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Q. Guess I’m looking for whatever advice I can find. I just don’t know what to think anymore. Here’s my problem. I’m a 26 year old guy and I get no interest from girls. Physically I’m 5’9”, 145 pounds, average build, blue eyes, and short brown ...
A. 23 July 2012: There's a lot of factors to consider. Remember these girls feel in love first, before things went bad for them. A lot of women hope that their guy will change for them. I suppose women are more emotionally driven and attached than men. It would be ... (read in full...)
My husband financially supports his ex girlfriend, is at her beck and call; ultimatum or just leave?
Q. My husband sold his whole duplex to his ex girlfriend, even though she hardly ever paid her rent to him for her side when we lived in the other. She's constantly calling needing something, and he jumps, sometimes making me do things for her, too. ...
A. 19 July 2012: I'm surprised you were with that man for so long. I would never want to raise a child in that environment as well. I think you are making the right call by moving out. ... (read in full...)
What am I to her? Is she playing me and her BF? How can I make this situation better?
Q. Hi, I'm confused and I need some good advice from you people I will explain everything thing in a bit of detail so that I could get some good and satisfying help! I met this girl in an exam center through a mutual friend of mine.. She was my frien...
A. 18 July 2012: Relationships have been the same for 100 years, 200 years in the past and they will be the same in the future. I don't think much will ever change and your situation is actually common.
Let us look at the facts. She is still with her boyfrien... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to be honest to my GF when she asked a valid Question?
Q. Ok just had a conversation with my GF, she asked if any women from my past had contacted me. So I was honest and answered affirmatively that an Ex had contacted me just shooting the breeze and wanting to get together next time i was in town and abou...
A. 18 July 2012: So old yet so naive. Next time just lie and reassure her that these things have never happened. Honesty: don't believe the hype.
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I'm not wet enough for sex and I'm unsure why
Q. I'm having trouble getting wet with my bf. We pretty much have to use lube every time we have sex. We've been together for a year and before him I've never had to do that. I can't say that I get super wet anyway (for instance, i hear that some women ...
A. 17 July 2012: No. All women are different. And i think a lot of men's parts can be different as well, where both men or women's part can be wetter or dryer (as some men can precum a lot). It all depends on the person. Don't feel bad for that. Just be thankful ... (read in full...)
Do you think women have a more difficult time letting go?
Q. This is just a general question, but do you agony aunts find that girls have a harder time getting over exes than guys? Every girl I know has an ex who they still have a thing for if even in just a small way. I admit to still being attracte...
A. 17 July 2012: I think men AND women have an equally hard time getting over an ex. Women are more forward to admitting feelings and asking for advice than men so women become an easier statistic to actually count. It really just depends on a lot of things like age ... (read in full...)
We aren't dating even though I said we hold hands
Q. Dear Cupid, I've known one of my best guy friends for a long time. We've always done everything together; we hang out 24/7 and we have a good time with each other. But this summer I have been feeling like he's more than a best friend now. He is su...
A. 16 July 2012: Well it is a risk but you should just come straight out and say your feelings, prolly in the same way you told us. There is of course the chance of rejection but life is already too short. If he is a good friend as you describe then even if he ... (read in full...)
I doubted him so I tested him and now he says I didn't trust him so we have nothing!
Q. dear cupids.i am grl of 18 nd in a relationship wid a guy whom i love wholeheartedly.he loves me too.i hav a minor doubts on him considering his relation wid other grls.therfore,its been 2 weeks past , i have a loyality test on him nd he passed it ...
A. 16 July 2012: I am sorry for your loss. Men usually do not like "tests". In fact no one does since no one likes to be used. I agree that there are many bad men out there, but I also think that there are bad women out there. In reality there are just bad "people". ... (read in full...)
If b/f was over ex why would he even be talking about her?
Q. Dear Cupid, Last night i was hanging out with my boyfriend and some topics came up that kind of upset me. First off... our relationship is fairly new and we've only been dating for around several months. I know that he got out of a long term rela...
A. 12 July 2012: I think saying what is on your mind in a calm manner is MUCH better than getting upset and being quiet about the situation. You should mention what you think about the situation since it does affect you as well. I think the important thing is to not ... (read in full...)
Please help! LDR, does she love the same way that I do?
Q. I met a wonderful girl and im such in love with her, but everything happened very fast and im a little bit skceptical. I met her a year ago but we didnt go out until last month, we spent a whole month together but now she is back to her country....
A. 12 July 2012: It depends, you should at least talk to her, ask her why she doesn't do the things you do. I think it is your heart that is telling you she isn't putting out much effort but your mind is telling you this is the one.
Yeah things happened so fast ... (read in full...)
She was the one being annoying first!
Q. This is a friend question. Yesterday I drew a picture of my crush and my friend saw, and she took a picture and kept saying she was gonna show it to him. And she actually looked like she was gonna show him so I was jokingly like, if you show h...
A. 12 July 2012: There is a difference though.
She "said" she would show the picture to him.
Yet you actually sent her the photo which caused her to lose credit. Maybe she was being annoying first but there is a fine line between annoying and actually doi... (read in full...)
Confused relationship: am I a slut for making out with him when I know I'm not going to marry him?
Q. Hi, I'm stuck in a real complicated situation and need some genuine advice.im 29 years old female from india.in 2008 I met a man who approached me and I fell in love with him.he was my first boyfriend ever and I truly loved him at that point be...
A. 12 July 2012: You guys may not be teenagers but the relationship between the two of you is quite similar in teenagers. The reality is that this is the only man you've ever once trusted and you have put a lot of mind, soul and effort into him. I can understand ... (read in full...)
She tells me she likes me and misses me, but makes no time for me. I am confused!
Q. So I'm going to apologize ahead for giving so many details in this, but I feel they're all relevant, as this whole situation has completely confused me. So about 2 months ago, I met this girl throughout a mutual friend.. hung out.. cuddled/hu...
A. 11 July 2012: I don't understand, is she your girl friend or not? It sounds like she would only make that time for someone if that person IS indeed her boyfriend. You've never once said that you were her boyfriend. So what gives? Why don't you ask her? ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend she needs to tone the self righteousness down?
Q. Good Day Everyone, I'm in my mid 30's and my friend Khadine and I have a mutual friend Andrea. Names are not real. Khadine and Andrea are actually cousins and I became friends with both of them at different times in my life and in differen...
A. 11 July 2012: I understand this situation perfectly. Truth be told I happen to think the best way to deal with these things is to speak up about it as soon as it happens. Andrea can say what is on her mind, but the same goes for you and Khadine. You did great by ... (read in full...)
I've moved to be with my boyfriend and now I'm depressed thinking I've made a big mistake...help!
Q. Please help! Feel like i'm losing it all :( I will try and make this short. Been together with my boyfriend 11 years we have had our ups and downs. We are compatible for the most part and sex is not an issue. But I have put up with a lot and have...
A. 11 July 2012: It sounds like you have not spoken to him about it and after 11 years I think you should be able to have these kinds of talks with someone. Talk to him and ask him how he feels and decide from there what you really want to do with your life. ... (read in full...)
Should I try to get back with him or is it over for good?
Q. Hi. I have been in a relationship with this guy since the past 1.5 years. Our relationship hasn't really been very easy. He cheated on me twice and I forgave him because I love the guy. We have our fights mainly over trust issues but we have managed ...
A. 11 July 2012: I believe you already have your way of dealing with him so whatever you do, I am sure it will work out. I suppose yes this is his way of control and he likes being in control...of course in this case you did mess up. But I am a person who believes ... (read in full...)
I don't think she will ever like me!
Q. I just don't think I'll ever get her to like me!...... My fiancee's female friend that is. He and I have been together for 5 years. I am 23, my fiancee is 25, the female friend is 34. They are from the same town in their home country, she had a ...
A. 10 July 2012: Well here would be my comebacks but I would recommend my later solution to your problem. I can offer another solution because I myself have a female friend who also can't "speak up" for herself. But think about standing up for yourself as more of a ... (read in full...)
Despite making myself very clear he insists on pursuing me
Q. Hi everyone, I am in a bit of a difficult situation so if anyone has any advice or comments, it would be greatly appreciated! Just last year I moved back to my home town to attend college, and I got in touch with an old childhood friend. He and I...
A. 9 July 2012: Men and women can not be friends in this way when one person already has feelings for the other. You acknowledged him as a friend but he continued contact with you. This was your mistake. You should have never kept contact with him. You even ... (read in full...)
Should I try to get back with him or is it over for good?
Q. Hi. I have been in a relationship with this guy since the past 1.5 years. Our relationship hasn't really been very easy. He cheated on me twice and I forgave him because I love the guy. We have our fights mainly over trust issues but we have managed ...
A. 7 July 2012: For someone to become this angry seems suspicious when they repeat the same thing over and over. But perhaps it seems justified since he has caught you in the past. Honestly, I can not judge his actions too well.
But I hope you understa... (read in full...)
I know he is a player, so how should I proceed?
Q. How do I know if this guy likes me enough to date me or just wants to hook up? Ok, so I know this guy has had one girlfriend and she dumped him and he was hurt. This was about two years ago. Since then he's only hooked up with girls as one night ...
A. 7 July 2012: I'm not really sure how anyone would proceed from here. Basically, you know he is a player and you are acting like..well..a woman who gets out a lot. Generally, I would just recommend being blunt and give him a day to think about being together. My ... (read in full...)
I don't think she will ever like me!
Q. I just don't think I'll ever get her to like me!...... My fiancee's female friend that is. He and I have been together for 5 years. I am 23, my fiancee is 25, the female friend is 34. They are from the same town in their home country, she had a ...
A. 7 July 2012: People tend to have strange and messed up ways of expressing their true feelings. More so when they have experienced failure in their own life and can't seem to find their way to success again.
Btw, congrats to you and yours! It is quite refreshi... (read in full...)
Is love over exaggerated?
Q. Can LOVE really exist between 2 people? Can two people really find what they are looking for each other? Or is LOVE an idea that is over exaggerated in movies, songs and novels? Do people really find someone they can be happy with forever? Or is it ...
A. 4 July 2012: Love exists between two people the way we want it to happen. It is different from a movie, or novel, because we experience it in a different perspective. The only way it can happen though, is to get out there and make it happen and to make your own ... (read in full...)
I lied to her but I never cheated!
Q. After over 2 years together we hit the biggest of all speedbumps. I was caught texting a girl I used to hook up with. The messages were never out of line, on her birthday and mine we talked a bit. Than my now ex was going to send her a nasty ...
A. 30 June 2012: Give her time and space, let her decide for herself.... (read in full...)
No contact now for nine days -- is it really over?
Q. My ex and I broke up the beginning of May of this year because ofnmajor trust issues. I found out that he had not fully gotten over his Ex about 4 months into our relationship. I found out that he would go running back to her every time we had a ...
A. 30 June 2012: Sounds like you are in love with the sparse fond memories you had with him and not the person he has become now. I am not really sure why you would want him back. Both of you had serious relationship issues and they never even came close to being ... (read in full...)
I feel like she just wants a boy to chase her!
Q. I'm utterly heartbroken here. I met this girl who I wasn't that attracted to at first and we became really good friends very quickly. She showed a lot of interest in me and she eventually started hanging out with me at the movies and my house. This ...
A. 28 June 2012: Just tell her no and back off from her. Stop giving into what she needs, and give into YOUR NEEDS. Friendship is all about boundaries and she has obviously set them for you. The things you are asking, are in themselves, answers.
Stop paying s... (read in full...)
He dumps me with no reason but normally comes back, but this time it is different. How can I make everything normal again?
Q. he always dumps me but with no reason and after some time he always comes back, but now he does not want to talk to me and he is saying that he has to go outside for his studies thats why, but this reason he has told me before also what to do to ...
A. 26 June 2012: Find a guy who will treat you with better respect. ... (read in full...)
Should I let this crush just die the way I've let other crushes do or could this be a girl I finally have a chance with?
Q. 20 year old male here who hasn't had any luck with women ever. In high school, I was seen as a monster by the majority of my female peers (likely due to not being an athlete or anything of real worth beyond one of the quasi-artsy kids) and in ...
A. 26 June 2012: Indeed ladies are tricky...thats why unless you are adept at picking up signals and have all the know-how to get girls to ask you out, it is best to just ask them out and get it over with. It's either you win or lose but its good to be confident ... (read in full...)
How do I trust her and accept her past?
Q. I apologize for the length, but I don't know how to condense this or make it concise, as to me, it's complicated, so I'll try to get as much relevant information out as well as the main question/questions: how do I ask her if she's been with other's ...
A. 26 June 2012: Every guy says they want to know about their girl's past. The moment they hear one guy, they get sad because reality is that the bf was never their 1st.
The past is past. People can't go back and undo it. You need to ask her for if she wants to... (read in full...)
My mom breastfeeds my brother in public and I hate it!
Q. I hate it when my mom breastfeeds my baby brother in public. What should I do? She has done it several times. Why the hell would she wanna do it in public? She's crazy. It embarrasses the hell out of me. It's also disgusting. Is there a way I ca...
A. 26 June 2012: Talk to your mom in a mature manner and suggest to her if she can do it less in public.
A lot of Aunts will comment about the breast feeding but the OP's concern is the public issue of Breast feeding. ... (read in full...)
Should I just give up on this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently split up over my jealousy issues over his relationships with his female friends. When we were together he told me he loved me and was only interested in me. We even talked about marriage and I moved in with him after only ...
A. 25 June 2012: You will never feel the same for another as you did with your ex. But this is the beauty in life, that everything is a learning experience and each person will reward you with a new and unique experience. You will find another who will treat you ... (read in full...)
Should I just give up on this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently split up over my jealousy issues over his relationships with his female friends. When we were together he told me he loved me and was only interested in me. We even talked about marriage and I moved in with him after only ...
A. 25 June 2012: I don't think he will ever be open because this is the type of person he is. These actions are a big part of his life and I do not think he can ever give it up. I think I understand your position fully and it is a shame he can not give up that ... (read in full...)
LDR broke up..does she just need space?
Q. Ok so my long distance girlfriend in Chicago broke up with me a few weeks back over her self esteem issues. Well when we talked 2 weeks ago she said for now we are on a break. She is open to us getting back together once im moved up there in ...
A. 20 June 2012: I think it is extremely strange for a girl with these self esteem issues to want to break up with a guy as devoted as you. I don't think she has jumped onto another guy = it could be that there has been someone else in her life gradually over t... (read in full...)
Will he ever realize his mistake?
Q. So this guy used to be interested in me. Now he's not anymore. He goes from relationship to relationship where the girls either cheat on him with his friends, or leave him because they aren't that into him. Or they break up for some other dumb ...
A. 20 June 2012: Did he make the mistake or you? All these things u describe yourself with relatively have very little to do with him. He's allowed to change his mind after all. Can't really expect someone to realize a mistake in your case if they never knew the ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had luck dating friends?
Q. Have any of you had luck dating friends? I have this friend. She's beautiful and intelligent, we have some common interests. Of course I'm afraid to ask her out on a date cuz I'm scared of rejection and affecting our friendship but just wondering if ...
A. 18 June 2012: It is rare but it does happen. Just ask her out , the sooner the better. Rejection is ok, because you will find another like her or better. ... (read in full...)
Any ideas for getting ahead without selling my soul?
Q. Hi everyone I need help! I love my job but it seems like I get passed over for promotions and projects. There is one other woman that works with me and everyone seems to love her. She is very lazy and does the bare minimum but still gets lots of ...
A. 18 June 2012: Well aside from sucking up to the boss, she is doing something very important in the business world which is making herself known.
If you do extra work etc , you need to make it known. It is not like a relationship where you expect your spouse t... (read in full...)
Is he using me? I saw a text from him to her saying he was 'domesticated and miserable'!
Q. I've known a guy for a few years. We started off as just an every now and again fling. I knew he was coming around just to get what he wanted. He stopped talking to me completely for a few months because he thought I was talking about him. He is ...
A. 18 June 2012: I don't understand why would you proceed with a relationship with this guy knowing he never wanted a relationship from the start. It just seems like you are forcing him to be someone he is not by letting him stay in your place. I mean...you KNEW ... (read in full...)
Am I gay for wanting my friend to say "I love you" too?
Q. Hello, This is not exactly a sex problem, but it really confuses me. I'm 19 years old, a girl, and so is my friend, female too, and we have gone in the same class since kindengarten My friend and I used to be so close, and used to have long ...
A. 18 June 2012: Sounds more like you have a hard time accepting change, after all, people do change. It's not like she is in a relationship with you where she has to say it for it to be known. ... (read in full...)
Does my ex want me back, or not?
Q. Dear cupid I'm trying to figure out if my ex boyfriend wants me back because I'm getting mixed signals.After we broke up he said that he would never stop trying to win me back and he checks up on me all the time by calling or texting to see how I'm ...
A. 13 June 2012: I assume you were the one who broke up with him. It just seems like he has an extremely hard time moving on. He is crossed between moving on and wanting to be with you since as we all know, it is hard to move on. Of course, he will act distant in ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to stop wanting to be friends with people where our values and outlooks are different?
Q. Hi Aunties, I have an issue that is bothering me because I feel like my character is becoming flawed and I am changing into someone that I am not sure I want to become. It might be a long one, so I apologise in advance. I am 34 years old. I hav...
A. 11 June 2012: Ok well let us take a step back and try to see things differently. In Trinidad there are many girls like your single friend, let us be honest. Also there are many people like your married friend, who are constantly used. Reality = these women ar... (read in full...)
My sister has major issues with me. but will not tell me why. How can I address thus issue?
Q. so like a week ago my sister screamed at the top of her lungs that she hates me over and over again... It really hurts to know someone you care about hates you...and i know that she really hates me because this was no anger thing she just out of t...
A. 10 June 2012: She is a teenager, just ignore it... (read in full...)
Last night I cheated on my boyfriend of 1.5 years...what do I do now?
Q. Last night I cheated on my boyfriend of 1.5 years. By cheating, I mean that I met up with a new friend for coffee. We were sitting in the car drinking our coffee and he suddenly leaned in and kissed me. When he did this I automatically pulled away, ...
A. 9 June 2012: Why do women cheat in your situation? I assume that they take their partner for granted which is the same as a guy. Being with someone and wishing he/she was someone else is a low blow and a poor excuse. If the relationship is problematic then work ... (read in full...)
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