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Bad attirtude. Poor communication What should I do about him? Is he worth it?
Q. Heya, Actually the guy studies in my college...but different faculties... we found some mutual friends on fb... I knew little about him...he asked for my number... I gave him my numner because I thought we'll be friends ...he's really a nic...
A. 25 October 2012: I think he took offence to you telling him what to do. You called him, woke him up and then told him to go back to sleep...that doesn't make sense to me and sometimes when a girl wakes me up for no reason I get really angry, especially when there is ... (read in full...)
Help! I told her how I felt about her too soon... now she won't talk to me.
Q. I told a girl I really liked too early about my feelings and now she is ignoring me. Before I asked her, I was pretty sure that she liked me too, but when I told her that I loved her she said she didn't know whether she liked me. I understand why ...
A. 25 October 2012: Nothing is wrong with confessing to a girl fast, in fact I tend to encourage it with my friends. But I think in your case you jumped the gun. Love is a pretty strong word and even in my view it was too hasty on your part. If she is ignoring you, ... (read in full...)
She blows me off when I try to talk to her. Should I keep trying to talk to her?
Q. Okay, so about 3 years ago (10th grade) i met a girl that became my best friend, we would do everything together and supported each other with everything. When my birthday came this year in march i planned for me and her and my good friends ...
A. 24 October 2012: Since she initiates all and rejects your own plans then all the more reason why I think it is only convenient for her. ... (read in full...)
She blows me off when I try to talk to her. Should I keep trying to talk to her?
Q. Okay, so about 3 years ago (10th grade) i met a girl that became my best friend, we would do everything together and supported each other with everything. When my birthday came this year in march i planned for me and her and my good friends ...
A. 23 October 2012: I think it is clear as daylight that this friend of yours doesn't want to be a part of your life...only "conveniently". ... (read in full...)
What's his game? Is he trying to use me as a booty call?
Q. I met this guy at a club. He had dinner and we went his place but I refused to have sex. Two days later he invited me to come to his brother's birthday party. I went there but we didn't had sex. then he invited me to come over his place to...
A. 23 October 2012: I think he got your message that you didn't want to have sex and only fun. Naturally he invited his friends in order to make the experience more festive. I think if he was trying to use you as a booty call, you would already be having sex with him ... (read in full...)
My studies are suffering from having a crush!
Q. Hello I am a student in middle-school(Korea) and I am school vice-president. I am the top in my school in grades and I have many friends(btw I am korean but I am fluent in English). Whenever I like someone, I felt good when something we did matched ...
A. 22 October 2012: Hello to Korea!
I have some small knowledge about Korea's culture but maybe crushes, romance is not so different. You would be surprised that many feel the same as you.
I have straight-forward advice. For starters, DO something about ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for this guy, but I'm confused as I don't want to hurt him. What should I do?
Q. so i am pretty young, 18. i have a child he is 1 1/2 years old. my sons dad has been out of the picture for 1 year. i got a job at a local store and i met this guy we'll call him X. he is 26 has 2 children and works at the same store. we have ...
A. 22 October 2012: You have nothing to fear but fear itself.
Spend more time to get to know him and continue enjoying the relationship. Problems are part of relationships so there is no reason to fear them. But when the time comes, remember to stick to your mor... (read in full...)
I feel my girlfriend is rushing our relationship. 6 months and a LDR and she's talking of marriage!
Q. I have been dating this girl long distance of 6 months now, and we are planning to move in together in 2 months. She has had many more sexual partners and failed relationships as well as a marriage when she was still young. Where as this is my first ...
A. 19 October 2012: In this case I am sure she likes being told what she wants to hear. At the end of the you need to stick to your own guns and the future you are comfortable with and merge it with hers, slowly but surely.
There is nothing wrong with your views bu... (read in full...)
Follow up: my husband has disappeared 6 weeks after we got married.
Q. Thank you for your help on my question at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/married-six-weeks-and-now-he-has-left.html I'll clear up a few things for you now; He's Canadian, born in Vancouver, well Scottish-Canadian to be exact, his ancestors emi...
A. 19 October 2012: I have no idea what your husband is thinking nor can I remotely relate his perspective. I fear this is where the line may end in your relationship with him. Assuming his family knows, I am sure they have very little power in controlling his actions. ... (read in full...)
Does first time sex really hurt?
Q. Hiiiiiii everyone..my question is does sex really hurts for the first time..i was talking with my bf on this topic nd he told me that it hurts..i have never ever done sex..nd when i try to insert my finger in vagina it hurts like hell i cant insert ...
A. 12 October 2012: This is an answer I had given to a previous question of similar nature.
I think a lot of girl's first times are bad because their boyfriends are in a hurry or get too excited or simply don't know what to do. From what I do know, the first ti... (read in full...)
If I love him so much why do I continue to push him away and hurt him?
Q. My first bf was very abusive both physically and emotionally, We dated from the time we were around 13 right up until last year. We have an amazing son together but he hasnt been in his life since he was few motnhs old In January my broth...
A. 12 October 2012: This sounds like the equivalent of being spoiled. You aren't appreciating anything he does, nor do you make it known. Instead of looking at what he is doing in the relationship, you should look at what YOU are doing/not doing for the relationship. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends child calls me 'mom'. I feel awkward. Am I overreacting?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been dating a guy for about 6 years now. When he was in highschool he had a child with his then girlfriend who kept the child, and my boyfriend supports the kid, monetary wise and even spends time with this kid..about 2 yea...
A. 12 October 2012: When I was little, I was the same way to my now, step mom. Being at that age, even so young, you'd still look for normality which includes a woman worthy of being "mom" and you have filled this role in every way emotionally, mentally, and ... (read in full...)
Why do people talk badly about their ex?
Q. Why people actually talks bad thngs against thie ex-lover?...
A. 12 October 2012: Realistically speaking, people generally talk more about Bad experiences rather than the good times. If we go to a bad diner, we complain and tell our friends. If it was a good diner, we would be happy and maybe bring up the topic once in the ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who you knew was going to move to another country?
Q. Would you date someone if you knew he/she was leaving the country within the year and there could never be anything serious? I am coming out of a relationship and I want something very casual, but I will be moving away within the year. I feel bad...
A. 12 October 2012: Leading people on is wrong, and you wouldn't like it to be done to you. Friendship is ok but nothing remotely close to relationship stuff. ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but hardly ever see her. Should I continue when I feel this disappointed?
Q. I have started seeing this girl and its been going on for about a month. When we're together its really nice but thats the problem. She never wants to see me. shes always too busy going to parties which i never get invited to. We arranged to meet...
A. 11 October 2012: You should find someone else who will make time for you. ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about the girls he's adding on his FB? He holds my hand in public looks me into my eyes and says he loves me.
Q. ok so i am in a relationship with a guy for about 7 mnths now. he does not belong to a vey rich family. he also had problems with his studies but crossing all the barriers he cleared a medical exam seat to be a doctor. before we had met he told ...
A. 11 October 2012: If this is someone you love then you should be able to talk to him about things that really bother you. Why do you keep silent about this problem? I think the longer you keep silent about ANY issue, the worse you will feel and you will even blow the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wrongfully accused me of lying to him. Is this a deal breaker for us?
Q. My bf and I have been together off and on for over a year now. Before we started dating, I was hanging out with him and an acquaintance of ours, after a night of drinking and partying with some friends. We decided to call it a night and this o...
A. 11 October 2012: I think it is a disgusting scenario in general and certainly a deal breaker (to me). It should be no business of him if you slept with the guy OR not. He shouldn't have even asked his friend. I could go on and on but this double standard is really ... (read in full...)
My guy's mother hates me. How can I get her to accept me and her grandson?
Q. I met my bf three years ago just before he left to go over seas with the army. We didnt "offically" start dating until he came home because he didnt think it was fair to ask me to wait for him, We wrote each other almost daily and I waited for...
A. 11 October 2012: Your husband is right and he is also doing the right thing. For whatever reason his mother just can not adjust to the thought of "losing" her son and this hate she has is all she knows. It is a shame that you mother in law can not see the big ... (read in full...)
Lack of support and TLC - What the kind of behavior is this?
Q. Hey everyone. I apologize for the lengthy post. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. Relationship is up and down, he does really stupid and hurtful things sometimes, and all the time I just give him chance, after chance, after ...
A. 5 October 2012: I think after four years he is pretty much taking you for granted. Personally I would not stand for this kind of mediocre attitude and it is not something I expect after four years of being together. That basically means to me, it will never get ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is not clear about what she wants and I don't know how to fix the mess that's been created
Q. so me and my girlfriend broke up about a month ago, mostly her decision to leave. She said she felt unhappy and that the spark was gone but she still loved me and could see us having kids and getting married. She finished moving about about 3 ...
A. 5 October 2012: Friend you sound just as lost as her. You are sure of your feelings and I will give you that, but in regards to everything else, it just seems all over the place.
Firstly about the girl, we both know that you can't force someone's feelings... (read in full...)
Our current "stressful living situation " is driving my B/f crazy and he doesn't even want to touch me, let alone have sex. I feel attention deprived!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for about 8 months. In the beginning of our relationship i was a little unsure if i liked him but was encouraged by friends and family to give it a try. He put in lots of effort in the beginning. We didnt ...
A. 5 October 2012: If you are looking for a long lasting and perfect relationship, it will require hard work and a lot of forgiveness. Focusing on things like sex or lack there of really won't solve anything.
It is a good idea to ask "what can I do for the relation... (read in full...)
I cheated on my workaholic wife -- now what?
Q. I have been married for 10 years and have two kids under the age of 10. My wife recently was made an executive at her fortune 200 firm and has not been home much since. She leaves for work around 7 AM and most evenings she gets home after 10 PM. ...
A. 3 October 2012: It is a really sad story, one of those with no black and white solutions that will bring true happiness. The whole ordeal seems complicated but more importantly it seems very slow. Your wife is making an improvement so I think you should give her ... (read in full...)
In am in love with this girl. How can I win her heart? She has cheated on me so many times
Q. Hi My Name is E,so there is this girl. She's Beautiful and we met right after the day of my birthday and we got together. We was in an on and off relationship. So anyways we got back together and we stayed together but then we broke up. i wanted to...
A. 2 October 2012: This girl only sees you as a friend and that is all you will ever be. Stop talking to her as I am sure she is not a good friend as well. It's time to move on.... (read in full...)
My g/f is so mature that I feel like I need a "wilder" girlfriend!
Q. my gf is just 22, so am i, and she's very mature for her age. maybe too mature sometimes. she's very responsible and she once told me she's had to be from an early age because her parents worked a lot and she's the eldest of her four little sisters. ...
A. 1 October 2012: All that matters is if you treat her right and vice versa. You love her, she loves you, and you both work towards the relationship to make it successful. People can only comment on what they generally see but they have no clue about how you feel and ... (read in full...)
I am terrified of having sex,feels as if my whole life is going to crumble.
Q. I have joined this site with lots of hope. Since my younger days I used to be afraid of having sex but now it seems that I have succumbed to that fear.And I am unable to focus on anything now because of this pressure. I have been in love with ...
A. 1 October 2012: I think a lot of girl's first times are bad because their boyfriends are in a hurry or get too excited or simply don't know what to do. From what I do know, the first time of sex can be somewhat painful BUT can also be minimized if performed ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? He only comes around when he wants sex!
Q. I am a heavy set woman that is very attractive and has had no problems finding ppl. But this one guy that I have been with only calls or comes around when he wants sex. How can I know if hes ashamed of me? Ive asked him over and over is he ashamed ...
A. 1 October 2012: Based on all that you have said, it would imply that he only sees you as an object for sex. I assume that you would like some form of relationship with him, so I would ask him about if I were you. I also assume that you give him sex when he calls. ... (read in full...)
An overprotective mother, how can I get her to be reasonable?
Q. Hello. My question deals with an overprotective mother. I am 22, going on 23 in 3 months. I never dated in high school because of how she over reacts about boys. It was just easier to not date then to constantly argue with her. So yesterday, I ...
A. 30 September 2012: The same questions you ask us are the same questions you should ask her. I admit she could be a little more reasonable but the thing is that she only complained to your sister. At least she didnt blow up in your face or your guy. I couldn't imagine ... (read in full...)
How do I make her feel comfortable about having sex with me again?
Q. long story short, i pressured my gf into sex because i wanted to catch up to my buddies that had all done it. i felt left out so i pressured my long-time gf (2 years) and she gave in, even though i knew she wasn't ready (hence 2 years without any). ...
A. 30 September 2012: There are something in life which can not be fixed. Only healed. Even though she did not say anything, you should have comforted her and reassured her that nothing bad would happen. You owe that responsibility to her because she did that for you and ... (read in full...)
He treated me badly, I knew we couldn't marry so why do I still miss him?
Q. SORRY FOR MY bad ENGLISH.... I met my boyfriend one year ago,it was a rebound relationship, I was so much attached to him, we used to talk 7-8 hours in day. He used to tell me he wants to marry me, but we both belongs to conservative fam...
A. 30 September 2012: I have a friend who also blame herself for the things her ex-boyfriend did. I know her for 3 years and she is still blaming herself and he is somewhat in her life. He still calls and abuses her. There is nothing I can do for her. It is up to her and ... (read in full...)
I wonder how someone who says they love you, can be so cruel with their words and comments
Q. I am 52and my common-law wife is 46. We had an amazing relationship for the first 15 years of out 17 together, with only 3 or 4 arguments. We had always put each other first, and love and respect were two aspects of a relationship we cherished. ...
A. 29 September 2012: I'm not sure if you would want advice from a 26 year old good sir but I do find similarities in a previous relationship of mine. I think the things I will say will be somewhat obvious but then again, maybe not.
I think before this trip I guess sh... (read in full...)
Was I too inflexible?
Q. Did I handle this right or was I inflexible? I have been seeing a man for many months and there have been "issues" mostly around him being too busy to make plans etc.. So he travels alot for work and was in town for only two days. He told me how...
A. 29 September 2012: Well for starters you haven't really mentioned a pattern, just one instance. Travelling really drains oneself so I'd imagine he isn't too sharp about certain things. Instead of waiting all day you could have just gone and met him yourself. Couples ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to boyfriend about having children?
Q. Ive just learnt that my bf would want me to have an abortion if i were to fall pregnant now as he doesnt want a kid For at least a few years. He was serious. We've had this talk before but it has never said that. We have been together for 3 years....
A. 29 September 2012: I think if abortion is something you are strongly against then I see no real future with your boyfriend. But that is just based on my morals.
I just don't understand many things in this question. For starters I don't understand why his views on... (read in full...)
How do I stop jealousy from getting the best of me?
Q. I am constantly on the social networking side of the internet. I check facebook often, email for work and personal connection, etc. So now that I'm in an LDR I see that my very handsome boyfriend has added a few girls to his friends list that go to ...
A. 28 September 2012: For starters cut back the amount of times you check facebook. Secondly find other things better to do with your time. The small time you spent on facebook could have been used for something else.
Develop a closer communication with your boyf... (read in full...)
What's the best way to tell him you like him?
Q. okayy, peeps--this question is gonna be short, sweet, and to the point. i'm mainly looking for male opinions here, but females...feel free to put your two cents in as well. ") what is the best way for a girl to tell a guy that she likes him? shoul...
A. 27 September 2012: You'd be surprised but being bold, upfront and straight forward is the most surprising and effective way to tell a guy. Most guy's answers will revolve around this general idea, and quite frankly we DO know what we are talking about lol. Good luck ... (read in full...)
What did the dream about my ex mean?
Q. Well i know this isn't the best question for this site but i feel lke there is an answer some where. Anyways i dreamt that my my ex was crying and hugging me telling me he misses me and loves me and doesn't care if im dating someone else. Well i ...
A. 27 September 2012: Well dreams are reflections of the way you feel or experience your present life. That's why they say you shouldn't read too much into dreams. To me it seems like either a feeling you fear or something you yearn for (it, being love). I guess it's ... (read in full...)
Handling school and jobs -- we're growing distant, how do I deal with it?
Q. Hey guys! My boyfriend used to be a lot closer to me and always wanted to talk to me and be with me. He got a job and he has to balance school and now our relationship seems soo distant. I do understand now he has less free time and he must be so ...
A. 25 September 2012: If you love him then there is no shame in being the one to take charge in the relationship. It sounds like you have more free time than him so it would be a good idea to be the one who initiates the attention giving instead. You don't have to fight ... (read in full...)
Married lover and I want to end our affair but keep going back for more
Q. I've been having an affair for a year now. Married for 9 and a half years with 2 children. My husband is great and I honestly am not sure what lead to my affair? I have been in this affair with our neighbor who we see all the time so it's extremely ...
A. 25 September 2012: Like with any bad addiction, it gives you the illusion that what you are getting makes you feel happy. But we all know that bad addictions will eventually make you feel worse while covering the real issues.
I think it is pretty obvious that you... (read in full...)
Married lover and I want to end our affair but keep going back for more
Q. I've been having an affair for a year now. Married for 9 and a half years with 2 children. My husband is great and I honestly am not sure what lead to my affair? I have been in this affair with our neighbor who we see all the time so it's extremely ...
A. 25 September 2012: Sounds like a bad addiction to me. Just like all addictions you usually have to find the will power in yourself to over come it. I suppose a year of having an affair without getting caught is enough a reason. Also the fact that he is your neighbour ... (read in full...)
Maybe I shouldn't have broken up with him over his post?
Q. I had this boyfriend(S),we were together for about 7 months and everything was going fine. i really liked him and (S) was one of the few people i've been with that was good to me. about 4 months into the relationship we had sex. it was the first ...
A. 24 September 2012: Dreams are reflections of our lives so I wouldn't read too much into them. I suppose it could mean that you have a desire for some affection, since you said you liked it.
I don't really know what the post said so I couldn't tell you if it was j... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend asked me to share my naked pic, I refused to share and now he is sad. Should I send him my naked pic?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We both are of same age, 16 years old. He is Australian and I'm Indian. We met 2 months ago on facebook and he proposed me after 1 month. I love him a lot. I strictly follow what our holy book ...
A. 23 September 2012: I think you should only do these things if you are completely comfortable with it. This goes without saying that you should only do these things when you trust him as well. I think you should get to know him more before you do such things. Also ... (read in full...)
I just want a little TLC when we are out together, but he gives it to everybody but me!
Q. What is there to do in this situation? My boyfriend is a hopeless flirt and the life of the party. I find it incredibly uncomfortable being in public with him. What on earth can I do? At parties, he engages everyone, except me. He has said...
A. 23 September 2012: I usually try to look at both sides, but when I look at his side, all I see is an insecure person who is more selfish than anyone I know. Rather than make an effort to change his ways, he still continues to do so.
I consider the way a couple t... (read in full...)
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