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Is she only messing around?
Q. Hello everybody. I really need some objective opinions here. I'm currently in a FWB relationship with a girl I like very much. As in, A LOT. But she's clearly not that into me, she has told me that explicitly and she rejected me when I asked for...
A. 3 July 2013: You should just move on and find someone who will give you the love you deserve. You are wasting your time with this girl and sorry to say, you are way over reading into everything when she been straight with you. So stop trying to create something ... (read in full...)
I didn't realize what I had until it was gone
Q. Hi All, Hope someone can give me some advice. I was with my live in boyfriend for a year and a half. For the most part it was wonderful (we were inseparable) but when we got in arguments they were intense and I would find myself saying mean thin...
A. 3 July 2013: No contact is a 50/50 chance that he may come back but if you completely ignore him he will somewhat move on easier. The thing is he sort of gave you a chance already. Even though he said he needed some time to pick up himself, he did get that time ... (read in full...)
Wife don't have a job and doesn't like to cook or clean the house.
Q. I've dated my wife for almost 10 years before we got married for 5 years, ever since I met her she never have a job. Reason I like about her was she was very old school like my mom and I thought she would make a great mom one day and she's very ...
A. 3 July 2013: I think you should divorce her or come straight with her about her lack of effort in the household. Seems like you have a lazy wife. ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting here? Or do men do this??
Q. Ok, my bf and I have been together for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. We've hit a rough patch the past year, where we've had more fights and just can't seem to get along as much anymore. Sometimes when I ask him a question he won't give me a full ...
A. 3 July 2013: You need to work on your communication with him and while that does mean to talk more, it does not mean to expect a story with every conversation you have with him.
For example, he was simply being straight up with you and you expected more out... (read in full...)
Are there any guys who don't prefer "beautiful" women?
Q. Are there any men out there who don't prefer traditionally beautiful women? I ask because there don't seem to be. I've met plenty of men who SAY they don't like those women, and say they prefer a natural look over fake, but still secretly look at ...
A. 3 July 2013: I think this is a very silly question because it over generalizes males and puts too much blame on them, where I feel like males are not understood. There are many well rounded males out there and while you do not have one as such in your life, ... (read in full...)
Surely I'm worth an Engagement Ring.. Aren't I??
Q. I am going through such an emotional roller coaster right now, I am desperate for unbiased advise. My boyfriend and I have been together for going on 6 years. We long distance dating at the beginning but after about 6months I moved to be with him...
A. 3 July 2013: I can see here that it is not so much about the ring or wedding but rather the lack of priorities. If I were to get married I would put things in place to make it happen. While I do not know this man I want to assume that, because of the way he is ... (read in full...)
Should I call my "friend" or write to her and tell her off..or should I just leave it?
Q. Hello Folks, A few months ago my best friend and I stopped speaking to each by my decision. She started her own busines a few years ago and I was there for her helping her all hours in the night and morning. Assisted her with her kids etc. She and ...
A. 1 July 2013: I have recently been through a similar experience. I had a friend (D) I helped a lot and she did the same as well. As the years passed our differences spoke louder than our friendship, I changed and in my eyes she changed as well. I decided to end ... (read in full...)
She's interested or just friendly?
Q. She's interested or just friendly? I hope someone can give me some advice. I know I sound pretty inept about it, but i been single for over 5 years now. There's a girl who started working where I do recently, our work is such that we only se...
A. 29 June 2013: My opinion is different from others but I think if you are interested in her and she does show some interest in you, you should at least confidently, try to ask her out. Single for 5 years can rly make you over analyse things but who knows, this ... (read in full...)
How much, if any, of the insurance money I got after my father passed away should I be expected to give to my guardian?
Q. Hey everybody I'm getting $37,000 from insurance because my dad passed away, and I live with a guardian. I've been living with her for a year. How much should I give her because I know she wants some of it, she asked me if I was gonna give her...
A. 22 June 2013: Put the money in the bank and keep it for your future. The insurance is meant to benefit you and while no one said you can not help your guardian, I feel like 10k is way too high. It is not your guardian's dad who has passed away. There is no real ... (read in full...)
Should we start sleeping in separate beds till he get a new job?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 4 years has been waiting for his promotion for 2 years and he didnt get it this year too, even though his juniors got it. He was so disappointed, planning to quit his job and try job in a new company. I support his decision. ...
A. 22 June 2013: Sounds like he is punishing himself but you should try your hardest to not let this happen. You have to show him that you still love him and that these things he thinks he wants will not make him feel any better. The reason being his job should not ... (read in full...)
If I'm feeding my boyfriend 2-3 times a week and thus spending more on food, wouldn't it be okay for him to help out cleaning more or to pick up the tab when we go out more?
Q. I have something that has been bugging me and I don't know if I'm justified or not to be bugged by it.... Me and my boyfriend have been together for four months. Im 23 he is 25. Outside of the very first date we split everything, all of our dat...
A. 22 June 2013: It would be a good idea to suggest for him to do more on his part since you do feed him and there is no balance there. I think him picking up the tab on some outings is actually a good idea or even to help buy some of the groceries.
Not everythi... (read in full...)
How do I end this? I don't love her but don't want to hurt her
Q. THANKS for reading...but friends i am in a great difficulty...i met a girl on social network site and we did long chats and also did talk on the phone and now it has been over a year of our such relationship but before a couple of months that girl ...
A. 19 June 2013: Well I hope you understand when it comes to commitment and such, there will always be some form of demand or compromise. You can't be expect to keep a single person's life while being together with someone.
If you want to end things the best thi... (read in full...)
Every guy I date treats me like they don't care about me?
Q. Last year I started dating and I've been through crap every since. Every guy treats me like I dont even matter. Being a gay male it's hard to find someone. So i turned to a dating app and I have met 10 guys on there and they all do me the same. Make ...
A. 18 June 2013: I'm a straight male and I can't find much luck either. My point being that dating is still pretty tough and is a learning experience. Try to change it up a bit and experiment but I think getting some real world meeting would help a lot. You do seem ... (read in full...)
Friend has given me an ultimatium--either be his girlfriend or we no longer talk
Q. I'm really close to my friend who told me he wanted to be more than friends about a year ago. Initially I said I didn't feel the same way and we tried to carry on as we had been before, talking everyday but I was seeing other people. Since then ...
A. 18 June 2013: I usually like to take chances but I can't speak for you. I find it hard to believe you are flirting with someone you have no attraction to. I flirt with others but I do feel some sort of connection whether it is just friendliness or comfort, but I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't think before speaking and says very hurtful things. Should I dump him? Or see if he'll change?
Q. Ok, tomorrow will be me and my boyfriends six Monthiversary or whatever. Im not exactly super exciting because i think we arent doing so well and my boyfriend thinks everything is fine. Here's a few problems we have: He hates picking me up now beca...
A. 12 June 2013: Nothing is going to change if you don't speak up and make it clear to him that some things he says is inappropriate. And not just "somethings" but specifically.
Also changing yourself if you were fine already does not help a situation. Nothing ... (read in full...)
Our marriage is hanging by a thread. My husband changed his facebook password and won't give it to me!
Q. I need help trying to not let it bother me that my husband changed his fb pass on me and wont give it to me cause i cant trust him. Our marriage is hanging by a thread and im trying really hard to fix this prob. It doesnt help that most people I ...
A. 12 June 2013: Snooping on your partner's account isn't beneficial to anything either. You need to step back and try to re-analyse the situation. ... (read in full...)
If I give her what she wants, how do I know I will get what I want later?
Q. My girlfriend and I have had an amazing relationship. We clicked right from the start and I have to say that I have never had feelings for anyone else than I have for her. We had a small issue earlier this year where she thought she didn't have ...
A. 12 June 2013: How old is this lady...she sounds like a teenager...
Anyway I think she has insecure tendencies because it seems like when she is away from you, she thinks she needs space and freedom. It isn't a bad thing but her 180 degree behaviour is somethin... (read in full...)
Am I facing a big problem here? Could my boyfriend be interested in this girl who talks really inappropriate sexual stuff with him?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry but this is going to be a long post. I am really upset here and I need some advice. A girl my boyfriend knows (they're not really friends, but know each other) is always trying to talk to my boyfriend about stuff that I fee...
A. 25 May 2013: I think you should talk to your boyfriend about these issues you are having and try to gain some reassurance from him. It doesn't make sense to jump to assumptions and begin thinking with a negative mind. You may only make the situation worse or ... (read in full...)
I confronted my friend about never paying when we go out together. Was this the right way to deal with the situation? Please advise?
Q. I have a friend who never pays for her drinks when we go out to bars. She is the one that ussualy drives, so I always buy her first drink, but then she kind of assumes that the whole nite is on me. It happened already so many times, that I fi...
A. 24 May 2013: I agree with your husband that you did the right thing but I would have chosen different words. You can complain forever about her but you were the one (as well as others) who allowed her to continue that pattern. Just let her pay her own share or ... (read in full...)
Whenever we have problems my g/f goes running to her ex boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid, I just spent the weekend on a wonderful mini vacation with my girlfriend. We are both 25 years old. We've been together for 3 years now and we have a great relationship which is very loving from both sides. We have had fights i...
A. 23 May 2013: At the end of the day buddy, you can't force someone to be friends with another or not. I understand why you are upset but realistically this happened a year ago so hearing about it now makes the situation feel like it happened yesterday. Shake ... (read in full...)
Am I demasculated pushover?
Q. Hey everyone, this is something that plaeged me growing up and especially in my teen and college years. Despite the fact that I love him to death, my Father seems to fit the bill for the "Nice Guy" profile while I grew up in the far more than sim...
A. 18 May 2013: You are just a good guy. You can't give girls too much credit because they are so used to being around jerks so much of the time, should any decent guy actually arrive they would stare at him like a strange foreign dish. Just take your time and ... (read in full...)
How do I engage myself on weekends so I wont have time to think and mope and call him and get humiliated by him?
Q. Hi My abusive bf dumped me a week ago and im still struggling to move on. I havent contacted him from the day he dumped me. I had work the whole work, hence i didnt have much time to mope on, but since its friday and i have no plans for t...
A. 17 May 2013: Time to find some new friends or start doing things to put yourself in some social circles. Even find a new hobby, visit relatives and generally do something than putting your body and mind gradually in a bad place. There are lots of things you can ... (read in full...)
Team mate takes credit for my work and is getting on my nerves!
Q. Dear Cupid My team mate at work doesn't do any productive work. We both are of same cadre, i do everything and almost everyone knows that i'm good at what i'm doing. But this team mate is always sneaking behind my back. He always trying to get cr...
A. 16 May 2013: You need to stand up for yourself and either confront the person or talk to your supervisor about this. If you don't do this you will constantly be taken advantage of. No one else will do it for you.This is will a huge step for you in the work place ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my wife's sudden interest in astrology?
Q. I recently saw my wifes Internet search history on her phone and she had visited a horoscope site and specifically looked up "how to seduce a Scorpio". Sounds innocent enough, except for the fact that I am a Cancer!! Been married 19 years. Should ...
A. 16 May 2013: Are you sure you can't ask your wife of 19 years about this rather than people who have no clue about your marriage?... (read in full...)
His friend flirts with him big time -- why does she do it when she knows he's in a relationship?
Q. Hey everyone. Hope everyone is good. I posted on here a couple of months ago about having problems with my boyfriends female friend who constantly kept flirting with him. I got mixed opinions about the whole situation and what I should do. I'm ...
A. 15 May 2013: What has your boyfriend said about the ordeal? ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly needs space. Do I give him space? Or dump him?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months suddenly says he needs to "reconnect" with his friends (aka drinking buddies) and plans to stay out every Friday night with them. He says I'm not invited "for now" - and besides I work at 7AM on Saturdays and he wants to s...
A. 14 May 2013: Ideally, the best case scenario is a women who lets her man roam around with his buddies. Men love to bond, drink and share their stories. It can be on occasion and since it benefits the mental health of the guy's mind, it will benefit the ... (read in full...)
I wasn't sure if he only wanted me for sex. Was I right to reject him?
Q. My friend at college had a huge dorm party last week and there was a lot of alcohol involved. Long story short, I had drunk quite a bit when one of her friends whom I didn't know hit on me. We ended up making out and kissing, but he was really ...
A. 14 May 2013: I am not sure what you want advice on. Do want to base things on the drunk moment or not?
If you base things on that moment then he asked you for sex which you rejected and you think he might be a player. Then he asks you out, to which you agre... (read in full...)
I want a man who wants me and wants to have children.
Q. When I was 15, I got into a 3-year long relationship with a then 17 year old boy. The first year was great and yes, I lost my virginity to him (he did not lose his to me). But then he went off to university five hours away and we only saw each other ...
A. 11 May 2013: You do seem a pessimistic perhaps almost defeated and this vibe can be felt by most guys.Take a trip outside your state. Maybe you need a vacation to readjust yourself and who knows, you might even find an interesting person to lean on. You deserve ... (read in full...)
He's sending out mismatched signals and I'm confused!
Q. Hello everyone! Last week I was hangin out with one of my best firend (he is guy). He took me to the really beautiful caffe bars and lounge bars and for a walk. We are friends for like over 5 years and I kinda always felt somethig more because we ...
A. 11 May 2013: I think most girls I have encountered in my past, whom I am still friends with, have always rejected my advances. If he is interested he would show you in subtle ways, after all, if he likes you it is only natural to do so without ruining a ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I don't want a boyfriend at 19?
Q. I'm 19 and in my first year at uni, and I've never had a boyfriend before or during uni (or even been on a date, though I've been asked out quite a few times). I've never slept with anyone either. I just don't see the point of short-term stuff. It ...
A. 11 May 2013: Don't let anyone make you feel less for doing what you ever you wanted to do with your life, be it partying like an animal or waiting for when things feel right. I always say do what you want to do, live with no regret.
What you are doing is... (read in full...)
Why did my male friends do this to me?
Q. Hey everyone! This is kind of a weird situation I'm in... I'm a girl, and I've been friends with these 4 guys for a long time. Purely friendship only, we're big gamer nerds and play xbox and stuff all the time. We've all had a great friendship...
A. 11 May 2013: Who knows maybe they are attracted to this girl and compete over her or something. If you are as close as you say you are then you could just ask em about it. You may as well since at this rate you are gonna lose em. ... (read in full...)
Is it a crime to have an opinion that goes against the grain?
Q. I happened to say on Facebook that a remake of a legendary film-maker's movie was way, way better than the original one. I said that the original was over-hyped and I didn't really see anything special in it. And scores of people pounced on me from ...
A. 11 May 2013: I think it was just a moment of rage that other people jumped on the bandwagon....after all stupidity in numbers is strangely toxic. Difference in opinions does not mean you were wrong of course, but there is a battle when you voice against the norm ... (read in full...)
I don't want our relationship to end because my boyfriend is talking to the slut of the town!
Q. I'm not sure if I have made the right decision here. I told my boyfriend of two years that I think we should take a break. I did this because I was really upset about this girl he talks to always hitting on him and coming onto him. I felt unco...
A. 11 May 2013: Seems childish to break up with someone for talking to the opposite sex. I'm sure guys hit on you all the time and you think nothing of it because you know you won't do anything wrong. But I guess this is how it goes at that age. The thing is now he ... (read in full...)
His controlling female friend is damaging our marriage
Q. Hmm...I have thought about this issue for many many months but this is the first time I have written it down to try and talk about it...It's such a mess I almost don't know where to begin. My husband and I have this friend..well..he has this ...
A. 6 May 2013: This story really breaks my heart to read because I feel like you have done everything any reasonable person would suggest. I think unless your husband is willing to work on the marriage then it will keep going no where and the marriage will only ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for women to get out of the dreaded friend zone?
Q. Just a general to-the-point question. Do girls/women ever come out of the friend zone? I hear from some that girls are never put into the friend zone completely - which to me is nonsense because it happens all the time to me. I recently realized...
A. 4 May 2013: You have a much better chance at finding someone new in your life and if anything, you will learn more about relationships and dating. Three years is a long time and it can distort the reality of the situation. He lives far anyway so the chances of ... (read in full...)
Where can a guy find a no strings attached friend with benefits?
Q. I'm a separated guy who wants a friend for a sexual relationship without the relationship. I'm having a very hard time finding a decent woman who like me wants a friend for sex but not a relationship. Sadly I've had offers from a few married friends ...
A. 4 May 2013: You have come to the wrong place :) ... (read in full...)
He can cum when he watches porn, when he thinks I'm asleep. But with me he can't last. Is it me? Am not sexy enough for him?
Q. hi everybody .. i got married 6 months ago. I am 25 and my husband 36 now .. when we have sex he cant keep his penis hard for a long time and he doesn't cum always .. I have read about it and found out that it's because of alcohol and smoking and ...
A. 3 May 2013: He has to stop watching porn. The bad diet he has doesn't help either. ... (read in full...)
He's 24. He was texting me. Then he just stopped. What can I do? Because I am aggrieved.
Q. I'm a 22 year-old woman who had been harbouring initial feelings of fondness for a man who happens to be two years senior to me. We had been Facebook friends since a long time, but had conversations once in a blue moon. A fortnight back w...
A. 3 May 2013: I also cannot understand what happened but it could be that he is just not interested anymore. It is sort of disrespectful but this is how it goes, and it could have been much worse. Well on the flip side you met someone new and it just didn't work ... (read in full...)
I wonder if my boyfriend is more interested in games than me?
Q. i'm unsure what to and could please use some help. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 months although not the first time we've been together. we were together but not a couple in the past a few years back but then he got back ...
A. 2 May 2013: Reality = he is at a stage in his life where his behaviour is perfectly normal. If I had to describe a typical male in that age range, he would not disappoint. He is not mentally ready to commit or submit to life's boring endeavours which includes a ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend out of my house? I'm sick of her lies and her cheating...
Q. I have been dating a girl for almost two years. She has constantly lied and told me she was not talking to guys. She talks to guys that don't help her I help her financially and emotionally, and I have taken care of her when she is sick or car ...
A. 30 April 2013: Tell her it's over and she can take whatever she wants but to just get out by the end of the week. I think if she doesnt leave u can call the police right? Im not sure how it works in the US. ... (read in full...)
I'm ruining my girlfriend's life with my drinking but she won't leave me. Should I break things off?
Q. Hey, I met a girl 3 years ago at a bar in which she happened to be a singer,her voice spoke to me,it was beautiful I used my contacts and got her work at a higher end place..we eventually started talking and then dating..her career graph is reaching...
A. 29 April 2013: Why don't you grow up, quit drinking, and actually love yourself and your girl for once? That sounds like the best way out to me. I'm not an alcoholic so I can't begin to understand what an addiction is like, but at the end of the day it is an ... (read in full...)
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