Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?
Q. Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...
A. 22 March 2010: As a mother of a son I am shocked that your girlfriend wants your mother to submit to her and is using your baby as punishment knowing how terrible it is for her. Why are you so afraid of your girlfriend??? This is so unnatural. How can you allow ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want me anymore.
Q. Hello every one ,I have some problems with my husband, he doesn't want to come home anymore .We had a big fight, and he left me alone in the house for 2 days and didn't give any phone calls. After that fight, he make me a ticket ,and he want me ...
A. 14 March 2010: Go to http://www.uscis.gov. This is the official US government website. Go to the bottom under the heading 'Humanitarian'. Click on 'battered spouses'. That link will give you contact numbers of what to do if you are a foreigner married to a US ... (read in full...)
Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 14 March 2010: You cannot get an STD from getting an STD test; that's an urban legend. Unless you are in some unregistered backdoor hovel somewhere, the nurses use disposable needles and syringes with every person. As for catching something from a blood ... (read in full...)
While aroused strange liquid comes out.
Q. Hi, Well i am 18 years old and my penis is uncircumcised. My major concern is why when i am making out with a girl and i am erect, my penis produces a liquid? It is not cum, it's just something that i have no control over and i don't know what it is ...
A. 14 March 2010: This has got to be the weirdest post ever. Its as though he never bothered to read any of the answers or click on the Internet links. I give up.... (read in full...)
If I left my husband would it affect my Greencard?
Q. Hello,I have a problem with my husband.everytime we fight , he tell me to live his house.We are married for 2 years, and our marrige relationship is bad.I think he has someone else.What I should do , if I would live him ? It can affect my greencard ...
A. 13 March 2010: Call 1800 799 7233. This is the domestic helpline that the US government lists on their Violence Against Women Act paperwork. This helpline deals with abused foreign women who have been married for less than two years. The VAWA law allows such ... (read in full...)
I want to stay a virgin until marriage but what's the use!
Q. I would really like to stay a virgin until I'm married but it doesn't seem like there are any virgin girls left so whats the point? The whole chastity thing really doesn't work unless both people are in on it. It's all just really irritating 22 ...
A. 13 March 2010: You will so regret sacrificing your ideals because of what everyone around you is up to. I got married as a virgin but although my marriage ended, I still didn't regret my decision. Promiscuous sex will leave you unsatisfied and empty. Why don't ... (read in full...)
Feeling horribly unloveable...what can I do?
Q. i feel completely unloveable...all my relationshops have ended horribly, and virtually no-one shows me any interest. I'm 19 and 5 ft 8 ...size 16 -18 and slightly alternative.... all i can conclude is that im fat and ugly ....please help...
A. 13 March 2010: You cannot expect anyone to love you if you do not love yourself. People are drawn to people who are cheerful, have confidence and self-respect. Size 16/18 is not grossly overweight at all. You may not like it and you can work on it, but it can't ... (read in full...)
Feeling horribly unloveable...what can I do?
Q. i feel completely unloveable...all my relationshops have ended horribly, and virtually no-one shows me any interest. I'm 19 and 5 ft 8 ...size 16 -18 and slightly alternative.... all i can conclude is that im fat and ugly ....please help...
A. 13 March 2010: You cannot expect anyone to love you if you do not love yourself. People are drawn to people who are cheerful, have confidence and self-respect. Size 16/18 is not grossly overweight at all. You may not like it and you can work on it, but it can't ... (read in full...)
My cousin touches me! Help!
Q. Ok, my older cousin used to touch me all the time. I was 10 years old and he was 13. I didn't know what masterbating was and why he did it, but he used to be my best friend when i was 10. So we used to sit together in the same chair because it was a ...
A. 13 March 2010: Why have you not told your mum? Tell your mum immediately. This is wrong. Or if you don't want to, tell him that you are going to tell your mum if he ever does it again. You have to stand up for yourself. ... (read in full...)
I hate being gay..help!
Q. I'm gay and hate it.i just cant handle it. It makes me desperate.in my town everyone hates gays . It is complicated cause i also love girls and not satisfied of being gay. If someone know it my life will be miserable and i hate being gay cause my ...
A. 13 March 2010: I'm sorry about what you are going through. Go to http://www.iraqilgbtuk.blogspot.com. They will be able to put you in touch with counselors who you can safely speak to about your situation. If your life is threatened they can also help you find ... (read in full...)
I hate being gay..help!
Q. I'm gay and hate it.i just cant handle it. It makes me desperate.in my town everyone hates gays . It is complicated cause i also love girls and not satisfied of being gay. If someone know it my life will be miserable and i hate being gay cause my ...
A. 13 March 2010: I'm sorry about what you are going through. Go to http://www.iraqilgbtuk.blogspot.com. They will be able to put you in touch with counselors who you can safely speak to about your situation. If your life is threatened they can also help you find ... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated because during sex, he lasts a few minutes...is this normal?
Q. my boyfriend can hardly ever last long during sex and its getting really frustrating! today he finished in literally less than 2 minutes and we'd hardly gotten into it. is this like a medical problem or normal? i thought he would be able to control ...
A. 13 March 2010: You need to get him to do a lot of foreplay with you before the final deed. If he can make you come through oral and other stimulation FIRST then it won't matter as much how long he takes for the final act. He's inexperienced. ... (read in full...)
Should I be mad at my wife?
Q. I dont know what im doing any more i was married for 8 years and we split up a few months ago dec 22 2009 i have my own place im self employed im ok for the time being i just feel alone i have 2 girls 2 and 5 thay live with me cuz every time she ...
A. 13 March 2010: She is messing with your feelings. She doesn't want you to be with anyone else but she wants to be free to do whatever she likes at your expense. I suggest you tell her that you only want to communicate with her regarding the children and that's ... (read in full...)
Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 13 March 2010: I am an HIV/ AIDS counselor. You have to retest after 90 days. After exposure it takes approximately 90 days for antibodies to begin to show up in your blood. We call this the "window period". To be 100% sure just retest after 90 days. There are ... (read in full...)
She is way out of my league, ... what should I do?
Q. *OP's own title* I met this girl about 2 weeks ago and she was like wow. A girl that is like my dream girl but after talking to her I noticed that she is way out of my league. Should I just ignore this or should I just quit right now. She does...
A. 12 March 2010: To borrow a line from some movie: No matter what, no matter when, no matter who; any man has a chance to sweep ANY woman off her feet.
It boils down to your confidence in yourself. Most women like guys who are confident, and funny; if you are in a... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy 20 years older... he has erectile difficulties and an overactive sex drive!
Q. Please I need help! I am a confident atrctive young female I have been dating an older man for almost a year he is 20 years my elder and I love him dearley however we have problems he has both erectile difficulties and an over active sex drive I am ...
A. 12 March 2010: His mental problems are even more of a concern than his sexual ones. First of all, did his ex wife tell you herself that she vandalized your property? Because it sounds like he did it. Anyway, I would go to the police and lay a charge against her ... (read in full...)
I don't like the feeling of being second best to his deceased wife.
Q. I've been dating a widower for over 2 years now. He rarely tells me that he love me unless he's had a few. He takes lovely cards to his wife's grave for birthdays and christmas and this is the type of things he writes ....happy birthday sweetheart, ...
A. 12 March 2010: I would say tell him as gently as possible how you feel. Script: "I completely understand how you feel about your wife and I really admire how you have never stopped loving her. However, I feel you are not ready to ever love me with the same depth ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am being smothered by my fiancee!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just 2 months, he is 40. We both have children from previous relationships (he has one, and I have 3) but neither of us have ever been married. We dated very briefly last year but things didn't work out because I ...
A. 12 March 2010: If you are having second thoughts then cancel the marriage plans. Doubt means don't. But if you still want to be with him and these are just teething problems, then my advice is that you need to compromise and find a middle ground. You need to give ... (read in full...)
If I left my husband would it affect my Greencard?
Q. Hello,I have a problem with my husband.everytime we fight , he tell me to live his house.We are married for 2 years, and our marrige relationship is bad.I think he has someone else.What I should do , if I would live him ? It can affect my greencard ...
A. 12 March 2010: Go to http://www.uscis.gov. This is the immigration website that gives you information on what you can do if you are married to a US citizen who is threatening your continued stay. Unfortunately this is a common problem in the US, so to help the ... (read in full...)
My nineteen year old lover wants me to leave my husband for him! I'm so confused on what to do...
Q. I've done something really bad, but it happens every Saturday night, I'm a fifty year old lady and I'm married. I've had sex with an nineteen year old and he loves it and wants me to leave my husband and live with him, I do enjoy his sex but I have ...
A. 12 March 2010: I'm sorry dear but it is unlikely that this would last if you moved in with him. You have to have the ability to see around corners. So sit down with a piece of paper and predict where your relationship will be with this young guy 1 year from now? ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him like a good Christian for cheating on me, or tell him to hit the road?
Q. I just got a boyfriend not even a month ago. He was sweet, respectful, nice, and never pushed me on anything. It was the night of my 19th birthday when I got a text message from my boyfriend's ex. She claims that I should be careful and that my ...
A. 12 March 2010: You can forgive him and become just his friend, but don't be his girlfriend anymore. I guarantee you he will do it again. ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my new life behind for her?
Q. Hey guys, I moved to Australia from England 2 years ago. My (now) partner was my best friend in the UK. She came to visit me, and we decided to take the relationship to the next level and we started dating. We had a long distance relationship...
A. 12 March 2010: Unfortunately this is one of those situations where you might have to let the perfect person go. You are better off remaining in Australia where you are able to work in your chosen field and be near family. What if you go back and things don't ... (read in full...)
Losing my sex drive at 52! Help
Q. i am a 52 year old male ,i am loosing my sex drive fast what can i do...
A. 12 March 2010: You need to give more details: how much exercise do you do per day? Is your waistline greater than 36inches? What is your blood pressure? Cholesterol? Blood sugar level? What medications are you on? What is your diet like? What is your stress level ... (read in full...)
Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?
Q. Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...
A. 12 March 2010: Both your girlfriend and your mother are wrong. How could your gf ban your mother from seeing your baby?? I think you should possibly warn your gf that if your mum can't see the baby then her mum can't either. Your mum obviously doesn't come ... (read in full...)
Am I likely to go into labour late or early going by my symptoms?
Q. i have 4 weeks left of pregnancy and am feeling a lot of movement quite low down and occasionally quite high up does this mean the head hasnt engaged yet i often get a quick sharp pain from time to time in my abdomin, just wondering if the baby is ...
A. 11 March 2010: eyeswideopen is spot on, Kayla. This is the 3rd question you have posted on the same topic. You really need to speak to your doctor or go to ivillage.com and ask on the pregnancy forum there. All the best. ... (read in full...)
He's too lazy to get up and feed our son!!!
Q. hey i need some advice, my fiance wont get outta bed to feed our 2 month old son! we both do a night feed each as i do all the child care, he only does one feed in 24 hours and thats one of the night feed. since iv had my son iv had to do nearly ...
A. 11 March 2010: Darling, you need to sit down and think. You will probably scoff at my advice but as a mother of 3 kids I am telling you that you are on the wrong path. This baby is 2 months old and you are already turning it into a contentious issue instead of ... (read in full...)
Sharp pain in my cervix that lasts no more than 2 seconds - what could this be?
Q. im 36 weeks pregnant feeling really uncomfortable baby moving around a lot but i feel a lot of pressure downstairs and sometimes it feels like the baby's foot is kicking my cervix is this normal? not sure if its babys foot just feel a sharp pain ...
A. 11 March 2010: If your baby was breach then your doctor would have told you at your last check up. As your cervix begins to ripen for labour, the baby's head often descends into the pelvic cavity so you feel the baby's head there and it sometimes feels like a ... (read in full...)
How do I prevent him from wanting to end it?
Q. im 13 me and my bf have been going out for almost 2 months now.i realized dat hes a little horny all the time but is a little shy about feelings. we kiss a lot but i dont think he likes doing it. i feel like he is starting to loose interestt of me. ...
A. 11 March 2010: My advice is if a guy starts showing you he doesn't want you then you can't change his mind. The best thing is to dump him before he dumps you first. Never appear too eager for a man. So just tell him you don't think its working out then walk away. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went beserk
Q. Exhausted and tired of being so stressed out. I came to China to teach English but have come close to running out of money. It looks like I might have to leave in the next 3 weeks if I can't secure work. There's still a good chance that I can get ...
A. 10 March 2010: you are doing the right thing to leave. It must be so painful for you to be going through this. Let us know when you get home. All the best. ... (read in full...)
Are all of these things normal in pregnancy?
Q. im pregnant with my second child due in 4 weeks time however every morning when i wake up my stomach feels really painful for about half hour and then wears off it feels like my muscles are stretching trying to get my stomach to enlarge is it normal ...
A. 10 March 2010: These sound like Braxton Hicks contractions also known as false labour. They happen a few weeks before birth but you usually don't feel them in a first pregnancy. Just google for more info.
As for the discomfort, it sounds like your baby's h... (read in full...)
One ring and he hung up but from the caller ID it was HIM!
Q. Okay here it is I haven't heard from him for over a year and last time I told him I still loved him he kind of got really annoyed. Then I sent him various text messages till six months ago when I stopped coz he would either not reply or reply l...
A. 10 March 2010: Just send this message: "I missed a call from this number?" Dont call him. Just the text. If he replies and says it was by mistake then say "ok, cool". Then leave it there. Don't lower yourself vackbto the calling and stuff. He probably misses ... (read in full...)
I've lost the love of my life, how do I get him back?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now and a week ago he left me. He was living with me in my place, and when he left in the morning he kissed me and said have a great day what time do you work today...When I came home there was a "dear ...
A. 10 March 2010: If you do write to him, don't talk about the relationship. That will make him afraid to talk to you because he will feel pressured and begin to avoid you. Remember you were friends before you were lovers, so fall back to that friendship. Avoid any ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband still want sex from me if we have been separated for 3 years?
Q. why does my husband want sex from me if we have been separated 3 years now and says he wants a divorce? we have 4 beautiful children together and he says he wants a divorce because i cheated on him. i take full responsability for what i've done. we ...
A. 10 March 2010: Ofcourse maybe he does still love you and is still attracted to you sexually. Just because you cheated it doesn't mean that his feelings for you stopped. The relationship with the other woman could have been to try get over you. But if you don't ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mother and risk my whole family finding out what happened?
Q. Hi there Aunts and Uncles. This is is something that has been playing on my mind for a long time. I'm remaining anonymous due to the topic. I was molested by my cousin as a child. The earliest incident I remember was when I was 4. My cousin was 25...
A. 10 March 2010: Darling, do the right thing and come clean with this. It will be a long journey but it will be worth it in the end. YOU have the power of your testimony right now to see to it that this guy goes to jail and gets punished for what he did in this ... (read in full...)
He is a liar but I cant prove anything
Q. theres a guy at work who ive become very good friends with and am fond of. however very recently ive noticed hes been lying to me a lot which hurts because we get on well together and i though he trusted me but lately my intuition has been bugging ...
A. 10 March 2010: But what's it to you though? If he is lying about his personal life and he's just a work mate then why do you need to prove anything? If it really bothers you then spend less time with him and leave him to it. As long as his lies are not ... (read in full...)
I've lost the love of my life, how do I get him back?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now and a week ago he left me. He was living with me in my place, and when he left in the morning he kissed me and said have a great day what time do you work today...When I came home there was a "dear ...
A. 10 March 2010: Listen to yourself... Just reread what you wrote. He did not leave you.. You drove him away. What did you expect him to do? You cannot plead for him to come back to you; especially in this state. You have to fix the issues that you know are wrong ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went beserk
Q. Exhausted and tired of being so stressed out. I came to China to teach English but have come close to running out of money. It looks like I might have to leave in the next 3 weeks if I can't secure work. There's still a good chance that I can get ...
A. 10 March 2010: Awww honey, can't you see that she is mentally unstable? My uncle was married to a woman like this and he attempted suicide several times while married to her, used to blame himself for everything in the relationship. They had 5 kids together who he ... (read in full...)
He talks to random girls and lies about porn use. I don't want to be a single mom at 21!
Q. So he has never physically cheated on me that I know of.. But I've caught him talkin to numerous random girls even his ex. We are now engaged and expecting a child.. I've also caught him looking at porn. His arguement is it will never happen again ...
A. 10 March 2010: Honey, the porn thing is every woman's problem. Most of our men watch porn and you can't stop them. I know its annoying but unless its criminal stuff you might just have to turn a blind eye to that one.
As for talking to women, you cannot poss... (read in full...)
How do I get him to see that we still have a strong relationship, it's just broken???
Q. Hey everyone I need help :( My husband and I have been married for 2 years but have only actually been with each other 5 months out of that due to the army and him being deployed. Our relationship before the army was very strong and healthy but whil...
A. 10 March 2010: He is saying its over so he can cope better while he is away; especially since he is going to be deployed again. He doesn't want to be wondering what you are doing in his absence. In the military, that is a common scenario to be cheated on by the ... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex see my son after all the chances I've given him???
Q. I've been apart from my ex for 1 year now we have a 2 and a half year old son together and my ex has cared more about partying and drinking instead of seeing his son even when we were together.iv given him plenty of chances to see his son and he ...
A. 10 March 2010: Yes you should let him see his son supervised for the first 10 visits at least. But your son should not be told who he is yet until he has proved being reliable. To tell your son this is his dad only to have him abandon him again is very damaging ... (read in full...)
She wants time out alone... yet says I'm a fantastic boyfriend! What gives???
Q. hi, I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now, we only see each other about once a week but she has asked for some time to her self to think! We're very much in love but she has said that she sometimes doesnt find she misses me! I know ...
A. 10 March 2010: I think she want you to propose. Some women pull away if the relationship is not progressing. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to help out in the house more?
Q. Ok... I am a mum of two. A 3 year old and 6 month old. Due to my son still being young im not working but my partner is, But he helps out with nothing at home! Its driving me mad. He does nothing for the little ones, feeding, bathing, cooking, nappy ...
A. 10 March 2010: I understand its not easy being a young mum to juggle running a home. If he brings home the bacon you really can't expect a 50/50 split on chores. More like 80/20, you doing most of it. The best thing for you to do is sit down and plan for a week ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went beserk
Q. Exhausted and tired of being so stressed out. I came to China to teach English but have come close to running out of money. It looks like I might have to leave in the next 3 weeks if I can't secure work. There's still a good chance that I can get ...
A. 8 March 2010: She sounds like she has a mood disorder of some kind; try googling 'borderline personality disorder' and 'bipolar disorder' and 'manic depressive', and she see if she fits some of the symptoms. This relationship doesn't look like it will be good for ... (read in full...)
Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 6 March 2010: Visit http://www.yourstdhelp.com/free_clinic_locator.html
Or contact an HIV helpline for details on free testing.
... (read in full...)
While aroused strange liquid comes out.
Q. Hi, Well i am 18 years old and my penis is uncircumcised. My major concern is why when i am making out with a girl and i am erect, my penis produces a liquid? It is not cum, it's just something that i have no control over and i don't know what it is ...
A. 14 February 2010: Listen; when you are just making out, you normally become aroused and start to get turned on. As you start to become turned on, your brain tells your peepee to start getting ready for sexual intercourse. This does not mean you will have sex, but ... (read in full...)
While aroused strange liquid comes out.
Q. Hi, Well i am 18 years old and my penis is uncircumcised. My major concern is why when i am making out with a girl and i am erect, my penis produces a liquid? It is not cum, it's just something that i have no control over and i don't know what it is ...
A. 10 February 2010: Huh?! Did you click on the link provided in the first answer you got? That link has it all including actual photographs. And in my experience with both circumsized and uncircumsized men, yes, they have this clear liquid.... (read in full...)
While aroused strange liquid comes out.
Q. Hi, Well i am 18 years old and my penis is uncircumcised. My major concern is why when i am making out with a girl and i am erect, my penis produces a liquid? It is not cum, it's just something that i have no control over and i don't know what it is ...
A. 10 February 2010: Every man has this dear. It is pre-cum and its meant to lubricate the tip of the dick before sex.... (read in full...)
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