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What qualifies me to help you? Vast dating experience, especially in the LDR department, even an international on with an Aussie, broke hearts, had mine broken, been engaged once before, I know what a real friend is, seen the ugly side of divorce coming from a recently broken home myself, even went as far as to tip the odds to my side and use men only to toss them aside like yesterday's garbage like they do women, I know what it's like to almost give up hope on finding the perfect man when he's really only a few boyfriends away, and I'm starting to learn the ropes of married life. I also know a vast deal about the female and male reproductive system, and all about the mental struggles with infertility. On a side note, I'm the one who gives you tough love, I'm not on here to sugarcoat it or to tell you what you want to hear. I'm going to give it to you straight up, wouldn't you rather the truth?
-TOP 5 QUESTIONS I CAN'T STAND-
#1. Does this mean my teacher likes me?
Just because they're nice to you, offer extra help, and put a little gold star on your A+ paper doesn't mean they are in love with you.
#2. Could I be pregnant?
Have you not heard of a pregnancy test? Get off this website, and go to your local drugstore.
#3. I'm 14 and I want a baby?
Really? Me too! Oh wait I'm 28 and married. You're how old again?
#4. My husband loves porn more than me!
Maybe if you didn't let yourself go into the frumpy woman you have turned into then he wouldn't have to look at porn now would he? I recommend you get your rear to the salon for highlights, manicure, pedicure, tanning, toss the baggy tees and sweat pants for a wardrobe that fits, and a little makeup goes a long way. It's called basic woman maintenance in order to keep your man's eyes on you.
#5. Will we get back together, how can I get him to love me again?
Unfortunately, my crystal ball is broke at the moment and I just gave away the last of my love potion No. 9. Sorry.
MY GENERAL RULES OF THUMB (this should be common sense)
-No means no.
-Girls can ask out ask guys, this is a new generation.
-Unless you know sign language or are telepathic, you're going to have to talk to him/her.
-My "Don't ask, Don't tell" policy as is follows: Do not by any means volunteer your own sexual history, or ask your date/partner/wife/girlfriend their magic number (how many people they've slept with). If you find yourself being prompted to answer this question, politely tell them that's none of their business.
-Your past doesn't define who you are today. We grow, mature, age, and change as time passes.
-If you have to even ask random strangers on this website if you should have sex, then you're not ready for it.
-FWBs, fuck buddies, no strings attached, whatever you want to call it..is not a relationship don't get the 2 confused. In this case, sex=sex, not love.
-No trust=no relationship.
-It is normal for your husband/boyfriend to have friends of the opposite sex, do you not have male friends?
-LDRs can work, however they're not for everyone. You've got to have trust, communication, be faithful, and a lot of hobbies to keep yourself occupied. If you have trust issues, a case of being needy, clingy, problems staying faithful and are in a LDR don't be surprised when it doesn't work. I told you so.
- An ex is an ex for a reason. If you guys couldn't hack it as a couple the first 2 times what makes you think the third time is a charm?
-Going on a "break" is a nice way of breaking up.
-If you have sex with a man and he hasn't called you, or responded to your texts in weeks sorry to say but he was just after a piece of ass.
- Now unless he's getting blown up in Afghanistan, an on call ER doctor, or lying dead in a coffin then he's got no excuse for his poor or lack there of communication.
-You have a 12% chance of your married boyfriend leaving his wife and children.
-A man who is going through a divorce is still legally married. He's about to have an ex wife and you're wanting to get into a relationship with him? That's called a rebound.
-If you're a minor who's just found out she's pregnant, do me and everyone else on this site a favor..Tell your parents.
-Just because some one stares at you, it doesn't mean they like you. They could be staring at that booger hanging out of your nose.
-If you have a lump/bump/cyst/rash that looks green, has oozing puss, and itches like hell, but kinda looks like a STD then you had better consult your doctor. They went through 6 years of schooling and have a license to practice medicine, I think they would know better than random virtual strangers.
-Don't mix business with pleasure. Why? Because if you date your co-worker and in the event things turn sour then you're still stuck facing them 9-5, Mon-Fri. Awkward.
-No matter how hard you try, you can't change a person..they have to make that transformation themselves.
-When your boyfriend/girlfriend says they want space that doesn't mean you do the opposite and bombard them with calls/texts.
-As far as ultimatums go, don't try to make your boyfriend choose between you, his female friends, or weed. You won't like the results.
-If you're 13-17, I'm sorry but you haven't a clue what love really is. You have minimal dating experience confined to the high school dating pool which are nothing but horny boys. Their facial hair doesn't make them a man. It's only till you get out into the real world, a vast dating pool is when you learn the definition of love. So, go on thinking you and 13 year old Tommy will go on to get married, have 3 kids, and a two story house with a white picket fence. I don't expect you to listen, I'm 28 and married, what do I know? There's a reason why everyone says it won't last..because it doesn't.
-The average penis size erect is 6 inches, 4.85 inches. Women like average to even a little below average. We're not going to bust out a tape measure and measure it to make sure it's up to our standards. We just want to have sex, so enough complaining about your size let's get down and dirty.
- The legal age of consent in the U.S. is 16-18 varying oer state, in Britain it's 16. I think it's safe to say most parts of the world (unless you live in a tribe with their own form of government) the legal age to consent to sex is 16. So yes, all you minors below the age of consent are committing a crime when you engage in sexual activity. The age is set that high for a reason, you are not above the law. |
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Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 2 June 2012: Verbal abuse is irrelevant. Why stay in your parent's home and continue to take that?
You don't need to ask your daddy's permission to move out!
Like Eyes said, unless you are bound and chained in the basement, you're free to pack your things... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 16 September 2011: Since you're an adult, it's up to you to make that decision to leave your parent's home. No one can stop you. But I don't think you want to leave.
If you're going to continue to live underneath their roof, then I would stop complaining about th... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 2 September 2011: I can understand that. You couldn't help but take it a little bit farther because you liked her. But then again you should've understood fully what "not serious" meant. She could have been more clear on it.
Ouch, I don't think I've been that cru... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 1 September 2011: :( Sorry to hear that. I was shooting for me being wrong...
In her defense she did specify friends in the first place, so you can't be entirely angry with her. You chose to ignore that. However, it was taken a bit further into the couple zone wit... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 21 August 2011: Ehhh, you're still lingering in purgatory. Either shit or get off the pot with her. If you want more with her, then ask her if it's possible to have more than just friends!! Be honest, and tell her that you've developed more than platonic feelings ... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 5 July 2011: So what are you going to do then? Live at home until you're 35?? Or until you find a future husband?
You've got to leave sometime. So what if they're dysfunctional? I'm very sure they're capable of functioning just fine without you living u... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 4 July 2011: So what are you asking him with help on??
At 22-25, you are an adult who is capable of making her own life altering changes. You're no longer a minor in your parents care. You CAN leave the nest, with or without their permission. You have a j... (read in full...)
Girlfriend claims she got an STD from a towel or mat from her yoga class!! Is that really possible or is it more likely that she cheated on me?
Q. My girlfriend had a vaginal discharge for some time which worried her greatly. She was worried she had some sort of cancer. We had not been sexually active in quite some time (more than a year). She went to the doctor and she diagnosed her with tri...
A. 20 June 2011: According to that article, no she couldn't have exchanged it from yoga mats. Besides she would have to be wiping her bare vagina with these towels and rubbing her bare vagina all over these yoga mats. Doing that to someone else's yoga mat is just ... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 20 June 2011: Everyone including me and your conscience are all telling you not to go.
Ultimately your choice, but don't be surprised about the horrible outcome. ... (read in full...)
Do I ask? Or pretend I never saw it.
Q. I recently (not serching for) found a list of my girlfriends of sexual partners and realize im number 48. I myself am not a saint and have had 29 partners and understand the past is the past but it is eating at me we have been together for allmost ...
A. 18 June 2011: How did you stumble on this magic number list?
I also find it very strange that she has a list on her past sexual partners jotted down on paper or perhaps saved on her Microsoft Excel. For most women, we either know it by heart or have to menta... (read in full...)
Tips for what to wear on a first date?
Q. Hey everyone! Im off on a first date tomoro night and were going out for some drinks.. but i have the usual girl dilemma of what to wear. Im curvy with big boobs (makes it even harder to find things that theyl fit in to aha) and looking for ...
A. 18 June 2011: For you, I would wear a bit of a flowy, delicate Victorian or ivory bohemian top that ties at the waist. Just to get your date's attention on your hourglass figure and not your big boobs. Dark wash skinny jeans and wedges to give you some height. ... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 18 June 2011: Actually all parents do this. It's just acting out sheer frustration. Is your dad a single parent? That could be part of it, he's tired of playing the role of mother and father.
Does your father go to work 5 days a week? Even work over time? Th... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 17 June 2011: They may or may not make those comments about you. It would be just rumors anyways. If this guy is smart he'll ask you first instead of believing hearsay from his friends.
Besides making out with a X amount of guys doesn't earn you a slutty r... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 17 June 2011: If you run into her, just say "Hello" and go on with your destination. There's no need to engage in small talk with her..just keep moving.
You know as well as I do that half those people that select attending on a FB event don't end up going. S... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 17 June 2011: I was 25 when I met my husband (and not a Christian) so he knew I definitely wasn't a virgin.
Are you asking if it's necessary to tell someone you're not a virgin when your group is all virgins? I'm a bit confused by your question.
Because... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 16 June 2011: Broke off my engagement early 08'. Started having a lot more hook-ups and one night stands up until the summer of 09', I met a guy who was worth dating. Broke it off with him in Oct 09' to hook up with another guy, then I met my husband Halloween ... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 16 June 2011: Yay you can only talk to your friends so much about her before enough is enough. It's sometimes very helpful to have an outsider's, non-judgemental, third party opinion on a situation.
You're welcome, and absolutely. I'm often on here, if I'm g... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 15 June 2011: OP, no you shouldn't feel guilty for not telling him. It's not necessary.... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 15 June 2011: Actually they don't. I went from my magic number being 4 before I was engaged around about age 20, after I broke off my engagement at 23, my magic number shot up to 16 with past hook-ups. Now, I've been married for over a year.
People might lo... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 15 June 2011: Yes, the NO CONTACT will give her time to get over things that have happened in the past and her feeling for you.
I don't entirely agree with your friend..feelings for people go away within time. People grow up, move on, and their feelings... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 15 June 2011: Your one night stands/past hookups, and overall dating experience say nothing about your personality. It's NOT a part of you as a person. They're just situations you took action in. Your dating past also doesn't apply to your future ... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 15 June 2011: Good progress so far. If you're too tempted to check her FB profile then just delete/block her from FB all together.
NO CONTACT AT ALL! Ignore her stupid remarks about your LSAT. Law school is a good choice, not everyone has what it takes to... (read in full...)
How can I earn his respect again, even though we have already slept together?
Q. I just recently passed a week end with a groupe of friends on holiday and in my groupe of friend there is one guy that I have dated in the past and now we are kind of friends with benefits when the ocasions gives. We have slep together in this week ...
A. 13 June 2011: You need to stop being occasional FWBs then. End that for good then he'll see you as a girl who can take self control and not just a convenient lay.
Right now it's too recent, it's going to take some time to earn his respect. ... (read in full...)
Questions about hook-ups and dating......
Q. Girls, how often do you have a hook up? It's hard being single and not getting affection, I haven't been in a relationship for about 3 years now and within these 3 years ive hooked up about every 3-4 months, i feel really guilty afterward, feeling ...
A. 13 June 2011: Women have needs too! It's such a double standard for men to call women whores when they have casual sex.
It's OK to have amazing casual sex with guys and not be attracted to them. You're getting your needs meet and so are they..no one is getti... (read in full...)
Why didn't he want to have sex with me?
Q. I met this guy earlier tonight, and we were having a nice time watching TV and we held hands, not sure if we were attracted to each other and then we moved to the bedroom and started foreplay which was okay, and then he stopped and said "sorry, ...
A. 13 June 2011: Believe it or not there are some guys out there who have morals and respect women.
The possible reasons are:
-He has a girlfriend/wife and was feeling guilty.
-He's confused about his sexuality.
-He's a virgin.
-He has morals and respects ... (read in full...)
He prefers computer games over me!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend (whom I live with) for about a year and a half now. He is seven years my senior. We used to have sex on a regular basis; at least once a day, sometimes more. We also did a lot of couple-y things like going for w...
A. 13 June 2011: I would prance up to his computer desk wearing a naughty get-up, don't even ask for sex. If that doesn't make him get off of his game then he's get a gaming addiction. I'm just hoping the game isn't World of Warcraft, because you won't win against ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend claims she got an STD from a towel or mat from her yoga class!! Is that really possible or is it more likely that she cheated on me?
Q. My girlfriend had a vaginal discharge for some time which worried her greatly. She was worried she had some sort of cancer. We had not been sexually active in quite some time (more than a year). She went to the doctor and she diagnosed her with tri...
A. 13 June 2011: Wow, that's a new one.
How come you two weren't sexually active for that year?
Also if she had trichomoniasis, how come you didn't get tested too?
It clearly states in that article, you get it from sexual contact..not from a item... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 13 June 2011: It's understandable to get ticked when a friend bails on you, especially at the last minute. You have to keep in mind that you guys aren't an item so you can be pissed off forever. Just wait till you get the opportunity next week.
Anoth... (read in full...)
My BF gave a girl a wedgie and I got upset. Was I wrong?
Q. Is it ok for me to get upset that my boyfriend gave 1 of his friends that are girls a wedgie? I know its sounds kinda stupid but i don't like that he put his hands down her pants an touched her underwear and pulled em up?...
A. 12 June 2011: I kinda get it, you see it more as groping. Truthfully at your age range I would be ticked too, more so for the immaturity aspect of it.
Is he always this immature? Because I don't expect a 18-21 yr old to be dishing out wedgies, even for guys... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 12 June 2011: Lol, dear you have to KNOW what you want!
FWBs and an actual relationship are complete bipolar opposites. From your post, starting a FWBs at this point would do more harm than good. You already like her. When you have a FWBs, you're only sexually... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 12 June 2011: Honestly, I wouldn't read too much into it. I would take it as she feels bad, or is acting like nothing happened. Just take her actions and communication with a grain of salt.
Communicate with her ONLY when she communicates with you. DON'T re... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 8 June 2011: Ouch, and she acted like a bitch. Rather uncalled for.
You know I get that you're a needy/dependent guy and can be overbearing(then again I don't know you personally) but if she's been friends with you for quite a while, then there's no need to ... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 8 June 2011: What exactly is it that you want?? A relationship? A FWB is NOT the same as a relationship. It's just casual sex with no feelings.
Non-serious is friends or FWBs. Think about it you two hang out when it is permitted which isn't much and do thing... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 7 June 2011: Your problem is you have to actually listen to what the girls say. Women mean what they say, they're not bullshitting you. Nursing school is extremely involving..what medical career isn't??
No matter how much you like this girl so far, if a gir... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 7 June 2011: Yeah, but you thought that when she asked you about it..and look where you are with her now. She gave you the bait but you didn't bite.
Why continue to silently be in love with her? You don't know if she doesn't feel anything for you at this poi... (read in full...)
I don't care if LDR fiance smokes pot...I just don't want to be lied to about it. How do I approach this?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 6 months. But he's been lying to me. Leaving him is out of the question; he's a great guy and I love him with all my heart. He doesn't want me to smoke weed, and he ...
A. 7 June 2011: So you're been engaged for 6 months now, and you two still haven't set a wedding date? It's more like a vague in 4 years if your relationship lasts that long.
The reason why I say that is when I was your age I was also engaged..but my and my f... (read in full...)
With a married man...
Q. Hi, I'm with a married man...he's five years older than me, he's very cute and I really like him. It all started from when he came to my house to fix the meter, he told me to get some fuses and plain panels, he wrote them down on a paper and he ...
A. 7 June 2011: Are you familiar with the term "booty call"?
... (read in full...)
Why does he look at porn and hide his phone??
Q. Well me and my husband are having alot of problems with trusting mostly me because last year when we met he promised to be loyal and he gave me a promise ring he is in the army and at the time he was in training i met him wen he was almost done with ...
A. 7 June 2011: Love isn't the only thing that goes into a marriage, so does TRUST, and COMMUNICATION..which you both lack.
You think military husbands have no time to cheat but you're sadly mistaken..they'll lie to you and tell you they have to work late whe... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 7 June 2011: Then you're wasting your time with her. You want an actual relationship that she can't give you due to her busy lifestyle.
She specified from the get go she didn't want anything "serious" and you agreed. So you're basically settling for less tha... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 7 June 2011: No, you're not getting it.
Tell her that you're IN LOVE with her, APOLOGIZE for your actions, and then SEE what she says.
If she wants NOTHING TO DO with you, then I would advise NO CONTACT (at all). But don't ever tell her you're cutting h... (read in full...)
I don't care if LDR fiance smokes pot...I just don't want to be lied to about it. How do I approach this?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 6 months. But he's been lying to me. Leaving him is out of the question; he's a great guy and I love him with all my heart. He doesn't want me to smoke weed, and he ...
A. 7 June 2011: Love isn't the only that goes into a marriage..Trust and communication are big factors as well. If there's no trust no in your relationship, how do you think your marriage is going to be? It will not be all peaches and cream.
When's the wedding ... (read in full...)
I don't care if LDR fiance smokes pot...I just don't want to be lied to about it. How do I approach this?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 6 months. But he's been lying to me. Leaving him is out of the question; he's a great guy and I love him with all my heart. He doesn't want me to smoke weed, and he ...
A. 6 June 2011: Don't ever say you can't, because you know you can you just don't want to.
You already answered your question then. Tell him you're upset that he lied to you and that you don't trust him...but don't be surprised when it happens again.... (read in full...)
I don't care if LDR fiance smokes pot...I just don't want to be lied to about it. How do I approach this?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 6 months. But he's been lying to me. Leaving him is out of the question; he's a great guy and I love him with all my heart. He doesn't want me to smoke weed, and he ...
A. 6 June 2011: Happens, my advice stays the same regardless..just minus the first bit.
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Would emailing him seem too desperate?
Q. Hi, well, last week I've finally talked to the guy I have been admiring for the past few months but stupidly I forgot to grab his information because I was in a hurry. I was able to find his e-mail through the university website. It wasn't difficult ...
A. 6 June 2011: Actually, that age gap is nothing. As long as you are serious about school, because he sounds like he's about done with it or on his master's. But then again it depends, people finish school at any age these days. ... (read in full...)
Girl Blew Me Off - I met another girl - now first girl wants my attention. How do I play this?
Q. Hi everyone, i'm a nineteen year old guy. i met this girl (17) and we got off very well. we dated called texted facebooked each other frequently for the following weeks. she was really into me and i was into her. however when i asked her to be my ...
A. 6 June 2011: It depends who you connect with more..I mean you did tell the first girl she didn't have to rush to give you an answer.
Honestly, I would give this second girl a chance..she didn't blow you off. Let the first girl simmer for a while and if you e... (read in full...)
Married, but having a hard time keeping this crush under wraps. Scared it will get out in open. What do I do?
Q. I am happily married but feeling quite overwhelmed by my feelings for another married friend. I've been feeling this way for about 3yrs and i sometimes think he feels something also. The problem is i want to stop these feelings before he picks up on ...
A. 6 June 2011: You need to avoid him, if you want to keep the life you have now. Out of sight, out of mind. Then you need to find out what your marriage is lacking and reconnect with your husband. Perhaps a little weekend getaway with just you two?... (read in full...)
I don't care if LDR fiance smokes pot...I just don't want to be lied to about it. How do I approach this?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 6 months. But he's been lying to me. Leaving him is out of the question; he's a great guy and I love him with all my heart. He doesn't want me to smoke weed, and he ...
A. 6 June 2011: Engaged at 13-15? No offense but not only are you too young to be engaged you're also too young to be in a LDR.
So you both smoke weed? Illegal, much. If he smokes weed all day then he's going to fail a drug test at a job interview. Just a little... (read in full...)
We kissed - then she found out I was seeing someone. Is there a way past this?
Q. One evening when i was in a bar with my friends this girl who i've known for nearly two years and used to talk to for hours everyday was also out. I've always liked her, literally from the moment i saw her! Well we were flirting a lot that night! In ...
A. 6 June 2011: That's why I never assume anything!
You're not in a committed relationship, so you were well within your right to kiss this girl. Nobody got cheated on. However, she may have felt like you weren't being entirely honest because you didn't voluntee... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 6 June 2011: No, I wouldn't update her about big things in your life.
Lay your feelings out on the table, APOLOGIZE, and see what she says. ... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 6 June 2011: You did leave out a chunk of impertinent info. My apologies if I seemed a bit harsh in my other post.
So you two grew closer than she expected in the last 6 months, especially with her having a boyfriend. Then when she took a leap and asked yo... (read in full...)
Would emailing him seem too desperate?
Q. Hi, well, last week I've finally talked to the guy I have been admiring for the past few months but stupidly I forgot to grab his information because I was in a hurry. I was able to find his e-mail through the university website. It wasn't difficult ...
A. 6 June 2011: Then like spinnaker said you're going to have to be prepared the next time you see him. ... (read in full...)
Not sure where this is heading or what to do in complex psudeo relationship
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this one girl for the past six months. She said upfront in January that she does not want anything "serious" because she is in nursing school now and is taking it very seriously. I used to think it was a bunch of bs, but ...
A. 6 June 2011: Let me say this when a girl says what she wants upfront she means what she says. Don't question otherwise. When women say "I don't want anything serious" it means she wants either a friendship or to have a no strings attached deal.
Since you two ... (read in full...)
Would emailing him seem too desperate?
Q. Hi, well, last week I've finally talked to the guy I have been admiring for the past few months but stupidly I forgot to grab his information because I was in a hurry. I was able to find his e-mail through the university website. It wasn't difficult ...
A. 6 June 2011: Couldn't you Facebook him? That's more socially accepting. University email is too formal.... (read in full...)
Why does he look at porn and hide his phone??
Q. Well me and my husband are having alot of problems with trusting mostly me because last year when we met he promised to be loyal and he gave me a promise ring he is in the army and at the time he was in training i met him wen he was almost done with ...
A. 6 June 2011:
Let me just say that him looking at porn is the least of your worries. You need to be more worried about him chatting with other ladies, like you have been from day 1 of meeting him. In other words, watching him to make sure he doesn't cheat on... (read in full...)
How much space should I give her?
Q. I've been in love with one of my best friends for over half a year now. She does have a boyfriend of 10-11 months... however, during these past 6 months, I've literally spent all my time with her. The relationship wasn't healthy though. I am ver...
A. 6 June 2011: Anything that specifically happened in the last few months that you're not letting on? There seems to be something missing.
How long have you two been best friends?
It just sounds like she's reached her breaking point with you. She's not y... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 19 October 2010: Don't ask, Don't tell policy...meaning you don't volunteer your past sexual history and trust me he most likely won't ask. Plus, you don't need to be asking him about his either. It makes for awkward conversation and some potential retroactive ... (read in full...)
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