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'I was hurting for so long that after a while I became numb to the pain'... what does that mean?
Q. What does it mean when an ex says to you 'I was hurting for so long that after a while I became numb to the pain? - This was in reference to a conversation about our break up just before christmas, it was awful since I was in a bad place and didn't ...
A. 6 May 2014: Sounds like you caused her a lot of pain and she got used to it to the point where she expected only such. If she didn't deserve it then I assume you were a bully to her. I am not sure what else to say as I thought her message was straight forward, ... (read in full...)
I'm so self-conscious that I have trouble making friends
Q. I'm normally a very shy girl and don't trust people upon meeting them. Its difficult for me to make friends. My bf has it a bit easier since he's more social. He wants to encourage me to make friends so he often invites me to double dates with new ...
A. 6 May 2014: If you aren't going to make an effort I can see why your boyfriend would eventually give up ;)
No one is asking you to take a bullet for people you meet, and no one is saying they will donate blood to you. You spend way too much time stressin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never invites me to his parties
Q. Hello all. Well, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and have known him well for about 7 years. Last year he decorated his backyard. I picked out the pool which is the staple of the backyard. I picked out most all of the furniture, ...
A. 4 May 2014: I don't think this guy wants to be your boyfriend. He wants a free life and wants it with his friends. Sorry. If he doesn't break up with you, then he is just keeping you there until he is ready. ... (read in full...)
How to socialize while keeping family stuff private?
Q. I have a big problem separating my private life from my social life. And it is seriously effecting me now. I dint have social phobia in a classic way, but my family life is so full of pain and shame and grief, that basically I'm unable to meet with ...
A. 4 May 2014: I think awkward situations have a way of making us spill out either the truth or stuff that resembles "too much information".
They are really not awkward questions. But they are in fact general and very basic questions. You just over think th... (read in full...)
Girls are being inappropriate with my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I need some help My boyfriend works at a big store and is good friends with most of his co workers. These co workers have friends that come up to their work sometimes and hang out during break/lunch time. Recently, there have been a fe...
A. 4 May 2014: I think this happens a lot more to women. Women often get hit on when they are just trying to be nice and get along in work. They can't force the guys to stop as I am sure it happens with new guys constantly. Eventually they just ignore and some ... (read in full...)
I rarely see my boyfriend, is this a rough patch?
Q. Hi everyone, Lately I've been find it hard to cope with how much I'm seeing my boyfriend. We've been dating for a year now and recently he got a new position at work which has limited the time we see each other. We use to see each other almost ev...
A. 4 May 2014: These stages are expected in a relationship. Everyone goes through rough times and careers can be demanding.
You have to take the good with the bad sometimes, not everything can be peaches and honeydew. I understand that you are trying your bes... (read in full...)
Looking for home remedies before my wedding next month
Q. Hello friends I need your help am an Indian am getting married in june end The thing is I want to look best on my wedding day If you people could recommend me some home remedies it would be of great help I will tell u all my problems 1.Am 7...
A. 4 May 2014: To lose weight you can refrain from eating wheat foods like bread and pasta and eat meat instead. If you can not eat meat then vegetables is fine. If you do eat bread then have it toasted and eat anything else in moderation. Avoid liquid diets.
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My friends tell me I should give my boyfriend a BJ
Q. A lot of my friends are wanting me to give my boyfriend a blowjob, and he agreed to wanting me too when i asked. But i feel like we are kind of young for this to be happening. My friends said it was okay because we have been dating for 6 months, but ...
A. 2 May 2014: This is an important piece of advice I will give you. It will apply to any stage in your life. Do not discuss your private/sexual life with your friends. Also something such as intimacy isn't decided by majority...do it when YOU feel ready. ... (read in full...)
Should I be selfish for once or be the good girl?
Q. Hi, I have this problem... I have this friend I've known for two years now and we always kind of liked each other. He's much older than I am and is in a relationship. Because we were such good friends, I know his girlfriend really well now too. Bu...
A. 30 April 2014: Are there really no other guys around in your life? Surely, sex is something easy to get for most girls. I can't imagine why you want to risk "who you are" as a person just to sleep with a guy who is already taken. ... (read in full...)
I feel like he just wants to go around and sleep around and then I'm just stuck here waiting for him to be done. How do I move on with my life?
Q. So me and my boyfriend recently broke up. Maybe about 1 week ago. Our relationship has been very difficult, we dated for a little over a year. (14 months) our biggest issue was trust. I have caught him texting other girls throughout the ...
A. 30 April 2014: I mean no offense but the two of you are just not right for each other. You are both immature and you look for things in each other that neither of you have. I think the sooner you accept...well..anything, then you should be able to move on. There ... (read in full...)
Is it OK for married people to have opposite sex friends?
Q. Simple question ; after you get married and settled down, is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex? Text them? Hang out with them? Strictly platonic that is....
A. 28 April 2014: If it bothers the partner then no it is not ok. If both are fine with it, then it is ok. ... (read in full...)
I am falling for the wrong guy. How do I forget about him?
Q. Dear all, Please help me The thing is am falling for a wrong guy. Though he never directly told me anything everybody feels he likes me but the problem is his nature and my nature doesn't match and he is too dominating at present. We are just fri...
A. 26 April 2014: I think this guy is all you know and at your age, being different can seem very attractive. "We want what we can't have". I would suggest to pray and form communication with other people and your parents as well. Look for life in places that you may ... (read in full...)
I want to make this relationship work!
Q. Hi guys I've been in a relationship for 4 years now with my boyfriend. He is not really great as a bf but then i love him to bits and we have a bond that will keep us together forever. he's mean to me at times and cares more about his own fe...
A. 26 April 2014: I don't really see much of a relationship here even by indian standards. I don't think he supports you like a MAN should but if you wanted a teenager relationship then this is perfect. I also think because your emotions are easily swayed, it may be ... (read in full...)
Is it always the guy's fault when things go wrong?
Q. Its going to be a long story so please be patient. In Dec 2010, I met this girl in a party, we clicked instantly and hooked up in the next week itself. 2011 was a breeze, we had an amazing time, took vacations, had sex like crazy. We were a fun co...
A. 26 April 2014: Ah yes, in most cases everyone blames the man because it would be weird not to. Men often do not get the same compassion as women either. But these issues are not important. What is important is that you move on and forget this lady. I understand ... (read in full...)
Which of the two guys should I choose?
Q. hello, I'm stuck between two guys and I need an advice. "guy no1" is the "good looking", "im perfect" kind of guy and I dislike that but at the same time he doesn't act like that around me, in fact I pushed him away so many times and he still ma...
A. 24 April 2014: I think guy 1 will eventually ditch you. Guy 2 sounds perfect, at least he'll be stable in the long run, and you wont suffer from insecurity. And I am sure he will do everything it takes to make you happy. ... (read in full...)
Should I get rid of this guy because he seems to be hiding something? I'd love to hear your interpretations of his text messages
Q. I have had the most awful experiences with online dating, and am really skeptical about every man I meet now. I'm not sure if I'm looking for red flags because I'm so afraid of not spotting them. I've been on three dates with this 29-year-old...
A. 24 April 2014: You could just be straight with him and say that you just don't feel comfortable yet. And when you get to know him better then it will ok.
You have legitimate questions and good red flags, but these are flags which have answers to them and you ... (read in full...)
How do I get happy with becoming a hermit?
Q. I'm 26 year old male, and I never dated. My biological mother died at age 3, so I never had the proper nurturing to be ok. Socializing is hard for me since I am autistic, and because of my social awkwardness (avoiding eye contact, etc) no girl even ...
A. 24 April 2014: Nothing is wrong with living a hermit life and in fact can be quite rewarding in it's own way. But as part of being satisfied with anything you will need learn to love yourself, else you will just be an angry and miserable hermit as opposed to a ... (read in full...)
Should I just tell him I can't afford this very expensive trip?
Q. I can't believe this situation! 6 months ago I meet a guy in a coffee shop. We were attracted to each other instantly. Sex happened a week later, and in couple months I was having dinners with his parents and siblings. We spend with each other ...
A. 17 April 2014: I think you should just talk to him about it..you could be blowing things way out of proportion and you may have misinterpreted his words. Either way, just talk to him about it. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I failed as a girlfriend
Q. I'm feeling hurt and in need of some advice.. I talked to my ex boyfriend recently (whom I am still in love with) and he said although I was "great" he was unhappy in our relationship. I am very hurt by this because I really tried my absolute best...
A. 17 April 2014: There's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes two people just aren't right for each other...go figure. You might be in love with the idea of being in the relationship because you should be able to see that he was unhappy. You should let this one go, and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is WAY too much into gaming
Q. Hi guys. Alright.. so I recently got engaged to a wonderful young man. There's only one problem. His ONLY interest seems to be videogames. I ask him what he's passionate about and he literally has no answer. All he does all day, every day is play ...
A. 17 April 2014: This is normal for guys his age. While you may be ready for the long run and ready with high sense of commitment from being engaged, there is no need to rush yourself or force him to grow out of this age group.
You should expect this behavior... (read in full...)
I'm having a confidence breakdown even though she's a virgin!
Q. Theres this girl I was best friends with for years and we get along really well. We thought we froendzoned each other then talked and told each other we liked each other. Theres only one problem, as a friend she told me about the guys she has been ...
A. 17 April 2014: The only way to overcome fear is to rise above it. This is something you must force yourself to overcome and there is very little practical advice for this situation. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Should I confess about the kiss while we were on a break?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 years, but last summer I got in a fight with my girlfriend and we broke up for a day, and on that day I kissed one of her friends. I feel really bad about it, especially since our relationship is going so well ...
A. 13 April 2014: Honesty? Don't believe the hype. Oh yeah that's a good idea, I'll tell my girl about how I kissed another girl as soon as we got into a fight. That will make her love me more! Some mistakes are just better to live with, and deal with. ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if I need to just be blunt, ask him his salary and then maybe nip it in the bud if it is too little money. Should I be honest?
Q. I'm in my early thirties, I have to think about starting a family. I barely make any money and would maybe prefer being a full time mom. I went out on one date with a sweet guy that seems interested. He told me his job.... I think he makes very ...
A. 13 April 2014: Questions like this is only push men away. You don't get from A to Z without the in between, so you should be careful with the way you are thinking. ... (read in full...)
My friend cheats on her boyfriend, and I think he has a right to know
Q. My dilemma actually has to do with my best friend and her boyfriend. He supports her financially, pays all the bills, and even takes care of her newborn whom ended up not being his. He forgaveher once for cheating. Well, here recently sshe's had sex ...
A. 12 April 2014: In the end I think if people are being hurt to that extent then you have the right to do something. Yes it will hurt or ruin the friendship but I can't imagine myself living with such guilt. The only wrong thing is doing nothing. ... (read in full...)
He won't spend any time with my friends or family? I have to beg for him to do so!
Q. Hey everyone so I have a question. my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and two months. We live together as well. The problem is he wont go around my friends or family at all like he used to and he doesnt take me around his friends ...
A. 9 April 2014: For adults I think it is weird but at his age he might be just bored of being around your family and friends. Of course, it is much easier and more fun for him to relate to his own friends and family. It also may not be that he is bored, but just ... (read in full...)
Seeking advice for BBW sex and how to become a premature ejaculator.
Q. I have been dating a wonderful woman for nearly 4 years and we both know once we sort out our families and other commitments, like work, we will get married, move in together, start a family etc. That’s not the issue; I’m just letting you know we ...
A. 7 April 2014: Remove masturbation altogether. Also, hold off on sex for about three days to a week (doesn't need to be longer). Occupy those three days with exercise and propping a healthier lifestyle.
Side entry can work if you are both on your sides, o... (read in full...)
Job interview included working for a full day, for no pay!
Q. This isnt a relationship question but im hoping someone can help. My niece who is 19 and currently an office temp wants to get in to hairdressing. She saw that a well known salon in our town was looking to hire trainees so she applied - sent h...
A. 5 April 2014: In any job, even if the job market is scarce, if you are asked to do a "demo" work, the work will focus instantly on the requirement of the job. For example if you can weld, you will be asked to weld for a number of hours. If you can do hair, you ... (read in full...)
Can we stay friends? We dated and were intimate.
Q. I met this guy online 3 months ago, We have been dating off and on during that time period. We have been intimate and that has been a major problem during our "relationship" I have called it off several times because he didn't want to be exclusively ...
A. 2 April 2014: Why would you stick around for this guy? He isn't interested in you and is clearly telling you just that. Why would you even force him to date you exclusively? Surely, you can find someone else with similar interests with you so I don't think it is ... (read in full...)
Insecure with my ugly body, will I ever get a boyfriend?
Q. Basically I've been an emotional eater and very lazy over the years and have really let myself go and stopped caring about my body. This is very pathetic I know, especially because I'm a young woman. I am so insecure about my body I don't think I ...
A. 1 April 2014: Pain and suffering is real and it isn't to be taken lightly. Everywhere one turns, someone has a tale to tell and everyone has problems of their own. I have a friend who is in your situation but it was never her weight which caused problems. Rather, ... (read in full...)
Full court press, then he backs off?
Q. I'm 21 years old and during my year at school I became friends with an individual, I'll refer to him as Frank. When I met Frank, he was very quiet and in general his demeanor was quite insecure. He was very nice and we became good friends but I ...
A. 1 April 2014: As I prefer to follow up on my advice, I recommend to stop over thinking his feelings or yours from today. There is not much to be found. If you are interested in this guy, genuinely, then give him space and allow him to gather his composure and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't take into account the fact that I'm very sensitive
Q. I've been with my partner for eight-ish years. Some of those were long distance; about half were not. We've had some instability in the relationship, from my breaking up with him multiple times but we've also had some good times. About a year ago ...
A. 31 March 2014: The two of you have extremely opposite personalities. One prefers to be stern and the other is quiet. I don' think there is more to it than that because everything you mentioned revolve around opposing personalities.
Whether you have anxiety ... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to leave these friends behind?
Q. My closest girlfriends and I are a group of four. A couple weeks ago, girlfriend "A" messaged us asking to hang out that upcoming Saturday. "B" said OK and I asked "when and where?" However Saturday came and gone with A and B both having both seen ...
A. 31 March 2014: And in turn you reject the only person who actually does want to hang out, all because one person can't make it. Everyone in your group is only wrapped up in what they want. As a growing adult, it is extremely hard to have 4 friends meet for the ... (read in full...)
Full court press, then he backs off?
Q. I'm 21 years old and during my year at school I became friends with an individual, I'll refer to him as Frank. When I met Frank, he was very quiet and in general his demeanor was quite insecure. He was very nice and we became good friends but I ...
A. 29 March 2014: I can assume the initial rejection was probably a blow to him in a strange way as it reminded him of his past pains.
I think in his perspective, looking back, he has never changed so much because of someone else. I don't think there are any hidd... (read in full...)
Does sex always have to be with someone special?
Q. Hey, people!!!! Haven't been on here for some time! You seriously can't understand how bored i was. anyway, i've gotta question that's not a problem, but it'd be nice to have some opinions. so basically, my friends and i were having an argument...
A. 26 March 2014: Sex is all the better with someone special. How much better? Well the difference is like night and day.
Whether it is right or wrong is entirely another matter and I believe there is no right or wrong. At such a young age, having sex would se... (read in full...)
Am I right to wait for this girl after she broke up with me?
Q. Here's my situation: I've been in a relationship with this girl for 9 months now. She's a wonderful girl, and complements me in so many ways that I really thought we were sort of perfect for each other. I'm more of a cynic and don't get 'happy' ...
A. 24 March 2014: I think waiting is a good option, but I would not wait for a girl like this. She has you has an option rather than the most important person. You essentially drove her away because you could not handle a rough point in your life. As a man, you must ... (read in full...)
Is this okay to keep going to lunch with this guy?
Q. I need advice and opinions on how this situation looks from the outside looking in. The last job I had there was a guy (the boss of my boss). One day he asked me to go to lunch. While out he asked what my story was and if I was married. He is ...
A. 23 March 2014: No one said you can't have friends. Just dont let it develop into something more. All the best!... (read in full...)
How should I apologize to him? I wrongly listened to a manipulative ex-friend. He was not in the wrong.
Q. Hi there. I have never felt this guilty in my life before, which is why I want to seek help here. So, there is a guy in my new organization who likes me. It's been only a month now, when I joined a new job. He is different in all the ways. He comes...
A. 23 March 2014: You just have to come forward and apologize to him , in the same way you insulted him in front of his team.
Even though you want to blame this girl, you should understand that you are responsible for YOUR actions. You had a choice to believe ... (read in full...)
He was rude and dismissive until I resigned ...
Q. I'm feeling a little upset and annoyed over something so your advice is appreciated. My mother in law has been widowed for the past 6 years and has always been very independent. Unfortunately over the past year her health has deteriorated so ...
A. 22 March 2014: It really is up to you. A manager's job is to get the cheapest price for best quality. I think he didn't expect you to leave the job based on his offer. The reason why he gave into your demands now, is because it is very costly to replace someone ... (read in full...)
A super out-of-the-blue booty call? Why?
Q. Hi everyone, and thanks ahead of time for your advice. I appreciate you reading this and giving me your thoughts. I'm nearly 23, and in October '13, I broke up with a boyfriend of nearly three years. It was the most toxic relationship I h...
A. 22 March 2014: This is a lot of background for a booty call but I do appreciate the lengths you took. The logic is that he has history with you and finds you attractive. He's too messed up at the moment to have a relationship but he does want sex, I mean what guy ... (read in full...)
Facing the guy that hurt me, advice?
Q. Hi, I posted not long ago about my situation with a boyfriend who I met at my works meal and he was our waiter, he was very full on telling me that he loves me after 2 weeks and took me to meet his mum then dissappears on me and I never hear from ...
A. 21 March 2014: I think there might not be a good excuse from him, and anything he says will only make you feel worse. I would just sum it up to a personal problem or a change in feelings...which is fine and ok, shit happens. ... (read in full...)
Isn't it better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all?
Q. I met this girl while I was traveling in Thailand where I ended up saving her life, 3 months later she leaves Canada and comes to Australia for a year working/traveling. Everything was going great for the first few days then when we talking about...
A. 20 March 2014: Perhaps in the future she may come around but trying to convince her otherwise, at the moment, will definitely not work. In the mean time let her figure herself out and feel free to move on. ... (read in full...)
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