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*nnieannieannie
writes:my husband and i split up last year for four months, i found the sexual part of the relationship difficult. we got back together, i thought it might be ok, i bleed each time we have intercourse and get pains, now my body goes into a panic at the thought of sex with him, i make excuses so he doen;t come near me, i have tried to talk but cant really comunicate, when he gets really turned on towards me i get scared and dont know how to deal with it.i panic inside and freeze, this is not normal. i dont click sexually like you are supose to. i dont want to hurt him but what do i do. please do you have any ideas. thanks
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Hey sweetie.
I hope the test results come back ok.
Do you think you have gotten in to the habit on tensing up now anytime sex is initiated? Obviously the bleeding is not part of this. I just wondered if you should talk to someone about what you have gone through and it may help with the freezing up and stuff
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reader, shortybabes +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Hey hunni you're not the only one who experiences sexual problems. You could always go to your local GP about the bleeding and pains during intercourse that might help with the panicking when it comes to sex and if it doesn't then wait til you feel better babes. you won't feel like this forever hunni, i promise. See what your GP says and then if you need any more advice then just post me another question hun, you could also talk to your partner about this he may well help you get through this problem. let me know how things go for you.
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reader, annieannieannie +, writes (16 June 2007):
annieannieannie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust had operation to find out whats going on inside my body, they took abiopsy from my womb and other parts. just waiting for the results, hope it should of gone ok. thanks
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reader, annieannieannie +, writes (25 February 2007):
annieannieannie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have an appointment to have a smear and blood tests too.
hopefully i,ll get some result in whats going on with my body. thank you to all that replied to my question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2007): hi there,like i said before this is also away your body is telling you no,just cos uyou are trying to make ago mentally your body is saying different,you are putting stress on yourselve which is not needed,you need to talk to your husband and also go get a smear,need to get checked incase you have a stating of cervical cancer,as you know i have just gone through that myself and its not nice,hope this helps
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (17 February 2007):
 Hey there, sweetness.
If you're bleeding and experiencing pain every time you have intercourse, there is something going wrong with your body that you need to get checked out immediatly. There could be something seriously wrong, and the sooner you get that checked out, the better. I'd start getting scared and freezing up too, if having sex was as bad of an experience as it seems to be for you.
Since you're married to the guy, you shouldn't have trouble telling him that sex is causing you a lot of physical pain, should you? If he really loves you, I'm sure it would be his LAST desire to hurt you. Just tell him what's going on with your body.
Once again, you VERY MUCH need to see a doctor. I don't know what's going on, but if bleeding and pain are a regular occurance when you have sex, that's not normal. Something could be very wrong.
Good luck, sweetness. My happy thoughts are going your way.
xxIndia
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reader, luvme247 +, writes (17 February 2007):
 It sounds to me like you need to go and get checked out by a medical professional. Sometimes if you use lubrication it may help with the pain, but if you are bleeding & in alot of pain you may need to get treated.
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