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female
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anonymous
writes:I have cheated on my partner of 3 years. I was raped 4 years ago and me and my partner have been through a lot. I'm 24 years old and when I was 18 I fell in love with someone, the thing was he was married at time now divorced since 3 years so we stayed friends. We still kept in contact and he is always the first person I would run to if I had a problem or was in trouble, I didn't tell him about the rape until recently because we were in touch on/off by email and it wasn't the right way to tell him. We have gotten very close now and he has told me he regrets his decision and wishes he could turn the clock back and he regrets not telling gme how he felt. I slept with him and now I'm confused, what shall I do?? I can't stay without both of them I know we won't sleep together again because he doesn't want to ruin what I have already but we can stay really good friends.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (14 July 2007):
 I agree with the answer below. The fact that you have slept with the guy has runined what you have with your partner, and this guy already.
I would end things with your partner and see how you feel as there was obviously something wrong in the relationship for you to have to look to this guy. The fact you may have feelings for this guy isn't fair either. And I doubt being "just good friends" is going to be easy now you have slept together.
I am sorry to hear you were raped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): Honey, you already ruined things with both of them, whats going to stop you from cheating with another person of interest. From my experience, when a person is willing to cheat, there is already a serious problem with the relationship you in. If you really loved and respected that person, you would never have slept with anyone else. If you decide to stay good friends, you will wind up back in bed with him sooner or later. I am very sorry that you were raped, being the father of 2 daughters, I detest rapists and would have no problem seeing them publicly humiliated and sent to jail where they can experience the same sad thing that happened to you.
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