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I'm tired of being his dirty little secret!
Q. Dear cupid me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years now and I still have not meet his family or his 10 year old son his wife passed away 6 months before we started dating everytime I ask him to meet his son he just tells me that he doesn't ...
A. 16 May 2015: You shouldn't make excuses for him. Ideally you should talk to him and find out what is up. ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being his dirty little secret!
Q. Dear cupid me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years now and I still have not meet his family or his 10 year old son his wife passed away 6 months before we started dating everytime I ask him to meet his son he just tells me that he doesn't ...
A. 14 May 2015: Sounds like a progressing pattern of the cold shoulder. I do not think anything better will happen any time soon, and there is a chance he is dating someone else. This relationship is only going backwards and you are wasting your time with him. I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's place turns me off and I don't want to have sex with him
Q. Im struggling with my feelings toward my boyfriend of a little over a year. I feel we only see each other once a week at best, and its a dull patern of food, tv/movies, sex, sleep. I feel he doesn't listen to me talk and that we aren't really ...
A. 14 May 2015: He is acting his age, he enjoys being carefree and slack about his place. Just make the decision to not go over to his place. You can date someone without going to their place. ... (read in full...)
Why is my cheating ex angry that I have moved on?
Q. This is just a general question. Why would an ex girlfriend who cheated and left you for someone else, get extremely mad when they discover you've moved on yourself? My ex cheated and played the back and forth game for weeks. One day, I was the love ...
A. 14 May 2015: You should not be continuing conversations with someone like this. This person will only bring misery to your life and anything new you try to bring into it. ... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend unfriend all these "friends" from Facebook for me?
Q. My boyfriend knows I have trust issues because of a past relationship where an ex cheated on me and broke my heart. So he went ahead an unfriended about half the people on his FB page to "make me happy". It started off with me questioning why ...
A. 14 May 2015: True you did not asked him to, but rather you forced him to unfriend those people. It is not really a good idea to drag insecurities from a past relationship. All it does is open a bag of worms, and sets the tone of the rest of the relationship to ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid? Why doesn't my serious boyfriend of almost 1 year invite me to hang out with his coworkers?
Q. Dear Cupid, Am I being paranoid? My boyfriend told me his workplace recently started a series of company outings, paid for by the company to boost morale, such as movies, baseball games, dinners, etc. However, significant others are not co...
A. 7 May 2015: I just want to lay down the facts and I will out right say that many things you are worried about are things anyone would worry about as well.
He has a lot of interests and hobbies where he does not invite you. I think this is strange. I would lo... (read in full...)
I've repeatedly asked him whether he wants to break up but he says he doesn't. Yet he's cold to me and unaffectionate.
Q. I'm 31. I met my present fiancé about four years ago and we've been in a committed long distance relationship. He's 48 and twice divorced previously. We've always got along well. Needless to say, I love him very deeply. Over the past three weeks...
A. 5 May 2015: Not exactly what I would call prince charming but at least you are seeing this side now. This is a part of him. Which you should consider before pursuing anything with him. Also, 48 and divorced twice? You will have the world of baggage to go ... (read in full...)
My husband and I need help setting boundaries with his parents
Q. This is our second marriage. His parents are elderly in their late 70's but the father keeps very active and they both have their minds. My parents are deceased. I really wanted to go out on Mother's Day to a restaurant (restaurants are...
A. 5 May 2015: I think his parents are really nice. It is amazing to have people that want to spend time with you. I think they would have understood if your husband rejected their offer considering the chaos in the house. Having said that, I wonder why he didn't ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong to annoy so many people? I keep having this problem where I lose fiends.
Q. I keep having this problem where I lose friends because of breaking up with/losing interest/not being interested in the first place. I guess my problem is two-fold. I could be friends with a group of people (mixed genders), we get along fine, we...
A. 5 May 2015: I have interacted with a few girls like you in the past. Girls like you are not tied to anything and often go-with-the-flow, including the flirting. In the past, those ladies spoke as if their life has been planned in stages..."now I dont want to be ... (read in full...)
Why does every girl just want to be friends? I don't get past date three. And now this girl'stopped texting me !
Q. so this girl was a regular customer at my store, and we had so much in common. (How many girls love giant monster and horror movies lol) and we started hanging out, nothing serious at all. We would watch cartoons together over Skype and text all the ...
A. 30 April 2015: She didnt say why she broke up did she?
At the same time you shouldn't have apologized for telling her you liked her. What exactly would you be sorry for? You have feelings for her and you asked about her past, any sane person would do this. Ap... (read in full...)
He's younger and broke!
Q. Hey, I'm 25 years old and I am currently in grad school. I met this guy a year ago, because he worked at the restaurant across from my job and he delivered my food. We also have a mutual friend. We never talked then because he had a gir...
A. 29 April 2015: Well he hasn't began using you do no need to think that he will be using you just yet. I don't see too many red flags here but be sure to not settle too much. At least see where he is going in terms of his career. I would assume, that since he knows ... (read in full...)
What can I do about about my partner's willingness to be too kind for his own good?
Q. Situation is this.... My partner and I have been together for a year and a half and we live together. My partner has an ex wife with whom he is still going through separation issues and settlements. The separation was nasty so he has left it al...
A. 28 April 2015: You say you aren't overly jealous but you are the one snooping through his phone.
You ask why would he change their names to a guy's name but again, you are the one going through his phone so I am sure he is protecting himself from people s... (read in full...)
How can people get STD if both are 100% faithful? Can a STD be inherited from a mother? Not sure how STDs work after hearing things from fellow classmates.
Q. Hello dear all and thank you in advance for taking your time for reading this. I am currently 21 years old and in a 4.5 year, heterosexual relationship with my first and only sexual partner, whom is 20 years himself. As on both accounts: we we...
A. 27 April 2015: STD stands for sexually transmitted disease. Having said this, there are many facts online about it that I am sure will provide you with enough information.
Starts from someone who has the disease in the first place. It is then transfer... (read in full...)
How to juggle the needs of my father and my desire to study and create a better future for me. Any ideas on how, please?
Q. My situation is unique. When I was 17 my father who is my single parent became very sick and now is considered disabled and barely makes any money anymore so when I finished high school I got a job instead of heading off to college so I could help ...
A. 27 April 2015: Honestly speaking you dont need to have a college education to have a decent career. Right now many firms are looking for people who want to pursue sales but they can not afford a full time sales person. All you would ever need to do is invest is a ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact? I felt like he totally blew me off so I basically told him to lose my number.
Q. I have been dating this man for approximately 3 weeks now after getting out of a 3 year relationship. On the second date, we ended up having sex. It was spectacular, I hadn't felt so sexually connected and charged by a person in years. It was early ...
A. 27 April 2015: Hard to say if he was just after sex, I mean not many women in my book would sleep with me on the second date. I think if you are looking for someone for the long run, holding out on the sex would be a good idea. In this circumstances, while he may ... (read in full...)
My husband has gotten verbally abusive again - how do I help him stop?
Q. My husband has gotten verbally abusive again, even though things were getting better on that front for years. How do I help him to stop? (not so )Short intro: We've been together for almost 20 years. At the beginning things were OK. But as we finis...
A. 27 April 2015: Simple, correct his behaviour by making sure he knows that fighting is not ok. Does not matter his past or who he is. If he wants to fight, he should fight with himself.
While you do not like to fight, you do not have to nurture his habit. E... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?
Q. Women it seems, are generally valued for their youth more than men are, despite me being a guy, as in human male, there are times I am jealous, envious of how women are valued for their youth more than men are. The reason why is because i'm a gu...
A. 20 April 2015: You are mostly speaking about initiation of dating, and not actually dating. This is something easy to overcome with the right mindset.
Yes for men there is a lot of knowledge involved to secure a partner but the same goes for a woman as she has ... (read in full...)
Why is he saying what a crazy needy possessive bitch I am, who won't leave him alone and is constantly telling him what to do?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years is very busy. He has several jobs and, to be honest, has what I think are OCD-like tendencies. So, when he does have some rare time at home he spends it doing things like cutting holes in the walls to hide the wires BEHIND ...
A. 17 April 2015: I am not even sure how you stand for this behavior. If this is how you both work out issues you can forget about being happily married together. Most relationships do not survive with those kinds of schedules but the ones that do, survive because ... (read in full...)
Does porn viewing encourage men to treat women with disrespect?
Q. Does porn viewing encourage men to treat women with disrespect. At times I notice my partner becomes somewhat disrespectful and dismissive of me. At times it almost seems like a little contemptuous . Without fail , everytime I have noticed this , I...
A. 15 April 2015: I suppose it is found in older men but irregardless of what his reasons are, there are no good ones for disrespecting one's partner. You are best to bring him back to reality. ... (read in full...)
What kind of man would treat a woman who is all about him like this?
Q. Im hoping someone out there can help me thru this or someone reading this has been thru the same thing where I can find out what steps I should take to get over this and move on with my life: I met my fiancé online almost 3 years ago. Withi...
A. 13 April 2015: I think I will be able to give two sides of your ordeal. You may or may not like what I have to write but I do not pretend to know everything about your situation.
My mom and I have a bad habit of being too nice in relationships. We often di... (read in full...)
It turned me off that he accepted my offer to split the bill on our first date!
Q. I went on a first date with a guy I met, we connected and I really liked him, but then he was ok with me paying for my dinner. I offered to pay before he reached for the bill and he said "sure, if you want to." So he told the waiter to split it. He ...
A. 12 April 2015: You might be old fashioned but he is not old fashioned. That is not wrong on his part and it is not wrong on your part either. But it does not deserve the reaction you are giving it. ... (read in full...)
I've fallen deeply for a man I haven't met yet!
Q. I need to ask for advice about something very special and a very complicated situation. Two years ago I got divorced and after had been enduring a very tough relationship. I always knew I would eventually move on and find someone who would deserve ...
A. 9 April 2015: In my opinion there are too many weaknesses in this LDR for you to overcome. The fact that you both have to keep the status of this relationship quiet, means that you are both not committed to each other. You can make as much excuses you want for ... (read in full...)
I've fallen deeply for a man I haven't met yet!
Q. I need to ask for advice about something very special and a very complicated situation. Two years ago I got divorced and after had been enduring a very tough relationship. I always knew I would eventually move on and find someone who would deserve ...
A. 9 April 2015: Honestly I don't think there is much you can do given the circumstances. LDR are always tough and both parties need to spend time with each other out of their day/night to make it work. Then you need solid plans to meet up and then from there, ... (read in full...)
I love my b/f but don't wish to have sex with him anymore
Q. Okay, so I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and I am 20 years old. He is very affectionate, caring, and I know he would do anything for me..he is my best friend. He wants to marry me. However, we argue constantly because I am not very ...
A. 8 April 2015: Your boyfriend is making efforts to be with you and be intimate with you. It is only natural on his part and I do not think he is doing anything wrong. You refuse to sleep with your boyfriend because you do not want to, but then why are you flirting ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for your bf to take his daughter to a party you were invited to?
Q. Is it wrong for your bf to take his daughter to a party you were invited to? This is how it started. I asked my bf to go to a Billy Joel concert with me, but he didn't seem to interested as his ski trip was in the same month and as of yet did not ...
A. 6 April 2015: A bit late to feel angry now about his outings when you are both acting like kids. Seems like you want to be completely neutral in this ordeal but I do see the pressure you initially put him under, and the things you did/said just to make him angry. ... (read in full...)
He makes excuses to not give me his facebook password!
Q. So i've been with my boyfriend since mid November, i love him dearly but i've always had a few trust issues with him. As of lately theyve gotten really bad, he wont give me his Facebook password, uses the excuse "i change it to much, ive forgot it." ...
A. 6 April 2015: You are cheating on your boyfriend? Why dont you break up with him if you are unhappy? Either you trust someone or you don't, you are not entitled to invade someone's personal space. Even if you think you are, you wont feel any better invading it, ... (read in full...)
My siblings are harassing me to return my inheritance
Q. Hi there, What a great site and an awesome place to come with a problem.So here goes. My mom died in December 2012.My brother was power of attorney and is actually a lawyer and was power of attorney of the estate.My sister was the executor...
A. 6 April 2015: It seems like, no matter the place in the world, people will often fight for money and land from their elders. A bit sad.
If I were you I would be angry as well and I have no advice to give as you are already doing the right thing by having y... (read in full...)
Will a married man ever replace his long term mistress with the next best thing?
Q. I am here to ask a question to everyone but WITHOUT JUDGMENT or PREACHING. I know affair posts get everyone very worked up. But I am not here to be crucified. Just to get help. I want to know what you think the answer is. It will help me immensel...
A. 3 April 2015: A complex situation warrants a complex answer. But this is not one of those cases. The husband is cheating on his wife therefore his credibility will suffer before he even tries.
There have been many women like yourself on this site in the same... (read in full...)
I'd like to talk to him more, but is it worth the money?
Q. This past fall, I took a pe class and unintentionally developed a crush on one of the cute guys on the last day of class. I added him on Facebook over the winter break and messaged him once about the class. During the winter, we didn't have class ...
A. 2 April 2015: I've signed up for a different class just for the opportunity to talk to another girl. Didn't work out. I'm not sure if it ever works out when people do this. It seems like the other person eventually just figures out that you aren't interested in ... (read in full...)
Should I try to win him back?
Q. I dated a guy for a month and it was going so well at the beginning and we were both really into each other, but then he started to get too serious too fast after 2 weeks he told me he loved me and wants marriage and kids asking those kinds of ...
A. 31 March 2015: You both do not seem very compatible for each other so I would advise to let this one go and just accept that it did not work out. ... (read in full...)
I need to change my thinking, my attitude. How can I make myself into a better person?
Q. I'm 32 years old and have a horrible personality it seems. I'm one of the most kindhearted people you'd ever meet, always put others before myself (I'm in the medical field actually) but I have such a negative hateful attitude. I want to change b...
A. 31 March 2015: It goes without saying that I don't need to point out the things you are/were doing qualifies as wrong. I think some professional help is a good start. Ten years of a bad marriage and 5 years of left over hate for him and yourself would be a hard ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm dating a little boy instead of a man?
Q. So I've been dating my boyfriend for three years now and for the most part everything is great. However, he is 24 without a car(he longboards) and has not found his career path yet. Last year he was planning on going into the military but he could...
A. 30 March 2015: Sounds like a normal guy for his age. Well maybe he is older than a lot of guys who usually acts like him but he is who he is. He's far ready for settling down and it's all the same. While I can understand your view about wanting more, you aren't ... (read in full...)
We've been dating 4 months and I have taken him back after finding he'd been chatting with other girls and his ex!
Q. Hey, I'm looking for advice no a current situation with my boyfriend. We're both 23 We've been dating for 4 months now. The start of the second month I realized he lied to me about a nude photo of his friend but cast forward I got over that as she s...
A. 29 March 2015: A guy like this does not change overnight. All you have to do is reverse the roles and realize that if you were this guy, you couldn't possibly change even if you tried. Why would he change? You took him back after he is confirmed cheating on you. ... (read in full...)
How do guys react when they know a girl has a crush on them?
Q. How does a guy reacts to a girl when he gets to know that the girl has crush on him? Guys n gals plz give me opinion!...
A. 26 March 2015: Hi,
Personally I get over confident but I do act on those feelings of the girl. I try to talk to her and get to know her more, after all, it is not very common to find out of a girl does have feelings. Of course everyone is different and the same... (read in full...)
Why do white guys always flirt with me and then I find out they have someone?
Q. Im African American. Whenever a non-black guy flirts with me, its the same scenario over and over again that I've learned to play along with it just for fun. He'll be overly flirtacious with me, (one would blow kisses at me) I'd take the bait an...
A. 26 March 2015: You reap what you sow. ... (read in full...)
He thinks that someone who is bisexual can't be faithful. Do I tell him I'm bisexual?
Q. Hi all, So, I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. He's wonderful, and I wouldn't change a thing about our relationship but there's one thing he doesn't know about me: I'm bisexual. I've known since I was fourteen, but it just has...
A. 26 March 2015: While it is obviously wrong to judge people in this manner like your boyfriend is doing, why on earth are you with someone who does not trust bisexuals when you ARE a bisexual? After 2 years? Why wait so long to tell him now?
If you ARE a bisexual... (read in full...)
Are my constant thoughts about my BF cheating based on truth or my own fears?
Q. Hello DC. I have a question about trust. My BF and I have been together a couple of years. It is a good relationship and we still have great chemistry. He has cheated in a previous relationship. Not ours. He has always been up front with me...
A. 25 March 2015: Looking at the facts, he hasn't cheated on you. Unless you have legitimate suspicions other than him going to work, I don't see any reason to suspect him. You should mention to us if he has any habits that cheaters usually have.
If you think yo... (read in full...)
Does it matter who my girlfriend friends texts and talks to as long as she comes home to me?
Q. Im lesbian and in a 5 year relationship. We are moving in together in less than 5 months. We have never spent more than 7 consecutive days living together as we are long distance. We spend every night on the phone together from the time we get in ...
A. 25 March 2015: Does not seem like she wants to pursue these long term goals with you. Moving in with her will only make this worse and will not actually fix any thing.
I'll be frank, she sounds like a guy who is not interested in you but just likes controll... (read in full...)
My partner had an affair. Should I share the details with other husband?
Q. My long term partner (Me: 29F and Him: 32M) had an affair with a recently married woman, lasting about a month that I am aware of. They were family friends, I bartended her brother's wedding, etc. She and I were "friends". Long story short: I had a ...
A. 25 March 2015: I think you've already told him and your part is done. Doing more just means you want to intentionally destroy their marriage and that is something that will not end well for anyone including yourself.
While you do feel this way, it is that man... (read in full...)
About Pornography: are my thoughts about women who like pornography accurate? Or simplistic generalizations? Or incorrect assumption?
Q. This is just a general question about something I've wondered about. Its safe to say that men who like porn come from all walks of life. But what kind of woman likes it or at least accepts it within a relationship? Often I'll read commen...
A. 24 March 2015: You can not judge the world based on the people you surround yourself with.
All the best. ... (read in full...)
My gf is upset with me for talking to my ex
Q. Me and my exs relationship ended almost 3 years ago and I've been with my now gf for 2 years. My ex gf messaged me on Facebook last Saturday night (we had not spoken for like 8 months prior to this, we don't speak hardly at all to be honest). We ...
A. 24 March 2015: Actions speak louder than words, but words are your life. Give it a thought, how would you feel if your now gf did the same thing you are doing? Knowing she was with another guy and she tells you "but I havn't done anything with him". Would you even ... (read in full...)
My wife's cushy life is over, but what about the child!
Q. I left home 4 months ago after finding out my wife was cheating with some unemployed junkie we hired to do yard work. I busted my butt making a living so she can stay home even thouhgh our daughter is in school now. Instead of sorry she tried to ...
A. 21 March 2015: Get your daughter out of there but be sure to consult your attorney first so you can avoid any problems. ... (read in full...)
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