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I just want a little TLC when we are out together, but he gives it to everybody but me!
Q. What is there to do in this situation? My boyfriend is a hopeless flirt and the life of the party. I find it incredibly uncomfortable being in public with him. What on earth can I do? At parties, he engages everyone, except me. He has said...
A. 23 September 2012: I usually try to look at both sides, but when I look at his side, all I see is an insecure person who is more selfish than anyone I know. Rather than make an effort to change his ways, he still continues to do so.
I consider the way a couple t... (read in full...)
Have I missed my chance with my high school crush?
Q. Hi everyone, There is a girl that I like in high school. Ill name her "E". E likes me too, I know because we would often stare at each other for more than 30 seconds back in high school. she is so pretty and nice, but I am not sure if she hate...
A. 23 September 2012: I think you pretty much missed your chance. But there is nothing wrong with sending a simple friendly message but it is unknown if she should will respond. You never know what can happen in this crazy thing we call life. No regrets. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
My jealously issues with boyfriend and friends are starting to concern me
Q. Hey everyone, I'v been having a lot of jealousy issues lately its not only with my boyfriend but even with my girlfriends..like if I think that my 2 girlfriends are getting close to each other I get jealous cuz I want both of them to be close to...
A. 23 September 2012: I do not think this is normal. While I can offer advice I think it is better for you to seek some sort of professional help. But I must commend you on the fact that you do realize that you have a problem and that is always a good step in the right ... (read in full...)
Caught feelings for a guy but things seem different after the night we finally spent together.
Q. Hello everyone, this might be long but please help me out. Around august of last year some guy friend requested me on facebook. He wasnt just a random because we had about 45 mutual friends and he lives a few towns(15 minutes) away from me. An...
A. 22 September 2012: If YOU want to take it to the next level then you should begin phone conversations and going on dates with him etc. This texting stuff is something that teenagers do.
I cant tell you what he is thinking but...if I were him (assuming I was inte... (read in full...)
If he has time to spend with his friends, why didn't he have time to call me?
Q. Hi Currently im in LDR with my bf, since he travelled to a different place for work. He will be returning back in 2 months. We are in LDR for 3 months, been seeing each other for 2 years. 3 days back my bf told me not to call him for 3 days, s...
A. 22 September 2012: I think many girlfriends/wives just do not understand their bf's form of bonding with their friends. Guys generally do not call their gf's when they are with their friends and it is usually nice and pleasantly mature when girl friends can understand ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 months creeps me out!
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been going out for about two months. Lately, though, it seems as if every little thing he does annoys me or creeps me out. He's constantly making fun of me and he brings the gift I gave him (a stuffed monkey) weeks ago ...
A. 22 September 2012: Well two months is a still a long time for a relationship. Have you asked him why he brings the monkey to school? I think it is weirder that he tells people to not look at it. I actually think it is cool he tells people to not look at it, people at ... (read in full...)
Is an Ex and Ex? And should it stay that way? I think my Bf may be in contact with this ex again.
Q. I suspect that my boyfriend might have added his ex-girlfriend back into his phone, I am not entirely sure. I just have a feeling he might have. Should I just ask him if I can look at it? I don't know if it seems odd. I really hate his ex and h...
A. 22 September 2012: Maybe it is something you have an issue with but you should not put your feelings in front of an issue, especially when there is no issue. All you are basing this on is a "feeling". I would agree with looking at your boyfriend's ph if you actually ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this text from his ex the night before her wedding?
Q. I am getting married in a month to the love of my life. He broke up with this girl 7 years ago and one of the reasons they broke up after a 5-year-realtionship was that she wanted to get married while he didn't. Today my fiancé got home and told me ...
A. 21 September 2012: Seems like you are over reacting. Why should you care how she feels? Your fiancé has a clear distance and border in regards to her so I see no reason to get upset. Try to think logically about the situation instead of letting your emotions fuel your ... (read in full...)
How do I communicate to him the fact that I don't feel as important to him anymore in a nice way?
Q. how do i tell my boyfriend in a nice way or needy that i dont feel as important to him anymore... im trying to act like its okay that we hardly even communicate anymore but im hurting because i want a little more attention from him.. i just want to ...
A. 21 September 2012: Open, mature and calm communication is usually the best way. He is your boyfriend so you should know when would be the best time to approach him. A small test usually works as well, such as not being the one to call first, to see if he will actually ... (read in full...)
7 year itch. Why would she leave without even talking to me and telling me what was wrong?
Q. I am still a little confused about why my wife left me. She says she left because I was having an affair with a friend of mine, which I wasn't and she knew this, we have been together for 7 years, always have been able to talk, but in the last few...
A. 19 September 2012: She is/was cheating on you OR there is an equally large problem in her life that has made her change course (religion, career, illness etc). Try to snoop around and find out the real problem. ... (read in full...)
I treated her badly but now I want her back
Q. I cheated on a woman who was madly in love with me four years ago. Not only did I cheat on her, I disrespected her, lied to her, bit her, talked bad about her behind her back to co-workers and family members. I strung her along and I put her at risk ...
A. 18 September 2012: And yet you are still the same selfish person. The fact that she even put up with 1 of your distasteful descriptions about yourself is more than what you ever did for her. You have no right to question her or the love she had for you. It is just as ... (read in full...)
Should I make amends with my ex girlfriend who's getting married?
Q. i can't get over the fact that my first love, my college ex-girlfriend is getting married. I heard the news from my former roommate who was also a friend of hers. when she and i were together she was a bit apprehensive with the two of us having sex. ...
A. 18 September 2012: Telling her at this point would even be more selfish than what you did in the past.
What is done is done. I am sure that she is more than over it by now and you should be as well. In fact she is right. You SHOULD find someone FOR YOU. The only... (read in full...)
Can I get any pointers on how to feel platonic love?
Q. I've learned some really valuable lessons today. You see, I fell in very strong like with this guy who is asexual(but an aromantic asexual, like he's interested in relationships just not sex) And I told him that I liked him today and I really tho...
A. 15 September 2012: Based on my experiences and observation:
Ultimately, when it comes to confessing, the best thing to do is to outright be honest with yourself and the person you are telling it to. It is hard to fumble your words when are honest. Also the quic... (read in full...)
He says he loves me as if I were a wife, but he won't marry me
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my boyfriend are seeing each other for 5 years now why doesn’t he want to marry me I ask him why? He immediately says it’s just that I can’t marry you he told me then I ask him do you love me. And he said yes; what the matter ...
A. 12 September 2012: I am sorry but you are wasting your time with this man. He will never marry you. You can not force someone to do something he does not want to do. Forget this man and move on with your life. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I'm a virgin? I want the first time to be special.
Q. Hey everyone I am 23 years old and I am a virgin..I have never really had any serious real relationship,I have just french kissed 2 men that's it..I was just waiting for the right man..now i'm finally in a real relationship but my boyfriend doesn't ...
A. 12 September 2012: For starters you should tell him that you are a virgin. I've heard stories of pain and others of no pain, I guess everyone is different and it doesn't hurt to be prepared with protection and lubrication. I'm actually confused why other answers are ... (read in full...)
I just found out that the boy I like is asexual. Is it still possible for him to return my feelings?
Q. Ok, so hi everyone. I just found out that the boy I like is asexual today. Is it still possible for him to return my feelings? Honestly, his asexuality doesn't really matter to me at all. It will be a new thing if anything, since he lacks interest ...
A. 12 September 2012: It depends and you would really have to think about it. You will have to come to terms that he may never want sex. Also you have to wonder if you are attracted just from the temptation that he is asexual. Else just go for it, and hopefully it all ... (read in full...)
Debate: Can a guy and girl really be just friends? All responses welcome guys and girls!
Q. Simple question. Its something I've pondered for a while now. Can a guy and girl really be just friends? So many times you hear about friends getting together after a long time. I have a particular guy friend, who in my mind I'm just friends ...
A. 12 September 2012: Articles can never answer a specific life situation...as I don't think it can cover EVERYTHING. At some point I am sure the idea crosses one's mind of relationship. I am sure it has for him as well, although "when" is a different story. I am ... (read in full...)
What can I do about the unwanted gift my mother in law gave me? It disturbed my husband and I. What was I supposed to do?
Q. I'm in a situation that I'm not sure whether was a nice gesture or something very strange/kind of disturbing. I'm not sure how to prevent future uncomfortable incidents without hurting my mother-in-law's feelings. Some background info might be ne...
A. 9 September 2012: By normal standards, that gift is weird. But they are nudists. Weird for you is normal for them. Burn the gift and never look back. ... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship so why is my FWB acting this way?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been friends with benefits with this guy for like 2 and half years now!!well here's the thing we met at a bar,hooked up and I thought I would be a one night stand BUT no we ended up doing it over and over again! Its been 2 yea...
A. 9 September 2012: The problem is that you have no respect for him. And he has seen that. Good luck :) ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my best friend but he is not a suitable boyfriend. How should I handle things?
Q. My best friend and I like one another. He has teased me about liking him a few times but I have always said no. And we laugh and then talk about other things. We've always been close friends who joke about everything but can confide in one another ...
A. 9 September 2012: If you like your best friend and the 2 of you get along this great I don't see why you can't be together. His family and his place in life just seem like excuses to me. It either you want to be with him or not so you should make up your mind. ... (read in full...)
Would you consider this as stalker-like behaviour?
Q. Hello all, I am just wanting an opinion on a situation that has arisen on Facebook. I have a "friend" who I met through a mutual interest site. We spoke for a long time, and eventually added each other. I figured this would be fine, sin...
A. 9 September 2012: Well it's only really stalker attitude if you've talked to them about it and they refuse to respect your space. So try to talk to him about it. He might be just obsessed a little bit but I'm not sure if the pity route is the best way to judge him.... (read in full...)
How do I let my wife know I found her vibrators without it looking like I was snooping?
Q. Hi Married for 10 yrs, wife and I have great sex, when we have it. Over the last 6 mth or so, we only have sex when she drinks, which is maybe once a month. I heard all the excuses...You smell like choclate, you smell like garlic, you are ...
A. 9 September 2012: Walk up to her and tell her that you found the vibrators while fixing. Next step would be to work on your sex life and pin point where the real problems are. It could be you, it could be her but I can't assume such things.
I agree with confront... (read in full...)
Problems in our sex life. I'd like to fix this, but how?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and things seem to be "not that great" during sex. Don't get me wrong my boyfriend and i are very attracted to each other and find plenty of passion during intercourse. But most ...
A. 7 September 2012: Talk to him about it and tell him exactly what you want. If its something he says that you both do not work to it then you will also need to work on it. Oral sex doesn't really count as foreplay since it is after intercourse. ... (read in full...)
He wants long term I dont
Q. Hi Everyone, I just want to know what other people would do in this situation. I got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship 7 months ago and it ended badly i was heart broken. I got really really hurt but there's a guy who i went to high school wi...
A. 7 September 2012: Why is it not right for long term? What would make the timing right? Didn't you think about these things before you started dating the new guy?
I think overall you are being pessimistic and putting your fears before your happiness. It doesn't make... (read in full...)
Anyone else feel energized after having sex?
Q. I was reading a mens' health magazine online one day and noticed an article about what to do/say to your partner after sex etc....There was quite a bit about how 'it's normal for a man to want to sleep after sex due to brain chemistry'....and it got ...
A. 7 September 2012: Well yeah everyone is different. There's no way a magazine could target all demo graphs so they'd just aim for a target audience or the majority. I'm not the same as you but not the same as magazine guys. After sex I feel more relaxed and willing to ... (read in full...)
She used to like me. How long do I wait to text to find out if she still cares?
Q. I'm 20 years old in college. Met this girl around 1 year ago. Last semester (January 2012), I had a class with her. She sat by me and we talked all the time. Long Story short, I took her to lunch one day and afterwards I was 100% sure she was into...
A. 7 September 2012: I'm sure there is not much deep thought going on in her mind as you are. You like the girl now so you've come to over analyse the situation. In her own way all she is saying is that she is cool with you. It doesn't have to mean that she will ... (read in full...)
Answers needed to a lot of questions on Long Distance Relationships
Q. I want to limit my background info so that I don't bias the readers of this question. I am entering my first LDR. That's all you get for now! So here's my questions: *What's been the hardest thing to go through? *What were some of your tech...
A. 7 September 2012: Well strength in one-self can only be given by you. I'm sure your boyfriend can help you but at the end of the day you are the one who has to overcome the negative feelings. LDR can suffer when it feels one sided, but the thing is that it is EASY to ... (read in full...)
Answers needed to a lot of questions on Long Distance Relationships
Q. I want to limit my background info so that I don't bias the readers of this question. I am entering my first LDR. That's all you get for now! So here's my questions: *What's been the hardest thing to go through? *What were some of your tech...
A. 6 September 2012: LDR can be different for many people because of the circumstances. For example it could be a couple and one has to move away for work. Or a couple met online so they decide LDR. Either way the feelings can be different for many people. *What's b... (read in full...)
My girlfriend romantically roleplays with others, would I be wrong to ask her to stop?
Q. Ok so I'm in a rather unique situation right now. I'm in a long distance relationship with my current girlfriend and she is an avid roleplayer on various forums with multiple people. The problem lies whenever she romantically roleplays with someone. ...
A. 6 September 2012: Find someone who can appreciate you in person. This is something she would find it too hard to give up even for you. ... (read in full...)
What should I do my bf is driving me nuts!!
Q. Hi ! I have a bf of almost 5 years. He is a hard worker he is funny and has a great family . We use to live together but we couldn't afford it so we both moved back to our patents. My dad and him don't get along so he isn't aloud at my house. He ...
A. 5 September 2012: His actions make it seem like he is the one cheating on you. Maybe the 5 years seem like a lot to you and you are still trying to make things work, but I don't think he feels the same way anyway and he just wants to do whatever he wants. I think it ... (read in full...)
I fell for her pretty hard. Should I send her another message to check if she received the first one?
Q. So, there's this girl, let's call her X, I really like. We've known each other for a couple of years, and we worked together quite closely previously. While we were working together I fell for her pretty hard, but never made any moves or voiced my...
A. 4 September 2012: I don't think it is worth sending another email. If she is not even good at checking emails, I dont think sending another would make sure. Plus I dont think it is THAT hard to notice an email from someone if she did check. Either way, it is best ... (read in full...)
Was I just a customer to them? Unrequitted friendships? Do I go back or let them go?
Q. i'm going to try and make this as short as possible. ok, so here's the deal I met a group of people during an abusive relationship, and they were really nice and supportive and helped me whenever i needed it. Four years later my friend died (su...
A. 4 September 2012: I think what you needed was along the lines of close friends but I think a group of people like this can not qualify as such. Perhaps you have placed too much faith something which was not there. This does not mean that you made a mistake or that ... (read in full...)
When a man treats his woman well: When did it become okay to commit or marry but then show no interest in a sex life with your man?
Q. I am talking about women in serious relationships who act like their man has no right to expect a decent sex life from them. Before you jump on me with the claws out, please listen to what I am saying and what I am not. I am not saying anyth...
A. 4 September 2012: I still think that if men showed more interest and treated their wives with the affection they once showed, then the wives would feel the need to dress pretty and look good. I am sure if a woman tried to look pretty on her own, the same men OP s... (read in full...)
Completely utterly totally besotted with her. What can I do? I will wait until she is free.
Q. So here I am once again asking for help from strangers, cause I simply can't take it anymore. I need help, because from an year or so I'm incredibly depressed. I know I'm young, but I just want to finally find the person I love. Please, I don't wa...
A. 4 September 2012: To the OP, it is your decision to make and your response means that all I said was in vain. Anyone can dislike me for saying this but I think you are just too busy feeling sorry for yourself while being fixated on these unrealistic expectations with ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that the one night stand meant nothing?
Q. I'm after a little bit of advice. I really have messed up and don't know how or if I can fix this. I really like this guy, but I thought he had made it clear that he wasn't interested in me. His best mate started flirting with me and I stupidly...
A. 4 September 2012: Well it is an awkward thing to deal with. I mean sure it was a one night stand and it meant nothing to you, but it was with his friend. It could have been with anyone else but you chose his friend. Also one night stands tend to raise questions about ... (read in full...)
I'm at a crossroads with these two men and need some perspective
Q. Hi Everyone, I'm in a bit of a bind. I've written before to you aunties and uncles in regards to someone in my life who was giving me mixed signals and wasn't really into me. I was sort of in denial because he was saying one thing and his actions ...
A. 3 September 2012: Long answer short, you should go with the internet guy.
I'm not saying it WILL LAST FOREVER, but at least you can actually start a relationship and make your own mistakes, experiences and have those feelings when you are actually with someone.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my sister is on the wrong path -- what can I do to help?
Q. Dear Cupid, My 14 year old sister is beginning to worry our family. I'm 20 and have been through the same high school she is now attending, and the way she dresses can and will get her in trouble (school-wise and peer-wise), from what I've seen in ...
A. 2 September 2012: As long as no one is close to her, she will not listen to anyone since her friends are the one she will feel the closest to. At this rate she will just think you are jealous of her. How does she get the clothing? I assume she buys them with the... (read in full...)
I feel like my love for him died.
Q. I had a pregnancy scare a few days ago, I told my bf and I took a test, it came out positive. But, just to be sure I made an appointment for another test. At first, my bf seemed supportive and soothed my nerves. On our way to the appointment though, ...
A. 2 September 2012: I don't think you are over reacting. It does raise an interesting point on what he would do to you if you were really pregnant, and I don't think it would have been anything good. For someone 15yrs older one would not have expected a 180degrees flip ... (read in full...)
Where do I start? How do I apologize for leaving him in the dust?
Q. There is this guy we will call him D. that I have officially known for a couple of years but we haven't talked in about a year now. When I first met D. I wasn't in a good place in my life and I wasn't ready for a serious relationship so we stopped ...
A. 2 September 2012: Don't get me wrong, I perfectly get your point of view and I can tell that you are ready. But a lot could have changed so it would be wise to not put your expectations too high. I don't think you will seem crazy if you are honest about where you ... (read in full...)
Completely utterly totally besotted with her. What can I do? I will wait until she is free.
Q. So here I am once again asking for help from strangers, cause I simply can't take it anymore. I need help, because from an year or so I'm incredibly depressed. I know I'm young, but I just want to finally find the person I love. Please, I don't wa...
A. 2 September 2012: You'd do all these things for her but you do nothing for yourself which is a shame. Why is it that you have to be completely miserable when she isn't talking to you? I have many friends like you, always depressed, and just focused on this one girl... (read in full...)
Where do I start? How do I apologize for leaving him in the dust?
Q. There is this guy we will call him D. that I have officially known for a couple of years but we haven't talked in about a year now. When I first met D. I wasn't in a good place in my life and I wasn't ready for a serious relationship so we stopped ...
A. 2 September 2012: Even if the connection was still there, would you act on it this time? There aren't any real answers to give you because in the end you have not even spoken to him yet. I guess you can try calling because at this point, it doesn't seem like you have ... (read in full...)
When a man treats his woman well: When did it become okay to commit or marry but then show no interest in a sex life with your man?
Q. I am talking about women in serious relationships who act like their man has no right to expect a decent sex life from them. Before you jump on me with the claws out, please listen to what I am saying and what I am not. I am not saying anyth...
A. 23 August 2012: I think it goes both ways, since men do stop putting in the effort. A lot of men figure that it ends at the altar and that a good marriage is a shortcut. I don't think that there are no short cuts I do believe that women in marriage still want the ... (read in full...)
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