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writes:My husband has had a flirt texting 'affair' with a work colleague. They got as far as telling each other they 'loved' each other along with saying they would 'wait for sex' but I don't think anything actually happened. He is full of remorse and says it was 'just a game'.Do you think this is believable? I've read several times on here that the 'just a game' is a perfect excuse to get away with something.Do any of you in your experience know what this means or am I just being taken for a ride and a stupid idiot? Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): Are you seriously OK with your husband telling another women he loves her? I guess it really comes down to what you want to believe and if you're willing to accept and get over this little affair? But you FLAT OUT caught him weather it was physical or not.
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reader, Muscle and Sinew  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 THIS MAKES ME UPSET!! he is completely taking advantage of you. men like that do not know how to be faithfull. when you are married there are no such things as games like that. you should text that women something, like what she is goin is unexeptable. and she should be ashamed of herself that she is causing problems in your marriage and that she needs to stop this "flirting" of hers. its wrong on your husband. idk how you would of put up with this. i would of left him a looong time ago. but you need to get into the bottom of this and get the facts btwn them both. if its fun and games like children, he is not mature. little kids do that, he is a man and married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): Why are you calling yourself names? You are not the louse here, he is.
You leave out a lot of details, like has he ever been unfaithful before, how long have you been married, ect, but in my opinion, ANYTHING one spouse does that hurts the other, whether emotional or physical, is UNACCEPTABLE.
But you should definitely not accept the "it's just a game" garbage. He is having an affair, if not a physical one, an emotional one for sure.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (16 July 2010):
 That's definitely more serious than flirting, and it's by no means 'just a game'. I agree with CaringGuy, he's only saying this to get away with what he's done and continue doing it. The only thing he's feeling remorse for is getting caught.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 July 2010):
'It was just a game'. I have a good game for you. It's the one where you tell him that you're leaving him and you're taking him for all he's worth. You'll win that game too.
Now you're not stupid, so don't say that. But you are being taken for a ride. It was not just a game, so don't believe that. He knew what he was doing, and he knew where it was leading. And so did this other misguided woman. He's a liar, and he's basically cheated, even if you don't know that he has done physically. And his excuse proves that he's not really remorseful either, and that he's just looking for a quick answer so he can go back to it. Don't trust him.
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