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41-50,
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writes:Dear aunts/uncles,I'm having tremendous relationship stress regarding cheating in my relationship. I am 27 and my BF is 36. He has treated me like a princess, we have lots in common and spend all our time together. Recently he moved in and we've been enjoying out days working out, cooking together, going for walks and just being great friends.However, I do know a great deal about his past. Which is alot more colorful than mine. He cheated on the love of his life at age 32 (he said the relationship was falling apart so he slept with her friend 1.5 years into the relationship. They broke up a month later.). He then went on a two year rampage sleeping with anyone who wanted to. He then ended up with GF #2 who he says was a rebound relationship. Tonight I found out that in that relationship he cheated ALSO slept with someone else during their 11 month relationship. His excuse being that he didn't love her and wasn't happy. 8 months later after that we ended up meeting. Two months into us being friends and seeing each other for dates several times per week (no kissing, hand holding and no sex at that point since I really wanted us to be friends first) he slept with a fling. He didn't tell me this till 9 months into our relationship once we were BF/GF.Two years later, I am not over him sleeping with someone else early on in your friendship. There was no talk of exclusivity but we were hanging out several days each week and he was begging for me to be his gf. Tonight I found out he had also cheated on GF #2.My question is, as I just told him to go to his parents as I can't handle his past; is, should I be worried about his past cheating patterns? Will he do this to me and am I stupid for staying?Its at the point where he is wanting marriage and I do not want to end up with a man who has a tendency to cheat. After finding out what I did tonight, then seeing the pattern...I'm worried. Help!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 You have answered your own question.You don't want a man who has a tendency to cheat.You know what you should do.
If you believed that he will cheat on you as he has cheated on others ,then you should terminate this relationship.
If you think that was the past and that at the moment he is a changed person ,then you should ignore his past and take each day as it comes.
Life is not without risks. Even a non cheater can also cheat. It does not mean that a person who has never cheated will never cheat on you .
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 All excuses for him cheating, he blames the woman in the relationship. No he will not change, just like he has cheated on the others in the past, when something happens in your relationship that he doesnt like, he will cheat again. Sorry!!
He cannot face up to issues and resolve them and uses cheating as an excuse.... honestly, how on earth do you rectify problems within a relationship if your only solution is to cheat.
I personally dont foresee a faithful partner here. If there are already trust issues, they wont get any better once you are married.
Honeygirl
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