Why does my husband think showing me his flaccid penis is a turn on?
Q. Married 6 years and very happy. My husband is 15 years older than me but eveyone who knows would say I am the mature party in our relationship. We have a toddler and our sex life is gearing back up now that nights are less interrupted and back to ...
A. 28 December 2009: I have read and reread your message and am trying to understand what the problem is. After a few years of marriage, SOME men become silly like that; running around the room naked, making puppets with their winkie and balls, trying on your thongs, ... (read in full...)
I immigrated to be closer to my mother, but its not working out
Q. HELP - I have a very serious problem which is depressing me. I have recently migrated to be with my mother who has retired to the caribbean. I have been here with my son now for about 3 months and it has been a living nightmare. My mother is not ...
A. 28 December 2009: It looks like you are already doing everything possible to fix things. So from now the only option is to go into survival mode. Its painful but necessary while you try find your own place. Just live your life separate from hers, mind your own ... (read in full...)
I really want to move on but how do I tell my husband?
Q. i really hav a mess sex life with my husband,i tried all i could,i tried to talk to him about counseling either but he keep on saying we don't we hav problem to take to counseling and he says that's just wast of money,we had been tryiny to make ...
A. 28 December 2009: This is what works with a man who doesnt listen: you don't start by telling him suddenly that you want a divorce. That can be too much of a shock and he will fight too hard for you; he might cry and plead and you might end up feeling sorry for him. ... (read in full...)
It makes no sense. Did he just lose interest?
Q. I met a guy awhile ago at a friend's party. I was a little drunk, but my friend came up to me and told me this guy thought I was beautiful. So I walked right up to him and gave him a kiss on the check. We talked and he asked for my number, and we ...
A. 27 December 2009: I know you want a guy's opinion, but try buy this book called "he's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt. It will help you deal with these type of situations. ... (read in full...)
Cyber cheated... Now my wife hates me!
Q. I did a really really stupid thing and cyber cheated on my wife, I met a girl through a chat room and for 3 months we sent dirty emails to each other and spoke on the phone a dozen times and emailed pictures of our privates to each and pictures of ...
A. 27 December 2009: Speaking as a former victim, the best thing you can do for your wife is just listen. Don't try to argue about the facts and details, just let her tell you what a piece of trash you are and just agree with her. Give her full access to your cellphone ... (read in full...)
Want to have a real relationship and need tips on how to go about it.
Q. Helloo Well from since i can remember ive been the same but in the last few months ive realised how much of a loner i am. I have not many friends and NO REAL friends. Ive never had a girlfriend and dont think im anywhere close. I fuelled ...
A. 27 December 2009: Try putting up a profile on about 5 different dating/friendship sites. Get a nice pic taken at the local studio with a nice smile or maybe showing your gym trained physique in a tasteful way. Online chatting is non-threatening and can be a good way ... (read in full...)
Christmas Drama...?
Q. Need some advice! So my bf had his xwife come with the kids and his parents. We talked about this, he lead me to believe she'd be staying with relatives. He did not invite me for Christmas. Now he wants me to meet everyone next week for new ...
A. 27 December 2009: If you choose to be with a man who has kids, then his ex will be in your life forever; till death. There are Christmases, birthdays, first day at school, sports events, parent/teacher conferences, graduation from highschool, college, weddings, new ... (read in full...)
Any advice on leaving?
Q. I am 40+ and have been with the same man for 11.5 years. We have had our ups and downs. We have 5 kids between us and the relationship he has with my 19 year old son is terrible. He doesn't live with us any more. Back in the Spring my son acted ...
A. 27 December 2009: This is a difficult one, because with the first incident you were not there. In my opinion, if you have NO other problems other than the fact that he doesnt get along with your son, then you might be able to work things out. Your son at 19 is an ... (read in full...)
First time horror sex story--help!
Q. Hi all, Lets get right into it. So I've been playing around with a girl I'm dating for a few months. It comes down to us having sex and, a long story short, I couldn't maintain an erection (yes its all right to gasp, even smile a little. I did af...
A. 27 December 2009: I'm sure the guys will help you more with the other details related to performance anxiety etc., but speaking from your girlfriend's point of view, if you lost your erection BEFORE you climaxed then she would blame herself more than blame you. She ... (read in full...)
Trapped! How do I get out of this rut?
Q. I get that there are people worse off than me... but it just breaks my heart that i have hopes, dreams, and talents that are going to waste and my life is passing me by because I don´t have the money to fulfill my hopes and dreams. This sounds li...
A. 27 December 2009: Everyday when I go into the city, I see 5 year old little girls begging in the streets. Sometimes they have a baby brother or sister strapped to their tiny backs who at the age of 1 have also learnt to hold out their hands to beg. Often when you ... (read in full...)
What is consider to be a pedophile? Do these situations fall under that?
Q. hi guys another question that keeps popping up in my head if your a teenager and your thinking of/having sex with someone else around your age is it considered as paedophilia and another question if your under 14 and your thinking of/ having ...
A. 26 December 2009: Soon567: I gave you a US government website to visit; did you visit it? www.4parents.gov
click on 'Risky behaviors...' then click on 'Teen, Sex and the Law'. I seriously doubt you know more than the US government. As people raising our chil... (read in full...)
What is consider to be a pedophile? Do these situations fall under that?
Q. hi guys another question that keeps popping up in my head if your a teenager and your thinking of/having sex with someone else around your age is it considered as paedophilia and another question if your under 14 and your thinking of/ having ...
A. 25 December 2009: Soon567: firstly, the poster's country is the United Kingdom, not USA.
Secondly, everywhere I indicated the USA, I clearly said "some US states". If you google "age of consent USA Wikipedia" there is clear information about this. Plus the US g... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to have sex with me more?
Q. what do I do to get my wife of 24 yrs. to have sex with me? I bet we have had sex maybe 30 times in the last 15yrs. Thats over 5400 nights in the same bed. When we first got married she was like a nimpho. She wanted it all the time, now its is her ...
A. 25 December 2009: My advice is: sit her down and tell her that you miss the sex with her! Then gently find a way to suggest making a regular sex date eg. Friday night is sex night then agree that on another day/night of her choice you will also do whatever she ... (read in full...)
Do some girls just not like oral sex?
Q. Hello, well i'm with my GF for 6 months, and we love and trust each other, maybe in 2-3 months she will move to my place.We're having sex really often each 2-3 days, but as i noticed she likes blowjobs but dislike when i'm performing it to her(oral ...
A. 25 December 2009: If she has no experience with it then maybe its just a matter of getting her comfortable about it. This may take time. Women often like to be clean and bathed so jumping her when she is just coming in from work is not a good idea. Also, if you ... (read in full...)
Should I leave? I need an outsiders point of view please..
Q. I find my relationship problems difficult to talk to with my friends and family. I dont like them to see me as weak or troubled or i guess burden them with my troubles so i normally keep everything to myself and try to deal with things. But i have ...
A. 25 December 2009: You teach a man how he should treat you. In your case, he treats you like this because you allow it. Why do you just keep quiet? Men generally like to push their boundaries and they will take it as far as you allow it go. Generally, if a man is ... (read in full...)
If he cheats on her with me, doesn't that mean he has feelings for me?
Q. I was dating a guy for around 2 years, and we have a 5 mth old baby together. We stopped dating about 6 mths ago when he got together with his current girlfriend. He says he has no emotional feelings for me, but has been cheating on his girlfriend ...
A. 25 December 2009: Men can have sex with another woman and not even care about her. She can be just an object available for him to use and build his ego on. He is using your body. He is living the American Dream basically. If you want him to even take a second look ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my anger problem?
Q. So I was sexually assaulted several times in high school. It's now years and years later, and I'm with my first serious boyfriend. Everything was going great and he is supportive of me and all that's happened. However, I randomly find myself lashing ...
A. 25 December 2009: you need to call a helpline like Rape Crisis and get counseling. Its free. You have unresolved issues and you will ruin this relationship if you ignore them... (read in full...)
What can I do about my anger problem?
Q. So I was sexually assaulted several times in high school. It's now years and years later, and I'm with my first serious boyfriend. Everything was going great and he is supportive of me and all that's happened. However, I randomly find myself lashing ...
A. 25 December 2009: you need to call a helpline like Rape Crisis and get counseling. Its free. You have unresolved issues and you will ruin this relationship if you ignore them... (read in full...)
Should I report my manager for coming on to me?
Q. To get started, I'm 17 and my manager at work (who's a 30 year old loser, by the way) has been pushing himself on me. Saying crap like, "I love you!" or "Are you willing to date me?" Does he honestly think I'm that stupid? I find it amusing because ...
A. 25 December 2009: Record him with your cellphone saying those things to you. Because if you report him without some kind of proof, he might be able to get them to believe him instead. But I would recommend that you talk to a lawyer and take your recording with you. ... (read in full...)
I am white and married a black, hubby doesn't see how mean many of his race are to me!
Q. i have been married to a black man for 20 years. my problem...well...i am not black and when we go places together i always get the snobby,rolling eyes and staring hard at by black women. some who goes as far as trying to flirt with my husband ...
A. 25 December 2009: As a black woman who is engaged to a white man, at first I was sympathetic until you started insulting black women (weaves etc which I don't wear by the way). If you can, please read these two sites; it will be worth your time. This first one has ... (read in full...)
What is consider to be a pedophile? Do these situations fall under that?
Q. hi guys another question that keeps popping up in my head if your a teenager and your thinking of/having sex with someone else around your age is it considered as paedophilia and another question if your under 14 and your thinking of/ having ...
A. 25 December 2009: 1. If you have sex when you are both under the age of 16 its a misdemeanor.
2. If you are under 16 and you have sex with someone NOT more than 3years and one day older than you, then its a misedemeanor in some countries and some US states but a le... (read in full...)
Can I date an ex-prisoner? I teach in prisons.
Q. i work in a prison as a teacher , recently i met a guy who was an ex - prisoner.can i date him - because i love him very much....
A. 24 December 2009: It depends on the crime he committed. Pedophiles, rapists never trust those. If he murdered someone in a hit'n'run because of drunken driving then it wasnt intentional and he can be reformed. It also depends on if he is remorseful. Also recommend ... (read in full...)
I found my soulmate and things are getting hot....but she is married
Q. We started out just being friends and now we are really close friends. Things are becoming different now. When I am around her, my heart litrally beats faster. I find myself thinking about her all day ((daydreaming)). When I close my eyes at ...
A. 24 December 2009: Interesting developments. Please can you come back and update us m....'s in a few weeks. Would love to know if you manage to make it work!!... (read in full...)
Haven't had my period yet, but now I'm getting a strange discharge, any ideas what this could be?
Q. I'll just dive right in. I am 14 years old and have never had a period before. But about 2 days ago I found a huge brown/bloody splotch on my underwear. I changed them and put on a pad just because. Then later that night nothing else had happened, ...
A. 23 December 2009: My daughter's first 4 periods were like this, just brown spotting. Even now sometimes they disappear for 3 months and once went on for more than a month of continuous bleeding. Sometimes huge liver like clots. Doc said all normal. I was the same. ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming violent and very angry because I suspect of him cheating, are my fears justified?
Q. hello i really need some help i dont have anybody to talk to. i just got married 4 months ago,my husband is 33 years and i'm 21 years old.my problem is that i can't trust my husband at all. i have been for a while obssesed with him cheating on me. ...
A. 23 December 2009: I must admit that you sound a bit psycho- but then again, people thought I was too. Here's what I did: I bought a dictaphone (voice- activated recording thingy), then I put it in a hidden place in his car. Then I purposely picked a fight that he is ... (read in full...)
My wife has no problem exposing herself to others, is this normal behaviour?
Q. this is about a strange behavior of my wife. she is 25. i see that she has a tendency to exhibit. she rarely cares about her dress. whenever somebody comes to our home they have a very explicit view of her assets and other parts. i tlaked to her a...
A. 23 December 2009: can you give specific examples? I don't understand if you mean she completely divests herself of her clothes or is it just a peek at her bra?... (read in full...)
Still bleeding 3 months after giving birth, should I be worried?
Q. I just had a baby sept 28th and has been 3months and i have had a problem i am stil bleeding i dont remember bleeding this long with my other 3 kids.i got a depo shot before i left the hospital should i be worried about all this bleeding...
A. 23 December 2009: Only a doctor can tell you what the problem is. Sometimes a piece of placenta can be left in there which would need an immediate D&C. Do not delay in case you get septicaemia. Better to panic and act. You have 3 kids who can only benefit from your ... (read in full...)
Why does my brother always want to wrestle?
Q. why does my brother always want to wrestle with me he's always asking me if we can wrestle i don't like to cause he's always on top and i can't move he's eighteen and i'm thirteen ...
A. 23 December 2009: Are you worried about him being rough or are you scared that this might mean something else? Because surely you could just say no. My brother was the same and we just grew out of it when I stopped responding to his pushes and stuff. If you are ... (read in full...)
I immigrated to be closer to my mother, but its not working out
Q. HELP - I have a very serious problem which is depressing me. I have recently migrated to be with my mother who has retired to the caribbean. I have been here with my son now for about 3 months and it has been a living nightmare. My mother is not ...
A. 23 December 2009: Fishdish is spot on; except put it in writing. If you say it to her face, she will be on guard and defensive, but if you write a letter then leave it on her pillow or whatever then leave the house for a few hours, she will have time to think about ... (read in full...)
Had a child, gained weight and now I'm missing my cheating ex
Q. I was in a relationship for 8 damn years and I went through the cheating (with strippers) lying, and just plain old dogging out. Now we have a baby.. and of course after we have the baby, we break up! I actually kicked him out, because this man...
A. 23 December 2009: I FEEL YOU girl. The only way I can explain it is that when he was around, you got so used to having him there that you started to depend on him emotionally. You get used to being with a person. Then when you realize he is gone you find there is ... (read in full...)
Who gets custody when mother has been physically abusive and father has failed a drug test?
Q. my brother is having domestic issues hes divorced his son lived with their mother and the teacher just reported marks over his body to the police shes arrested the father failed drug test over pot the son reported that his mom and his moms mom...
A. 23 December 2009: how old is the boy?... (read in full...)
Should I go back to dating black men?
Q. I am trying to date to try to get over my last relationship.. I know that they say finish a chapter before you start another, but I say the only way to get over the last one is to have sex with a new one. Anyway, I am an interracial dater and it i...
A. 23 December 2009: I agree with Satindesire. But once you go back to dating, my advice is: fall in love with a person, not a colour. I am attracted to men of all races as long as they are respectful and have all the qualities that I like. Plenty of white men date ... (read in full...)
My husband says he watches porn because I don't look the same after having kids. Should I leave?
Q. I am thinking of leaving my husband, is this too extreme? When we met I made it very clear to him that I'm not intereted in being with someone who uses porn. I find it insulting and disrespectful. At the time he said this is fine as he is not inte...
A. 23 December 2009: When a man starts talking in this "I don't care about your feelings" type of way, its because he thinks you are a done deal and not going anywhere. Basically he thinks he can't possibly lose you, his dinner is on the table everyday, his kids are ... (read in full...)
Did my husband rape my sister or was it consensual?
Q. i found out that my sister woke up to find my husband on top her having intercourse with her. shes saying this is what happened and she pushed him off and that he kept calling her BABE referring to me. for some reason he hought it was me. yeah ...
A. 23 December 2009: Ask them to take a lie detector test. Just google polygraph test and you will find one near you. Lying bastards.... (read in full...)
I don't want to do the same as the rest of my family
Q. I have a sister and a brother. We're all 16 (obviously, we're triplets). My mother is the cheer leading coach for our high school. My father is a football coach. I guess you could say I'm "the runt of the litter": I'm smaller, weaker, and I've...
A. 23 December 2009: When you talk to your parents about something, sometimes they are so busy thinking about other things that they don't concentrate on what you are saying. You may also not say everything you need to say or they can cut you off mid-sentence telling ... (read in full...)
Starving for Sex with the woman I love - Am I crazy?
Q. Starving for Sex with the woman I love - Am I crazy? I feel pretty weird for even writing this, and I dont know how to even talk about it with her anymore. My gf and I have been dating seriously for almost 2 yrs now (She's a Leo and I'm a Sagitt...
A. 22 December 2009: there could be several reasons for her problem with painful intercourse. She might be suffering from Vaginismus which is a condition where the woman's vagina tightens involuntarily. She needs to see a gynecologist who will examine her and possibly ... (read in full...)
I think I made a mistake by breaking up with her, what should I do?
Q. Agony readers, I need the best advice here. I found a girl I truly and honestly love, we dated for roughly a year and a half... I lost my virginity to her... I felt I couldn't trust her so I broke up with her. My parents absolutely hate her, eve...
A. 22 December 2009: Our parents rarely like the people we choose. Always follow your heart.. It is you who has to live the decisions they make for you. It is not like you had announced you were getting married and quitting school! If your parents' opinion really ... (read in full...)
Is he too young for me?
Q. one of my friends on facebook asked me to add there brother coz they wanted me to add them so i did (on 12 December) and then as we started chatting. he then said that he could not help his feelings for me so i just replied ok coz i didnt know what ...
A. 22 December 2009: No he is not too young for you. In fact it is lovely to date a younger guy when you are a teen. Ofcourse I am talking about a non-sexual relationship. Most guys do this, except they lie to us about their age and sometimes we never find out. If you ... (read in full...)
The love of my life is 24 years younger than me, but age is only a number.
Q. Hi, I am 41 and have had only a few relationships. I met an absolutely beautiful girl about 3 years ago, she is autistic, yet only on a small level. I connected with her immediately, which is unusual for an autistic person to do. I looked on the net ...
A. 22 December 2009: I don't know if you are asking for advice? Anyway, if you are prepared to wait for her then there shouldnt be any problems. It sounds like you built a great friendship first and that's a wonderful way to start a relationship. Well' done for being ... (read in full...)
I found out my very close friend is a peophile!
Q. I've got a bit of a unique problem I need help with. Its not a relationship problem but its kinda something I feel I can't ask people I'm friends with incase of how they react :( I just need some advice and thoughts. For the last 3 years, I had a...
A. 22 December 2009: It is very hard to cope with feelings like this. You feel betrayed. You feel as though he was pretending when he was with you; as if your whole friendship was a lie. You ask yourself how I can possibly have been fooled by a person this much? Yet ... (read in full...)
Everything about my boyfriend disgusts me, how do I get out of this relationship?
Q. Im in a relationship that i don't like but i don't know how to come out of it. Everything about my b/f disgust me. I want out, but i don't know how. Pls i need help!...
A. 22 December 2009: Just tell him what you have told us. Its only hard until you start to speak. ... (read in full...)
I found my soulmate and things are getting hot....but she is married
Q. We started out just being friends and now we are really close friends. Things are becoming different now. When I am around her, my heart litrally beats faster. I find myself thinking about her all day ((daydreaming)). When I close my eyes at ...
A. 22 December 2009: I am wondering why you asked for advice if your mind is already made up? Anyway, the smartest people in the world are the people who have the ability to foresee the future. You are only thinking about right now. What about months from now? What ... (read in full...)
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