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The only way he'll let me break up with him is if I tell him the truth!
Q. So im kind of stuck in a pickle. what do you do when you dont want to hurt someones feelings, break them by telling them the truth ? That after 4 years of dating you went away alone for acouple months and in just 3 months felt happier with someone ...
A. 15 December 2012: Even though your bf treated you badly you should have not cheated nor should you lie to the other guy that is waiting. Your actions thus far seem to stem from emotions and it has caused you to lie to your bf, the other guy and most importantly, your ... (read in full...)
Out of control PMS, I've tried EVERYTHING, please help me!
Q. I'm at my wits end here and really need some advice. I am a 25 year old woman. I'm generally a happy person who enjoys life. But the week (sometimes 2 weeks) before my period I feel as though I go absolutely INSANE! I'm extremely angry, depr...
A. 13 December 2012: Hormonal imbalance I think is what you have. You should see a doctor or do some research, I think there are a bit of women who go through the same thing. ... (read in full...)
How can she just forget 6 years, our dog, our house, and our family with someone who came in the picture for 3 months?
Q. Im a 25 year old male, who just broke it off with my girlfriend of 6 years, due to her cheating. I cheated on her once early in the relationship,when we were already serious. I never told her,but she always had her suspicion. I know there was no ...
A. 13 December 2012: Hmm welcome to the break up zone where anything anyone tells you will not make sense or mean much to you because you have a heavy burden on you right now.
Why did she cheat? Who knows maybe she is young and doesn't know what she wants or doesn't ... (read in full...)
The only way he'll let me break up with him is if I tell him the truth!
Q. So im kind of stuck in a pickle. what do you do when you dont want to hurt someones feelings, break them by telling them the truth ? That after 4 years of dating you went away alone for acouple months and in just 3 months felt happier with someone ...
A. 13 December 2012: Err then just tell him the truth so he can leave you and vice versa?... (read in full...)
What to do? Shall I give my Gf a third chance?
Q. okay so long story short...i am currently with my gf of 8 months. We started out as best friends and eventually started dating (finally got out of the friendzone :) ) But now we are starting to have problems. In the beginning of the relation...
A. 12 December 2012: You shouldn't have kept asking her if she was ready or not. Things like can actually put pressure on someone. You need to look outside yourself and look at the relationship as a whole. At the end of the day this girl gave you her virginity as well ... (read in full...)
Why do men prefer light skinned girls?
Q. Most people say I'm really pretty and I have no trouble getting the Guy I want. But I'm Spanish and Mexican American, though my skin color is brown but not dark brown. I always hear guys mention they prefer light skinned girls. Is there anything ...
A. 12 December 2012: Look hot, ask him about stuff he does, be yourself and I think you can pick up any guy you want. Preference is something which can't be helped, it's only natural. And many guys just knock it before having tried it.
Surely, a lot of women have the... (read in full...)
He doesn't see a future with me, but he wants to keep me in his life? For what?
Q. Why would a guy who has simply stated with clarity that he doesn't see a future with me because, I don't share his culture, race or language be so hell bend on me remaining "friends" with him? It's not like we were friends before---we have a brief ...
A. 12 December 2012: So you saw a weird broken man and thought he would change for you? Well that was my only explanation. I do not know why a lady like yourself would continue to be in circles with a guy like this although this is the person he wants to be.
The t... (read in full...)
How can I show my husband that he should turn to me, not other women friends?
Q. My husband and I have gone through a lot and it takes 2. In the past I have been very jealous and controlling and judgmental the point where he feels he doesn't really see me as a good friend to come to to talk to. So needless to say he has found ...
A. 12 December 2012: I would suppose you have to give him the space he needs to come around. You say you have gone counselling and such but things wont change in a flick of a switch. I think he does need the space and time to heal. What you can do is just be nice and ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my traditional parents about my choices without hurting them?
Q. hii im from traditional indian family where in marriages will be mostly arranged... and i was totally ok with what my parents suggest.. but from past 2 years im committed to a friend... now i wish to marry him... i cant accept anyone else a...
A. 9 December 2012: Well if you want to make any kind of progress you will have to ask your mother and father about such things. I do not know if they will be happy or angry but if you explain your feelings and situation on why you have hid such a matter, maybe they ... (read in full...)
I want to know who my boyfriend's ex FWB is, and he wont tell me.
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years came out and told me recently he had a few things he needed to tell me one of them which was he went on two separate occasions with a woman he basically had as a "sex buddy" prior to our relationship. He says they ...
A. 9 December 2012: Relationships can be drama free but we are all human so everyone makes mistakes. He didn't want to tell you out of fear but it is good that you persisted although I hope you did not get out of control with it. After all, like you said, it is in the ... (read in full...)
I want to know who my boyfriend's ex FWB is, and he wont tell me.
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years came out and told me recently he had a few things he needed to tell me one of them which was he went on two separate occasions with a woman he basically had as a "sex buddy" prior to our relationship. He says they ...
A. 5 December 2012: I think as this woman is still in his life and while you do trust him, it is only fair for him to say who it is so I agree with the your view on the situation... (read in full...)
Meeting up with my LDR at the airport tomorrow and I'm nervous!!
Q. Hi dear aunts/uncles! I am on a LDR for a couple of months with someone I used to know when I was younger just as friends, but we parted ways. (we knew each other personally) We will "meet" tomorrow on an airport (we both flew in to a "m...
A. 5 December 2012: Been there before.
Even if HE gets nervous, make sure the first thing you do is KISS.
No Hi, No hellos, no hug. Don't let fear stop you from experiencing your true feelings. I gave this advice to a LDR couple 5 years ago. They are happily marr... (read in full...)
My ex and I are cheating on our new partners together, what should I do? Part of me wants to end it with both of them, part of me wants to get back with my ex!
Q. Before anyone says im a slag or idoit or whatever i know i am. Ive been having an affair with my ex behide our new partners backs. The thing is we never really broke up in the first place, we live in different areas of our city now but we would ...
A. 5 December 2012: There's no praise to give just because you understand why you are cheating. In fact it is worse. Everything you can use to describe your feelings and sex life with your ex is just an excuse. If you know what you are doing is wrong, then just stop. ... (read in full...)
I want to know who my boyfriend's ex FWB is, and he wont tell me.
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years came out and told me recently he had a few things he needed to tell me one of them which was he went on two separate occasions with a woman he basically had as a "sex buddy" prior to our relationship. He says they ...
A. 5 December 2012: Do you know yourself to be a type of person who will cause confusion? If so then it is really not worth knowing who the person is. Reason is that any confusion you cause will accomplish nothing and will only worsen any hatred, and negatively affect ... (read in full...)
I feel so stupid for falling in love with someone who doesn't feel the same
Q. I hate myself for falling in love with this guy. He told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship from the beginning. I was ok I thought it would be ok because he wasn't my type. Low and behold I fell for him hard. Now he makes excuses not to ...
A. 5 December 2012: It is hard because you constantly let your feelings control you instead of the other way around. Just respect his wishes and it will be fine...although it seems you have a very deep hole to dig out of. Don't lose hope, learn from the past and live ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting? I don't want to come across as being self-obsessed/arrogant, but I do not like this guy nor would I ever date him in a million years.
Q. I have this guy who is (in my eyes) just a friend. I honestly could never like him as anything more than that. He just isn't my type at all, romantically. Well, in early November, he broke up with his girlfriend (one of my close friends) just out...
A. 5 December 2012: All you have to do is respect the space between the two of you and not do things couples normally do and you will be fine. You can't control his feelings so eventually he might pop them on you. Just politely reject him and give him your honest ... (read in full...)
Unemployment and relationship finances...who buys dinner?
Q. My bf and I have been dating about 8 months and this is the first serious relationship for both of us. When we met we both had good jobs, he still has one but I'm a contractor and so once my last contract ended about 4 months ago I have been ...
A. 30 November 2012: In these circumstances old habits tend to die hard. His habit of indicating your loans from my point of view could be a way of teasing you or he could be serious I am unsure. But these problems are usually best resolved by quickly bringing up the ... (read in full...)
Is my behavior my fault, or the fault of the person who caused me to behave this way?
Q. SIMPLE QUESTION: if i tell someone (in this case a family member) not to do or say a certain thing b/c it'll get me really angry, and then they go ahead and say or do what gets me angry anyways, and i blow up and get mad, am i at fault, or ...
A. 30 November 2012: In the same manner that you are responsible for your own actions, you also have no right to stop people from saying certain things. In the adult world your anger will prevent you from excelling in life and you will find more and more people will ... (read in full...)
Why can't he ever address me by my name?
Q. There is a man who I think is attracted to me (flirts, smiles, let's off so much positive energy and shows interest in me etc), but he NEVER has once said my name. He even has written to someone else about me to discuss a detail and referred to me ...
A. 30 November 2012: Who knows, maybe its his habit for you. Why don't you just ask him? ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's lost interest or he's just mad?
Q. So to keep a long story short I've been dating this guy for about 2 months. Instead of getting hurt I was kinda pushing him away and hurting him by not even realizing it and he always chased after me (I know I'm wrong for it). We saw each other the ...
A. 28 November 2012: You just have to wait and see, it's too early to tell. I'm sure he has to cool down and re-think his priorities. ... (read in full...)
So confused about what to do... please help!
Q. Hi, I'm 22- years old, and I have been dating this guy for about a year and a few months now. It hasn't really been anything serious because we both came out of bad relationships. We really like each other and have a lot of fun, since we've met ...
A. 23 November 2012: I think you should indeed end it because this will not go anywhere. It is a weird thing to say but things must end in one phase before it can begin a new. I wouldn't see the point to put your feelings open or out there because he knows them already. ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him because of his behavior. Have I overreacted?
Q. Im in college living on campus with my friends in an aparment and I've been in a relationship for almost four years now and I've finally had enough of the stuff that he put me though so I broke up with him. He has almost expected me to be there at ...
A. 17 November 2012: I think you did the right thing. He's still a kid and his words do sound like a trap. Everything you said seemed 100% accurate because I could never get away with the things he did. Good luck and all the best for your brighter future.... (read in full...)
I wanted to break up with him in a peaceful manner not this way
Q. As I have already mentioned in my last post that I broke up with my abusive ex and I told everything to my parents about him. But he keep on pressurizing me for a proper relationship , he wanted that I should forgive him and give an another ...
A. 8 November 2012: How is it that you all still have communication with this man?
I think your parents did the right thing and you should support them just as they support you. You are not a mother or parent so you do not understand how they feel. You ex, no matte... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset that he disregards my feelings?
Q. Am I right to be upset? My serious bf of 4 years and me have friends in common. I've been busy so I have not hung out with them. My bf kept hanging out with them, and it got to a point where they just do stuff all together and do not even invite ...
A. 3 November 2012: I'm pretty lost here because you said that you have no issues with them. So you are mad at him for his choice of hanging with people who he thought, you were mad at.
But they aren't people. They are his friends. He has just as much right to hang ... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair right under my nose. What shall I do about it?
Q. Hi, I came across this site today and was pleased to see the kind of service you are rendering. You are guiding people with their questions which they cannot ask anywhere else. Also, its great to see that you don’t want to make it erotic fantas...
A. 3 November 2012: There are some things here which I think many can point out as "right" or "wrong" but most of it are associated with facts of the situation. So I will point out some analysis (which can be wrong of course) and I will give my best advice.
First... (read in full...)
Virginity is a huge deal in the Indian culture and I've lost mine to an ex so how do I face my future husband now?
Q. I am an Indian girl in our culture virginity matters a lot in marriage.i lost my virginity to my ex,i thought one day we will get married but he was so abusive so i broke up with him, now i am really scared ...i strongly believe that without honesty ...
A. 2 November 2012: I understand that saying the truth is very difficult for both the one saying it and the one hearing it. But personally with regards to these types of situations it is best to be honest. I have had friends with very questionable pasts and they have ... (read in full...)
How many sex positions do you use when having sex? Are my boyfriend and I normal?
Q. how many different sex positions do you use when having sex? like in one night, and also in total? like within the last couple months, how many different positions have you used? me and my boyfriend use maybe about 10 in total. is that not normal?...
A. 2 November 2012: I use as much as I can so yes my count goes way over 10. It's just something my girl and I are into so I don't know why other people's opinions would better in your bedroom. ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to move on and be happy. Maybe my ex just isn't the one?
Q. so me and my ex have broken up for about 2 1/2 months now, we still talk and are friends, we were going to start dating in about a month and give us another try (we were together for about 3 years), but today she came to my house to tell me that she ...
A. 2 November 2012: Indeed, sometimes we thought we really knew someone but then that person pulls a 180. Do not blame yourself or think less of yourself for her mistakes and shortcomings or. She did what she wanted to do, which did not work out. You on the other hand, ... (read in full...)
Virginity is a huge deal in the Indian culture and I've lost mine to an ex so how do I face my future husband now?
Q. I am an Indian girl in our culture virginity matters a lot in marriage.i lost my virginity to my ex,i thought one day we will get married but he was so abusive so i broke up with him, now i am really scared ...i strongly believe that without honesty ...
A. 1 November 2012: It may or may not be looked upon badly but whether the outcome, you must be honest with your future husband and tell him your story. I assure you that this happens more often than you think as there are thousands of women like you, from India, who ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to move on and be happy. Maybe my ex just isn't the one?
Q. so me and my ex have broken up for about 2 1/2 months now, we still talk and are friends, we were going to start dating in about a month and give us another try (we were together for about 3 years), but today she came to my house to tell me that she ...
A. 1 November 2012: You've found a new girl and that is great! Take your time to get to know her and enjoy the relationship as much as you can.
I think your ex has really dug a hole for herself. I think she did cheat on you but that is just my suspicion. It doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is this the sort of person I should date? He lied and now says I'm making a bid deal out of things
Q. I have been going out with my bf for a year. I won't call myself psychic but let us just say I have a very strong 6th sense that is never wrong: normally they come in the form of dreams which will be recurring. (Keep an open mind here please, don't ...
A. 31 October 2012: I think I have a different view from most but I can see why you are upset. The thing is he sure did make a lot of mistakes with his ex but that doesn't mean he had to tell you everything that was going on with him and her...these things happen, ... (read in full...)
What is your feelings on someone getting drunk and making out with another person?
Q. Hey guys and girls, about three weeks ago I started dating this girl named lets say Cindy. We spent a lot of time together just watching movies, having sex, talking, and really liking each other. Cindy even bought me a Star Wars t-shirt when s...
A. 31 October 2012: If I were you I would have a lot of trust issues after this...I too have gotten drunk but I havn't decapitated an entire village yet. I don't really want to go into the whole being drunk things because a lot of people have very different experiences ... (read in full...)
Break up or stay with her? She's warned me that she may want to sleep with another guy, just randomly, in the future.
Q. My girlfriend has told me that she thinks there will come a time when she wants to sleep with another guy just randomly. She said she doesn't know when. She said that she now considered us to be only slightly more than friends but wants to stil...
A. 31 October 2012: You are way better off in the long and short run if you leave her. Someone who wants to be with you shouldn't say complete garbage like that. There isn't a shred of decency in that statement, no respect and no sense of remorse. It might pain you for ... (read in full...)
I don't know what's wrong with him. He's being a jerk out of nowhere. PLEASE, I need advice.
Q. Sorry if this is a bit lengthy, but it's well worth the read. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We broke up in August because I had an attitude problem, but it was my birth control that made me have an "attitude problem"...
A. 30 October 2012: He must be really stressed out then. A lot of guys can reach a breaking point. But eventually I hope he comes around. You should be patient and hold onto some strength. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have this problem where you're really good friends with someone one day, and the next day you wish you weren't?
Q. Like, I will be the first to admit that I love making online friends. It's so much easier to communicate, and there's no judgement in between. It's fun, right? But there's one guy I'm friends with. I've been online friends with him for about... 7 ...
A. 30 October 2012: It will happen with anyone particularly boy-girl dynamics. Girls say these guys are best friends but some guys actually do have the interest of being something more. This is life and this is the real world where these things do happen. It has ... (read in full...)
WHere did I go wrong with my bf for him to diss me like this?
Q. this is long.. but i really just want to know WHAT HAPPENED!!??!! I know i need to move on, and forgive myself.. but i just dont get WHY this person wont just admit what he did. I was with this guy for 4 years.. on and off. Off is when he would be...
A. 30 October 2012: I think he is probably telling you his truth in that he does actually think you are pushy and annoying.
I am sure he does appreciate you but perhaps there is only so much complaining that one can take. I'm sure he could have handled the situatio... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting about porn I found on his laptop when I checked out things on his laptop?
Q. Hi. I'm a 25yr old Female. I have been with my bf for 6yrs now.both of us studied in the same uni where we met through common friends. A year later we moved in together.we have had few ups and downs but he has been an amazing bf through out. Abou...
A. 28 October 2012: Perhaps there have been major gaps in the amount of time the two of you have spent with each other. When couples spend time away from each other, past horrors or insecurities can creep up and it can affect us. It seems like he has had unresolved ... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my sister's husband!
Q. I am 36 F. I know what I think is wrong. but it is difficult for me to stand this. I think it is due to I am Pisces and he is Scorpio by Sun sign. I am interested in my younger sister's husband. We flirts and he calls me to talk personally. I feel h...
A. 28 October 2012: Firstly, his sexual past or lack there of is not your business. He is not your husband, why do even speak to him in this way? Flirting? It is so disrespectful.
Secondly, your weird past and present confusion isn't an excuse to do selfish things. ... (read in full...)
Is being called sweet a major red flag and are relationships worth relocating for?
Q. Alright everyone, I know I should know the answers to these questions as a 24 year old man but I have not been in the appropriate environments for me as of ywr so please bear with my questions. I am about to date this one lady who is just two years ...
A. 28 October 2012: I think I lost focus somewhere in your question but you should be careful that you are over analysing the situation..I can't really blame you though. If you are going on a date with her I think you can tell after there if she is into you or not. The ... (read in full...)
Does he actually not like me and is he showing me that by pretty much ignoring me?
Q. I dated a guy for several months, we broke up for 6 months and I saw him again and we reconnected. It was what seemed a fresh start where we talked about how we hoped to have a future together. But he is in the military and got stationed on the...
A. 28 October 2012: Kind of hard to tell considering the circumstances but you'll need to talk to him about these things, hopefully in person. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused, because after 3 months she says she only wants to be friends. Why? is it just stress that's made this happen?
Q. I met a girl online. We talked on the site for over a month before she gave me her number Then after that, we texted and talked on the phone for 2 weeks before we went on a date. Sense then, we've gone out everyweekend for 2 months, sometimes tw...
A. 28 October 2012: She is being honest with you so stop blaming yourself and thinking you did something wrong. End it here and move on, and who knows maybe things in the future will change. You gave it your best and so did she so no regrets. ... (read in full...)
Bad attirtude. Poor communication What should I do about him? Is he worth it?
Q. Heya, Actually the guy studies in my college...but different faculties... we found some mutual friends on fb... I knew little about him...he asked for my number... I gave him my numner because I thought we'll be friends ...he's really a nic...
A. 25 October 2012: I think he took offence to you telling him what to do. You called him, woke him up and then told him to go back to sleep...that doesn't make sense to me and sometimes when a girl wakes me up for no reason I get really angry, especially when there is ... (read in full...)
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