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When a man treats his woman well: When did it become okay to commit or marry but then show no interest in a sex life with your man?
Q. I am talking about women in serious relationships who act like their man has no right to expect a decent sex life from them. Before you jump on me with the claws out, please listen to what I am saying and what I am not. I am not saying anyth...
A. 4 September 2012: I still think that if men showed more interest and treated their wives with the affection they once showed, then the wives would feel the need to dress pretty and look good. I am sure if a woman tried to look pretty on her own, the same men OP s... (read in full...)
Where do I start? How do I apologize for leaving him in the dust?
Q. There is this guy we will call him D. that I have officially known for a couple of years but we haven't talked in about a year now. When I first met D. I wasn't in a good place in my life and I wasn't ready for a serious relationship so we stopped ...
A. 2 September 2012: Don't get me wrong, I perfectly get your point of view and I can tell that you are ready. But a lot could have changed so it would be wise to not put your expectations too high. I don't think you will seem crazy if you are honest about where you ... (read in full...)
Where do I start? How do I apologize for leaving him in the dust?
Q. There is this guy we will call him D. that I have officially known for a couple of years but we haven't talked in about a year now. When I first met D. I wasn't in a good place in my life and I wasn't ready for a serious relationship so we stopped ...
A. 2 September 2012: Even if the connection was still there, would you act on it this time? There aren't any real answers to give you because in the end you have not even spoken to him yet. I guess you can try calling because at this point, it doesn't seem like you have ... (read in full...)
I'm a straight A student and he is a skater boy. Should I take the chance with him?
Q. So all my life, I have been pretty tamed(: I do my school work and get straight-A's (I'm planning on being a doctor). I am a senior this year, 17, and school starts in a couple of days. However, I am so not prepared because my mind is completely ...
A. 1 September 2012: Yeah go for it, who knows maybe you guys can bring out the best in each other. I think the fact he is older has a major part to play in all of this. Life is short so it's good to learn about relationships while you are still young, and who knows, ... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to lose interest in my boyfriend
Q. I think I am starting to become uninterested in my boyfriend. I was afraid this would happen if our relationship did not take off. Some things may have changed, but not enough to say this is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. When i...
A. 1 September 2012: I think in these situations, it is good to have some perspective on different outcomes. For example, would you actually be happier if he did the little things you wanted him to? (I honestly think you would still want to leave him if he did those ... (read in full...)
I'm not in a position where I can get a divorce but I want to get to know this other man. I'm very unhappy and don't know what to do.
Q. I am 28 and have been married for 5 years. I was good at first. But when I got pregnant with our first child my husband starting watching porn. Without getting into massive detail, I eventually confronted him about it and told him how I felt. After ...
A. 30 August 2012: I agree with what janniepeg and tisha said. I also want to add some perspective on the alternate choice. This choice is cheating. Even if you cheat begin to cheat, this will not solve any of your problems. You will gain some time of happiness but if ... (read in full...)
My husband never wanted me to have an identity and now I'm left wondering if its wrong of me to want more out of life...
Q. I dont know where to begin but here it goes . My husband and I have been married for 14 years . We met when I was 18 and he was 20 years old . We dated for 4 years and then we got married . When we met I was already in college and he told me that I ...
A. 26 August 2012: Well I'm trying to find the problems and I've found a so-so sex life and wishing a different life. I understand what you are saying.
At some point though I think you are losing sight of what you have in front of you. Yes you can want more out... (read in full...)
I cheated on all of these men, why are they still calling me?
Q. I have had serveral men in my life once a point a time that I use to deal financely,sexually,mentally the whole nine yards.now these guys have saw each other but they don't know each other like that and the first guy caught me with the second guy ...
A. 26 August 2012: Why do they call you? Why do you cheat? Why did they cheat? I'm sure life in this circle has become abnormal but this the path all of you chose. We all have choices to be made in life, they made theirs and you made yours. No one was forced to cheat. ... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a second chance after being too jealous? Or letting me down gently?
Q. I didn't think it was a real possibility when people tell you to just meet people doing things you like when all I am is a computer gaming nerd but I met a girl in a video game about a year ago (maybe that's sad, who knows?). We hit it off and she ...
A. 25 August 2012: Refrain from over analysing your past actions as well as hers. I know its hard to gain clues on what she wants but at the end of the day, you are either with her or are not. I'm trying to say stop worrying so much and relax a bit. Take things slowly ... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a second chance after being too jealous? Or letting me down gently?
Q. I didn't think it was a real possibility when people tell you to just meet people doing things you like when all I am is a computer gaming nerd but I met a girl in a video game about a year ago (maybe that's sad, who knows?). We hit it off and she ...
A. 23 August 2012: Get back your confidence like you did before you met her. The important thing is to stop beating yourself up and not change yourself for the worst. I have been in 3 online relationships that revolved around gaming both close and distant.
Jealo... (read in full...)
When a man treats his woman well: When did it become okay to commit or marry but then show no interest in a sex life with your man?
Q. I am talking about women in serious relationships who act like their man has no right to expect a decent sex life from them. Before you jump on me with the claws out, please listen to what I am saying and what I am not. I am not saying anyth...
A. 23 August 2012: I think it goes both ways, since men do stop putting in the effort. A lot of men figure that it ends at the altar and that a good marriage is a shortcut. I don't think that there are no short cuts I do believe that women in marriage still want the ... (read in full...)
What to do? This other girl unleashes my inner beast!
Q. So this is a long question but I really dont know what to do and i need some major help before i make a decision ill regret. Background story: I used to have feeling for this one girl, but she was a train wreck because she recently (then) ...
A. 22 August 2012: Even if things worked out in such a way that you end up with your past crush, I'm pretty sure that sex will turn out the same way. The way you are thinking about sex, makes it overrated. A lot of people actually do end up in these situations... (read in full...)
How can I convince my friend with benefits that we should be in a relationship again?
Q. I dated this guy for a year and a half. We've been through a lot. Then he dated my best friend and it killed me inside a little. After she dumped him I started talking to him again and started being friends. Then we started being Friends with ...
A. 21 August 2012: I love how you acknowledge that he is an idiot yet you want a relationship with him. Just ask him if he wants a relationship with you. More than likely he as already thought about it AND made up his mind. There's no way to really forces someone to ... (read in full...)
I am a cheater but is that really so bad?
Q. I am cheating on my GF. should i stop. i cant help it i like the excitement of chasing new women and when i see a beautiful woman im curious how it feels to be with her. but i like having something guaranteed at home. but people make it seem like a ...
A. 21 August 2012: And then she finds out and you wonder what happened. Also it easy to cheat when you aren't the victim. I feel sorry for your girlfriend. It's not big deal to you since you aren't the one being cheated on. Perspective goes a long way in life. ... (read in full...)
Feeling single in this relationship
Q. Ok, here's my problem. My girlfriend and I started dating back in November of 2011, and we were great. She was always happy around me, any time we had together she seemed to love, and always wanted to spend more time always told me she missed me. B...
A. 21 August 2012: Leave her, it will only get worse from here. ... (read in full...)
Ex is going religious for the wrong reasons
Q. Alright folks, this dabbles in a very touchy subject - religion. Steer clear if you take offense easily! Lets play some catch-up for a second. Here's the VHS fast-forward version. GF and I break up. GF gets new boytoy. GF realizes new boytoy is ab...
A. 21 August 2012: Then don't say anything or just say your last thoughts and move on. For one, you can not save someone who does not wants to be saved. Also that guy is the one she wants. Obviously she doesn't sound like someone who knows what she wants so I doubt ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my heart, or listen to my head?
Q. Three years ago I separated from my ex husband when I found out he was having an affair for the previous 9 months. Our divorce was finalized approximately 6 months ago. During our separation I reconnected with my best friend from high school and ...
A. 18 August 2012: For now there has not been any red flags since he has been with you so I'd say take the chance. Good luck should u choose to do so and all the best. ... (read in full...)
His habits drive me nuts, all day, every day!
Q. It migt sound silly for most people, but two of my husbands habits drive me nuts every single day, even every hour. He has plenty of others but they are not as annoying as these.we have fights about it almost every day. It irritates him when I p...
A. 18 August 2012: I really think it is a hearing problem, even I have the same. Some people's voice have a clearer sound like your daughter. Even at times I can hear other people but I would have doubts about what I heard so I would ask "what?". It does become a ... (read in full...)
Should I keep on proposing activities or should I just let it go?
Q. I met this guy in a bar, we had a good chat that night, he gave me his number, I texted him, we went on a date, it went well. Then, we had text/facebook conversation almost everyday. He seemed really interested in seeing me again, and so am I. I ...
A. 18 August 2012: He may have given up...I mean 3 weeks is a long time! But I see no harm in proposing an activity. Hopefully his schedule would be free as well. Good luck, wishing u success!... (read in full...)
Did his feelings for me really change?
Q. I never thought I'd be one to seek out help from strangers but my current situation is tearing me apart by the minute and it's only been about 4 days. I've been seeing someone (romantically) for about 4 months but we've been getting to know ...
A. 15 August 2012: I know what it feels like to be on both sides of the relationship. If I were you I would be asking all the same things and thinking the exact same way. Is love about seeking comfort in your significant other? I would say yes. But everyone experie... (read in full...)
Am I just over thinking this?
Q. Hi everyone, I just transfered to a new school. It's kind of strange since it's junior year and all, but whatever. Anyway, I've made some new friends and stuff which is cool. And yesterday (first day) at lunch, I'd got my food and sat down at an ...
A. 15 August 2012: Over thinking, 100%. I mean I see where you are coming from and you do have some interesting points but they don't rly accomplish a whole lot right now. At the very core, you were the new guy so awkwardness is expected on either side. ... (read in full...)
Is it love or lust for this coworker?
Q. I think I am in love, but I am unsure and would like some advice. A guy at work, who I only talk to on the phone because he is outstationed, asked me over the phone if I was going to be in the office the following day. I replied that I would be ...
A. 8 August 2012: Love of lust I don't think the label really matters at this point. But either way it sounds wonderful and I would advice you to go 100% forward and take a chance. ... (read in full...)
Why do I shut my eyes from reality?
Q. i've been off an on with this guy for 8yrs now. i've never been so infactuated with someone like i was for him.turns out that he is controlling,manipulative and emotionally abusive.we break up atleast twice a year because he becomes very short and ...
A. 8 August 2012: I suppose after doing this for so long, this is all you know and an attempt out of this zone of relationship or the zone of this man would be out of your comfort zone. I think anyone can see that the relationship is not healthy but at the end of the ... (read in full...)
She gets all the sympathy and attention. I hurt. How Can Stop Being Jealous of her?
Q. This has been on my chest for a while. Although I know I am wrong for feeling like this, I absolutely cannot stand this girl who I will be living with next year. It didn't start off like this, but even the thought of her now ruins my mood and I ...
A. 8 August 2012: Indeed it is not her fault. It is actually your own fault and the more you deny what really happened and the truth of the situation, the more you will drive yourself into a corner. The guy you tried to secretly date dumped you...get over i... (read in full...)
How can I forget him or is there a solution to make him forget his first gf?
Q. I broke up with my bf recently because i found out he's still in love with his first gf. Iv tried all means to forget him but i cant wipe him off my heart. Iv even blocked him, deleted his contact, i go out with my pals but everything reminds me of ...
A. 8 August 2012: This is quite the ironic situation. He can't get over his ex. And now you can not get over him. Sounds like you don't have any closure so maybe you should get that, but how long were the two of you together? ... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend realize she doesn't need her parents approval?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been fighting lately... we've been dating almost 2 years, but we don't live together yet, she lives only a few towns away though so we do see each other usually at least once a week. a bit of background. her past is p...
A. 7 August 2012: In this matter you are both right. For one, because you have always been caring and supportive she expects you to give her the time. Also because you are her boyfriend, when she gets duped by her parents she will lash out at you by saying you are ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop the horrible comments and accusations of me cheating on him?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years keeps accusing me of cheating. I have never had a sexual relationship outside of our relationship. He is always saying that sometimes I am significantly tighter than others. I tell him that its because I am tightening my ...
A. 7 August 2012: He does this because your husband is probably the one cheating. You should snoop around. ... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him but...Will he ever grow up?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and although we do love each other... I've come to realize that there are quite a few things we disagree on. Mostly, it's just the fact that he's...Immature to say the least. He doesn't ...
A. 7 August 2012: To be more specific, hold off on initiating contact. Let him ask the questions first. Would he ever text you first? Well this is a good way to find out. It would be interesting to see when he decides to make time for you. For example you know online ... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him but...Will he ever grow up?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and although we do love each other... I've come to realize that there are quite a few things we disagree on. Mostly, it's just the fact that he's...Immature to say the least. He doesn't ...
A. 7 August 2012: I think the bigger issue is that fact that it is a long distance relationship. I suppose he's not making time for you and I think anyone can expect his life to revolve around games at this point in his age since that is what he is into. The most I ... (read in full...)
His sister is trying to muscle in my planned new house.
Q. Background: My fiance and I have been together for about three years now, and currently live together in a one bedroom apartment. Our relationship is healthy and stable, we are each other's best friends. We are planning on getting married and buying ...
A. 6 August 2012: As a person who has been literally a victim of these situations, it is important to open your mouth and express how you feel. No one said you have to yell and scream so putting want YOU WANT on the table is just as important as what everyone else ... (read in full...)
A year after our break up he wants me back. Did I do the right thing by ending our relationship?
Q. Hi there. I was in a live-in relationship with a guy. I loved him more than my life. I would help him in every possible way. He said that he loved me a lot and it seemed so,too but we had lots of fights over his drinking ( daily), smoking weed and ...
A. 4 August 2012: You did the right thing. I think you can find someone better. Everything you mentioned seemed like a major problem in the relationship, and I think the most important reason is the bad person you would have turned into if you stayed with him.
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How do I best show I care? Or do I step away, until he's ready?
Q. A dear (platonic) friend of mine has shut himself off from everyone. He has recently had some trouble with the law and I think he may be ashamed of what he did. What he did was very uncharacteristic and in truth I thought he might go to jail. That ...
A. 4 August 2012: Perhaps from your point of view, this situation seems horrible but for him this is his only salvation. I think its important to keep bombarding him with messages or even if they are short...basically never give up. Eventually, if he does come ... (read in full...)
I love him, but he's being so unreasonable. Should I break up with him?
Q. hello all. my problem is that i am dating a guy who was also my bf in school. but we broke up in a matter of days at that time. he had a crush on a girl who happened to be my friend ( good friend). So, since me n my bf were not talking, i was n...
A. 4 August 2012: I think you should break up with him. You are not responsible for his past or his past's mistakes. While I agree partners should support each other, this relationship is new and needs a lot of trust and time before anyone can demand anything.
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Did my ex-girlfriend cheat on my birthday with her other lover?
Q. My ex of four years and I just had a nasty break up. I outed her of her cheating ways and hyper-sexuality due to bi polar and other mental illnesses. Months ago, I found out about an affair that she had with someone that she met on craigslist, last ...
A. 3 August 2012: I'm sure she cheated on you back then, yep. You called a lot of Red Flags but the obvious one was her going out on your bday.
You are just looking for more reasons to be more angry in order to justify the past. All you are doing is recycling the ... (read in full...)
We had a very emotional and nasty breakup and haven't spoken since.
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I dated inconsistently for over three years. We also lived together for most of that time period. Throughout that time period, we had some rocky times, but also some amazing ones. However, the major problems were her twin ...
A. 3 August 2012: Does it matter if she cheated on you a lot or a little? Possibly...maybe she was. But this recent one she actually admitted to you. Which can cause all her past shady behaviour to come into scrutiny. I don't blame you there but at any rate it still ... (read in full...)
Does education matter in relationships?
Q. Does education matter in relationships? The guy I like is a successful store manager but he only went to community college. I'm completing the last year of my business BA. I like him for who he and I'm proud of who he is. But I'm worried that if I ...
A. 3 August 2012: Things like these are only a problem if you let it be. If you are happy with him and vice versa then it wont be a problem. If it ever becomes a problem then you should just talk to him about it. ... (read in full...)
I don't ever see myself entering a relationship with any of the girls that like me!
Q. I'm so angry at the person I am right now. Any and every girl that approach me, I have little to no interest in them. I find the unattractive and boring. Yet, when I approach a girl that I like, I always get shot down. It's just not fair (I know ...
A. 3 August 2012: I think I am in a similar situation with you. I've realized that giving girls a chance, depending on their personality, can have very bad results if you eventually do not develop feelings for them. My views are different though in terms of what is ... (read in full...)
I want to give her another chance!
Q. Hello, my girlfriend and I have hit a bit of a problem, and I'm a little worried about it. First off, she and I have been dating for a few years, though she broke up with me last year and came back to me last month. Any how, she and I were very ...
A. 3 August 2012: It is always problematic for me to offer teens advice. I myself never got much advice when I was a teen so I have no idea how a teen would react.
I suppose at this age it is possible to "try too hard" but it usually isn't enough for a logical ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is incapable of being aggressive!!
Q. So we've been dating for a while- my boyfriend and I. We are at the point where we've told each other that we love one another. And I do love him dearly. I really do. But there is a problem. My boyfriend has aggressiveness issues. He is incapable ...
A. 3 August 2012: It seems like you are the one which is suffering from the past. I'm not trying to throw reverse psychology or anything but his betrayal doesn't make any sense to me. How exactly has he betrayed you?
At any rate, all of those things are in the past... (read in full...)
Blown off once again... WTF?
Q. Hi Everyone! I've been best friends with this girl in my class for about a year now. She's someone I had a big crush on a few years back but eventually realized what kind of guys she likes... a kind of guy that I could never be lol. So... I...
A. 1 August 2012: I don't think it's because she was hoping for something more. She just doesn't care about you as much as you do about her. This goes with the fact that you used to/still do have feelings for her. The fact that she has a bf and does drugs could mean ... (read in full...)
We had a very emotional and nasty breakup and haven't spoken since.
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I dated inconsistently for over three years. We also lived together for most of that time period. Throughout that time period, we had some rocky times, but also some amazing ones. However, the major problems were her twin ...
A. 1 August 2012: You have spent a lot of time adjusting to this girl. I fear that after three years you have turned a blind eye to what ever your heart, mind and gut would tell you. I'm sure this girl is special to you and there is no other like her. But look at the ... (read in full...)
I am scared because my online friend says he is coming to take me back to the States!
Q. Dear Aunts, What am I supposed to do when my boyfriend of 3 years whom I met online decided to come meet me, when everyone in my family thinks that I shouldn't be with him. He is someone that I met on facebook. Although we don't meet on a regula...
A. 29 July 2012: I understand that the matter is complicated, but this relationship has been for three years! Surely you must have thought about your love for him and the future? Either this relationship goes somewhere or it ends. After three years maybe you should ... (read in full...)
I'm only friend material!
Q. Guess I’m looking for whatever advice I can find. I just don’t know what to think anymore. Here’s my problem. I’m a 26 year old guy and I get no interest from girls. Physically I’m 5’9”, 145 pounds, average build, blue eyes, and short brown ...
A. 23 July 2012: There's a lot of factors to consider. Remember these girls feel in love first, before things went bad for them. A lot of women hope that their guy will change for them. I suppose women are more emotionally driven and attached than men. It would be ... (read in full...)
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