's the deal. My boyfriend's parents are way too overprotective. So much it drives me and him crazy. He's going to turn 19 in a couple of months, and yet they don't let him stay out longer than 12 am. We went to a party once and everyon...
A. 19 December 2009: "I mean, what the hell, he's an adult now..."!!!!! If he is so grown up then why doesnt he get his own place and pay his own bills?!?! Don't you see that's how we all leave home in the end? Why can't you be the one to compromise and plan your ... (read in full...)
He says he isnt interested in me so how come he keeps hugging me
Q. OK so there is a guys that i just met at the beginning of the school year and i thought he was really weird but then after i broke up with my boyfriend of the time the guy started to get a little closer to me and i started to like him, after a while ...
A. 19 December 2009: Maybe he just likes you as a friend. Not every guy you talk to is going to be interested in a romantic way. Maybe he hugs you because he doesnt want to hurt your feelings. It sounds like he is enjoying being adored by you so stop asking him. It will ... (read in full...)
I want to know how to find another guy who will take things slowly
Q. My boyfriend and i just broke up. He was the guy i lost my virginity to, and I only had sex with him because he made me feel comfortable and didnt pressure me to do it. This was a while ago when i was younger, now i'm in college where the only ...
A. 19 December 2009: Try to avoid the rowdy crowd where the guys have something to prove to their friends. Try look for guys who are a little more serious and are more comfortable being alone and not part if the group. Check out the library!!!! I'm not saying you will ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant to my step brother and don't know where to turn
Q. I was looking for advice and found this site. Ill try and make this short. I had a bf for 8 months he was ok at first and we started having sex mostly because didnt want him to cheat after awhile it seemed like thats all he wanted me around for ...
A. 19 December 2009: This issue is going to affect your whole family so I would suggest that you both tell your parents. If you can't do it on your own, contact a helpline like Childline and they will sit with your parents and tell them for you. There is no way out of ... (read in full...)
Am I destined to be a loser forever?
Q. sorry its long I am a quieter gay female in my mid-late 30s, have a very small circle of straight friends who i see occasioanally, my closest friend is the only one who knows im gay, which is fine, shes 150% straight but Ok with me being n...
A. 19 December 2009: when you talk about people being "clicky", do you mean it as being in their own private established groups? (cliquey). If so, my first advice is you need to work on yourself. Because you seem to be someone who feels as though they don't fit in if ... (read in full...)
Should I take a chance and pursue the high school jock?
Q. I am a gay junior in high school and i have a huge crush on this senior guy in one of my classes. anyways... i started liking this guy when i noticed him more in my class. he is soo cool and sooo nice :) ive only talked to him about twice but i...
A. 19 December 2009: I think you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. Those are not reasons enough to be gay. Just make friends and don't make any romantic advances because he might not take it well and the last thing you want is to be tortured by the ... (read in full...)
Semen found on backside of boyfriend's underwear?
Q. I saw dried semen on the back (outside) of my boyfriend's underwear. There was more on back side than inside the front of underwear. We live together and after sex he always go right to sleep, (I generally don't), so he doesn't clean up or wipe with ...
A. 19 December 2009: Maybe he was wanking then wiped the tip of his PP with his pants afterwards? Whatever you are suspecting has to be accompanied by other suspicious behaviour. Had he come in at 2AM that day or was he home all day etc. But I were you, I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
I feel like the only time he wants to be alone with me is when he wants to have sex!
Q. My boyfriend is always playing games on his xbox live and him ad his friend are attached to the hip, the sit around all day playing xbox or somtimes they watch movies. I never get to spend alone time with him because I can never pull him away from ...
A. 18 December 2009: Since you have tried to talk to him, the solution is not to sit around watching him have fun at your expense. Next time he gets busy with his toys and friends, get dressed up really sexy and smile and say "see you later" very sweetly. If you are ... (read in full...)
How to overcome insecurity?
Q. how do i overcome insecurity? ...
A. 18 December 2009: Well, what are you insecure about? Your appearance? Your career? Your relationship? Etc. Read the book 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne for some insights. You become what you tell yourself...... (read in full...)
How to overcome insecurity?
Q. how do i overcome insecurity? ...
A. 18 December 2009: Well, what are you insecure about? Your appearance? Your career? Your relationship? Etc. Read the book 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne for some insights. You become what you tell yourself...... (read in full...)
What is the best solution for this problem?
Q. I have two step-sons both in their early 20's, unmarried, going to college. They live on their own but they fight constantly. Usually younger one loans older one money, and then older one doesn't pay him back in full and that's when the drama begins ...
A. 18 December 2009: Well this is more serious than normal and he might need to be evaluated. He needs counseling from an expert because it would be a tragedy if he carried out or attempted to carry out his threats. Psychotic people may often do this just to prove ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's habit of taking care of "business' himself is creating problems in our sex life
Q. Good morning, I am having difficulties in my relationship with my boyfriend that I live with. One problem that seems to be getting bigger is our sex life. Lately, he has been masturbating before work in the shower and I know this is going on. ...
A. 17 December 2009: Even with getting good sex men masturbate. If he promised you he would stop, he probably just agreed to avoid a fight. Erections in the morning are also common, I was married for 15 years and can count on 3 fingers, the days he woke up WITHOUT one. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's habit of taking care of "business' himself is creating problems in our sex life
Q. Good morning, I am having difficulties in my relationship with my boyfriend that I live with. One problem that seems to be getting bigger is our sex life. Lately, he has been masturbating before work in the shower and I know this is going on. ...
A. 17 December 2009: Even with getting good sex men masturbate. If he promised you he would stop, he probably just agreed to avoid a fight. Erections in the morning are also common, I was married for 15 years and can count on 3 fingers, the days he woke up WITHOUT one. ... (read in full...)
My younger brother is caught up in an online relationship with an older woman
Q. My brother is a really shy guy who doesn't like to go out much. He is a cutie pie and I wish he could be around more girls cause he has the looks. He is just too shy for his own good. Well, lately he has been talking to a woman online who I am ...
A. 17 December 2009: He's your baby brother but he isn't a baby anymore. Let him carry on with his life, its his private business. Let him deal with it and don't tell him what to do. The best thing to do is stop judging him, so that you keep lines of communication ... (read in full...)
My ex wife wont allow me to do anything with my kids
Q. I need help. My ex wife wont talk to me about my kids and disagrees with everything I want to do. I cant get my 7 year olds ears pierced, take our 5 year old skating, go to my nieces grad party, aunts funeral got shut down. I need to know why she ...
A. 17 December 2009: You sound like you might be a little messed up. If you have been in your children's lives consistently and have spent regular time with them then there wouldn't be a problem. If you have been abusive (which includes neglect) and your ex has ... (read in full...)
What is the best solution for this problem?
Q. I have two step-sons both in their early 20's, unmarried, going to college. They live on their own but they fight constantly. Usually younger one loans older one money, and then older one doesn't pay him back in full and that's when the drama begins ...
A. 17 December 2009: The best solution is to let them solve their own problems. When my kids were younger and would fight (usually over which channel to watch or who got the bigger piece of chocolate etc.) I used to say solve the problem on your own by talking about it ... (read in full...)
Fiance' fooled me into thinking the gift was his idea and I found out!
Q. Look what I found out.... My Fiance brought me a gift for my birthday last July. It was really cute. It was a Yellow Rose Plant with a Birthday Bear and a Perfume. I loved it. It was a little weird for me thought that he asked me earlier that ...
A. 17 December 2009: Okaaay. Well that's a little different. I must say he is very creative; most guys would have thrown it in the trash but he went a step further and gave you the gift but claimed it was him? He is smart in an infuriating sort of way, I wonder how ... (read in full...)
I asked her on a date, but she said no, now I feel hurt
Q. I'm 17 and a senior in high school. I have never gone out with anyone, and this doesnt help my confidence any. But my friends convinced me that I should ask out a girl that i talk to a lot and am very good friends with. She is in some of my classes ...
A. 17 December 2009: When you ask for a date with someone, dont make it a pressured thing or a serious thing. Just be relaxed and maybe say "hey, I know you already said you wouldn't date me but at least let's go out for an icecream just as friends... I need your ... (read in full...)
I asked her on a date, but she said no, now I feel hurt
Q. I'm 17 and a senior in high school. I have never gone out with anyone, and this doesnt help my confidence any. But my friends convinced me that I should ask out a girl that i talk to a lot and am very good friends with. She is in some of my classes ...
A. 17 December 2009: When you ask for a date with someone, dont make it a pressured thing or a serious thing. Just be relaxed and maybe say "hey, I know you already said you wouldn't date me but at least let's go out for an icecream just as friends... I need your ... (read in full...)
Fiance' fooled me into thinking the gift was his idea and I found out!
Q. Look what I found out.... My Fiance brought me a gift for my birthday last July. It was really cute. It was a Yellow Rose Plant with a Birthday Bear and a Perfume. I loved it. It was a little weird for me thought that he asked me earlier that ...
A. 17 December 2009: I cannot understand why it upset you and why you even confronted him about it. Maybe he was feeling insecure about what you would like and asked someone who knew you. Most people get good ideas from others all the time.. Just apologise to him for ... (read in full...)
Are these gifts a little strange?
Q. If I get turned on when my wife wears leggings, and I get her a couple pair of leggings from Victoria's Secret, along with a sleep shirt to wear with each, do you think she might find this kind of strange? Our sex life is not so great, needs ...
A. 17 December 2009: You are a very smart man, taking the initiative to spice things up. Women love to be desired, its a huge compliment so I think she would love it. Also look at www.bodystocking.net for more ideas for next time!... (read in full...)
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