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writes:OK so I'm 13 years old and lots of people say i look way older and there's this guy whos 18, he goes to my church. he is very nice and all we text a bunch....but lately we been txt kinda sexually and well I know it sounds kinda whore-ish but seriously hesss sooo nice, and my mom one day decided to read my msg's and she NEVER does that!!! And she saw the msgs and now i cant even talk to him at church or text him or even say hi to him! I know we were talking weird and all but nothing happen and nothing was gonna happen. Now my mom wont let me go to special parties or nothing, she doesnt trust me. I feel horrible and wish she never read my msg! what can i do? HELP
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 July 2010):
 I think your mom is being smart. A 13 year old and an 18 year old shouldn't be trying to hook up. You are WAY to young, I know that's not what you want to hear.
For you it may have been a bit of fun, but he might actually think it would lead to sex.
So earn back your mom's trust and think about what you are doing. The "boy" can also get in some serious trouble for this due to the age difference, is that what you want?
Respect your mom and her decision.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (24 July 2010):
 How 'nice' could he be if he's sending sexual texts to a 13 year old? It's not harmless, at that age you're still inexperienced and naive, and he was trying to use this to his advantage. Your mother is only trying to protect you, show her she can trust you by making the right choices.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 There's not much you can do for now other than demonstrate to your mother that you are trustworthy. So do as she asks and be good, and over time she'll relax.
You aren't surprised by her reaction are you? She found sexual text messages between you and a guy who is 18! She knows very well that he'll want sex, so what you are doing is not harmless. And although you say nothing is going to happen, if you are alone with him and he tries something you may not be able to say no. It happens a lot.
Be careful, for the next few years at least you need to avoid sexual messages with someone so much older than you.
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reader, samyum  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Your mum is just protecting you from what may happen.If he is talking sexually she is just protecting the inevidble!you are going to have sex...but not just yet...
She is probably just as shocked to read this as you are that she read it.She just loves you.If he is really a nice & he wants to see you I would think he should approach your mum & make her feel comfotable that its only talk & he will not do it anymore.You & I know its probably not going to happen but ,as my mum says you can always ask.Perhaps you can talk to your mum.You will have to make her trust you that you aren't going to have sex ,just yet.The next time you meet a nice guy tell him not to send sexy msg's.Good luck there are millions of guys out there nice ones too.Dont be too hard on your mum.You will be a mum one day.Its not an easy job sometimes.By the way Iam a very open mum with a 15 year old boy.:)
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