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Will our baby have a birth defect? No judemental answers please.

Q.   im having a relationship with my 1st cousin. I love him so much i would die for him and he would for me the thing is we want to have a baby but im afraid it might be born with a birth defect. I know what people are thinking were sick and its gros ...

A.   25 March 2010: Well just get to a doctor for advice; perhaps a genetic specialist. I also have two relatives who are first cousins who married and had children. Their first child is perfect but the next two are autistic and cannot even speak. They communicate ... (read in full...)

Will our baby have a birth defect? No judemental answers please.

Q.   im having a relationship with my 1st cousin. I love him so much i would die for him and he would for me the thing is we want to have a baby but im afraid it might be born with a birth defect. I know what people are thinking were sick and its gros ...

A.   24 March 2010: The only 99% safest way for you to have a normal child would be IVF with PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) of the embryo before its implanted in your womb. Its the same test for couples who have certain defects in a previous child or relative ... (read in full...)

She said I was too small for her. Do other girls think the same?!

Q.   I was with my girl and one thing led to another at that time... When the pants came off, she just looked blankly and told me bluntly "Hun... you're sorta too small. I... don't think you can do it for me." Then she got up flustered, apologiz...

A.   24 March 2010: Every pack of apples has at least one, rotten to the core. So she is one of a kind; most other women do not think like this foul mouthed B****. The biggest mistake you would make is if you take what she said into your next relationship and let it ... (read in full...)

What are my rights??? Airport Human Body Scanning?

Q.   I am due to be flying in about a month's time. I really really detest the idea of this whole human body scan thing where any odd person can view my private parts and genitals. Most men don't seem to think it is a big deal, but as a woman it is a ...

A.   24 March 2010: You can refuse but you will be subjecting yourself to a more humiliating hands on body search that may or may not include a cavity check. They get really annoyed with people who refuse so they are not very gentle about it. They will also go ... (read in full...)

How can I convince my mother to drive me two hours away?

Q.   Ok so ive just started dating this guy ive known him for 7 months i went 2 go visit him last weekend he lives 2 hrs away....now this is where it gets difficult. I do not have a car but my mom has let me used her car before, but what i need help on ...

A.   24 March 2010: At over 18 you can surely catch the bus or the train. Call your local station for prices. Your boyfriend can fetch you from the bus terminus/ train station. If its 2 hours away, it should be less than $30 for a return ticket. ... (read in full...)

I'm embarrassed and need advise as to what this could be. Please help!

Q.   Im actually quite embarassed to be posting this but i really need advise on what i think may be a problem with my vagina, when i put my finger near the hole my finger catches on this skin maybe im not sure but its like a loop that my finger ca go ...

A.   22 March 2010: It sounds like it might be your hymen, the flap of skin which all virgins have.... (read in full...)

My wife embarrasses me, and treats my daughter badly.

Q.   I have been in a married to the same woman for a few years now. Before I met my wife I had about thirty girl friends. Even though I had so many girl friends I only had sex with two of them. I was looking for a relationship and not a booty ...

A.   22 March 2010: How old is your daughter? Give an example of what rude stuff your wife says to her.... (read in full...)

Is there anything I can do to be more attractive physically or am I just too old to be considered attractive?

Q.   I would like to hear a sincere answer. Not a mean one, but a sincere one. I've been feeling very depressed about my age and my appearance lately. I feel like I'm very plain and unattractive and I want SO BADLY to be attractive and desir...

A.   22 March 2010: You state your age as under 35. I'm probably older than you, single with 3 kids but in a serious relationship. I have never felt better about myself so I am really puzzled about why you think you are not sexy because of your age!! All the hot ... (read in full...)

Is there anything I can do to be more attractive physically or am I just too old to be considered attractive?

Q.   I would like to hear a sincere answer. Not a mean one, but a sincere one. I've been feeling very depressed about my age and my appearance lately. I feel like I'm very plain and unattractive and I want SO BADLY to be attractive and desir...

A.   22 March 2010: You state your age as under 35. I'm probably older than you, single with 3 kids but in a serious relationship. I have never felt better about myself so I am really puzzled about why you think you are not sexy because of your age!! All the hot ... (read in full...)

Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?

Q.   Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...

A.   22 March 2010: As a mother of a son I am shocked that your girlfriend wants your mother to submit to her and is using your baby as punishment knowing how terrible it is for her. Why are you so afraid of your girlfriend??? This is so unnatural. How can you allow ... (read in full...)

I feel horrible that my wife was crying whilst we had sex! Does this mean she finds me repulsive?

Q.   hi this is driving me nuts. me and my partner have been together for about 5 years we have children together and seem happy we have are ups and downs no big deal.but are sex life has got dull and not a lot of it i mean big gaps.we both made jokes ...

A.   22 March 2010: When I cried in a similar situation it was because I felt my husband was only making all this effort to get laid. He had ignored all my other emotional issues that I had been trying to reach him on. I felt he was only interested in sex whereas I ... (read in full...)

Is there anything I can do to get my boyfriend permanent residency without marrying him?

Q.   Hi. I need some advice. I have a boyfriend that I love a lot, we met online and then have been flying back and forth since then. We are both in our early 20's. I'm crazy about him. I was planning to relocate anyway (even before I met him) so I was ...

A.   21 March 2010: Enlisting in the armed forces is an immediate green card after basic training but I think he would have to do at least 2 tours of duty in Afghanistan or wherever he is deployed. If interested he should try hard to join the navy rather than the ... (read in full...)

What would my kids say if they knew I got involved with their Uncle?

Q.   I need help. I am the mother of three children, all grown up. My husband died unexpectedly when I was pregnant with the last one, nineteen years ago. Although I had my share of relationships over the years, none was good enough to make me settle d...

A.   21 March 2010: I think they might be more accepting that you think. And the bonus is that the kids are already bonded with him emotionally and by the blood relation so you shouldnt have major issues (hopefully). Good luck... (read in full...)

Girls is it confidence, appearance, attitude; what?

Q.   Girls: does confidence matter more if the guy is generally seen as "unattractive"? I have good days where i'm super cocky, other days where i'm almost shy. As confident as I get and as much time as i spend on my appearance and personality, I get ...

A.   17 March 2010: Cocky and confident are not the same thing!!! Cocky is highly unattractive. But confidence is wonderful. But it has to come across as effortless, friendly, non judgemental.... (read in full...)

My dad's abusive and out of control

Q.   I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible. I'm 17 now and have grown up with a a terrible relationship with my dad. He has never been a 'dad' to me and as I've got older, we have drifted more and more apart. He hasn't worked for 12 ye...

A.   17 March 2010: Call a domestic violence helpline for advice or call Childline. They will be able to help you figure out what you can do. They can even arrange that next time there is a fight, they can send the police around to your house and the police will say ... (read in full...)

I want to convince her that I've changed

Q.   I want to know if there is anything I can do now to repair or recover my relationship. My girlfriend of 7 months broke up with me 2 months ago and I am completely devastated. She had tried to tell me several times that I wasn't giving her what she ...

A.   17 March 2010: Perhaps just ask her if you can just be friends. Most women accept friendship and that's your foot in the door. Once you have this friends arrangement, start doing all you were supposed to do as a boyfriend; calling her etc. But I can't stress ... (read in full...)

Ready for marriage. Why is he holding back?

Q.   Help Please. I've bee with my boyfriend for 11years now. We moved in together about 5 years ago. and been engaged for 6years. Now here's mt problem he won't set a date. He says we are soon. But then he says its just a piece a papper and that he ...

A.   17 March 2010: Firstly, strong-arming him down the aisle by setting a date and a dress is not a way to begin a lasting marriage. He has to be the one pushing you and excited about it all. Plus marrying a stingy man? While you are dating it may be ok, but once ... (read in full...)

What do I have to pack in my hospital bag for myself and baby?

Q.   I've seen loads of lists on what to pack in a hospital bag but it seems like loads of stuff. What are the main things I need to pack for during and after labour?...

A.   16 March 2010: I think it differs from country to country because some hospitals provide stuff. But definite essentials are 10 to 20 panties!! If you can buy those disposable ones then all the better. If not then bring your oldest granny full ones. Forget the ... (read in full...)

How can I help them both if they keep shutting me out?

Q.   My 18 year old daughter has been dating her boyfriend Ryan for 3 years. He is a family friend and we have known him since he was just a child. Last year he got mixed in with the wrong crowd and got involved with drugs. He started skipping school and ...

A.   16 March 2010: Unfortunately, there is nothing much you can do except let your daughter know that you are there for her and you love her. You will have to be there for her to help her pick up the pieces of her life after this ordeal. The thing is, the more you ... (read in full...)

Should I fulfill my wifes FFM fantasy?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for several years and have a one of a kind relationship. Most people we know tell us wehave the perfect marriage. We just communicate very well and are best friends and can't be 2 hrs without eachother. Our sex has ...

A.   16 March 2010: "She's into girls more than anything. She really has no interest in men at all." Are you serious? So why are you (a man) with a lesbian who doesn't like men? Can you hear how lost you are? Ofcourse she prefers men! Isnt that why she's with you?... (read in full...)

Years later and things have changed, I've changed...but she doesn't trust me because of what happened before...

Q.   Hi, I have a major issue…… Firstly a little background info. I’m 31 years old and live in Australia. From the ages of 19 to 24 I lived in Europe and other parts of the world. During my two years living in the mediterranean, I was 21 at the time, I ...

A.   16 March 2010: Wow; what a story. Like you yourself said, you will always kick yourself if you never take the chance. So since you can afford it, why don't you take that chance and just show up and visit her as you promised? You can leave your pic and note in ... (read in full...)

I have developed feelings for my 14 year old student, how do I forget about this and get over him?

Q.   I am a teacher. First of all, I would like to state that I am 27 and have *never* had a crush on anyone younger than me! I also know that what I'm about to write makes me a pedophile, so I am asking you not to call me names; I deserve them all. Tha...

A.   16 March 2010: You need to raise your right hand, swing it out away from your body then slap yourself across the face as hard as you can. You are playing with fire. Do you not know how 14 year old boys are? Do you think this is a secret he keeps between you and ... (read in full...)

How long after you conceieve does it normally take for your period to stop?

Q.   If I had sex a week before my period started and hypothetically got pregnant, would I still have my period the nest week? I'm not sure that I'm actually pregnant I just wondered how long it normally takes after you have sex for your period to stop ...

A.   16 March 2010: Your monthly period happens when your uterus sheds its lining. This lining is there to prepare for a pregnancy. If you become pregnant then your period should not come at all or it can be very very light spotting in rare cases. When the egg is ... (read in full...)

I'm a mess (gay, straight, virgin, everything)

Q.   I am a total mess and at this point I'm question all my feelings, goals and sexuality. I am 30, very handsome, a virgin. I am physically attracted to very good looking guys and for the last few years I had excepted that I'm gay. The problem is, I ...

A.   16 March 2010: I think you are slightly delusional. If a guy is straight, he's straight. You cannot go around expecting to meet a straight guy to convert to gay then accuse them of being afraid when they turn you down! They are just not attracted to you! Maybe ... (read in full...)

I need some help with how to get pregnant!

Q.   I'm 36 and I'm trying to get pregnant for 4 years. I've tried IUI who came negative and my fertility doc say that I need IVF, whitch I couldn't afford at this time. I don't want to adopt and I want to have a child on my own. Can any one help ?????...

A.   15 March 2010: Its unlikely that you can find anything that will be completely cost free. The cheapest ivf cycle I have heard of in the States is $6000 for 2 attempts. Also consider foreign options like India, Kenya, Israel, South Africa who start at about $1000 ... (read in full...)

What is up with all of this???

Q.   A couple of weeks ago, I went to visit an associate of mine. She had a possible health problem and I wanted to make sure she was okay. When I got to her house, this tall, handsome guy walks out and introduces himself as her son. I asked for her ...

A.   15 March 2010: At your age you are still falling for the old trick. He was interested in you for sex and you gave it up easy. He's done. When he starts calling again that means he wants to do it again. You should have made him wait at least 3 months to see if he ... (read in full...)

Would I be making a mistake if I broke this off?

Q.   I am 30 years old and I live with my boyfriend (we are engaged to be married). The thing is that I moved to his country to be with him and I am just not happy here. I don't even think I really love him. BUT he loves me soooooo much and it kills me. ...

A.   15 March 2010: You need to remember why you fell for him in the first place. Perhaps the loneliness of being in a new environment has made you feel this way? However, if you are sure, just get your family to call you for an emergency back home or something. Then ... (read in full...)

I need to get a morning after pill, ... but I have been grounded!

Q.   i have had sex with my boyfriend and im getting the morning after pill problem is im grounded so i have to tell my mum, but im really unsure what to say can anyone give me some idea's? would be a big help thanks x...

A.   15 March 2010: Cant you tell your boyfriend to buy it and bring it to you at your house? You just pretend to take out the trash and he slips it to you and leaves. Or he gives your best female friend to deliver it to you. Or wait till your mother leaves the ... (read in full...)

I am avoiding kissing anyone coz I don't know how to go about it!

Q.   I'm 17 years old male and I don't know how to Snog I've always had chances to but I've been too embarrased and my mates wonder why I turn down girls that are really good looking. Does it just come naturally? And is it obvios that it's my first snog? ...

A.   15 March 2010: Dont aim for a snog the first time. Try multiple 2 second long kisses with half second breaks in between each kiss. Just make sure you don't slobber her with saliva or try to stick your tongue into her mouth the first time. Make sure your breath ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's ex-girlfriend was kinkier/better in bed.

Q.   *OP's own title* So I've been dating this wonderful guy for a couple months now, and everything's great. We have great sex which we both enjoy, but he has mentioned in passing a couple times the more adventurous things he did with his last girl...

A.   15 March 2010: If the ex girlfriends were so wonderful then why is he no longer with them? Obviously their acrobatics were not enough for him to stay with them. They are probably also wondering what you are giving him that they couldn't so don't worry about it. ... (read in full...)

Should I fulfill my wifes FFM fantasy?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for several years and have a one of a kind relationship. Most people we know tell us wehave the perfect marriage. We just communicate very well and are best friends and can't be 2 hrs without eachother. Our sex has ...

A.   15 March 2010: I will tell you that the majority of women would not want to share their man with their best friend (or any woman for that matter). The very thought actually sets my teeth on edge. So your wife is one of a kind. I hope she has thought about the ... (read in full...)

Can I become a daddy, if foresking doesn't retract???

Q.   I am uncircumcised and a few years ago acquired a yeast infection. Did not get it from my wife as she has never had one, the Dr. told me it was because I cleaned me penis with soap and that washes away natural antibacterial whatever and long story ...

A.   15 March 2010: Ofcourse you can father a child if your foreskin doesn't retract. Your foreskin has nothing to do with fertility. But your health does. If you are sure you didn't get a serious infection to your reproductive system and it was just a yeast ... (read in full...)

Ready for marriage. Why is he holding back?

Q.   Help Please. I've bee with my boyfriend for 11years now. We moved in together about 5 years ago. and been engaged for 6years. Now here's mt problem he won't set a date. He says we are soon. But then he says its just a piece a papper and that he ...

A.   15 March 2010: You being available to him all the time has put him in a comfort zone. How you can solve this problem depends on how much you want this. Because you have been together for so long you might need to upset the boat a little. I would suggest one of ... (read in full...)

Should I let him take my virginity?

Q.   Right I really need help! I just turned 18 and I really want to lose my virginity but I don't/ never have had a boyfriend... I'm not sure why and alot of people think I'm lying when I say I'm a virgin (mainy becuase of my huge 34J boobs) b...

A.   14 March 2010: You are literally about to jump off a high rise building with your idea. Why are you desperate to get rid of your virginity to someone who does not even love you? So what if people say you don't look like a virgin? That's their own opinion. You ... (read in full...)

Who can be my baby father???

Q.   I know this crazy, but my boyfriend was locked up for 7 months, he got out the jail on sept 22 but anyway on sept 7, i cheated on my boyfriend, me and the guy had unproteced sex but not that long probably like 3 ump , i made him put on comdon then ...

A.   14 March 2010: I think your boyfriend is the father. Talk to your nurse/doc at your next check up and discuss when you possibly conceived. ... (read in full...)

Good morning babe!!!

Q.   I am in a long distance relationship .We have been together for 6 months. We fly to see each other every 4 weeks but talk and text almost every day. My problem is... usually we text each other good morning. Lately I have been recieveing 2 or 3 good ...

A.   14 March 2010: Just apologize for a joke gone bad. Tell him its hard on you being so far away. I once did the same to my LD boyfriend and he was upset that I didn't trust him. So just take responsibility for your actions so you can move forward. Its unlikely ... (read in full...)

My wife is getting a better deal with a group of swingers

Q.   hi a few months back my wife and i went on an oversea holiday with 2 other couple. one we knew (well thought we knew well) and the other we had been out with a few time. Both the other couples at som 5 to 8 years older that us too. whilst o...

A.   14 March 2010: Perhaps just put it down to 'holiday gone wild' and don't get into this lifestyle permanently. If one partner is the slightest bit reluctant then it should not be pursued. Just tell her you don't want to do it anymore.... (read in full...)

Inlaws are making my life hell!

Q.   the problem i have is the age old problem of the in-laws. My sister in-law is the main one i have problems with. recently my husband an i had a breif separation. she rang him up to ask why and like a mug he told her. she then rang my home and ...

A.   14 March 2010: What a bunch of losers! First of all, even if you had cheated, its none of their business. That is a private matter between you and your husband. But there is something magical about destructive people; they eventually destroy each other or ... (read in full...)

Should I continue neglecting my own feelings for my wife and child?

Q.   i married my wife because we had a kid and i didn't want to be irresponsible, but i don't think i can do it anymore. It's almost 10 yrs now and words cannot described how i feel! I have try to be the husband that my conscious mind wants to be, by ...

A.   14 March 2010: Its admirable that you have been so responsible but from what you have said, you actually owe it to yourself AND your wife and daughter to end it if you feel you should. Your wife will be able to move on and meet someone who she can start a new life ... (read in full...)

Should I continue neglecting my own feelings for my wife and child?

Q.   i married my wife because we had a kid and i didn't want to be irresponsible, but i don't think i can do it anymore. It's almost 10 yrs now and words cannot described how i feel! I have try to be the husband that my conscious mind wants to be, by ...

A.   14 March 2010: Its admirable that you have been so responsible but from what you have said, you actually owe it to yourself AND your wife and daughter to end it if you feel you should. Your wife will be able to move on and meet someone who she can start a new life ... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't want me anymore.

Q.   Hello every one ,I have some problems with my husband, he doesn't want to come home anymore .We had a big fight, and he left me alone in the house for 2 days and didn't give any phone calls. After that fight, he make me a ticket ,and he want me ...

A.   14 March 2010: Go to http://www.uscis.gov. This is the official US government website. Go to the bottom under the heading 'Humanitarian'. Click on 'battered spouses'. That link will give you contact numbers of what to do if you are a foreigner married to a US ... (read in full...)

Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?

Q.   Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...

A.   12 March 2010: Both your girlfriend and your mother are wrong. How could your gf ban your mother from seeing your baby?? I think you should possibly warn your gf that if your mum can't see the baby then her mum can't either. Your mum obviously doesn't come ... (read in full...)

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