How can I bring up the 'separation' conversation with my wife?
Q. well it has been a few months now and I have seen a lawyer and a counselor I think I am ready to have the seperation chat with my wife of 5 years we have been together for 9. I just wanted to ask how does one approach the other on this? Even though ...
A. 1 March 2010: Did you manage to resolve your situation? ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 2 February 2010: I think your husband is right that you are acting weird.. I suspect a mental illness in this case. Just read her posts and tell me she has all her marbles..... (read in full...)
Can low testosterone/depression make you think you no longer love your partner?
Q. Following extensive cancer treatment (testicular) including chemo and surgery my H (age 39) has now been told he has low testosterone althouygh his last reading was 10 and his LH levels were up. 10 apparantly was considered normal even though he has ...
A. 31 January 2010: I would usually say a man behaving like this has a mistress but given his history its unlikely. It sounds more like he is depressed and lacking in confidence. Its one thing getting your manhood attacked (testicular cancer) but its quite another to ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 28 January 2010: Wait a minute; are we being Punk'd? Or maybe in high school?? Do you think us adults are here to play this game with you? You seriously need to grow up because when your husband finds out it won't be so funny. ... (read in full...)
I like it tight! Do you think I should only go for virgins?
Q. Hi,this question might sound funny,but it's troubling me so much.I've had sexual experience when i was very young and it felt so good,now i'm in my mid twenties and all the girls i've dated in my adult life are loose,even my present girl's pussy is ...
A. 27 January 2010: Just don't go around stretching all the vaginas of Nigeria; because what are you going to do when the Nigerian virgins run out?
I always ask myself what people mean when they say a vagina is too loose.. I have had 3 vaginal births but without any ... (read in full...)
I like it tight! Do you think I should only go for virgins?
Q. Hi,this question might sound funny,but it's troubling me so much.I've had sexual experience when i was very young and it felt so good,now i'm in my mid twenties and all the girls i've dated in my adult life are loose,even my present girl's pussy is ...
A. 27 January 2010: I won't say the first words that came to my mind because for sure I will have my instant posting privileges taken away for profanities. But I will say this; its not the girl's fault; it is because your penis is too small. The girls are probably ... (read in full...)
Will his children ever forgive me for breaking up their family?
Q. About a year ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. Well, shortly after that, a family member of his (whom I've always been attracted to but never thought anything would ever happen because he was married) contacted me to consol me for my ...
A. 27 January 2010: My new aunt broke up my uncle's marriage years ago when his youngest child was 6 and the oldest was about 14. Now the youngest is about 18 and is a yob who moves with knives and threatens his step mother for what she did to his parents marriage. ... (read in full...)
My husband wont say "I love you"
Q. My husband has never said I love u in the 10 yrs. We have been together. I asked him why when we first were together. He said when he has said it in the past that all went to hell after that. Well 10 yrs later and I still can't get him to say it. Is ...
A. 27 January 2010: This is not normal. He knows you need this reassurance yet he is witholding it for some reason. Maybe you should consider couples counseling. Just to enhance what you have. But if you don't want to go and he already shows you his love and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont believe he is my first
Q. Hi everyone!i hope somebody could help me with this problem.I ve never had any man in my life,but my first boyfriend said to me that i was not a virgin.and that hurt me so much because i thought he was my only one.and every time i tell him that he ...
A. 27 January 2010: offer to take a lie detector test or a doctors exam... (read in full...)
Tried to hack my girlfriends hotmail and got locked out! how can I tell her?
Q. i tried to log onto my girlfriends hotmail and got the password wrong too many time and now she has to enter security questions and is going to know that i tried to hack her account. how can i say i did it by accident?...
A. 27 January 2010: Admit nothing. Nowadays email accounts ask for security questions all the time. Don't say anything and if she asks either draw a blank or say that your email account asked you the same thing... If you want to hack, its better to download a ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm living with a stranger in the house, so I have turned to online affairs so I can live a fantasy of my own!
Q. Been married for 3 years - we met over the internet and I flew half way across the world to be with him. We got married and have a child (an infant). However, it's been weird between us. We do argue a lot - however, we always seem to be very formal ...
A. 26 January 2010: Whats his age? Your age?... (read in full...)
I need tips on IUDs
Q. My college offers free IUD placement (paraguard) for students. I've been wanting an IUD for awhile now, but I'm terrified it will hurt a lot. Does anyone have any tips for when to go so it will hurt less, or how much it hurt or anything? I feel like ...
A. 26 January 2010: The best time to have it put in is on the heaviest day of your period; usually the second day. This is because your cervix is slightly open. When it is going in, it feels like a slight period pain for about 10 seconds. Just breathe deeply. Its ... (read in full...)
I have cheated and lied to my husband, how can I rebuild his trust?
Q. I really need some help. I have cheated and lied to my husband. And he does not trust me at all.o%! And I know that he will leave me if he can't trust me, we have 2 children together. I love him so much and don't want to loose my family. How can I ...
A. 26 January 2010: The best thing is to ask him what he would like you to do to prove that you mean what you say. Tell him that you are prepared to do whatever he says. ... (read in full...)
I want to try cunnilingus but my wife isn't interested. Any ideas on how I can bring her around?
Q. Hi, I want to try cunnilingus but my wife thinks its 'dirty'. The problem is it really turns me on. What do I do?...
A. 25 January 2010: Very easy to get her into it. First make sure its after an evening shower so she feels fresh. Then when you are beginning to make love, tell her you just want to look at it (the p-ssy) and you won't do anything; promise. She will probably keep ... (read in full...)
How can I bring up the 'separation' conversation with my wife?
Q. well it has been a few months now and I have seen a lawyer and a counselor I think I am ready to have the seperation chat with my wife of 5 years we have been together for 9. I just wanted to ask how does one approach the other on this? Even though ...
A. 25 January 2010: I have been through this. Mine was the "I'll kill myself" type. So I did it in such a way that I 'slowly deflated the balloon rather than popped it suddenly'. I just spent a few days saying I need to work things out in my life. Then I suggested ... (read in full...)
15 and pregnant, please help!
Q. im 15 and pregnant. im 5 weeks in and when i told my mum and dad they were furious. and they said they wouldn't support me. my boyfriend dumped me and said he wouldn't help either. so im thriving on my own and i am deciding whether to keep or not ...
A. 25 January 2010: Since you have been abandoned by everyone, you need to think on your feet. Your baby at 5 weeks is about 4mm; the size of your baby finger nail; almost invisible. The longer you delay a termination decision, the bigger it grows every week. So you ... (read in full...)
I am making my own plans for my future but sad I will never see my mother and sister again
Q. i need help. i am a girl. and me and my girlfriend are planing to leave home after 18 , after school. we are not telling anyone . its like running away but we are legal to. everything is decided. at the end of this year we are leaving. but my mum ...
A. 25 January 2010: What is your residence status in NZ? Do you have citizenship or do you have permanent residence or do you have work permit dependent? Since you want to run away to remain in NZ, that means you already have permission to stay there right? So why do ... (read in full...)
Can low testosterone/depression make you think you no longer love your partner?
Q. Following extensive cancer treatment (testicular) including chemo and surgery my H (age 39) has now been told he has low testosterone althouygh his last reading was 10 and his LH levels were up. 10 apparantly was considered normal even though he has ...
A. 25 January 2010: I can only imagine what you are going through and I commend you for supporting him through this. I doubt though that you will get the help you need here; you need professional support. But in my opinion, hormonal problems would certainly affect him ... (read in full...)
Anyone have information on std tests from planned parenthood?
Q. does it cost money to get tested for stds at plan parenthood? also, what do these tests consist of and how long does it take to get results? if I get tested for multiple stds do they cost extra?...
A. 25 January 2010: Why don't you call them and ask them all this??? The call is free. 1800 230 PLAN or 1800 230 7526... (read in full...)
Does this happen to anyone else? If so, how do you deal with it?
Q. Ok. I am in need of some good advice. From both men and women, if possible... My current situation: I am engaged. Living with my fiance. She's the woman I love and adore. I know I will always feel this way for her. It's more of my problem than her...
A. 25 January 2010: The best lovers live by this rule: she comes first. If you can figure out that your love making does not simply revolve around your penis and can involve her breasts, her clitoris, her G spot etc., then you can solve this problem. Try discover ... (read in full...)
Hubby wants sex all the time!
Q. I wanted to ask a question, my husband and I have been together for 15 years. I love him and he loves me but we've had some problems in our realtionship lately. Nothing that we can't work out together, but since the problems started, he seems to...
A. 25 January 2010: Men also seek out sex as a form of acceptance and approval. Perhaps your disagreement made him feel insecure and now he has woken up to your sexiness. My ex husband cheated on me and afterwards when we were trying to work things out he was like ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to end my affair with a married man!
Q. I have been involved in an affair with a married man that I work with for almost five years. I realized long ago that the relationship was not working for me. This man never made promises to leave his wife, but always said the right things to ...
A. 25 January 2010: Well done for finally realizing the futility of your relationship. My ex husband's mistress said the exact same thing to me that he never promised to leave me for her but said all the right things eg. We will always be together/ trust me, I am ... (read in full...)
Mom didn't tell me she is having sex with this family friend..what should I do?
Q. I just found out my mom has been dating and having sex with someone we go on vaction with every year, my mom and dad are not together but she did not tell me and she always invites him over to our house to hang out. What should i do?...
A. 25 January 2010: This is absolutely none of your business. Your mum is an adult and as long as she is non mistreating you in any way then really this is not your concern. If you really want to do something then tell her you know and you are happy for her.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend liking big breasts makes me insecure.
Q. I'm a 20 yrs old, and have been with my boyfriend for only 2 months... hes a lovely boy, but ive noticed he only really seems to find big breasted women attractive.. he mentions other womens breasts a lot, and it annoys me because im quite small up ...
A. 25 January 2010: I doubt his ex is enhanced; my teenage daughter is a size 8 and has to squeeze into a DD so its possible. But that's besides the point. Your dude is insensitive and if he carries on, the best thing is to find a way to make him insecure too using ... (read in full...)
We had sex the other day...now I seem to be regretting and doubting a lot of things
Q. I've been dating this guy for only 2 weeks and he's been saying he loves me since before we even started dating. He's always been a really good friend of mine and well we had sex the other day...now I seem to be regretting and doubting a lot of ...
A. 25 January 2010: When you sleep with a guy this quickly you cheapen yourself. You have made yourself so easy that's why you are in doubt. But the guy will probably keep the illusion going to keep getting the sex until he meets a girl who makes him wait a bit longer. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend bailed on me and is now on dating site...
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost two months. (we are both in our late 30s) A couple of weeks ago he began acting a bit distant when we were apart which made me concerned so I ended up doing some poking around and found out that he did ...
A. 25 January 2010: I think he feels uncomfortable with you since you poke around and investigate him and stuff. Perhaps he is a private person and deep down did not appreciate you poking about his criminal record, then putting him on a reporting schedule (call me call ... (read in full...)
I am making my own plans for my future but sad I will never see my mother and sister again
Q. i need help. i am a girl. and me and my girlfriend are planing to leave home after 18 , after school. we are not telling anyone . its like running away but we are legal to. everything is decided. at the end of this year we are leaving. but my mum ...
A. 25 January 2010: I seriously doubt that a school child like you has saved $5000 working part-time jobs. Who are you trying to fool? We are here to help give you advice in reality, yet you have this fantasy. Firstly, you are in Australia; nobody gets forced into ... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman, please help?
Q. My husband recently left me for another woman. We were married for 16 years and he met her at work. I just wondered if anyone else has had that happen to them? and how did it turn out? how long did it take the hurt to go? ...
A. 24 January 2010: It took me 3 wasted years to get over him. It could have taken a year but I stupidly wouldn't let it go and wasted my life thinking about how he messed up my life. The pain can be so deep that you can feel your body aching... To make matters worse ... (read in full...)
What should I do?? And where do you think my sexuality is heading??
Q. ok now it's probably a dumb question but for years im thinkin am i gay.. am i bi.. am i str8..i know there shouldn't be a name to describe ur sexualality but it does paint a picture of who u are. i have been with men and have been with women. now i ...
A. 24 January 2010: Human sexuality cannot be defined in black and white. There is a range of preferences (google the Kinsey scale). Only about 10% of people are exclusively gay and another about 10-15% are exclusively straight. The rest are a range of preferences, ... (read in full...)
She's four months pregnant and I'm not the father...should I break up with her before things get any farther, or just support her?
Q. I'm a senior in high school, and recently started seeing this amazing girl, who's my age. She seems perfect for me-smart, funny, and really sweet. We get along great. The only problem is that's she's about four months pregnant. The father is her ...
A. 24 January 2010: If you really like her, there is no reason why you can't ask to be just friends. That way you keep her as a friend while she sorts her love life out. Pregnancy is an emotional time and she could do with a good friend. However, she can't expect you ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this chaotic situation?
Q. I have been married since I was 19 y.o. My hubby and I had a great relationship. Since I have been laid off of work, my husband had to be the sole breadwinner. I guess the stress of him maintaining the bulk of the bills is significant, he decided ...
A. 24 January 2010: Why can't you ask him to move his business to his friend's house? Or to rent a warehouse elsewhere? ... (read in full...)
If a straight man in a relationship with a straight woman receives "a massage + a happy ending" from a male masseuse--no emotional intimacy involved--is that cheating?
Q. Brief facts: I'm female. Been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. I'm very, very open minded. Compared to other relationships I've been in, our sex life isn't so great (for various reasons), but there's a lot of love between us. I KNOW he's int...
A. 24 January 2010: I think you are being naive if you think he is going to permanently stop at hand/blow jobs. This behavior is progressive. On a daily basis in my work I deal with "straight" men who started with hand jobs and progressed to full sex, gay orgies, ... (read in full...)
How do I quit being so overly jealous here?
Q. here goes my prob. m very jealous, everytime i see my bf talking to some other chick i go green. i always embarass myself infront of people because when that happens i dont care where we r i shout at the top of my voice its so embarrasing. the other ...
A. 23 January 2010: Why are you so insecure? Next time you are acting irrationally like this, just remember you are making a fool out of yourself. He is going to dump you if you don't start handling yourself. Jealousy is unattractive. But a beautiful smile and a kind ... (read in full...)
If a straight man in a relationship with a straight woman receives "a massage + a happy ending" from a male masseuse--no emotional intimacy involved--is that cheating?
Q. Brief facts: I'm female. Been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. I'm very, very open minded. Compared to other relationships I've been in, our sex life isn't so great (for various reasons), but there's a lot of love between us. I KNOW he's int...
A. 23 January 2010: Your man is "living on the down-low". Google it. Down-low is the term used for men in heterosexual relationships who seek out gay men for sex but they consider themselves straight. The CDC (Center for Disease Control) are currently doing a study ... (read in full...)
Does this mean anything or am I just kidding myself that he cares?
Q. Wow, This may be too log for some but here goes. I had been with my husband for 7 years. The last three were awful. I treated him like crap and it was as though he didn't exist. I was never intimate with him and we never even slept in the sam...
A. 23 January 2010: I don't think you should give any thought to the other woman at all. Tough luck for her; why did she start seeing your husband while he was still living with you? She was cheating you with him and things have now come full circle. I think you ... (read in full...)
7 years on and he still has excuses not to marry me
Q. Ok i just dont know what to do anymore. I was married for eighteen years. It was rocky marriage and stayed for the children. I was filing for divorce and had met this man that swept me off my sweet. He pursued me so strongly. He was so honest and ...
A. 23 January 2010: Google sites about how to make a man fall in love/propose etc. Some good tips there; Worked for me! Am divorced with 3 kids and currently engaged to a wonderful man. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man, he wants sex, but if I give it he might break up with me
Q. i am dating this married guy, i am married too. i am 18 years old and he is 32. i know is kinda crazy but im really attracted to him. we met by our job, it was my first time i worked and damm! it happened, i am so into him, maybe is because i have ...
A. 23 January 2010: Child, just go through the posts here and read about the mistresses who have been waiting forever, some 20 years for the man to leave his wife; they hardly ever do. Have you ever stopped to think of what the poor wife is going through while you are ... (read in full...)
I am making my own plans for my future but sad I will never see my mother and sister again
Q. i need help. i am a girl. and me and my girlfriend are planing to leave home after 18 , after school. we are not telling anyone . its like running away but we are legal to. everything is decided. at the end of this year we are leaving. but my mum ...
A. 23 January 2010: Maybe explain to us, how does turning 18 make it possible for you to look after yourselves? Right now at home you have everything paid for you; when you are by yourself, you have to pay rent for your place where you will be staying. Just look in ... (read in full...)
I havent heard from my boyfriend since New Years Eve, what should I do?
Q. l am a 23 year year old. have been dating my boyfriend for a year now.he is 27. he has gone all quite. we were suppose to meet on new year eve to go to a party. he called saying he was coming but never showed up. he didn't even text a message ...
A. 22 January 2010: Chingomusiya. Pamwe akadyiswa ikoko. Just move on and try your best to forget him. If you act desperate by phoning all over for him then you are cheapening your self. You are worth more than this. It will be hard but force yourself to move on, ... (read in full...)
Wife hints at a threesome, should I surprise her one day or keep it as a fantasy?
Q. I have always been turned on with the idea of a MMF threesome with my wife. Not Bisexual in anyway, just for her. The other day we had a couple drinks and we started fooling around, the topic came up and she told me the type of guy she would wa...
A. 22 January 2010: Some fantasies are best left to the porn industry... Not everything like this works well in real life because emotions are involved. We have another poster here today (look through the postings) who is dealing with the aftermath. Just have fun ... (read in full...)
We had a group sex thing and now my g/f isnt talking to me
Q. my gf and I are both 22, we decided together we wanted to try a group swinging thing with an older couple. we met a cool older couple on line (54 female and 58 male) and met last night. During the thing my gf seemed to really enjoy herself, but once ...
A. 22 January 2010: Rori Raye, 99_bananas and Miamine have given you priceless feedback; reread what they said. After you talk to her it would be great if you could log on this question again and give us an update of what is really going on with her.
At the end of t... (read in full...)
She wont do what I want sexually, should I break up with her?
Q. Hello, I'd appreciate if it were girls who answered my question, it's not that guys don't have good advice to offer me but it's just that I'd prefer a girl's advice on this one. (Although if you're a guy and really think your piece of advice would ...
A. 22 January 2010: In your case, its sounds like she is the more controlling partner in the relationship. I'll bet you are the one who does all the calling and asking to see her and even apologizing when there are fights. You sound like you have her on a pedestal and ... (read in full...)
Is this some sort of STD from unprotected sex?
Q. ok so I had unprotected sex... please don't bitch at me about that... but that was about a week and a half ago and lately, around the opening of my vagina is very itchy and irritated. is there some sort of std or other reason as to why it is? ...
A. 22 January 2010: It sounds like you have a yeast infection. Go to the local drug store and ask for a something to clear up thrush. The medication can come in the form of a single pill (Diflucan) or as a cream you put in your vagina every day for a week. If after a ... (read in full...)
Do I "hang on" or "move on"?
Q. I met an awesome guy online last September and thought we were going to be freinds, but he had other ideas, as he wanted to meet and I was over the moon. However, the day before we were supposed to meet, I guess I got a weird vibe, as he still ...
A. 22 January 2010: This guy is probably not who he told you he was... Possibly he sent you pictures of someone else, or is married or was just lying about what he does for a living etc. This is obviously your first time dating online because most veterans have met a ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to prostitutes!
Q. Can I regain trust in my husband, married for 28 years found out 3 weeks ago he has been seeing prostitutes for 11 years but stopped 14 months ago because he found one 55 miles away that he has seen twice a week, bought lots of presents for etc. ...
A. 21 January 2010: You need to seriously consider leaving him. The best predicter of future behavior is past behavior. He is going to do this again. See a lawyer and get a good settlement so you can afford to look after yourself. I'm sorry, its a terrible thing to go ... (read in full...)
I agreed that my wife have sex with another man and now she is pregnant with his baby and won't give it up!
Q. me and my wife made a mistake but my wife thinks different, don't know what to do I’ve been married to my beautiful wife Robin for almost 2 years, we dated for just over a year before we got happily got married, I would say maybe about 8 months...
A. 21 January 2010: You need to make a decision. Do you want to stay your marriage? Your wife is having another man's baby and you have been manipulated into accepting it. If its showing then its likely that its too late to abort it. Who is going to be the legal ... (read in full...)
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