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Nothing qualifies me to help people. But I always try to treat people the way I treat my best friends when they need help. It doesn't take much to help someone. Sometimes all they need is an open ear.

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Isn't it better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all?

Q.   I met this girl while I was traveling in Thailand where I ended up saving her life, 3 months later she leaves Canada and comes to Australia for a year working/traveling. Everything was going great for the first few days then when we talking about...

A.   20 March 2014: Perhaps in the future she may come around but trying to convince her otherwise, at the moment, will definitely not work. In the mean time let her figure herself out and feel free to move on. ... (read in full...)

I feel like my marriage was a mistake

Q.   I've only been married 5 months, but I feel like I made a mistake. There are a lot of "factors" to this story that I feel are important to really give you a perspective, so it might be a long, convoluted post, but I'll do my best to get the point ...

A.   19 March 2014: I guess it is easy to take all the good stuff for granted but after 4 yrs I think you need to fess up to your actions. You need to stop being so selfish and actually consider other people's feelings here. Whether this means you need to leave or stay ... (read in full...)

I am not allowed in his best friend's house and have to sit in the car!

Q.   Hello everyone I need some advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. And we live together. But living together isn’t the problem. The problem is his mom and his best friend don’t like me at all. I’ve met the only once and ...

A.   17 March 2014: I think I also get a weird feeling and I have narrowed it to the fact that your boyfriend is not showing much initiative to include you in his other life. I believe that this is very disturbing and will be a very large indicator for things to come. ... (read in full...)

My first reaction was to lie, and it's causing problems now

Q.   I’m 32 and my boyfriend is 37. We’ve been together for 8 months, and he moved in with me about 2 months ago. I know it sounds like it happened fast, but it feels right and we’re definitely in love. Here’s the problem: sometimes he goes through my ...

A.   17 March 2014: Moving in when it is way too soon - Denial about bf moving in too fast - Trust issues from bf - Jealousy from a guy 10 yrs ago who was not even your ex- I might be on edge today or maybe something about this question does not seem right.... (read in full...)

After a year of LDR with him I need more than just texting!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together and a long distance relationship for a year now, but known each other up to 5 years longer. He's about to graduate from law school and is highly tense and upset because he is afraid of what the future holds if ...

A.   16 March 2014: I think at this point your emotions are getting in the way of realistic expectations. This is the guy's last semester and in law school, his pressure is very real. Your need for attention isn't healthy and will not help the relationship. You need to ... (read in full...)

Why don't I receive much attention from men?

Q.   Why do I not receive much attention from the general male population? Before you proceed to trash this email, thinking it comes from some innocent 22-year-old who is fishing for compliments to feed into her sky-high ego, I assure you I am fairly e...

A.   9 March 2014: I will use a different approach to answer this question and put myself as a guy who would ask you out. Reasons I would not ask you out: 1. You seem generally unhappy and this may lead to unapproachable. 2. You may have a look about you where yo... (read in full...)

Am I just her guy on the side?

Q.   Hi, my name is Daniel. About 10 months ago i started dating this girl, i always knew her since kindergarden i just never talked to her until the very end of highschool. So we spent the whole summer together, litterally almost every day, i lost my ...

A.   7 March 2014: You should end it now and find someone else who will show you the same level of devotion you deserve and show. She only confessed when you caught her. She was going overseas to live another life. And someone like that would be willing to do it ... (read in full...)

Trying to communicate makes it worse!

Q.   I don't know how to deal with this anymore. I need some help, please. I've been with my gf about a year and a half. We have always been that lovey dovey, sickening couple that was always stuck in the honeymoon phase. But lately it's feeling lik...

A.   4 March 2014: What are her suggestions for helping the relationship? ... (read in full...)

I'm falling for one of my boyfriend's friends and can't avoid him because they hang out together!

Q.   Hello! I have been with my boyfriend now for 3 years, and usually we have been really happy with each other and get along well. We are not engaged, but we have lived together for about 2 years, so our relationship is pretty serious. Over the past...

A.   3 March 2014: I think a lot of people encounter this situation more than you think. You either keep the one you are with, or dump him and go out with his friend. In this case you will have analyse the consequences for both and decide if either is worth it and ... (read in full...)

My male friend has become distant since I confessed to being interested in one of his friends

Q.   I recently broke up with my boyfriend because it was very clear how much we had grown apart in our 3 year relationship. A few weeks before I broke up with him, I started hanging out with a guy regularly. I was never attracted to him romantically but ...

A.   3 March 2014: To say exactly what is bothering him would mean that I know your friend which I don't. The more obvious answers are that he perhaps has feelings for you, and in his habit of supporting you probably does not want to continue to be hurt. The o... (read in full...)

My parents don't have faith in my long distance relationship

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm in a LD relationship with a man I met at a speed dating event in September 2013. Five to six months later, we're still going strong and he's planning a visit to my home state in two weeks. In Jan 2014, I spent six days with him an...

A.   2 March 2014: I think you have everything sorted out and you are willing to work hard AND take the risk. I don't know you or your parents but I can say that LDRs do work out and at the same time, doesn't work out...just like any other relationship. It's your life ... (read in full...)

Live-in boyfriend lied and went to a strip club behind my back... now my family is telling me to just get over it!

Q.   I've been dating my bf for 7 months. Things moved really fast for us so please no rude comments about that. We met through my brother, they are coworkers. He started hanging out and after. A Few weeks he asked me out on a date. After the date he ...

A.   2 March 2014: I don't understand American culture fully but I believe this is a common thing amongst work guys - attending a strip club. I mean yeah it does suck he lied about it, although I think the safer bet for him was lying about it assuming you would not be ... (read in full...)

How can I meet someone who is the average only?

Q.   I don't know what else to do with my life. I am at my wits end. I just came from a break-up from my 4 year relationship and I am trying to meet new people. I am in a location where it's really difficult to find a new partner. It's either peop...

A.   18 February 2014: I think you are over generalizing things but then again I guess your situation and location doesn't leave much room for choices. I'd say next time hold up on the details of a sex life. Most PEOPLE don't actually want to know details about one's past ... (read in full...)

She has a boyfriend so is she just playing with me to get attention?

Q.   It's driving me insane because she has a boyfriend (who I know) and she is the only girl I've ever truly liked. She is extremely intelligent, hard working, kind, selfless, and unique.I've thought about her every single day since I first saw her (Not ...

A.   6 February 2014: There are other fish in the sea, other's just as smart and wonderful as her. Just stop setting her as a pedestal. If she liked you she would have have been dating you, not so? The most she will say is "you are like a brother to me". To me that is ... (read in full...)

Should I move in with a friend to get away from troubled family situation?

Q.   Hey! I'm 20 and I have a friend that offered me to move with him to New York. Even though I only knew him since early September late august, I consider him as a brother. We talk from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. Right now I live in ...

A.   29 January 2014: You should stand on your own two feet instead, or develop a back up plan because if things don't work out you will find yourself in quite a pickle. ... (read in full...)

Is his contact with the girl from the AA meetings violating their open relationship rules?

Q.   Ok- I am posting for my best friend because it is an issue she is struggling with and came to me for help/to talk. I'm not sure exactly what to tell her. She is engaged and living with her fiance. They are in an open relationship and have been to...

A.   24 January 2014: If no one from the AA knows of the girl than I don't see it as part of breaking the rules. The point of the rule is so that there is no drama amongst friends and as you have stated, no one knows this girl. This girl wants the guy from himself,... (read in full...)

I feel like I'm just a dog following my girlfriend around!

Q.   Hey Guys.! Im feeling very lost at the moment and no one to turn to or ask for advice. Anyway I have been dating this girl for about 4 months and everything has been going so good between us from A to Z. its almost like a dream and believe me Im no...

A.   21 January 2014: I agree with Janniepeg. I think the long distance is not working out as well and she might even feel pressured to show you all of this love when she has not seen you in so long. I think even if you go to her, she will find some excuses to sort of ... (read in full...)

All the guys I date end up obsessed with me!

Q.   I feel like I can't love anyone... I don't know if it's because I'm depressed or what but I feel like I can't be in a relationship. Recently I've been in a lot of relationships and they all seem the same to me. I feel really silly saying this but...

A.   18 January 2014: In these matters, you can not keep quiet and expect your partner to read your mind. In relationships there will always be disagreements and sometimes differing goals. You can see that life goals are indeed important in discussions, but if you remain ... (read in full...)

Ever been stuck on someone who's bad for you?

Q.   I'm stuck on my ex of almost 7 months. He only just convinced me to try the relationship again this week, and he was back yelling at me again within 24 hours. He hung up like always, will pretend not to talk for like 2 weeks but I don't really doubt ...

A.   18 January 2014: Realistically speaking, no one would support a relationship like this, where you chose to get back into. There are a lot of us that will understand but this does not actually help you. In your story, you did not mention any problems nor did you ... (read in full...)

A hypothetical! What would a guy think about something like this?

Q.   This is a question for guys. Lets say a not so attractive girl tried to invite herself along for lunch,stammered and then in the end couldn't do it.Would you feel angry,irritated or wonder "how dare she tried to invite herself along" if you are in t...

A.   17 January 2014: I think most guys would not really care, but would instead be perplexed by that girl's actions. Your thoughts "how dare she invited herself" are more what girls think. ... (read in full...)

How can he determine that there is "no chemistry" after just two dates? Is that possible?

Q.   I met this guy two weeks ago and he came up to me and introduced himself. We talked on facebook for a day and he asked me for my number, he ended up calling me and we talked on the phone for three hours. He texted me everyday first and every night ...

A.   8 January 2014: The point is that it is ended as he has ended it. He was honest and upfront about his developing feelings for you. I am sure he meant that his feelings for you just weren't where he expect it to be. It's not something you should take personal. It ... (read in full...)

I am alway in the friend zone!

Q.   I'm in In high school, I had a lot (5) female friends and not very many male friends. I am a total nerd but not the smart kind, just goofy-looking and not athletic. I do real good with math and computers and physics but I suck at English and History ...

A.   28 December 2013: I upvote everything Code Warrior said. If you can not change your game, when you get older (around 21) there are younger girls (18) who will, for no reason, be attracted to you. Good luck. ... (read in full...)

Do we break up now - with a wedding in vicinity?

Q.   I had a habit of saying its not working anymore and lets break up which used to have a dramatic affect on my year old bf and he used to do everything possible to pacify me and drop the argument. However today he was done with me and said I am not ...

A.   28 December 2013: Call off the wedding because it is clear this relationship can not bring a happy marriage. If your relationship was so bad and you always wanted to break up, why do you feel so uncertain about your future now? ... (read in full...)

My husband never seems to notice hot women.....EVER!

Q.   Hello, I am in my 20s and my husband is great, perfect even. He takes me out, listens to be me, we have a great sex life, we hardly fight. It's wonderful. However.... I recently began to notice that he never seems to notice young attractive...

A.   28 December 2013: I think you are making something out of nothing. If the guy doesn't notice, then he doesn't notice. Not all guys care enough to look. Other guys have better things on their minds and better things to look at with their eyes. Even if you say you ... (read in full...)

He keeps throwing my past relationships in my face!

Q.   Hello everyone ! I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I love my boyfriend but lately things have been going downhill. He can't let go of my past. I don't know how he found out I hooked up with a guy before him and he keeps th...

A.   28 December 2013: This is not something we can help with because the problem exists with your boyfriend. I think after one year, it is a bit silly to be angry and jealous of past relationships. End it because should any problem arise, he will only blame your past. ... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting to this text message that went wrong?

Q.   Okay aunts and uncles, I really need help with a text message gone really wrong. Here is a layout of our relationship okay. He lives 4 hours away. We met one time before but we were not alone together remember that. He is coming down to spend a ...

A.   24 December 2013: Perhaps he was indeed texting someone else like you imagine. This would be a bad thing if the two of you were a couple but you guys are not. I am sure he IS genuine but perhaps his options are open at the moment. The choices and decision... (read in full...)

If men can't be trusted why do we even try?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. I've been with many guys before him and I know this sounds dumb but nobody else gave me this feeling of satisfaction and love that I get from being with him. This relationship feels different from ...

A.   23 December 2013: I would like to offer something different. People love to complain. No matter the media, we will always be forced to read or hear about negativity. I think the people that are happy, are too busy being happy and don't have the time to share their ... (read in full...)

If men can't be trusted why do we even try?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. I've been with many guys before him and I know this sounds dumb but nobody else gave me this feeling of satisfaction and love that I get from being with him. This relationship feels different from ...

A.   23 December 2013: I would like to offer something different. People love to complain. No matter the media, we will always be forced to read or hear about negativity. I think the people that are happy, are too busy being happy and don't have the time to share their ... (read in full...)

I don't know how to save our relationship!

Q.   Dear Cupid I am with my bf for 3 years. I am still not feeling secured in the relationship, he often throws words like im bored with u, i would like to take a break, i would like to hug my boss (lady) very tight, my lady boss has big b..bs, thing...

A.   21 December 2013: I think after three years the two of you should be able to talk about these matters. I do not think this relationship sounds like it has been going on for three years, it sounds like a teenager relationship of 1 Month. It could be that he is ca... (read in full...)

How can I look at things differently, so that I don't think all my relationships are doomed?

Q.   So aunts and uncles, I need some pointers here! I am about to go on a date soon with a friend of 6 years. He has been with me through the ups and downs of my bad relationships in the past. So obviously we have gotten close. He's such a sweet, ca...

A.   17 December 2013: I do not know much about BPD so I can not offer much advice on this. I can only recommend to mention this early on to whoever you are dating. Hopefully, that person will understand and adjust accordingly. At the very least, dating is somethin... (read in full...)

My boyfriend mentioned my ex's name.

Q.   This morning i asked my bf if he liked that i said his name during sex and he said he did. That it was much better then saying ( ex name) or something else. I thought it was super weird that he said my ex name since ive never mentioned it to him. ...

A.   17 December 2013: I don't understand what you mean by sudden act. Weren't you the one who asked about mentioning names? I think he was just being literal and honest. Even though you said it was a stupid mistake I think that experience for him is not easily forgotten. ... (read in full...)

He's prepared to live off mommy's money -- Is this an irreconcilable difference?

Q.   My boyfriend is a spoiled "mama's boy." He's 21 (as am I) and we have been together for four years. His mother is very wealthy, has fancy cars and 6 apartments and recently told him that he will inherit all of this. Since this discovery, my ...

A.   16 December 2013: Honestly at his age, I am not surprised that all he wants to do is play video games. A lot of guys at that age aren't thinking about such long term and grand goals. I think he is enjoying his new riches and after being a security guard who can blame ... (read in full...)

He wants to go "no contact" after our breakup but the pain is unbearable for me

Q.   hello, I need some advise. I am in the in the mids of breaking up with my bf with whom I am with for 4 years. Is there anyone there who could help me lessen the pain a bit? I have read everywhere that the no contact rule should be applied but I do...

A.   16 December 2013: You can go no contact but at the same time, this does not mean you need to throw yourself into a dark corner. Try to seek comfort in your friends. You should also slowly reopen your heart to admires and consider dating/flirting or just gaining the ... (read in full...)

Does this guy even care? Is he upset? Did I do something wrong here?

Q.   I need some advice. I have been talking (texting) to this guy who I met through a friend for about a month now. He seems interested in me, but I have been very caution about him. The thing that I hate about him is that if I text him, he doesn't ...

A.   14 December 2013: But if you were going to cancel on him last minute, shouldn't you have called him to tell him such a thing anyway? I think he must have felt like you are blowing him off. Even though you have mentioned your situation I think these are things that ... (read in full...)

I said a terrible thing, and now it's over. What can I do to get him back?

Q.   I said a terrible thing but I think the reaction of my long time boyfriend is way too much. We live together for 7 years and have 1 child together, our daughter is 6.5. We are young professionals, love each other or so I thought, and we are overa...

A.   8 November 2013: I can't come as close to understanding how he felt about his dog even though I myself had a pet dog since I was 6. When my dog died, I was sad for quite some time but no where near your boyfriend. To read how he suffered so much for his best friend ... (read in full...)

Is dripping in sweat normal when you both have sex together??

Q.   My boyfriend and I are dripping in sweat when we have sex together. I mean, it is as if somebody sprayed a hose on both of us. Dripping wet in tons and tons of sweat!! Lol Is this NORMAL at all? And... we usually fog up all the windows ...

A.   3 November 2013: Fogged windows can be a real problem and a pain to clean since it attracts more dust than necessary. In smaller rooms like you said, intercourse can indeed hasten the cleaning disaster. To reduce the fog, I can recommend using a cooling apparatus ... (read in full...)

What goes through a 16 year old girl's head? I'm 21 and not sure

Q.   Hello everyone(: So there's this girl, she's 16 Then there's me, I'm 21. One day on Facebook she posted a sad status about how her ex done her wrong so I messaged her and told her to keep her head up because one day she would find a guy who would ...

A.   3 November 2013: Yep...16 year old teenager girls sure do have their head on straight...I hate to break it to you but girls don't know what they want. The better path would be to figure out what you want. And try not to put this girl on a pedestal because emotions ... (read in full...)

How can I explain my birth defect to girls?

Q.   Hey everyone So heres my situation...I was born with a birth defect of my hands where a few of my fingers are shorter and honestly I'm comfortable enough with myself where I can admit it's weird and not a turn on for girls...it's gotten me denied b...

A.   3 November 2013: At your age, girls aren't looking for Mr Right. They are looking for "what they think" is an adult...usually leading into guys who are a couple years older, and have a lot of confidence in themselves. These guys can be assholes or good guys, but ... (read in full...)

He won't help clean our apartment!

Q.   Okay everyone. I need some help! My boyfriend and I fight a lot because he will not help me our apartment clean. Right now it is so gross. Dishes everywhere, clothes and trash in the floor. Food all over the counters in the kitchen. I stopped ...

A.   3 November 2013: Judging of the age range (18-21) I will assume he will be just as young and so most guys are like this. The cleaning doesn't bother them, goes in one ear and out the other. I don't think there's a way to get him to clean because you are literally ... (read in full...)

What am I doing wrong in my friendships?

Q.   Need advice about friendships.. I'm going to try not to sound too much like a victim here, just bear in mind i've fallen in a heap and am feeling a bit sorry for myself.. For as long as i can remember i've had difficulties with friendships an...

A.   30 October 2013: I think this is something that goes with the territory of having so many acquaintances and friends. You can not make everyone happy and people often mistreat others to gain a foot hold elsewhere. Everyone has to deal with it but everyone has ... (read in full...)

I want to go slow -- are guys not willing to wait anymore?

Q.   I used to be in an very emotionally unhealthy relationship of five years which was my first one i was 19- and it lasted until i was 24. I finally left the abusive relationship and have taken three years to really recover and get my self to start ...

A.   28 October 2013: At your age, I have to give you props because most ladies I know at this age are actually either into quickly settling down or just not looking for anyone "generally" (ie they want someone extremely specific). I myself am looking for someone for the ... (read in full...)

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