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I'm ruining my girlfriend's life with my drinking but she won't leave me. Should I break things off?
Q. Hey, I met a girl 3 years ago at a bar in which she happened to be a singer,her voice spoke to me,it was beautiful I used my contacts and got her work at a higher end place..we eventually started talking and then dating..her career graph is reaching...
A. 29 April 2013: Why don't you grow up, quit drinking, and actually love yourself and your girl for once? That sounds like the best way out to me. I'm not an alcoholic so I can't begin to understand what an addiction is like, but at the end of the day it is an ... (read in full...)
My ex. When I see her now I get a burning feeling in my stomach and tears are always close. What to do?
Q. I need help dealing with this. I've recently broken up with my first serious relationship. Anyways i feel like I'm bipolar. I am sad then depressed then I'm ok for a short while, then back again. I miss her a LOT. I don't know how to handle...
A. 28 April 2013: I think you need a serious reality check because you are being played here, big time. No girl should have to choose between one or the other and the same goes for you. She shouldn't have been cheating on you in the first place. And she broke up with ... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 25 April 2013: Only you can answer this question for yourself. There is no easy way about it, because dating in general is pretty tough. Having your morals is really actually fine but I feel like where you live is maybe holding you back from finding someone ... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend have lied to me? He said he was a virgin when we met, but seemed to know so much.
Q. My boyfriend and I were to together for five years. When we first met we were both virgins but throughout are relationship it was always in the back of my head thinking about. What if he hadn't been a virgin? He said he was but he knew so much abou...
A. 25 April 2013: Porn can teach a lot and it doesn't hurt MOST guys for their first time. ... (read in full...)
I'm being accused of cheating because I bruise easy. Men don't trust me!
Q. I divorced my husband with whom I had an almost ten year relationship due to the fact that I could no longer take his jealousy and accusations. I had never been unfaithful to him. Part of the accusations were my bruises, I am clumsy and bump into ...
A. 22 April 2013: Try to date guys who are more reasonable, perhaps less dominant and less possessive. Preferably one who is more secure and down to earth. ... (read in full...)
Why is he suddenly MIA on me?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about two months. He's moving out of state after graduation, about a month from now, so we've been keeping it casual. He seems to really like me, texting all day everyday and he calls me most nights of the week to talk ...
A. 22 April 2013: A lot of people get upset but it is how we deal with that anger that defines who we are. You basically turned into an aweful person when you drank and texted mean things. He was sick and I didnt see a whole lot of support from your side. But just ... (read in full...)
Why can't we stay friends??
Q. Dear Others, Do you believe that friendship between a girl and a boy can work fine? I'm in a problem as there is a boy in my class who loves me, more than just friends. He told me that he thinks he is in love with me (still now not sure because...
A. 21 April 2013: He wont look sad but eventually he will. You forget that this isn't entirely about you because he also has feelings for you. There isn't more help you need because your friends are actually telling you the right way to do things, that if you do not ... (read in full...)
Shocked, worried and confused. I'm in the dark with a pregnant ex and I've done nothing wrong.
Q. Ok, here goes nothing. I met my ex while attending university. Everything was going fine for the first 3 months until she found out she was pregnant. That's when I began to notice a change in the way I was treated. She blames says its bc of old ...
A. 21 April 2013: I think you should find out through medical means if this child is yours or not, chances are that she may have cheated on you and she feels a lot of guilt from it. Another reason could be that she feels lost and isn't reacting to the situation very ... (read in full...)
I broke her heart with the high school thing. How do I tell her that I did so bad they took me off of aid? There's no easy way to tell her and I've held off for months.
Q. Hello everyone, My relationship with my mother has always been strained. We never do the traditional hug/kiss/I love you mom! thing. I just never understood it, however, I do understand that she cares for me and wants the best for me. I want to ma...
A. 21 April 2013: School is tough and while I understand this sort of education is needed, it is far from the end of the world as people make it to be. A lot of people live on low income and are actually quite happy lol. You will just have to find an entry level job ... (read in full...)
Should I give up everything, and move interstate to be with my boyfriend? It would mean giving up my own home, which I purchased before I met him.
Q. I have been with my BF for 4 years. We are each in our late 20's/early 30s. I have my own house. He still lives at home. He was studying which is why he stayed there, but he could have moved out by now! (has it too good!). A big concern for me ...
A. 21 April 2013: If you want to move to him and basically give up everything then you have to be 100% sure about it because most of the time there is no going back.
While I do understand why he thinks you buying the house is a big mistake, I have not seem muc... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend lying to me? He said I was accusing him of lying and then he gave me a sad look.
Q. Back in January, I remember I was at home and my boyfriend hadn't responded to my texts for over two hours. He finally texted me back, saying he was in his aunties house visiting them. I thought it was so odd, for him to visit relatives as it is so...
A. 21 April 2013: Get over it because it is April and that happened way back in January. You even said you think he would never cheat on you so what are you trying to prove so desperately? That he did cheat? If you want to be mature about this then all you had to do ... (read in full...)
Has taking the hormone balancing pills done this to me? Have I gradually killed my sex drive this way?
Q. This isn't a relationship problem, but I'm curious about it anyway. Back when I was 18, I started taking a women's hormone balancer. I did this because I always felt I had more body hair than I should, my chest was underdeveloped, and I had an ...
A. 18 April 2013: I think these are things you should consult a doctor about or should have done so before taking the pills. ... (read in full...)
Has taking the hormone balancing pills done this to me? Have I gradually killed my sex drive this way?
Q. This isn't a relationship problem, but I'm curious about it anyway. Back when I was 18, I started taking a women's hormone balancer. I did this because I always felt I had more body hair than I should, my chest was underdeveloped, and I had an ...
A. 18 April 2013: I think these are things you should consult a doctor about or should have done so before taking the pills. ... (read in full...)
I don't see myself marrying him, but he's good for now, what do you think?
Q. Hey guys! So me and my bf has been together for almost 2 years now and we have an amazing relationship. He's only a year younger than me but i feel like he has so much growing up to do and it literally drives me crazy! My biggest mistake was taking ...
A. 15 April 2013: I think most guys are like this at that age range so I don't think there is anything strange going on. You could always be patient and see how it works out, it doesn't sound like he is treating you mad and it is not liek you are going to get married ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend mocks me and now I'm so self conscious!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3.5 years is always mocking me whenever we go out (like i look like an ape, or i look at him like a dog,....), its hurting me and i told him several times not to do it, but he always does. Nowadays i feel very self-conscious e...
A. 12 April 2013: Dump him and find someone who will respect you. ... (read in full...)
I lost my friend over a rude text that I didn't send to him!
Q. I recently had a sexual encounter with a friend (married)(someone I've known since childhood),we re-connected and talked on the phone for over a yr and saw ea. other daily. Our relationship became sexual no strings attached. A family member decided ...
A. 9 April 2013: I guess it wasn't much of a friendship then. I suppose the message must have woken something in him. It probably even brought him back to reality. But maybe he will come back, who knows. But I don't think a friendship based on hurting one other ... (read in full...)
I find the behavior of my boyfriend's friend disrespectful, how should I deal with it?
Q. Okay, hey everyone. I'm looking to get some advice here because my mind is just all over the place right now. I'm going to be as respectful as I can about this post so please don't get the wrong idea that I am intentionally being judgemental or mean ...
A. 9 April 2013: There is always a girl like this at some point in one's life. This girl has low self esteem and feeds of the superficial attention she gets by throwing herself at people. She doesn't like you because, you are a girl. Since she is self centered she ... (read in full...)
Still in love with my cheating ex, and not with this great guy?
Q. Hi I'm 21 years old and I have just came home for the break from college life. I've been single for the past 4 months and haven't spoken to my ex boyfriend since Christmas, we broke it off on Christmas Day, well I broke it off. We were together...
A. 8 April 2013: Girls want what they can't have and indulge in the thought that the girls are actually able to change a broken man for the better. When a new decent guy comes along, they feel like they don't deserve him. In your case, good of you for dumping your ... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 8 April 2013: Forget her, find someone else asap who will treat you with the respect you deserve. Need not waste time over a horrible person like her. Or just talk to some people with good morals, it shouldn't be hard to find people like that. All the best man, ... (read in full...)
He's pursued me for 2 years. Could he really be head over heels for me?
Q. I'm looking for some male perspective. I have been pursued for in excess of two years by a man. He tells me how beautiful I am and how I am the woman of his dreams. I recently ended a five year relationship, and have considered dating this man. ...
A. 7 April 2013: Could be but there is no real way of knowing unless you try. Maybe it works out and maybe it doesn't but you don't have much to lose if you try. It's good to keep an open mind about these things. ... (read in full...)
I'm Atheist and dating a Christian man. Are we likely incompatible?
Q. I've been friends with this guy since I was 17 (We are both 22 now). Although we lost touch after high school graduation, we recently met again for dinner and coffee. Surprisingly it wasn't awkward like I thought it might be. We had a wonderful ...
A. 5 April 2013: It can be compatible but like any important things in a relationship, you would need to talk to him about it should the time come. Until then just try to get to know each other more and see where it goes. ... (read in full...)
Broke my heart and I can't let go.
Q. Can use some advice on what to do next… I put myself in a pretty sticky situation through a series of poor mistakes and bad relationships, and now I am not sure where to go from here or how to move on. It all began back in 2010 when I was let go ...
A. 4 April 2013: The things I say are just based on my opinions. Firstly, you didn't give up anything "for" someone or even yourself. You blatantly put yourself in a terrible situation, putting all your eggs in one basket. It was a high risk move you made by making ... (read in full...)
Have I let this friendship go too far? He's going through divorce and I am married. I won't cheat for him!
Q. First of all, I am married to a great guy whom I love very much. We are not a perfect couple but we are still good together. I trust him completely and he does the same with me. Having said this, I am finding myself in a bit of trouble. A f...
A. 2 April 2013: He is very much misguided and perhaps relying on you too much. You are also right that you have sort of encouraged this as well. I am not sure if he is think you are looking for a life, but perhaps something more along the lines of sex. One on one ... (read in full...)
Why Does My Ex Have Hostile Feelings Towards Me?
Q. My BF broke up with me months ago on Halloween. Even though HE ended it, he is the one who is hostile. We just cannot seem to ever reach peace. He would contact me and it always starts good and nice, then ends really dramatic. We'll have good ...
A. 2 April 2013: Having read this I feel like there are some things you are leaving out or it is easy for people to misunderstand the situation. It sounds like he wants to just be friends, and has made that point clear to you since the day he broke up with you. You ... (read in full...)
Why does she play this game of drawing my attention and then ignoring me?
Q. Hi Everyone so here it goes, 6 Months ago I fell in love with this girl to this day I am still in love with her, I used to obsess about her and when I finally became friends with her things started to get better but then I told her I liked her ...
A. 31 March 2013: Ignore her altogether and let her completely come to you. She likes the idea of someone to rely who is safe but she wont dare to cross that line...yeah it doesn't make sense but you have to ask yourself if this is a girl worth loving and one you can ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do! If I do break up, with the girl I love, how do I do it?
Q. ok so my fiance and I have been dating nearly a year and we've been friends almost like 2 years. We've had ups and downs but for the most part it's been great She's my better half and I love her. Hell she's my fiancé! Anyways she shows me and tel...
A. 30 March 2013: Call of the engagement and work on your issues with her before you decide to go for the long run. You invested all this time with her already anyway, what is a couple more months or weeks to see where things go. ... (read in full...)
If you've just started seeing someone, when is the right time to have sex?
Q. Hey y'all To start off, I've started seeing this guy recently. He's older than me by 5 years, but our personalities seem to really suit one another, which is why I think we really hit off so far. So, we've talking for 2 weeks now. We've g...
A. 26 March 2013: If you are looking for a guy for the long run, then a minimum of three months is a good way to go. You should be able to learn about enough things by then. ... (read in full...)
Does my crush really like me, or not? I haven't told him how much I really like him.
Q. Hey so as I have asked before I wanted to see if my old crush likes me. I have been told that he does because he is jealous and stuff. So I ask my friends to see if he likes me and he always says no. They ask stuff like “do u like A" and "...
A. 24 March 2013: I think you should ask him yourself... and also get rejected personally if he really does not like you. You haven't really moved on and there isn't any real way for us to know if he does like you or not. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out I lied and he posted naked pics of himself online to retaliate!
Q. Anyone want to give advice on whether I should stay with my bf or not? Here's my story. I hooked up with a guy a couple years ago. We still talk here and there. Current bf asks me if I ever hooked up with him. I lie and say no. A few other ...
A. 20 March 2013: Forgive him and continue with a happy relationship. Two of you just got mad and after all, the two of you aren't perfect. ... (read in full...)
I believe my girlfriend is lying about an encounter with a friend. What do I do?
Q. I'm in a frustrating spot. To get you to understand where I'm coming from I have to add as much detail as possible in my story. Please try and stick with it if you plan to give me feedback. I could really use help with this. A short background...
A. 19 March 2013: I read your story and I can say that I am just like you and I think the same way in terms of morals and logic. There are some things here which you just must accept.
Firstly, she had every right to be upset when you made your decision to just be ... (read in full...)
He deleted my mom from his Facebook friends and she wants us to break up because of that and some other stuff!
Q. I started dating this guy a month ago everything was going great, we had a few problems but we got through them. My mom added him on Facebook and things was good until she started commenting on almost all his status's asking what they meant, who ...
A. 15 March 2013: I think he has every right to walk away. The issues being brought up are reasonable but it has only been just over a month of relationship. If I were in his position I would probably walk away as well due to the sort of pressure I would feel from ... (read in full...)
Unexpected bleeding after sex...what could it be about?
Q. Slightly awkward question here but advice is appreciated. After about a year of being single and sexually inactive I've recently become intimate with a new partner. We've had sex a handful of times, always with a condom, and twice now I've noticed ...
A. 15 March 2013: My ex had this problem from me. We decided to avoid certain positions during sex or use off the shelf lubrication to help. In your case, it is definitely because of him being "bigger". ... (read in full...)
Major crush at the grocery store. Seems he likes me. Why hasn't he asked me out yet?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really like this guy that works at my local grocery store. I usually go in there a couple times a week to pick up food on my lunch break and sometimes ill catch him in the aisles and we talk for a little bit. We sometimes get ...
A. 9 March 2013: It's mainly because he is at work. You should just ask him out instead.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants a break because he thinks I don't value his opinons
Q. So, my and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year now, and before this we were friends for a long time. I'd noticed he'd been acting strange for the past couple of days, so I asked him what was wrong. He told me that he felt like I didn...
A. 7 March 2013: In the end it doesn't seem like you do value his opinion and because you expect things to just be forgotten and move on. It sort of tackles his low self esteem but he was looking for more reassurance from you that you did take into consideration ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend that I seen her boyfriend's profile on an online dating website?
Q. I need to know whether I should say something or just stay out of this. I was on a dating site and I saw my friend's bf on there. I made a fake profile and messaged him and he tried to pretend he didn't have a gf and asked me to hook up with him. ...
A. 7 March 2013: Well you are kinda in it already. You could have just told your friend about the profile before you took action and let her make her own decisions. Now that he deleted the profile he might just say it was fake or it was a long time ago, essentially ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm never going to find a boyfriend
Q. Settling? Is it ok to do so? Im a almost 22 year old college student, with a job and who's saved up enough cash to buy a car! Im soooo excited! I have no kids and Im moving into my apartment this summer! :-D Im doing great for myself, well i think ...
A. 5 March 2013: At this age, people who achieve a lot for themselves get a little impatient. So all I'm saying is try to have some more patience. Dating goes both ways so if YOU see a guy, feel free to take charge and seize the moment, ask him out. You are still ... (read in full...)
Would it be alright to date my father's much younger ex?
Q. My question: is it okay for me (male) to sleep with my father's ex girlfriend? How would look on my side and her side to other people? How can we (me and my dad ex ) get pass this and move on with are lives together? Background: my dad is in his...
A. 5 March 2013: You can't find any other women to date? This seems like more trouble than it is worth and I would never tackle such issues. ... (read in full...)
Was breaking up the ideal solution?
Q. Hi everyone. Here goes. I broke up with my girlfriend ~1 month ago. We are both university students. She is an undergraduate student and I am a graduate student; I work full-time all year and I get 3 weeks off. We had been dating for 14 months. E...
A. 26 February 2013: Seems only logical to break up with someone like this and it seems like the right thing to do in my opinion. You tried your best and in the end she did not deserve someone like you. Go figure, all women have different morals and such so careful to ... (read in full...)
Am I sexually satisfying my bf enough?
Q. I am 24 and recently moved in my bf of 1.5 years. I am FT grad student and used to work PT but it was alot so he pays everything until I finish ( a year). He is 30 and an attorney who makes over 6 figures. He said he doesn't mind and loves taking ...
A. 25 February 2013: Well maybe u can force it out of him but you shouldn't be predictable or let it be a fixed number in that manner. The both of you are fine and have a great relationship already so you shouldn't worry about it too much. ... (read in full...)
I'm really trying to save myself for marriage and dating a non-virgin really bothers me
Q. I recently got into a relationship with a guy I really like. We have terrible communication and it makes me angry. He always apologizes for that lack of good communication in our relationship. The thing is, we actually started talking alright the ...
A. 19 February 2013: I'm not really sure what to say because if he opened up to you that he was not a virgin and this is your reaction then it doesn't seem like this will last. Relationships only last because people work together to sort out their problems. I would say ... (read in full...)
What is the right age to get engaged?
Q. I know my question seems a little bland and broad, so let me try to rephrase... How old should a couple be when they get engaged for the first time? I am 18, currently and proudly dating a soon-to-be Marine. He hasn't been home for a few months. ...
A. 18 February 2013: I could look at some couples and say to them, 21 is too young and I can look at you and say, why not tie the knot already. I am very open minded when it comes to these matters because there is no right and wrong answer. I think if you have those ... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 17 February 2013: She doesn't love you. Dump her asap and spare yourself from following her like a dog. Nothing you say will change her mind else she would have done so already (in terms of her respect for u). All the best!... (read in full...)
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