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writes:Hello i want a solution to my problem..Im engaged to person who is too kind ...i got engaged after a long love store with another guy now i've been engaged for almost 8 months.i saw the guy i was with before by chance and i felt that something moved inside me and i started to answer his calls again and listen to his words..my fiance is not that of a good love..he cant say love words always jokes all the time..i guess i just miss the love words and am not into my ex..what can i d.. i feel iam betryaing my fiance and i cant help it I am attracted.
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reader, Jac2b55  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 If you want your relationship with your fiance then you def need to stop talking to your ex.Talk to your partner, tell him that you are the kind of person who needs to be told that you are loved. If that does not change anything and you still feel as though your relationship is lacking, then perhaps you are with the wrong person.Sometimes you have to change things about yourself to see people in a different perspective.. If you truly love this man, start looking at the things he DOES rather than what he SAYS.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (2 June 2011):
 sweet talk is nice but it is just WORDS! it is better to be with someone who *shows* you that he loves you rather than someone who is just good at saying it. remember: he is your ex for a reason.
are you really happy with your fiancé or are you looking for a reason to not love him? did your ex hurt you emotionally and maybe leave you not wanting to let someone else get close enough to hurt you again? it would be silly to break up with someone just coz they are not very good at saying all the romantic stuff - and you fiancé might finish with you if he finds out you are taking calls from your ex and listening to his spiel again.
for me a genuine caring man is better than a shallow charmer any day
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): I would say don't get married if you are not sure that you love your fiance. You have the opportunity right now to walk away from the situation. Once you are married things get more difficult and it's just not worth the headache. I wish i would have walked away when I felt no more love for my then fiance now husband. I just felt like people would not understand me if I walked away. I was very young and stupid. Now I wouldn't care what people say. They don't live the misery I live. If he doesn't say words of love now, don't expect it later cause he won't change.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 The solution to your problem is to not marry a man who does not take you seriously (jokes around a lot) or does not meet your needs. (You like verbal affirmations of love and affection).
You have feelings towards someone else. You are NOT ready to get married. You might be more in love with the idea to GET married than BE married.
Best Wishes.
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