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Is he playing hard to get or is he not interested?

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Question - (17 July 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 July 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, *irrenity7 writes:

what's the different signs of a guy playing hard to get and just simply not being interested

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A female reader, sirrenity7 United States +, writes (17 July 2010):

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sirrenity7 agony auntThanks everyone for your answers!!! I really appreciate it...i've took in all of it and i feel that he's interested but just not enough for me at this point. I think i will just pull back and let him contact me if he wants to hear and/or see me.

Thanks so much for the body language ques, this is really helpful. Yes, he has shown several of these signs, so im sure he likes me but i really don't think it's the same as i like him.

Thanks again!

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A female reader, xanthic United States +, writes (17 July 2010):

xanthic agony auntFor men, there's no such thing as playing hard to get. It's either interested or disinterested.

Men aren't exactly subtle in this area. If he's into you, he'll let you know in one way or another.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010):

Hi, I think I can help a little on this one as I study body language so here goes!

If he seems to want to be around you a lot, looks to see wher you are, if you move to a different room for example, he will end up in that room on some pretence or other.

If he seems to want to make conversation with you about anything at all, even if it seems like small talk, and /or always seems to laugh or smile when you make little jokes, and looks over at you a lot.

He will always gravitate toward you, even in a crowd, not necessarily close to you all the time, but at least to face you directly.

If you are in a room with other people, he will position himself so that he faces you directly, this includes his face, hands, feet, etc. If he is shy he may use hand gestures, but point his hands toward you.

You will know he is at least comfortable with you when he sits opposite you as he will be relaxed with his legs slightly open and his feet either pointing at you or in a 'pigeon toe' position

He will make compliments however small and you may even miss them yourself, he will remember things about you and bring them up in conversations, it's his way of letting you know he listens and is interested., even somethinglike "yes you did didn't you"

Here is the biggest hint

If you walk in to a room and he blushes he has it for you in a romantic way, try to look into his eyes, are his pupils dilated?, if they are try to smile a little, you will make him go (soft faced)even if he is shy and looks down. If he has it for you, he will take another look soon.

He will want to look at you, not just your face but your hair, hands, body, ears,feet, jewellery, everything, again you may miss this but you can usually feel it when he is doing it..

There is more, but another big sign is that he will try to touch you, not rudely, but on the arm, hand etc, the lower back or waist usually indicates a deeper attraction as these touches are a bit more advanced.

If someone liked you but not romatically, they may show a few of these signs still but I think you would just feel the vibes if it was real attraction.

Likewise as just a friend, they wouldn't be too bothered if you were not in their sight .if the person was touchy feely by nature but saw you as a friend, they would not be too bothered if you gave a little attention to other people.

People, especially men, will make some way of getting you to look their way if they want your attention.

A friend or acquaintance would not want to look deeply at you or into your eyes for more than three seconds, unless of course they are a serial flirt or player which is a lttle harder to work out.

I hope I have helped a little and now you can start to look for these signs, but don't get like I did and over study people, as it can become a bit obsessive.

Also try to remeber that some people have these tecniques matered and just enjoy attracting attention from the opposite sex.

As I said before, you can, after a while,actually feel something there if it is real.

Good luck!

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