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female
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*rincessjasmine
writes:has that ever happened to you where you get asked out or hit on by several men in like one week and your not interested in a single one? What is wrong with me? Am i being too picky? I mean i know what i want and none of these guys fit the criteria, i wont even waste my time knowing that someone talks a certain way, looks a certain way, or isnt educated....yes I do judge but its for my own good for the long run...where do you draw the line of 'too picky' i just wont settle. Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic +, writes (17 July 2010):
 It depends on how narrow your criteria is. Can you be more specific? How educated, well-spoken, etc.?
It's good to have standards, but in the long run it's not going to help you find someone to connect with if they're set too high. What if you find a man that meets your list, and after all that, you don't click with him?
The most important thing is to look for someone you feel comfortable around and and can talk to, beyond light conversation. Physical attraction is obviously important too, but I doubt you'd want to be with someone attractive that lacks personality.
Also, part of the problem may be what you're projecting. I fully believe what you send out is what you get back. Everything, even down to your expression and posture, makes a difference in how people perceive you. Speaking from personal experience, I noticed once I projected a more open and accepting attitude I was approached more often. Many of those people weren't my type, but some were. There were even a few I would've normally written off that changed my mind, once I got to know them. In the end, all it took was a change in expression.
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male
reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (17 July 2010):
 You may be judging too quickly.
What it really looks like, is that you are shopping at the wrong store. If you are only seeing pizza then you aren't at the steakhouse. Or to throw in another metaphor, You are fishing with the wrong bait. You seem to be exciting the wrong class of people. Look at where you are hanging out, who you are choosing to be with, and what you are wearing, including makeup.
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