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writes:Dear cupid, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, and have been sexually active for about 9 months. I am 16 and I have never had an orgasm. I feel left out because it seems I will never have one. I don't know if it is just because I'm younger, or if I should be concerned. All I get is a "good feeling" at the end or masturbation or sex, and never anything else. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): One of those shower massage things with the hose also works great. Set it on the setting so that it pulsates rapidly and aim it at your clit while laying on your back on the floor of the tub or shower. The warm pulsating water works wonders!Your boyfriend should also learn to use his tongue the right way to stimulate your clit. Then he should make you orgasm a few times that way before you ever have sex. That way you will already be really excited.
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reader, TruBlueEyedBlonde +, writes (14 July 2007):
 P.s. soon when my boyfriend and I can have the house alone together I hope to do my little thing in the bath and soon before having an orgasm have him try to finish with me. I know how frusterating it is when they always finish and you feel close.. but really we probably aren't. I don't want it because I'm selfish, I don't care if I don't finish... it's not a big deal at all to me. I just want to actually feel like I'm sexual with him... and right now it doesn't feel like it. Add me as a friend I was estatic to find a girl my age with the same problem. =]
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reader, TruBlueEyedBlonde +, writes (14 July 2007):
I'm 16 too && I have also been with my boyfriend for soon to be a year [[11 months]] and we have also been sexually active for 7 months. I am the same way, this is not an uncommon thing... my boyfriend is amazing and can answer any questions I have and if he can't... he finds out for me. He told me that more than half of girls can not have an orgasm from only sex... they need direct contact with their clit to have an orgasm. I still haven't had an orgasm from sex with him but if he (or you) gave direct contact to your clit it definitly adds.
Unlike you I have had an orgasm... I never got an orgasm from fingering myself or anything. I pretended when he fingered me [[haha]] Then I figured out that the jets in my hot tub and bath tub take literally seconds. I'm not sure if it is the warmer temperature or what but the orgasms are amazing. If I never would have tried this I still wouldn't have had an orgasm... so anytime you can be in a hot tub alone... or a bath tub with jets... try it. =]
P.s. don't forget to push water out every now and then or you'll have to feel like you need to pee for days.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 You WILL have one. You and your guy need to find a way to get you to orgasm. The "good feeling" you are getting is you getting more and more aroused. Try experimenting with yourself one night in bed. It's the best way to find out what you like and what gets you off then you can tell your boyfriend.
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reader, justice_123 +, writes (14 July 2007):
first of all you shouldnt even be sexually active at 16 but maybe its just you nd your boyfriend need to have some role play or to watch porno together trust it may work or he maybe just the one not turning you on because to have and organism you need to just see the peson and explode just try the things i told you. and see how it goes ok
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