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What qualifies me to help you? Vast dating experience, especially in the LDR department, even an international on with an Aussie, broke hearts, had mine broken, been engaged once before, I know what a real friend is, seen the ugly side of divorce coming from a recently broken home myself, even went as far as to tip the odds to my side and use men only to toss them aside like yesterday's garbage like they do women, I know what it's like to almost give up hope on finding the perfect man when he's really only a few boyfriends away, and I'm starting to learn the ropes of married life. I also know a vast deal about the female and male reproductive system, and all about the mental struggles with infertility. On a side note, I'm the one who gives you tough love, I'm not on here to sugarcoat it or to tell you what you want to hear. I'm going to give it to you straight up, wouldn't you rather the truth?
-TOP 5 QUESTIONS I CAN'T STAND-
#1. Does this mean my teacher likes me?
Just because they're nice to you, offer extra help, and put a little gold star on your A+ paper doesn't mean they are in love with you.
#2. Could I be pregnant?
Have you not heard of a pregnancy test? Get off this website, and go to your local drugstore.
#3. I'm 14 and I want a baby?
Really? Me too! Oh wait I'm 28 and married. You're how old again?
#4. My husband loves porn more than me!
Maybe if you didn't let yourself go into the frumpy woman you have turned into then he wouldn't have to look at porn now would he? I recommend you get your rear to the salon for highlights, manicure, pedicure, tanning, toss the baggy tees and sweat pants for a wardrobe that fits, and a little makeup goes a long way. It's called basic woman maintenance in order to keep your man's eyes on you.
#5. Will we get back together, how can I get him to love me again?
Unfortunately, my crystal ball is broke at the moment and I just gave away the last of my love potion No. 9. Sorry.
MY GENERAL RULES OF THUMB (this should be common sense)
-No means no.
-Girls can ask out ask guys, this is a new generation.
-Unless you know sign language or are telepathic, you're going to have to talk to him/her.
-My "Don't ask, Don't tell" policy as is follows: Do not by any means volunteer your own sexual history, or ask your date/partner/wife/girlfriend their magic number (how many people they've slept with). If you find yourself being prompted to answer this question, politely tell them that's none of their business.
-Your past doesn't define who you are today. We grow, mature, age, and change as time passes.
-If you have to even ask random strangers on this website if you should have sex, then you're not ready for it.
-FWBs, fuck buddies, no strings attached, whatever you want to call it..is not a relationship don't get the 2 confused. In this case, sex=sex, not love.
-No trust=no relationship.
-It is normal for your husband/boyfriend to have friends of the opposite sex, do you not have male friends?
-LDRs can work, however they're not for everyone. You've got to have trust, communication, be faithful, and a lot of hobbies to keep yourself occupied. If you have trust issues, a case of being needy, clingy, problems staying faithful and are in a LDR don't be surprised when it doesn't work. I told you so.
- An ex is an ex for a reason. If you guys couldn't hack it as a couple the first 2 times what makes you think the third time is a charm?
-Going on a "break" is a nice way of breaking up.
-If you have sex with a man and he hasn't called you, or responded to your texts in weeks sorry to say but he was just after a piece of ass.
- Now unless he's getting blown up in Afghanistan, an on call ER doctor, or lying dead in a coffin then he's got no excuse for his poor or lack there of communication.
-You have a 12% chance of your married boyfriend leaving his wife and children.
-A man who is going through a divorce is still legally married. He's about to have an ex wife and you're wanting to get into a relationship with him? That's called a rebound.
-If you're a minor who's just found out she's pregnant, do me and everyone else on this site a favor..Tell your parents.
-Just because some one stares at you, it doesn't mean they like you. They could be staring at that booger hanging out of your nose.
-If you have a lump/bump/cyst/rash that looks green, has oozing puss, and itches like hell, but kinda looks like a STD then you had better consult your doctor. They went through 6 years of schooling and have a license to practice medicine, I think they would know better than random virtual strangers.
-Don't mix business with pleasure. Why? Because if you date your co-worker and in the event things turn sour then you're still stuck facing them 9-5, Mon-Fri. Awkward.
-No matter how hard you try, you can't change a person..they have to make that transformation themselves.
-When your boyfriend/girlfriend says they want space that doesn't mean you do the opposite and bombard them with calls/texts.
-As far as ultimatums go, don't try to make your boyfriend choose between you, his female friends, or weed. You won't like the results.
-If you're 13-17, I'm sorry but you haven't a clue what love really is. You have minimal dating experience confined to the high school dating pool which are nothing but horny boys. Their facial hair doesn't make them a man. It's only till you get out into the real world, a vast dating pool is when you learn the definition of love. So, go on thinking you and 13 year old Tommy will go on to get married, have 3 kids, and a two story house with a white picket fence. I don't expect you to listen, I'm 28 and married, what do I know? There's a reason why everyone says it won't last..because it doesn't.
-The average penis size erect is 6 inches, 4.85 inches. Women like average to even a little below average. We're not going to bust out a tape measure and measure it to make sure it's up to our standards. We just want to have sex, so enough complaining about your size let's get down and dirty.
- The legal age of consent in the U.S. is 16-18 varying oer state, in Britain it's 16. I think it's safe to say most parts of the world (unless you live in a tribe with their own form of government) the legal age to consent to sex is 16. So yes, all you minors below the age of consent are committing a crime when you engage in sexual activity. The age is set that high for a reason, you are not above the law. |
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Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 2 June 2012: Verbal abuse is irrelevant. Why stay in your parent's home and continue to take that?
You don't need to ask your daddy's permission to move out!
Like Eyes said, unless you are bound and chained in the basement, you're free to pack your things... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 16 September 2011: Since you're an adult, it's up to you to make that decision to leave your parent's home. No one can stop you. But I don't think you want to leave.
If you're going to continue to live underneath their roof, then I would stop complaining about th... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 2 September 2011: I can understand that. You couldn't help but take it a little bit farther because you liked her. But then again you should've understood fully what "not serious" meant. She could have been more clear on it.
Ouch, I don't think I've been that cru... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 1 September 2011: :( Sorry to hear that. I was shooting for me being wrong...
In her defense she did specify friends in the first place, so you can't be entirely angry with her. You chose to ignore that. However, it was taken a bit further into the couple zone wit... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this emotionally dead girl who I seem to want more from?
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A. 30 August 2011: Accepting friendship, is not always better than nothing at all.
You can't bring yourself to be strictly friends with her because you like her MORE THAN JUST A FRIEND. Can you toss away your feelings for her that quickly? Sorry walshie, but I do... (read in full...)
My ex told me she's pregnant, but now she's ignoring me.
Q. My ex-girlfriend, whom i'm in a good status with, tells me that she's pregnant and it's mine. I believe her. Since that day, every call or text that i've sent out to her has gotten no response. Any theories as to what is going on?...
A. 29 August 2011: Your ex is pregnant, eh? And you're 100% without a doubt positive it's yours?
PATERNITY TEST, after the child is born to ensure it is indeed part of your DNA.
Cover your own ass here.
You can't make her talk to you...just back off ... (read in full...)
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Q. She dresses HOT for work, low tops, flouncy skirts, sometimes no panties. When she comes home she dresses down, pyjamas instead of negligee, baggy pants instead of skirt, baggy dresses etc. I see all the answers saying this is innocent and to just...
A. 29 August 2011: So like I guessed, the problems runs deeper than baggy sweatpants vs. crotchless panties. There's communication issues and a tug of war when it comes to control. Something must have happened or it's been like this all along...and perhaps she's ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has disgusting habits, will he ever stop? Everything else about him is good
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A. 28 August 2011: I was about to ask if he suffered from OCD or Autism. Asperger's makes sense.
It's actually not his fault that he's being incredibly disgusting. It's actually normal for him, where as others will see it as erratic behavior. Because it's normal f... (read in full...)
Why does she dress hot for work but not for me?
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A. 28 August 2011: "That's all good not telling her what to wear, so as long as she does the same."
Does she tell you what to wear?
I'm confused. First you say that she dresses hot, sexy, cleavage baring tops for work and baggy sweat pants at home. You're jealo... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this emotionally dead girl who I seem to want more from?
Q. A few weeks ago, I discovered routines and methods of being able to approach girls who would be rated say a 9 out of 10 so to speak and who reject any male that gives them attention. Anyway, I approached one girl etc and got through her usua...
A. 28 August 2011: It's time to move on, walshie.
You're not going to be able to kick down her walls and change her. She doesn't want to change, she's fine being the emotionally damaged girl with low self esteem who puts on the front that she's this hard ass.
... (read in full...)
Should I keep taking my child to trampolining classes?
Q. my child does not want to go to her trampolining classes however when she is there she is fine and enjoys the session. she gets upset and says she doesnt want to go should i keep taking her even though it is becoming a struggle? ...
A. 28 August 2011: Perhaps she had an argument with one of the other children and she feels alienated. Or she's not making in friends?? It can be anything.
Just tell her that you're going to go with her to her classes and watch her do a good job. Then give her posi... (read in full...)
My wife left me whilst I was away in Iraq and all she left was a note saying 'I'm sorry'!
Q. I just returned from Iraq on leave today to find my apartment empty. My wife took my son, my dog, and emptied my bank account...The one thing she left was a note on her side of the bed with her wedding ring was a note that simply said "I'm sorry". ...
A. 28 August 2011: Hi there. Unfortunately, this happens a lot in the military. Young military wives can't handle being alone and lonely with their husband's first deployment. They either A. cheat or B. empty the bank account and run while you're deployed. Why B? ... (read in full...)
Guys: How To Develop "Swagger" To Attract More Women Part 1
Q. The way you carry yourself, dress, talk, or even walk, can either attract a potential mate or repel her. In other words you need to have some swagger. So to avoid being rejected before you even say a word, you need to do the following: 1. Carefu...
A. 28 August 2011: 1. I agree with but just how many men will do this? Let's face it, the only men that actually put effort into their wardrobe are gay. But it still hurts to watch guys where dirty sneakers with jeans, and a nice button up shirt, or wear a black tee ... (read in full...)
Why does she dress hot for work but not for me?
Q. She dresses HOT for work, low tops, flouncy skirts, sometimes no panties. When she comes home she dresses down, pyjamas instead of negligee, baggy pants instead of skirt, baggy dresses etc. I see all the answers saying this is innocent and to just...
A. 28 August 2011: Who is she? Your wife, girlfriend? It's relevant info that needs to be provided.
How would you describe your relationship? Have you had any nasty fights lately?
Perhaps she's dressing like a tart for a promotion or she's trying to attrac... (read in full...)
Should I keep taking my child to trampolining classes?
Q. my child does not want to go to her trampolining classes however when she is there she is fine and enjoys the session. she gets upset and says she doesnt want to go should i keep taking her even though it is becoming a struggle? ...
A. 28 August 2011: Really, they have trampoline classes? Is it sort of like gymnastics?
Are you doing this to get her socialize with children her own age? If she all of the sudden doesn't want to go for whatever reason, there's no sense in forcing her or paying f... (read in full...)
Does this dream mean I could be pregnant?
Q. I dreamt i was with my high school friend that i haven't seen in 7 years. In the dream she told me "wow you're pregnant congrats!" when i woke up i was excited, but now i'm feeling down. Do dreams have any meaning? Am i pregnant? ...
A. 28 August 2011: No. I had 2 dreams that I got a positive on my pregnancy test and we missed my fertile window this month. It takes healthy couples up to a year to conceive a baby. Even if you have sex on your ovulation day, you still only have a 30% chance of ... (read in full...)
What should I do to prepare for losing it?
Q. I'm 21 and not a virgin and going to my boyfriends house next friday to hangout and i know we'll end up having sex. What i want to know is what would be really must haves in my purse when going over. The really important ones, just to be prepare. ...
A. 28 August 2011: -Condoms, he may not have any on hand.
-Feminine wipes to sort of clean up down south. Playtex makes great ones that can be easily shoved into your purse.
If you're spending the night after sex, all the above plus:
-Toothbrush, ... (read in full...)
My man will live in my basement, but not move upstairs with me, WHY???
Q. I have been in a relationship with my partner for almost 5 years we live in the same house for just over 3 years . We have great sex in bed lots of passion, but he only sleeps with me on weekends. He lives in my basement, I have asked him to move up ...
A. 27 August 2011: Unfortunately, your post lacks info. Based on what's given, I can't give you an educated guess.
Do you snore, talk in your sleep, sleep walk, grind your teeth, anything that would cause him to sleep in your basement?
Do you two have an esta... (read in full...)
Isn't grinding disrespectful? Or is it just dancing?
Q. Ok, so I have been dating my girlfriend for about a 2 months now. Im 24 shes 21. I like her alot. Thats why its hard for me to just bail. Been through a couple of em to find this one. Well anyway here's the problem. Ok so we started to talking ...
A. 27 August 2011: Grinding is nothing but dry humping on the dance floor, it's not dancing. So if I saw my SO grinding with someone other than me, I'd be pretty mad. Everyone gets jealous at some point, whether they like to admit it or not.
Here's your issue, y... (read in full...)
Spring V Autumn. Does she like me? she's 19.
Q. There is this girl, she's 19 i'm 57. she always calls me sweetie when she sees me. The other day at the gas station she called out at me to get my attention. Does she like me or am i just thinking this?...
A. 27 August 2011: Really no offense here, but I hardly doubt a 19 yr old would dig a 50+ yr old. Unless of course you're Daddy Warbucks filling up your Ferrari or are George Clooney. ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this emotionally dead girl who I seem to want more from?
Q. A few weeks ago, I discovered routines and methods of being able to approach girls who would be rated say a 9 out of 10 so to speak and who reject any male that gives them attention. Anyway, I approached one girl etc and got through her usua...
A. 27 August 2011: Well, I'm glad to see that you've moved on from that one girl and you keep your clingy ways in check. Good for you!
This chic however, has already turned into a man eater. She's so emotionally damaged and burned from guys that she has sworn of... (read in full...)
Have I made a huge mistake - allowed my BF to have sex with my BF???
Q. my boyfriend of 4yrs on and off again just cheated on me with my best friend last week. we have 2 kids and i think i want to try and work past this, but here is the issue, my friend has wanted a child for a long time now, so 3 weeks a go we mad a ...
A. 27 August 2011: Why didn't your friend pay to use a sperm donor? I don't understand why you loaned out your boyfriend. There's no forgetting it happened. Trust me, you will never forget. You're not going to be able to push out of your mind that the father of yo... (read in full...)
Are love spells considered to be 'witchcraft'?
Q. Are love spells considered a Witchcraft type of practice or anything of that sort that deals with the dark side?...
A. 21 August 2011: In my opinion, any kind of spells dealing obviously with magic, and out of the norm are witchcraft. Not necessarily bad, evil witchcraft. But it's generally not a good idea to meddle with magic just to make someone fall in love with you. ... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 21 August 2011: Ehhh, you're still lingering in purgatory. Either shit or get off the pot with her. If you want more with her, then ask her if it's possible to have more than just friends!! Be honest, and tell her that you've developed more than platonic feelings ... (read in full...)
Me wearing makeup is going to break us up!
Q. my boyfriend recently told me that if i kept on wearing make up(a bit of foundation: not making myself orange, blush and mascara) he would break up with me. i dont like to not wear makeup because i dont feel confident without it on. i love him s...
A. 15 July 2011: Good for you! Keep on wearing your makeup!! It's one of the best parts of being a woman.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says I have communication problems, but I don't know how to work on it
Q. Well, Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a year. I had just ended a 23 year marriage were I was misrable. When we started this relationship she told me that I have a communication problem. I have been trying to work on this problem but ...
A. 13 July 2011: Meaning you don't communicate with her in person at all? Are you two in a LDR? Or is it that you don't communicate your feelings face to face, but only in email or the phone? Need more information as to why your girlfriend thinks you're... (read in full...)
Many friends told me to forget it but I am thinking of her all the time....
Q. Topic started when I saw a girl in the university about a year ago .. From the first moment I felt it was a different girl .. We did not talk a lot just to say hello as colleagues .. She had a lot of friends and was very popular within the ...
A. 13 July 2011: I'm sorry did I miss the part of where you two became boyfriend and girlfriend??? Because I didn't see that at all in your post.. I see you trying to mold her into this girl you want her to be. Dying back her hair to red, asking her to refrain f... (read in full...)
My husband is away, I've noticed some changes!
Q. Husband is away, noticed changes. We've been married 9+ years and have an 8y.o. My husband has left the country because of immigration reasons. He hadn't been back to his country for 14 years. He has been gone for 3 months. Before he left h...
A. 13 July 2011: As far as the immigration reason go, aren't you an American citizen? So he should have obtained a legal status for being in America. Or is he in some kind of legal trouble in his other country? Please clarify.
Usually when a loved one leaves t... (read in full...)
I love the girl but I'm just not sure that she is sincere and honest with me.
Q. Hi All, I've been dating a girl for 7 months now, she's two-and-a-half years older than me, and the time with her so far has been great.. except one thing. I am jealous quite often. Jealousy started when she by accident mentioned a guy she was...
A. 10 July 2011: You're either:
A. Letting your jealousy completely take over.
B. Dating a flirty girl.
C. Your friends and family are right, she's playing you.
I actually think it's a combination of all 3. You get jealous over every text, past flings, and wha... (read in full...)
My gf hacked my emails, which were unkind to her, we were not together, she can't get past them, what can do?
Q. Last night my girlfriend told me she isn't happy. She said she knows why but didn't want to talk about it. She also said she has doubts about our relationship. She wants a break to figure things out. We've been together for almost a year and ...
A. 10 July 2011: It sounds like the reason this relationship is falling apart is because there's trust issues on both parts. She hacked into your account and you're accusing her of staying with another man. If the trust ceases to exist then the relationship will ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says "Sorry" constantly.
Q. Hi. This other day I was checking mine and my girlfriends chat history on facebook. I searched for "Sorry" and I noticed that she says "Sorry" almost all the time. Should I consider this as a problem? Please,help. Thank you in advance. PS: ...
A. 10 July 2011: No. ... (read in full...)
Does he not introduce me to his friends or go out with me at night because he is embarrassed of me?
Q. Me and my bf are in a distance relationship and only see each other one month at a time... the thing is that, we go out everyday...but to parks,movies,malls and things like this, but never clubbin, out to drinks, or romantic dinners. Sure we go to ...
A. 10 July 2011: Did you ever think perhaps he's over the partying/nightlife stage in his life??? At 22-25, I started getting sick of going clubbing, pub crawling, party lifestyle. It was time to move on and settle down.
After a while it really does get redundan... (read in full...)
I can't say anything when b/f does things that I don't like!
Q. Hi aunts... Need some advise... Ive been seeing this guy for six months now and things are going well even though we sometimes have our ups and downs. My problem is ME, i cant tell him how i feel especially when he did something that i dont like. ...
A. 10 July 2011: This is where you open up your mouth and say something. He cannot read your mind or communicate with you nonverbally. So he will continue to do things you do not like unless you say something about it! What exactly is he doing that you don't like?
... (read in full...)
Husband has panties that aren't mine!
Q. i found a jelly vagina on my husband jacket and some pair of panties and the panties are not mine i ask hem why he had that plus some blue pills too and he dint answer my question he toll me that i was making a big deal but i think that the panties ...
A. 10 July 2011: Are you talking one of those fake vaginas they sell in the sex shops? Basically a man's version of a dildo.
Blue pills? I believe roofies are white. Perhaps they're male enhancement pills. A pair of panties that could be another woman's or bough... (read in full...)
Is "our bond" strong enough to last?
Q. Okay, so I guess this is my "love story" and I want opinions. Ive known this guy for many years like 5 or more and hes my brothers best friend or used to be. Him and I recently started talking and we got extremely close in a matter of days. Ive had ...
A. 7 July 2011: Hm, hopefully he's going to stay true to his word in a few years..and it's not just lip service he's giving you. Good luck with that.... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 5 July 2011: So what are you going to do then? Live at home until you're 35?? Or until you find a future husband?
You've got to leave sometime. So what if they're dysfunctional? I'm very sure they're capable of functioning just fine without you living u... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 4 July 2011: So what are you asking him with help on??
At 22-25, you are an adult who is capable of making her own life altering changes. You're no longer a minor in your parents care. You CAN leave the nest, with or without their permission. You have a j... (read in full...)
Girlfriend claims she got an STD from a towel or mat from her yoga class!! Is that really possible or is it more likely that she cheated on me?
Q. My girlfriend had a vaginal discharge for some time which worried her greatly. She was worried she had some sort of cancer. We had not been sexually active in quite some time (more than a year). She went to the doctor and she diagnosed her with tri...
A. 20 June 2011: According to that article, no she couldn't have exchanged it from yoga mats. Besides she would have to be wiping her bare vagina with these towels and rubbing her bare vagina all over these yoga mats. Doing that to someone else's yoga mat is just ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my sister in law that her husband is cheating on her?
Q. My sister in law's husband (My wifes sister) is cheating on her. He is 50 and he is didling their once babysitter who is in her early 20's. They have 4 kids (3 through 18). He told me he was going to stop but I have confirmed again it is still going ...
A. 20 June 2011: You don't.
Why? It's not your place to tell her your wife's sister. Even if you told your SIL it can potentially start a family feud, she could very well not believe you, or be in denial over it. Perhaps there's a chance she is aware of it, but ... (read in full...)
He will not leave me alone. Is this harassment? What can I do?
Q. ok so my ex bestfriend was dating this guy a while back and the broke up with him because he was starting to act weird. i decided to get involved then befriended him. soon he started acting weird with me too and now he wont leave me alone. he keep...
A. 20 June 2011: Always stay out of other people's business, especially when the situation has nothing to do with you. I know it's your best friend's situation but it wasn't your place to get involved in this mess.
I wouldn't call this harassment because he's not... (read in full...)
She finally spoke to me again only to tell me she was dating someone else...
Q. On Valentines Day, I told my friends which one of them I fancied, but at the time didn't really have a clue. Later that day, she got someone to tell me that she wasn't into me. Weeks later I started to have feelings for her, and had fallen in love ...
A. 20 June 2011: "On Valentine's Day, I told which on of my friends I fancied, but at the time didn't really have a clue."
Are you saying you knew you liked one of them, but were unsure of how strong your feelings were at the time?? Little confused by this sta... (read in full...)
Is it OK to send a sympathy card to ex because their relative died?
Q. Hi cupids, just a quick question. Is it okay to send a sympathy card to an ex (short term relationship) if you never met the deceased? I texted them regarding something else and they told me about a grandparent's very recent passing. I guess they ...
A. 20 June 2011: When you say "them" did you date two people from this family? Just curious.
I would address it to the whole family. ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to send a sympathy card to ex because their relative died?
Q. Hi cupids, just a quick question. Is it okay to send a sympathy card to an ex (short term relationship) if you never met the deceased? I texted them regarding something else and they told me about a grandparent's very recent passing. I guess they ...
A. 20 June 2011: If you are DEFINITELY over the relationship and are friends..then I see no harm in sending a sympathy card expressing your condolences for his loss.
I'd leave it at that though. No sending flowers or attending the funeral/memorial. It was a sh... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 20 June 2011: Everyone including me and your conscience are all telling you not to go.
Ultimately your choice, but don't be surprised about the horrible outcome. ... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 18 June 2011: Actually all parents do this. It's just acting out sheer frustration. Is your dad a single parent? That could be part of it, he's tired of playing the role of mother and father.
Does your father go to work 5 days a week? Even work over time? Th... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 17 June 2011: If you run into her, just say "Hello" and go on with your destination. There's no need to engage in small talk with her..just keep moving.
You know as well as I do that half those people that select attending on a FB event don't end up going. S... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 16 June 2011: Yay you can only talk to your friends so much about her before enough is enough. It's sometimes very helpful to have an outsider's, non-judgemental, third party opinion on a situation.
You're welcome, and absolutely. I'm often on here, if I'm g... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 15 June 2011: Yes, the NO CONTACT will give her time to get over things that have happened in the past and her feeling for you.
I don't entirely agree with your friend..feelings for people go away within time. People grow up, move on, and their feelings... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 15 June 2011: Good progress so far. If you're too tempted to check her FB profile then just delete/block her from FB all together.
NO CONTACT AT ALL! Ignore her stupid remarks about your LSAT. Law school is a good choice, not everyone has what it takes to... (read in full...)
Girlfriend claims she got an STD from a towel or mat from her yoga class!! Is that really possible or is it more likely that she cheated on me?
Q. My girlfriend had a vaginal discharge for some time which worried her greatly. She was worried she had some sort of cancer. We had not been sexually active in quite some time (more than a year). She went to the doctor and she diagnosed her with tri...
A. 13 June 2011: Wow, that's a new one.
How come you two weren't sexually active for that year?
Also if she had trichomoniasis, how come you didn't get tested too?
It clearly states in that article, you get it from sexual contact..not from a item... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 13 June 2011: It's understandable to get ticked when a friend bails on you, especially at the last minute. You have to keep in mind that you guys aren't an item so you can be pissed off forever. Just wait till you get the opportunity next week.
Anoth... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 12 June 2011: Lol, dear you have to KNOW what you want!
FWBs and an actual relationship are complete bipolar opposites. From your post, starting a FWBs at this point would do more harm than good. You already like her. When you have a FWBs, you're only sexually... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 12 June 2011: Honestly, I wouldn't read too much into it. I would take it as she feels bad, or is acting like nothing happened. Just take her actions and communication with a grain of salt.
Communicate with her ONLY when she communicates with you. DON'T re... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 8 June 2011: Ouch, and she acted like a bitch. Rather uncalled for.
You know I get that you're a needy/dependent guy and can be overbearing(then again I don't know you personally) but if she's been friends with you for quite a while, then there's no need to ... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 8 June 2011: What exactly is it that you want?? A relationship? A FWB is NOT the same as a relationship. It's just casual sex with no feelings.
Non-serious is friends or FWBs. Think about it you two hang out when it is permitted which isn't much and do thing... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 7 June 2011: Your problem is you have to actually listen to what the girls say. Women mean what they say, they're not bullshitting you. Nursing school is extremely involving..what medical career isn't??
No matter how much you like this girl so far, if a gir... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 7 June 2011: Yeah, but you thought that when she asked you about it..and look where you are with her now. She gave you the bait but you didn't bite.
Why continue to silently be in love with her? You don't know if she doesn't feel anything for you at this poi... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 7 June 2011: Then you're wasting your time with her. You want an actual relationship that she can't give you due to her busy lifestyle.
She specified from the get go she didn't want anything "serious" and you agreed. So you're basically settling for less tha... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 7 June 2011: No, you're not getting it.
Tell her that you're IN LOVE with her, APOLOGIZE for your actions, and then SEE what she says.
If she wants NOTHING TO DO with you, then I would advise NO CONTACT (at all). But don't ever tell her you're cutting h... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 6 June 2011: No, I wouldn't update her about big things in your life.
Lay your feelings out on the table, APOLOGIZE, and see what she says. ... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 6 June 2011: You did leave out a chunk of impertinent info. My apologies if I seemed a bit harsh in my other post.
So you two grew closer than she expected in the last 6 months, especially with her having a boyfriend. Then when she took a leap and asked yo... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 6 June 2011: Let me say this when a girl says what she wants upfront she means what she says. Don't question otherwise. When women say "I don't want anything serious" it means she wants either a friendship or to have a no strings attached deal.
Since you two ... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 6 June 2011: Anything that specifically happened in the last few months that you're not letting on? There seems to be something missing.
How long have you two been best friends?
It just sounds like she's reached her breaking point with you. She's not y... (read in full...)
Is "our bond" strong enough to last?
Q. Okay, so I guess this is my "love story" and I want opinions. Ive known this guy for many years like 5 or more and hes my brothers best friend or used to be. Him and I recently started talking and we got extremely close in a matter of days. Ive had ...
A. 24 February 2011: Well you've already rattled off stuff you know people are going to say, and that you would rather not hear so what advice are you looking for? That yes, you guys will last forever, and have a happy fairytale ending? Sorry, no one on here can predict ... (read in full...)
Me wearing makeup is going to break us up!
Q. my boyfriend recently told me that if i kept on wearing make up(a bit of foundation: not making myself orange, blush and mascara) he would break up with me. i dont like to not wear makeup because i dont feel confident without it on. i love him s...
A. 5 December 2010: I can see how wearing too much makeup will make you look ugly, maybe slagish...but I don't see how it makes you fat.
Why wait till Monday? Dump his ass now. ... (read in full...)
Me wearing makeup is going to break us up!
Q. my boyfriend recently told me that if i kept on wearing make up(a bit of foundation: not making myself orange, blush and mascara) he would break up with me. i dont like to not wear makeup because i dont feel confident without it on. i love him s...
A. 4 December 2010: That has got to be the stupidest reason I have heard someone dump another over.
You're boyfriend sounds extremely controlling. Next he'g going to tell you what you can and can't wear. He is NOT your father, he cannot tell you what you can and ... (read in full...)
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