Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 14 March 2010: You cannot get an STD from getting an STD test; that's an urban legend. Unless you are in some unregistered backdoor hovel somewhere, the nurses use disposable needles and syringes with every person. As for catching something from a blood ... (read in full...)
Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 13 March 2010: I am an HIV/ AIDS counselor. You have to retest after 90 days. After exposure it takes approximately 90 days for antibodies to begin to show up in your blood. We call this the "window period". To be 100% sure just retest after 90 days. There are ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went beserk
Q. Exhausted and tired of being so stressed out. I came to China to teach English but have come close to running out of money. It looks like I might have to leave in the next 3 weeks if I can't secure work. There's still a good chance that I can get ...
A. 10 March 2010: you are doing the right thing to leave. It must be so painful for you to be going through this. Let us know when you get home. All the best. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went beserk
Q. Exhausted and tired of being so stressed out. I came to China to teach English but have come close to running out of money. It looks like I might have to leave in the next 3 weeks if I can't secure work. There's still a good chance that I can get ...
A. 10 March 2010: Awww honey, can't you see that she is mentally unstable? My uncle was married to a woman like this and he attempted suicide several times while married to her, used to blame himself for everything in the relationship. They had 5 kids together who he ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to help out in the house more?
Q. Ok... I am a mum of two. A 3 year old and 6 month old. Due to my son still being young im not working but my partner is, But he helps out with nothing at home! Its driving me mad. He does nothing for the little ones, feeding, bathing, cooking, nappy ...
A. 10 March 2010: I understand its not easy being a young mum to juggle running a home. If he brings home the bacon you really can't expect a 50/50 split on chores. More like 80/20, you doing most of it. The best thing for you to do is sit down and plan for a week ... (read in full...)
Please help! HOW to get him back???
Q. ok, basically, my fiance broke it off with me yesterday, on the basis that he felt he couldnt trust me after i cheated on him last october(he found out 2 weeks after it happened, broke it off straight away, but came running back a few days later and ...
A. 10 March 2010: Being cheated on is one of the worst things that can ever happen. Its an attack on your confidence and sense of self. I'm afraid he has thought about it and made a decision. Whilst he does believe you are sorry, the stress of imagining what you did ... (read in full...)
Lack of sex was a problem, but now I'm reluctant because it seems she's only doing it for me
Q. My wife hasn't a huge sex drive. For most of the 25 years of our marriage, our sex life has been hit and miss. And despite an arguement now and again about it, I've always left her off the hook. But recently we had a huge arguement about it and I ...
A. 10 March 2010: Why don't you take the time to have lots of foreplay by exploring her body more... Perhaps start by giving her a massage and kisses all over. Or run her bath/shower with her. Compliment her on how beautiful she is and how sexy she is; even when not ... (read in full...)
He has a young daughter and we don't get time to ourselves
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he has a 2 year old daughter to another woman. He has her every weekend, and the weekend is the only time we spend any time together so we never really get any time to ourselves. this doesn't seem to ...
A. 10 March 2010: My advice is break up with him. Dating a partner with children is not for everybody. What would you rather have him do? See his 2 year old daughter less? It does get worse as she will be there needing his attention for the rest of his life. If you ... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 10 March 2010: Ok, I guess I had misunderstood your previous question; I'd assumed you were actually considering him as a date.
Just tell him straight that you are not interested. Don't worry about having to be extra polite because of his age. Just send him a te... (read in full...)
Life after my affair...
Q. I had an affair with a man 20 years my senior. We were caught by my husband. yes, I know it was wrong. Long story. Anyway, its been almost three months since we were caught. In the initial weeks after the affair there were lots of texts back and ...
A. 9 March 2010: In a situation like this you can't even hope for a friendship. You have to cut contact completely. If you keep contacting him then your husband will simply believe your affair has resumed. Can't you see that trying to continue contact is maintaining ... (read in full...)
Long-term damage from anal?
Q. Hi I was just reading some questions about anal sex and it said that anal sex can damage you in later life. Well I have had anal sex and have been doing so for a few years. I don't do it very often - about once a month. I was wondering if I could ...
A. 9 March 2010: I have no personal experience but some college work I did covered some of the health problems faced by homosexuals. Besides higher risk of infection, I discovered that over time destruction of the sphincter muscle that keeps the anus closed can be ... (read in full...)
Should I take my teenage daughter to a clinic to get birth control? There are no close females in her life and I am worried about her
Q. I am a single father of 3 teen age children, 1 daughter (16) and 2 sons (17) and (19). My daughter has been dating a boy from her school since late january. He seems like a nice enough of a guy but my sons call him a "player". A few nigths ago I ...
A. 9 March 2010: This was the talk my dad had with me 20 years ago:
"I am your father and I gain nothing by telling you this. I was also a boy so I know how young boys think today; nothing has changed. Boys at this age of your boyfriend are driven by their horm... (read in full...)
He's really into me and wants a threesome!!!
Q. I have a boyfriend, we've only been together a month, but we're really into each other or at least I think he's really into me. I mean, he asked if I would participate in having a threesome. Not a normal threesome. He just wants to have 2 girls give ...
A. 9 March 2010: This guy is going to use you then ditch you quite quickly. He is not serious about you. Only a month as your boyfriend and he is already disatisfied with you and wants to bring in another person before you are both fully into each other?? Dont ... (read in full...)
Committed... or mind games???
Q. I have been in a relationship with a foreign guy for 10 months now his english is not too bad, i first knew him in 2007 when i went out with my mates to a club he would always come up to me and ask was i single which i was not at the time if my ...
A. 9 March 2010: Please say which country he is from and his age? Your age?... (read in full...)
Having trust issues after 8 months
Q. I have been dating a woman for 8 months now and I still have trust issues. We have declared our love for one another and have both said that if there ever were a "soulmate", then we are it. We met on an online dating site this past summer and we b...
A. 9 March 2010: I have been through what you are going through. I met my online boyfriend and it was great; but while I suspended my profile immediately, he kept his active. Being the psycho I am, I created a false profile just to monitor him. I was hurt but then ... (read in full...)
His little sister is invading our relationship.
Q. Okay so my boyfriends sister is coming home from living with friends. She butts in our relationship and is very needy of him. I don't like to share and feel like im competing. She also uses him and he accepts it because that's his younger sister. ...
A. 9 March 2010: I think you need to find a way to get along with her. She is his sister and she was there before you and will outlast you so there actually is no competition. If however, she is actually rude to you, then tell her off directly. Or just pack an ... (read in full...)
Is this lack of a father figure or something else???
Q. I'm 17 - 18 in a couple of months. It's taken me a lot of courage to start writing this, because I am very, very embarrassed about what I'm going to say and I feel like such an awful, twisted person. I have always had confidence issues, paranoia ...
A. 9 March 2010: It will help you to seek the help of a therapist. You can't be diagnosed here ofcourse but its possible that you may have a degree of obsessive compulsive disorder. I really encourage you to talk to a counselor in person. If you feel its too much ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him understand that this bitch is a psycho and that I am not the one in the wrong.
Q. Hi, I'm after advice re my ex. I dumped her about a year ago but we stayed in touch and I thought we might get back together a few weeks ago but I changed my mind cos I met a woman at work I quite fancied. I was angry with my ex because I asked ...
A. 8 March 2010: Ok, now that I have managed to pick my jaw up off the ground, I have to first say that what I really want to say to you might get me banned from this site.
But I will say that your girlfriend is not a psycho and if she isnt, then you know who is. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my PMT???
Q. Hi, well, I think I know what's wrong with me but I'm not entirely sure :S Anyway, during my monthly cycle, towards the time when 'the painters' come (my cool little name for it :P) I get really quite depressed and anxious about stuff and I am c...
A. 8 March 2010: Mine is really bad too, except I'm more like a vicious animal a day or two before the Painters. The only thing that worked for me was the Pill. I had to try 2 or 3 brands before I found one that was so perfect I could keep myself off periods for 3 ... (read in full...)
I need advice and please don't joke around.
Q. Ok, here is the situation. I’m 18, and currently working in IT as Server and Desktop support. I met this (most gorgeous, magnificent) woman at one of my sites. BUT she is 39 and has 2 kids! First is 11 second is 14. I’ve been through a divorce my ...
A. 8 March 2010: I am in a relationship with someone 25 years older than me and I'm 35. Ok, my case is extreme and I'm called names like gold-digger and people tell me I'm being used by him because he is trying to regain his youth through me. He's been called a ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went beserk
Q. Exhausted and tired of being so stressed out. I came to China to teach English but have come close to running out of money. It looks like I might have to leave in the next 3 weeks if I can't secure work. There's still a good chance that I can get ...
A. 8 March 2010: She sounds like she has a mood disorder of some kind; try googling 'borderline personality disorder' and 'bipolar disorder' and 'manic depressive', and she see if she fits some of the symptoms. This relationship doesn't look like it will be good for ... (read in full...)
I need advice and please don't joke around.
Q. Ok, here is the situation. I’m 18, and currently working in IT as Server and Desktop support. I met this (most gorgeous, magnificent) woman at one of my sites. BUT she is 39 and has 2 kids! First is 11 second is 14. I’ve been through a divorce my ...
A. 8 March 2010: 1. The kids- you can only know how they will be towards you after you meet them. I have a boyfriend who loves my kids that are in the age range of your girlfriends' and he has succeeded in winning them over by being a friend and staying out of any ... (read in full...)
Kissing technique...
Q. Hey, I'm 13 and my girlfriend and I have been together for about a month. I've never had my first kiss before but she has. She says she's ready to make out with me, but I'm scared that I might not be good enough for her since I haven't had any ...
A. 8 March 2010: When you kiss her just don't try stick your tongue in her mouth and also make sure you don't have a mouthful of saliva to drown her with. Just try keeping your lips soft and lightly moist; use a chapstick if it will help. Also make sure your teeth ... (read in full...)
How many young ladies out there (like me) are having a hard time finding a boyfriend?
Q. Hi guys, I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself but I'm wondering how many young ladies out there are having a hard time finding a boyfriend? I am 20 this year and have never had a boyfriend, I feel like I'm a really slow developer. Every si...
A. 8 March 2010: Try post a profile on http://www.connectingsingles.com. ... (read in full...)
She says she wants a threesome. Fantasy or reality?
Q. Well, I don't have any clue where to begin on this.. I've never really been in this situation before and I apologize ahead of time for typos and my bad sentence structure and for the long speech. My girlfriend and I have dated for just over 2 years ...
A. 8 March 2010: I think its a bad idea for you to go through with this. It is titillating to think about and may even be erotic when you do it. But the real effects will be seen in the aftermath. You will be replaying these images in your mind over and over for ... (read in full...)
I've met a guy online but he doesn't phone (because of the cost). Could he have other women on the go?
Q. I met a man online. He has a great job and works in other countries alot. We have been emailing on and off for two months now. We h ave only spoken on the phone a few times because it is $4.00 a minute. We have been emailing alot recently and ...
A. 8 March 2010: The truth is, you can't expect an exclusive relationship with someone unless you are living with them. Your online flirtations even if you discuss marriage are just talk unless you actually meet and thereafter agree to be exclusive. So don't expect ... (read in full...)
Forty and really wanting a child
Q. I am 40 years old and it is killing me that I do not have kids. I really would like to have a child part of the problem is I don't even have a boyfriend or any prospects. I am totally single. What can I do?...
A. 8 March 2010: http://www.connectingsingles.com and http://www.fertility-docs.com... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 8 months but never met
Q. I have been dating someone for around 8 months and met them online about a year ago. We haven't met yet and it is starting to worry me. We talk every day for hours, so there is that human connection, but as time goes on and I fall for them more and ...
A. 7 March 2010: I completely understand what you are feeling; I've been there before. Both my partner and I were nervous about meeting and he took 6 months to finally be brave enough to take the chance. Up until then he had been worried like you are. We both ... (read in full...)
I worry my penis wont measure up
Q. i just wanted 2 ask any girls out there that have had a guy or more in the past that had a gigantic dick, what happens in the future when u find someone u fall in love with that just has a 6 or 7 incher? does it mean that since u already had ...
A. 7 March 2010: The only thing that women don't like about small dicks is the lack of confidence that often accompanies it. Physically, most women couldn't care less. If you enjoy giving lots of oral and other sexy foreplay AND you have confidence then you have ... (read in full...)
My parents have rules but my boyfriend thinks I am treated unfairly
Q. So I have a curfew. Tonight was my boyfriends birthday, so I went out. I told my parents I would be home by one, not knowing if that would happen or not. My boyfriend knows my parents are strict too, and that I had to be home. So, Im at the party ...
A. 7 March 2010: I agree with everyone that its their house, their rules. But when I was your age and had an 11pm curfew (yes, really), on a special night like this I would sleep at a female friend's house who had more flexibility on her curfew. So next time you ... (read in full...)
I can't look at my boyfriend when I give him a blow job!
Q. I can't seem to look at my boyfriend while I'm giving him head! Like he looks at me when he's giving me oral and I find it sexy but I feel wierd if I look at him like we have been dating two years and I have never looked at him when I give him head. ...
A. 7 March 2010: Try coming up with an alter ego. It sounds pathetic but it does work to help get rid of your inhibitions. I often have my boyfriend asking if 'Candy' is coming over tonight because 'she' does stuff that I would be shy to!!!!!... (read in full...)
Does Anyone really find love online or LDR?
Q. Does anyone really find love or a relationship online? Is it possible? I hear stories and know people. But are they the rule or the exception? Is it possible to find love long distance through online. I just like to hear if anyone who has found ...
A. 7 March 2010: SirenaBlusera: No problem at all I'm happy to answer!
I met my boyfriend on connectingsingles.com; he contacted me the day I first posted my profile. He lives in Sweden but since we met he visits for long periods. We spoke online and on tele... (read in full...)
If I really loved him would I be able to lose weight??
Q. Hi Guys! I am really upset and hoping for some help. I would love to get some answers from guys as well on this one. My LTR BF (8 years) has asked me to lose weight before (I am approx size 14/16 and was this size when we met and I am quite tall ...
A. 6 March 2010: Yes dear, you do need to lose weight....... His sorry ass!! You need to ditch this total loser. If you met you that way then he should leave you alone and stop talking rubbish. He thinks he's irreplaceable. There are many men who would love to be ... (read in full...)
Does Anyone really find love online or LDR?
Q. Does anyone really find love or a relationship online? Is it possible? I hear stories and know people. But are they the rule or the exception? Is it possible to find love long distance through online. I just like to hear if anyone who has found ...
A. 6 March 2010: I think your chances of finding real love online have the same odds as in real life. That is, there are at least 10 frogs for every prince you meet. The advantage online is that many more people are available to you and you can prescreen before you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends keeping asking him when he's going to 'try something' with me
Q. My boyfriend always tells me hes not going to pressure me into doing anything I dont wanna do. I know this is wrong in so many ways but I read his texts and some of his stuff on facebook and his friends ask some things like 'did ya 'f**' yet?' and ...
A. 6 March 2010: At least now you know that whatever you do will be posted on facebook and bragged about. This is how guy talk so you can't stop them. Just ignore it and keep watch. ... (read in full...)
She keeps insulting my country and I don't know how to end this bullying.
Q. I chat in a chat room where people chats from all over the world. I am from my country. Not only me several people (if you say upon 100%, 40%)are from my country. there is a girl who is from another country, She abuses my country very much, and ...
A. 6 March 2010: Just block her from contacting you and forget her. ... (read in full...)
Help I have fallen in love with my aunt
Q. My aunt is one of the greatest women i have ever met, she attractive kind just amazing really. The problem is i have fallen in love with her and don't know what to do? I really want to tell her how i feel but i don't know how please help me...
A. 6 March 2010: You need to think with your head, not your heart dear. In this case nothing can ever happen between you and her. If you tell her it will just be awkward. I remember my brother at your age also had a huge crush on an aunt of ours. It lasted a few ... (read in full...)
I live with my boyfriend and find having his child once a week is hard
Q. i have been seeing my boy friend for over a year i have now moved in to his house, he is in the army so he is away in the week and i am on my own i am happy and i did know that when i moved in that it would be like this,my boy friend has a little ...
A. 6 March 2010: If you feel resentment towards him having to spend time once a week with his innocent child then its better for you to move on and find a single guy; because that child is not going anywhere for the the next 20 years. It is difficult to develop ... (read in full...)
Is my daughter gay? How do I handle walking in on such an embarrassing scene?
Q. Hi, I am a single dad of a 15 year old girl and came home one day to hear laughing coming from my daughters room when I didnt even expect her to be home. so I just went over and walked in to ask her how her day was and I find my daughter naked w...
A. 6 March 2010: It is not unusual for girls that age to experiment with what they have seen on the porn sites. It does not necessarily mean she is gay. If you are really concerned then ask her mother to talk to her or make an appointment with a therapist for a ... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 6 March 2010: People act like age is some kind of disease to be avoided. There is absolutely nothing wrong with becoming friends with a man of 70. They have the same feelings of wanting to be cared for as they did in their 20's. Ok, maybe I'm biased because my ... (read in full...)
Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 6 March 2010: Visit http://www.yourstdhelp.com/free_clinic_locator.html
Or contact an HIV helpline for details on free testing.
... (read in full...)
She won't tell anyone about our relationship until it improves. But it can't improve because I am unhappy she won't tell anyone!
Q. OK, me and my girlfriend been dating for 3 years. The only thing is that no one, not her friends or parents know we are dating. Thats the way she wants it. This situation makes me unhappy and we end up argueing over it. The arguments make h...
A. 6 March 2010: She wants you to propose. ... (read in full...)
Need some adult input on sex and pregnancy
Q. My mom wont talk to me about sex. today i asked her over 30 times about different thing but she just walks away from me and tells me not to follow her and to leave her alone. so i have no other choice but to ask the people on this site. So here is ...
A. 6 March 2010: Hi there
My first pregnancy occurred about a day after my period which is supposed to be the safest time. There is no completely safe time to have sex and avoid pregnancy. Your highest risk is roughly half way between your periods.
As for how to s... (read in full...)
I don't want my parents to see I've been phoning someone out of state and get suspicious. How can I get in touch with him via phone?
Q. So I've been IMing this guy for awhile. I want to call him and talk to him and such, but he lives in Philadelphia and I live in Florida. I'm scared that my parents will see that I've been calling someone out of state and will get suspicious. I need ...
A. 6 March 2010: Why don't you go and buy one of those $5 calling cards from a convenience store? They only reflect the 1888 number of the agency and this call is not charged to the phone you call from. For example, the AT&T cards have a local number that you call ... (read in full...)
I want to gain weight. but don't know how. I'm tired of being so skinny.
Q. I know this is not the type of question 2 ask,,,but i really need your help....i need your advice on what pill to take to make me gain weight...am just sick and tired of being so skinny!!!...
A. 5 March 2010: What is your current height and weight? What makes me gain wait is a plate of chips, a plate of icecream and a bar of chocolate late at night usually in my bed. But this would be to gain fat. To gain muscle you can try weight training. Just give us ... (read in full...)
I can't look at my boyfriend when I give him a blow job!
Q. I can't seem to look at my boyfriend while I'm giving him head! Like he looks at me when he's giving me oral and I find it sexy but I feel wierd if I look at him like we have been dating two years and I have never looked at him when I give him head. ...
A. 5 March 2010: Could it be that you are a little shy and embarassed about looking at him during oral? If that is the reason, then you need to really forget about your inhibitions if you want to make the whole experience more erotic for him. The less inhibited ... (read in full...)
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