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writes:Me and my bf are in a distance relationship and only see each other one month at a time... the thing is that, we go out everyday...but to parks,movies,malls and things like this, but never clubbin, out to drinks, or romantic dinners. Sure we go to dinners, but we never enjoy the NIGHTLIFE, he blames it on a surgery he recently had, but even before the surgery, he always said that we were going to go out, clubbin, out for drinks... but it never happened...also he never introduced me to any of his friends neither males or females. I only know one of his friends because we bumped into him. Besides that , his friends are always telling him to introduce me... yet he never does. We have never been to a club, or never go out for drinks, or a fancy romantic dinner.Its not a money issue, because ha has a lot of money.Its not time because we were both in vacation and had loads of time.Its not that he doesn't like to dance/drink because he USED to do this and likes it.Before we became a couple he would go out to drinks with his friends, he even has pictures of that on his facebook (they are from 2009) But with me...when we are together... he doesnt wanna go out, and he does not go out when Im not around either... he says it was because I was not there... but he doesnt want to introduce me to his friends, go to concerts with me, or go clubbing, dancing or stuff with me... he says he wants to but we never get around to it, he always tries to push it until my vacations are over and I have to leave. Does he not introduce me, or go out with me at night because he is embarrased of me?... :( I think Im a pretty girl... what could it be? Im a little shy, could that be why? He introduced me to his family, but never to any of his friends and he doesnt like to go out at night with me...
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 July 2011):
 Did you ever think perhaps he's over the partying/nightlife stage in his life??? At 22-25, I started getting sick of going clubbing, pub crawling, party lifestyle. It was time to move on and settle down.
After a while it really does get redundant and I can think of better ways to spend my money than on a $75 bar tab every night.
In my opinion, he's just growing into his own. As far as not introducing you to his friends, I can understand that if you two haven't been together long or he wants you to himself when you come into town. If you're so bothered by it, then ask him if you can meet his friends.
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reader, Jay_xxxxx  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 He may just want to spend time with you and are worried that if he takes you out his friends may like you and he could be worried about losing you to one of them.
It may also be because you are shy and he might be worried what you think about his friends, with his family he will feel good about showing you to them, but then with his friends he may be embarrassed about them.
When your next up there try saying 'I'm going out and if you want to see me then you'll come out with me', it may help but if that doesn't work then the thing you need to ask yourself is 'Do you really want to be with that type of guy?'
Hope I helped
Jay x x x
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (9 July 2011):
i think you are reading to much into this if you havent been together long maybe he just wants to spend time on his own with you to get to know each other properly then maybe he will introduce you to his friends or if it is relly getting to you next time you see him ask him the reason why you havent met his friends yet
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